Coming Home - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Jonsgirl · 09-03-2004, 11:18 AM

This is for all of those TFPer's who've had to be seperated from thier S.O. for a long period of time.

What's the worst part about coming back home? The best?
How long did it take youto re-adjust to each other?
What are some tips to ease back into...well,...everything?

Please share any expieriences you have had. I'm coming home for two weeks (after almost a year). I don't want to spend what little time I have fighting.
Thank you.

FallenAvatar · 09-03-2004, 11:42 AM

I spent a lot of time away from my SO when we went to college. The best part of coming back to her was that first kiss. It was always strong and passionate, made of nothing but love. The worst part was knowing I'd be leaving her again eventually to go back to school. We would always re-adjust easily because we missed each other.

Some tips to getting back to each other is don't let pressure build, you're most likely going to spend time together a lot. Most likely going to be intimate, and just don't rush it. We always would take our time to keep everything as if we had never left each other.

If you've communicated with each other over the time that you've been gone you're most likely very close and really wish to see each other very badly. I cannot tell you how to treat each other, but I would say to just take things slowly and if you two have problems work them out without raising your voice or fighting to much. If you can keep this relationship together with this two weeks it's worth it, if not maybe life should be moved on. If you love each other, make it work and spend your time together, and always together in this two weeks. Go out to dinner, have fun etc.

I'll post more later after you respond.

doncalypso · 09-03-2004, 02:11 PM

The longest I've been separated from my girlfriend was for two months during summer because she was home working while I was taking summer classes. I think the toughest thing to deal with when we finally got together was that I had spent so much time without sex or masturbation that I came as soon as we started having sex.

SJS111567 · 09-20-2004, 07:45 AM

Interesting topic of discussion. I'm interested in hearing some responses myself. I've been away from my s/o for about 7 months now, and I'm hoping that I'll get to go home to visit for a couple of weeks sometime in the next month or so.

MrsRight41401 · 09-20-2004, 07:57 AM

What's the worst part about coming back home? The best?

The worst part about coming back is the adaptation back to doing things as a couple rather than doing things your way and only your way. The best is that first kiss, that first nuzzle. The first sex is damn good too.

How long did it take youto re-adjust to each other?

It's been different each time. Ben's gone a lot with the military. It's gotten a bit easier to re-adjust. The first time it took nearly a year - but we were also adjusting to the new Army lifestyle.

What are some tips to ease back into...well,...everything?

Patience. It can't be rushed and it's gonna suck. But it will happen.

SilverScooter · 09-20-2004, 09:19 AM

you're already going about it all wrong by asking. if you feel like you'll be stepping on eggshells for the next 2 weeks, then you've gotten yourself into a very difficult situation. the key is not in how to ease transition from talking to someone and wanting to kiss them into actually talking to their face and being able to kiss them.

obviously you've done something right if you've been together for a year, so keep up the communication when you're with each other and otherwise and don't let yourself worry. being with the person you love is nothing new, you've done it before and if you just stop thinking about the awkwardness of a fictional situation you can do it again.

have fun.

eribrav · 09-20-2004, 03:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jonsgirl

This is for all of those TFPer's who've had to be seperated from thier S.O. for a long period of time.

What's the worst part about coming back home? The best?
How long did it take youto re-adjust to each other?
What are some tips to ease back into...well,...everything?

Please share any expieriences you have had. I'm coming home for two weeks (after almost a year). I don't want to spend what little time I have fighting.
Thank you.

I found it really curious that you think you will (or might be) be fighting for 2 weeks. If I was apart from my wife and about to reunite the thought of fighting would not even cross my mind. Not only wouldn't it be high on the list of worries, it wouldn't be there at all.

So what's your relationship like when you're together?

09-03-2004, 11:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	Coming Home This is for all of those TFPer's who've had to be seperated from thier S.O. for a long period of time. What's the worst part about coming back home? The best? How long did it take youto re-adjust to each other? What are some tips to ease back into...well,...everything? Please share any expieriences you have had. I'm coming home for two weeks (after almost a year). I don't want to spend what little time I have fighting. Thank you. __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

09-03-2004, 02:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	The longest I've been separated from my girlfriend was for two months during summer because she was home working while I was taking summer classes. I think the toughest thing to deal with when we finally got together was that I had spent so much time without sex or masturbation that I came as soon as we started having sex. __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

09-20-2004, 07:57 AM	#5 (permalink)
MrsRight41401 Tilted Location: Georgia	What's the worst part about coming back home? The best? The worst part about coming back is the adaptation back to doing things as a couple rather than doing things your way and only your way. The best is that first kiss, that first nuzzle. The first sex is damn good too. How long did it take youto re-adjust to each other? It's been different each time. Ben's gone a lot with the military. It's gotten a bit easier to re-adjust. The first time it took nearly a year - but we were also adjusting to the new Army lifestyle. What are some tips to ease back into...well,...everything? Patience. It can't be rushed and it's gonna suck. But it will happen. __________________ Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Seuss

09-03-2004, 11:42 AM	#2 (permalink)
FallenAvatar Psycho	I spent a lot of time away from my SO when we went to college. The best part of coming back to her was that first kiss. It was always strong and passionate, made of nothing but love. The worst part was knowing I'd be leaving her again eventually to go back to school. We would always re-adjust easily because we missed each other. Some tips to getting back to each other is don't let pressure build, you're most likely going to spend time together a lot. Most likely going to be intimate, and just don't rush it. We always would take our time to keep everything as if we had never left each other. If you've communicated with each other over the time that you've been gone you're most likely very close and really wish to see each other very badly. I cannot tell you how to treat each other, but I would say to just take things slowly and if you two have problems work them out without raising your voice or fighting to much. If you can keep this relationship together with this two weeks it's worth it, if not maybe life should be moved on. If you love each other, make it work and spend your time together, and always together in this two weeks. Go out to dinner, have fun etc. I'll post more later after you respond.

09-20-2004, 07:45 AM	#4 (permalink)
SJS111567 Upright	Interesting topic of discussion. I'm interested in hearing some responses myself. I've been away from my s/o for about 7 months now, and I'm hoping that I'll get to go home to visit for a couple of weeks sometime in the next month or so.

09-20-2004, 09:19 AM	#6 (permalink)
SilverScooter Upright	you're already going about it all wrong by asking. if you feel like you'll be stepping on eggshells for the next 2 weeks, then you've gotten yourself into a very difficult situation. the key is not in how to ease transition from talking to someone and wanting to kiss them into actually talking to their face and being able to kiss them. obviously you've done something right if you've been together for a year, so keep up the communication when you're with each other and otherwise and don't let yourself worry. being with the person you love is nothing new, you've done it before and if you just stop thinking about the awkwardness of a fictional situation you can do it again. have fun.