Girl Friend Advice Needed :(
 

Hi all,

Its my first post so please help me if this is in the wrong forum:(

I see this girl(17 years old) who is really attractive every week when i go to my local corner shop for the last month or so. I always feel there is something between us and there are facial expressions made such as 'smiling' at times when i see her.

I then found out a mate i know has her number, i borrowed his phone and took her number down. The guy dont know this, so if the girl kind of finds out who i am if she rejects me, then the guy will actually take the pish and may also get pished off at me.

So i got her number in my mobile, the thing is i am not going to phone her. Im telling my mate from work to do it. She may interact better and this may lead to me having some what of a chance with her. You can tell this girl has a bit more class then most girls and so im concerned if im turned down, what could the consequences be?

But if she says yes, then what happens? Will she really meet someone of a mobile phone randomly not knowing totally who i am? Also she may have a idea who i am but im not sure as its been 2 weeks since i seen her.

Please help out and see what i can do.

Thank You

I have 2 questions;

What is a "pish?"
How old are you?

Dude... the best thing is to just go up and ask her out. The worst possible thing that could happen is that she says no. At least then, you won't be tortured by the "what ifs" any more.

And to answer your question... if she has any class and self respect at all, then she will probably not go out with "some random dude" that calls her from a mobile phone.

Just my two cents.

DB.

i agree with dane bramage. your best bet is to just go up to her and ask her out. most girls i know would never even pursue a conversation from a complete stranger calling her cell. too many drunks with cells dial random numbers just for sh**s and giggles.

Your best bet is to ask her out when you see her..if you're turned down...you're turned down...at least you tried...and did it the right way

Yea. Don't go the stalker route. Here are a few rules to live by:
1) NEVER invade someone's privacy by checkin' up on the phone numbers they keep in their cell.
2) NEVER get one person's number from someone else. If they want you to have their number, they will give it to you.
3) NEVER get hung up on a girl that you don't even know likes you or not.
4) ALWAYS do your own dirty work. No one wants to ask a girl out for you.

I'm with CityOfAngels 100%. Find some casual way to make the conversation linger next time you're in her store. If she's busy and you keep getting interrupted, that's actually good, because then you have an excuse to ask her out: "We keep getting interrupted here. How about we meet up for a milkshake (she's only 17) after you get off work?"

Bingo. Your first mistake was taking the number. I think she'd be a little more than freaked out that some guy whose name she didnt even know called her up looking for a date.

If you want to ask her out, do it in person. If you see her at the store, introduce yourself. Then get her number.

After that, you're on your own :) If she turns you down, so be it. She won't bite, the worst she can do is say no. If she does, don't be clingy, dont be an ass, don't take it personal. Move on. I know you like the girl and you may not believe me when I say this, but there are plenty of other girls out there. The sooner you figure that out the better off you will be. Seriously.

Girl's opinion here, DONT MAKE YOUR FRIEND CALL HER. She will think you're a creep and possibly change her number and quit her job so that she doesn't have to see you anymore.
Have you every actually talked to her? If not, you should start there, and then you can ask her out yourself.

Completely agree with the advice so far. Walk up to her, engage in some small talk, ask her out. If she says no, take it well. Definitely no weird-ass calls from strangers on the phone.

But the thing is when i go to the shops she is only there sometimes for like 2 minutes and with her dad. I cant just ask her out when her dads there, so over the conversation i have over the phone il explain to saying i hope you dont mind me getting your number as i really like you and also i couldnt ask you out pubically as you was with your dad.

Also she knows 2 of my mates but they dont know i have ever spoken to her. I dont plan on telling them.

If she knows your friends, why don't you ask one of them to introduce you? I don't get it.

Because my so called mates, are not close mates. They will absoloutly take the piss and would like put the girl off me. I just cant trust them, just put it that way.

So can anyone help me out, its such a tough situation. If i was to phone her what should i say?

Whatever you do, don't have your friend call her (that's just stupid) and don't call her if she doesn't know you have her number.

If it's one of those stores that asks for your number when you buy something, give her your number, then when you done, say "What's yours?" I always wanted to try that, but I've never been attracted to anyone behind the counter at one of those stores.

OK, so if shes only in there for a few minutes with her dad, introduce yourself to her and make smalltalk. If you get a chance, get her number.

Seriously, do NOT just randomly call the girl when she doesnt even know you. Bad idea. You'll creep the hell out of her and that'll be the end of that. Don't get your friend to do it either, she'll think you have no spine. I like the idea of trying to get one of your friends to introduce you to her, but if you cant do that, that's fine.

I totally agree with this, but i do have this one friend who, if i ever told him i liked this girl would go out and ask her out for me without my knowledge. Tended to make me very mad and things tended not to work out because of that. Thats why I never told him I liked my current girlfriend.

Just ask her out. If she is with her dad, see if you can pull her aside for a few moments and try to ask her.

As a guy who is somewhat shy, I can understand his reluctance to "bite the bullet."

However, don't stalk. I agree. But, would this be all that different than being a college student, visiting a mate at another college, seeing a girl you like and getting her number from the student directory? Would that be stalking?


Frankly, if you can't ask her out yourself, just ask yourself why you can't. Are you afraid of rejection? Are you afraid she'll laugh? Are you afraid she'll say yes?


Have a plan. Say it OUT LOUD in front of a mirror. If you can't look yourself in the eyes and say the words you want to say to a woman, then don't bother. You'll come across too weak otherwise.

Why not. It'll take some balls and she'll notice that.

Say:
You: Hey, how's it going?
Her: ok blah blah blah You?
You: Actually, we see each other here often, but I'm ususally in such a hurry that we don't get a chance to talk. You seem interesting and I'd like to find out what you're about. Why don't you meet me here some other time?
Her: blah blah blah

That's simple and short, but modify it to best fit you. Be sure to look her in the eye while saying this.

Good Lord man if you don't have the stones to go introduce yourself to her and you are willing to put someone else onto calling her with a stolen number do you really think this is going to end up going somewhere? Really??? Wake up man...go say hello to her the next time you see her. Stick your damn hand out and shake her hand and say "Hi..I'm Snatch" while smiling at her and for the love of God don't look away when you do this. Smile at her...talk to her. If there's something there you'll know it. If not then remove the stolen number from your phone and move on.

( Edit )

I read the rest of the replies and I'm glad to see we're pretty much consistent on this. *shaking my head* ... Isn't there a minimum age limit on tfp? :D

Yes, 18. (Instert filler text here to get past minimum word filter. :thumbsup: )

The traditional "I like this girl she doesn't know I exist but I like really really love her and I will never love anyone else as much as her but she doesn't know me and I don't know her number or name or anything but I have to have her should I have my friend call her since I don't have the balls to fucking talk to a girl" question. All the advice you should be listening to but probably won't has already been given. Take heed or learn the hard way, I guess.

"Pished off"? "You was"?

It really burns me up how people fail to make any use of the education they are offered and provided on the taxpayer's buck.

Listen to this person right here.