foscon

they ask me to join in the other night. I declined cause they had been drinking a good bit and didnt want it to be a accident, later I found out that it happens quite often what to do?///

jordan_is_god

hell u only live once... if its something they really want to do and they wont regret it jump on it man... its not for everyone but i know i would

foscon

I'm waiting on the next invatation now!

radioguy

Just know what you are getting yourself into. It may sound like fun now, but if it isn't something you would continue to do with them, could you lose the friendship with them? Just be smart about it and don't jump into something just because it could be "cool" to try.

foscon

you got a point radioguy, it may not be weird to them but I dont if I cant act the same toward them. thanks

CityOfAngels

There are many factors...
If the woman is hot, go for it.
If seeing your friend's wang while you're banging his SO bothers you, don't.
In any case, you could try to get her alone with you, without the SO in the way, but that's kinda scandalous.

foscon

well let me add to this , I was living out of town while I worked without my wife, so its not like he wanted to swap..so.......

Street Veteran

i would but i aint into any other wang involved other than my very own.

Rlyss

Are you married? Sorry, I don't quite understand your post. If you are married, you're going to talk to your wife about this before you even think about, right?

If you're going to go through with it, make sure you know what you're getting in to. Does the other man expect you to play with him too? Do they want this to be a continuing thing? Are you sure they're clean, and are you going to go all-out with protection? Good on you for declining when they'd been drinking, best to discuss something like that when everyone's sober.

ratbastid

You know, on the other side of the coin... As a member of a non-monogamous marriage, it can be hard to talk about with others. Frequently the people I tell about it think I'm hitting on them, even when that's the farthest thing from my mind. Which is part of why I'm not very public with it.

I'm not saying that's what happened here. Just an interesting thing to toss into this conversation.

Phant84

i've often thought about trying it, and i after spoke to my wife, she wants to try it out.
i , IMHO, think it would be a great learning experiance, you know, other than just being straight out fun.

Paxton_Free

I would like to try something like that, however, I don't think I can get my fiance to separate "love" from "sex."

Is there a difference? Of course, I think so.

MageB420666

If you are married and you do it without your wifes consent then you are cheating, so you need to be careful about that. If your married then you need to ask your wife how she feels about it first, be careful how you do this because it could get her pissed that you even considered doing it. But if she is fine with it(if you are in fact married) then I say go for it. That type of shit is fun as hell!

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ShaniFaye

Amen!!! I really hate that...they think just because you're non monogamous that automatically you're looking to screw anything that stands still and that you're not choosy at all...its kinda like straight guys thinking that just because they run into a gay guy that the gay guy wants to fuck him....I learned a long time ago not to talk about it with people that dont understand what its about...unless THEY bring it up

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ratbastid

Yup. And maybe not even then!

adam

Never having been in this situation, I can only speculate, but... maybe they are just confused as to why you bring it up if you are not hitting on them. Many people have a lot of shame issues suffusing their sexuality, and are reluctant to speak about it.

nottwood

YES, this is cheating not swinging...you don't do justice to us swingers...sounds fun as hell, but get your wife involved it gets even better!!

nongbu

Do it, Have a blast, get it out of your system, quite job, leave the state, change your name, and live happily ever after.

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blar

if you wanna do it ......do it you will maybe have a great time

hey some of us only live once :P