TheProf

Hello,

I hope everyone is doing well.

We are recently married (both virgins until then), and still learning about each other's bodies. It seems my wife can only orgasm if something is inside her and her legs are TIGHLY clenched together (That is to say nothing is between them).

This of course make is rather hard for her to orgasm during sex. She has tried squeezing her legs around me but she can't do it tight enough. She also cannot orgasm from clitoral stimulation - has to be vagina penetration. (I mention this because another thread had the majority of women stating the opposite).

Is there anything which we can do to help her climax during sex? It's pretty well impossible as it is now.

Thanks.

telekinetic

I can think of three positions that allow her to have her legs clinched tightly together, and they are some of the nicer positions for everyone involved, actually.

1. Missionary, except with your legs outside of hers


2. Doggy style, again with your legs outside of hers, but then let her lay forward until she is laying flat on the bed and you're laying on her back.

3. Laying on your back with your legs clenched together, and her laying exactly on top of you....it is hard to get much motion--most of it will be you sliding her forward and back by grabbing her ass.


4. I just thought of a forth...spooning! Not only can she clench her legs, she (or you) can also provide clitoral stimulation...I know you said that won't bring her to orgasm on its own, but I am sure it wouldn't hurt matters if everything else was already being taken care of.

(for some reason the guy is lighter colored in this one)

5. Girl sitting on top of guy, guy stabalizing.


6. Side-by-side facing eachother

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herostar

I love the stick figures. You two could try some sort of dildo maybe too...

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Flyguy

You beat me to it herostar... I bought my wife a dildo and the first time we used it, she came about 10 times in one session. She loved it. Prof, just experiement and whatever works, add it to your bag o' tricks. If not, keep experimenting.

telekinetic

I would have said 'dildo' as well...but it sounded like they already had one, if she knew she could orgasm with something inside of her, but not during sex.

I would definitely not rule out a dildo, but by no means think that is the only way to meet your qualifications. There is no reason that with a little creativity and a sense of adventure you two can't achieve simultaneous orgasms.

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Suave

I don't know what the leg clenching does for her, but kegels might work.

TheProf

Hello,

We do have a dildo-shaped vibrator which she can use to climax. However, in order for her to use it, she inserts it and then squeezes her legs around it to orgasm. In fact, she says she orgasms better if it is not thrust in and out. Is this something common with ladies?

ratbastid

I second spooning or doggy style. Both ways, she's exposed for penetration from behind, and can still squeeze her leg muscles in the area of her clitoris. Secondarily, that position is going to tighten her vagina, which will be... interesting for you as well.

toxic515

My dad told me, in one of the most bizarre moments of my teenage years.. "Son, you want to keep a woman, learn to eat pussy" and with that he continued fishing as if nothing was ever said.. Bastard was right though....

I love the drawing model Kama-Sutra up there, that's great. All of them are good ideas and good positions.

You might want to take a look at http://www.liberator.com/ those are some great items, especially for the fairly new explorer! As time passed, you'll find that you both become more comfortable with positions and ideas, and orgasms will come (no pun intended) with greater frequency and variety. Keep at it! ( I know you will)

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doncalypso

I'd suggest you ry to give her oral sex as you penetrate her with a vibrating dildo... that should do the trick.

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Arsenic7

Yeah, try a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation and maybe she'll get used to the clitoral stimulation enough to get off from it alone.

On another note:

My gf gave herself her first solo orgasm last night. It's just too bad I wasn't there to witness it :P

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angeltek

I usually find that if you can get her of 1 or 2 times during foreplay, then it's alot easier for them to get off after that with regular sex...and more frequently too.

A little more work for you I know, but alot more pleasure for her.

Ofirethorn

Okay as if you couldn't figure it out what your wife is exsperinacing is a fairly Rare problem, but not unheard of. there are several posible answers the Kama Sutra figures are all accurate, but you my want to try un teathered vaginal Beads, this works for a more filled feeling, so there is more there for her to clench around, Just lay there let her get her O, then get yours.

DelayedReaction

If she gets off as a result of compressing her legs, you may want to try a toy with a larger than average girth. She also may simply need deeper stimulation than most; try going down on her with your middle and index finger inside her vagina. Stimulate her clitoris with your tongue while your fingers work her g-spot.

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SpikeQX99

Practice Practice Practice!!

I mean, what's the worst that could happen??? I would find hard to believe that she would be against you trying to get her to orgasm right???

Good Luck!

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TheProf

Hello,

A few people suggested oral sex, which is something I definitely enjoy doing for her. While she says she enjoys it a little, she can't orgasm during it because she cannot sqeeze her legs around my head tightly enough. I encourage her to squeeze as hard as she wants but I think she's worried about hurting me so it's holding her back.

Averett

Sounds to me that the whole squeezing the legs thing is a habit for her. That's the only way she knows, so she's sticking with it. She might need to try something else, stay away from the squeezing leg thing for awhile...

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TheProf

You are correct - it has been a habit for her for a while. I'm just not sure how to show her there are other ways. Thoughts? I'm nearly tempted to tie her legs apart and perform oral sex on her until she orgasms to show her!

Averett

Well, that could do it! As long as she's up for that, why not?

Have you talked with her much about it? (not the tying up, but this issue you've brought up)

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Dane Bramage

One of my (and my g/f) favorites is to start out missonary. To get into it, I bring my knees up as far forward as possible so that I am now kneeling verticle (or perpendicular to her). I then take her by the back of knees and push them against her. At that point, bring her legs together and bring them back to you against your upper body. Then grab her strongly by the thighs. Lean back a little and and lift. The obtuse angle will help you hit the g-spot and it's not a terribly tiring posision so you can keep it going that way for a while.

It kinda ends up like being a reverse doggie style. Works quite well

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wubbawubba

Go w/ my fav.
her lying on her stomache w. her legs closed and you coming in from behind.
It's good stuff, I tell you what.

BurgKato

what about doggy style? she can pinch her legs together as tight as she wants

shortynickel

I use the Ky warming lotion when doing this.