Nude pics of my ex...
 

Is it wrong to not dispose of nude pictures you took of your ex when you were together? I have quite a few of my ex and I when she was 18 and I was 19 (I'm 20 now), and although I've NEVER posted any online nor shown any of them to anyone but myself, I do tend to re-visit them at least once a month. I see it as a reminder of what I've had, but I dunno; could it be a sign of not letting go?

Our breakup was hard, but I've moved on. Is keeping these pics a sign that I sub-conciously haven't completely moved on? Whenever I tell myself, "I should delete these pics, just so I never have to think of her again," I always respond with, "But DUDE! You have naked pics of that hot asian chica you always wanted in high school! YOU ARE THE KING!" (I'm sure my immaturity is quite apparent :crazy: ).

Just looking for opinions other than my own.

I own pics of ex's.. I don't look at them though. I just keep them and tell them not to fuck with me.

photographs are just hard copies of memories. I would keep them, unless it makes you hurt inside. then you might want to get rid of them.

I think that it's not the fact that you keep those pictures, but how you feel about them that's the most important factor. If you keep looking at them and you go "aw God, I miss you so muuuuch arrrrgh", then think it's a safe bet you're not over her just yet.

i erased all... every single one. I dont want to fight with myself: watch it or not? hurt myself or not? the way she broke with me was painful enough...

It's the ex boyfriend's right to be able to picture any of your ex's. I've had several really great relationships, and I occasionally think back to the good times, and the bad. As far as I can figure, this person saw you as worthy of seeing them naked. If they didn't want you to see them naked, they wouldn't have given you the picture. I have a couple pics like that out therr of myself, and I don't mind that my ex's might still be looking at them. Would you mind?

*shrug* I'd keep them. They're something between you and her. If she were to ask you to get rid of them, that'd be a different story. But, from what I can tell, she didn't ask you to get rid of them and you're being respectful of her by not sperading them around. I say enjoy.

Keep them. They're for your memories, five, ten, twenty, or 30 years from now. And in the long run, memories are all we've got.

But don't look at them all the time. Put them on something archival, like a CD or archival-quality photo printout, and put them away. Revisit them in a few years and refresh your memories about her, and you.

Send them to me. I'll keep em for ya. :thumbsup:

I still have mine... then my sister found them.. she told my mom about them... :) wheeeee!!!

First you put them into a format which you can't read, or make it so that the process you'd have to go through to actually see those pictures is so long that you don't bother. Then you put them far, far away.

Then if your ex pisses you off, use them :D

Post 'em on the TFP.

Certainly keep them. She wanted you to take nude pics of her. Let me ask you. Did you throw every gift that she ever gave you away? If not, why throw these away?

Keep em--like others said, they are memories. Memories are the most important thing we have; they make us who we are. Its something photography has tought me--I may be after art, but documenting my life and my memories matters far more to me in the long run.

Now, given the, uh, sensitive nature, if she asked you to dispose of them, you should probably do so. And certainly don't go spreading them--its a private memory, something between you two, whether or not you are still together. Keep it that way.

Now that's hysterical! :lol:

i'm lucky enough to have pics of several ex's. all three girls were fine with me keeping them. i promised not to share them with anyone, and i have kept that promise. they are nice to go back and look at every once in a great while, and i never did until i was completely over them. just keep them to yourself (unless she's really smokin hot- if so, post away ! :) or not.) and never let your new g/f find them for crissakes!

This post sucks without pics. Come 'pn, cough em up! :D

delete them. having naked pictures of an ex will only keep you from putting your whole self into your next relationship. how would you feel if your girlfriend kept pictures of her exs? you would like it if your next girlfriend would drop her baggage when she commits to you, you will be better off if you do the same.

delete them from your file system, delete them from your recycle bin, shred all cds... don't look back.

Delete boobies??? Hell no!

Seriously though, I'd keep them if they didn't make me feel bad. If you feel sad when you look at them, delete them. Only you know if you are holding on to her. If you are, delete them. If not, enjoy them :p

The only reasons that'd make destroying the pictures a good idea would be if the pictures take away in any form from any relationships you're currently in and if they cause you some sort of pain. Having memories of a good time is always a positive thing but make sure you have the pictures for nothing more than revisiting a good time.

I've got some semi-nude photos from a few friends when we were all having a good time - between now and the time that the photos were taken things have gone pear shaped but I hold onto the photos as a reminder of how good things were and nothing more than that - now if only I could convince Ms. Skafe of that...

Is she hot and naked? If she is then I am pretty sure why you would want to keep these pics.

If you are holding on to little snapshots of the two of you together for dear life, THEN you have a problem. But looking at the nekkid goodness of your ex just because its nekkid goodness is perfectly understandable thing to do :p

:) Thank you all for your responses! It's great to hear other people's insights. For all those who asked me to post 'em here, whether jokingly or not, let me say a few things:
1) I've thought about it; even before this thread was started. I said to myself, "She's hot, man! Why deprive them of such hot goodness when they all post everything they can find in the titty board for your own lurking pleasure?" But then I put it all together, and realized that the pics posted in the titty board are usually not of a personal nature, AND whoever was in the said pictures (probably) had consent of more than one person viewing the said pictures. My pictures are of a very personal nature, and I certainly don't have my ex's permission to post them online. hehe
2) Many of the pictures and videos I have of her (when I say videos, I mean the 15 second videos I can take with my digital camera) have a big "piece" of ME in them, which I know you guys wouldn't like to see. hehe. I don't want to make you all feel insecure. ;) jk But really, would you REALLY want to see my "twanger"?
3) I thought about posting some of them with her face blurred, but then I think of all the pictures I see like that, and it just doesn't have the same effect. I for one am a "face" guy. I can't just look at a girl's t&a; I look at her completely, from her toes all the way to how she keeps her hair.

To all who responded with intelligent and heartfelt answers: THANK YOU! You're right; If I felt sad whenever I looked at my ex's pics, or if the pics automatically linked me to wanting her back or whatnot, then it would be a sign that I haven't moved on. I am happy to say that that is NOT the case! :) When I look at them, I look at them as a part of my past that I enjoyed quite a bit; something I can still enjoy today, yet on a lower scale of course. ;)

Yes, I still do think of her; quite a bit actually. But it's not like it used to be. Before, it was, "WHYYYYYY!? WE WERE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER!! WHYYYYYY!?" Now, it's like, "It was a learning experience, part of which I enjoyed to the fullest." I think of the fun I had, rather than the fun I'm "missing." But alas, fond memories that touch my heart still come along when I'm alone without distraction (read my post in the "Guys what do you love most about girls" thread; that was all about her), but I think that's normal, as she was a big part of my life; even the one I lost my virginity to. So, I know I'll always remember her and hold her close to my heart, but I know what's right for me, and she's the OPPOSITE of what's right for me. What counts is that I realize that. :)

Once again, thank you all for your comments!

P.S. For those who asked: She is extremely hot, and extremely naked. :thumbsup:

P.S.S. Cool! I got a comment from Halx! Rock on!

I've got nudies of my ex. They're good for spank material every now and then, but I'm over feeling anything for her when I look at them.

I kept my pictures, and I'm happy about it. We broke up some years ago, and during the first weeks/months, while it still hurt, I did not even look at them.

But after I moved on and started dating other gals, there were and still are times when I look at the pictures, and I'm swept away by bitter-sweet nostalgia. Not stuff like getting depressed or wanting her back, but simply ejoying the visual memories of an important part of my life, together with a good whisky :thumbsup:

ps: I understand you don't want to post a nude pic of her, I wouldn't post mine either. But you could post a normal pic or just her face to let us see how hot she really is. :p

I think only one other person mentioned other girlfriends.

When you meet somebody new, what then? She either finds them and is hurt that you kept them or you tell her about them and she's hurt that you kept them. Either way, a new girlfriend will be hurt that you still have enough feelings for someone else that you're keeping nude pictures.

Either stay alone forever, hide them very well, or delete them and move on.

Another alternative I just thought of: You could lie and say this was a class in amateur photography and this was just some model that was hired. That works as long as there's no chance of the two ever meeting.

I've got nude pics of several of my ex's... I look at them occasionally but that's about it. I wouldn't delete them though, what if she get famous someday?

Good one. :)

copies here..

I've skipped over any post over 10 words long, and am still waiting for the posting. What's the holdup?























Just kidding. I understand completely. Unless, of course, she is ultra-hot and rubbing baby oil on her nubile, tan, perky breasts. Mmmmm......nubile......

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If you're wondering if you're still holding on, then you probably are. If you decide to keep them now, then please for cryin' out loud get rid of them when you start seeing someone new. It's no fun going through something on a computer innocently looking for a specific file and finding nekkid pics or almost nekkid pics of ex girlfriends.

That's why you keep them burned on a hidden CD, of course!

PS - snoop! Or else good story, so do tell.

I wasn't snooping. I was looking for a specific car pic to post somewhere, and I clicked on a file, and oh gee, the ex! Made for a not so happy sillygirl

I used to have pics, I eventually put them away. I found them later (5-8 years) and got rid of them after some reminiscing. Guess I outgrew that time, I don't think a in a year I could have done that. You never really forget, I just don't see the point in torturing myself

I must be the only guy with no pics. Must stop by camera and liquor store soon.

I think the proper procedure is to keep them. If you start going out seriously with someone else, that is the time you through them away.

i highly agree

i wish i had more pics of all my ex's.. well wait a min... maybe not all of them... some i wish i could delte from my brain

I'm actually happy not to have naked pictures of the only ex I have, since in retrospect she was none to stunning.

post them here, and we'll let yopu know if you should keep them

Lol! Cynthetiq you're silly...

Now seriously, why mention to us that you have them? Perhaps you really want to tell people that you were once banging this hot little asian number? So I say- prove it!
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I want some sort of redemption
 

I have videos and pics of a 3 of my ex's and would not dream about posting 2 of them anywhere.I have a little more respect for them...However 1 class A1 bitch took my house,car,and pretty much screwed me to the wall after looking after her and her kids for 10 years. We were swingers and there are pics on various websites of her that she consented to being there and for some strange reason i have never took them off LOL... But how much trouble would i be in if i was to send links to the sites to her family and friends??? She was even selling her used knickers on one site (but the pics on there had face blurred) ???

In short has anyone got a link i could post these on and not get done ?

hard to say for sure... post them and let TFP decide

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don't actually do it...

Absolutely, positively NOT. Do NOT post them here unless you have special dispensation from the staff.

Duck, you'll notice that all the naked pictures that you can see are public domain. We have no idea about the copyrights on your pictures, and it's possible/likely that there are conflicts there. So if you're here to trash you ex, please stick to doing it in writing.

that was meant as a joke btw. i apologize if i caused any heart attacks

Not Daft enough to post them on here. Thats not my intention at all..Sorry for making people think i was gonna post them here .. No.. my point is if she was consenting at the time and now she has pretty much forgotten about them/or does not care do I have a legal right to put them where ever they hell I want bearing in mind I am in most of them also ??

The short answer is "yes, if you blur her face". If she's recognizeable, you don't.

The longer answer is much more complex.

Cheers Jazz but to expand a little. What would be the point in that ? She could deny all knowledge and say it was not her ?? unless someone stumbled across them and regconised her spotty hairy ass (chances are they already have pics of her so they will be already screwed by her) I want to know if the pics she consented to going on swinger sites that i have access to I can post under her name so if you googled her you could see them ??

Well, let's start with ethically, that's wrong. Period. That makes you a bad guy. I don't care what she did to you or what other justification you want to use, it's just wrong to post her pictures in a googlable way as pure revenge.

If you're copacetic with the ethical reason why not, there's a question over who owns the pictures and whether or not you're free to post them with her name associated. Unless you have a model release signed by her, you're most likely not free to do that. She has an expectation that her real name would not be associated with them, and you'd be the one explaining to the judge why you thought it was ok to violate that expectation.

ok lets start by "can you drop the wikkipedia words like "Copacetic" I aint got the time to go google that shit.. Secondly the "ETHICAL" reason??? do me a favour I speak for all guys that have been fucked over by slags/sluts/etc.. I think it's about time that us poor unfortunates who have "legitimately" been screwed over by money grabbing bitches had our say!!! and not be chastised for giving our own opinions. Sadly in the UK there is a growing culture of getting pregnant at 18 then finding a "decent" bloke to bring up their children, till they get their house,car etc ..then kicking his ass into touch and go back to living on BENEFITS!!!

Anything done out spite or bitterness, should not be done at all.

She fucked you over? Join the crowd and move on, the rest of the world has. In what way will your life be better because you publicly shamed her to her friends and family? She may look trashy for a second, but you are going to look like a douchebag for a while.

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Even if you didn't understand what the exact definition of the word was, the context is easy to pick up.

Sorry you don't like the way I write. That's too bad for you since I'm not going to change. It's my professional opinion, though, that you take the chip off your shoulder before it gets you in trouble.

I've been fucked over by women, and you don't speak for me; I can give you a list of other guys here at TFP that I think will agree with me if you'd like. What you want to do is WRONG. If you're so hurt that you can't see that, I'm sorry. I'd be happy to listen to you vent and help you in other ways, but jumping down my throat because I answered your question is pretty fucking uncool. Not quite as uncool as wanting to trash your ex all over the world, but uncool nonetheless.

I get that you're in pain, but wanting to scream from the rooftops "look at this whore!" isn't going to solve anything.

Tossing up pictures of your ex's without their consent would be a pretty fucked up move, in my opinion. Ethically, morally, karmically, potentially legally, bad news.

Sorry to hear that is a "growing culture" in the UK. It's been happening all over the world for years. Unfortunately there tend to be some decent blokes that still fall for it, hook line and sinker. Most of them are douchebags. Despite all of that, it typically happens because they are focusing on the fact that someone is actually willing to have sex with them, and they disregard everything else about the situation. The most important thing being disregarded is the person that they are fucking: their story, their background, their baggage. It doesn't matter, getting laid, don't care...rinse and repeat for a few years, then things go downhill. Then she's a slag/slut/etc. If someone is obtuse enough to get themselves in this type of situation, they deserve what ends up happening to them.

Copasetic: ok/fine with.
Obtuse: not quick or alert in perception, feeling, or intellect. (per dictionary.com)

Ok I understand the so called "Moral" implications of it ,, and the "you will look like a "douchebag" context. However I still stand by the fact that "Sluts/Council house trash/users" and generally ANYONE male of female who uses another human being for their own beniefit should at some point have their past catch up with them.If not for any other reason that to warn the next schmuck.In the scheme of things why in this day and age of internet and pics etc should you not be able to expose the paerson for what they are ??

See moral implications
See douchebag implications
See the fact that you're not karma embodied (that means that you aren't personally the karma fairy)

Humiliating someone in revenge just brings you down to their level. As I said before, it's wrong. Yes, she should get hers. No, you shouldn't be the one giving it to her.

I don't see how you can possibly justify doing this. No matter how it makes her feel, it turns you into an asshole. Are you going to sink to her level?

You won't feel any better. And you'll look like a douchebag. So...I'm kinda failing to see why you still want to do this.

Are you not using her for your own benefit? You are putting private photos on the internet to make yourself feel better about dating/fucking this girl.

I don't know about you, but my slut-radar and my will-fuck-your-brother-and-steal-your-dog-radar is pretty strong. I don't need to see nude pictures of a girl to know to keep my penis away from certain members of the opposite sex.

People use people. Male, female, transWTF, whatever; everyone is out to get their own part of the pie. You got burned, we have all been there. Hell, there is a girl out there that owes me $2400 in loans that I loaned her when I was thinking with my penis. I chocked that up to "think with the smarter head" and moved on with my life. We have all been burned, but dwelling on the past will do nothing but keep you from moving into the future.

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Council house trash? Is that a UK thing? Can I get one of the TFP wankers in here to translate. I ain't got time to google that shit.

Coming down to "someones level" Is not entirely without its benefits; In short fight fire with fire and hit 'em where it hurts...It's all sooo good taking the Moral high ground and believing in KARMA ... truth being Karma takes its foooking time and I see no harm in hurrying it along a bit... In short if she was prepared to have thephotos took and also prepared to have them on "certain sites" why should i not be able to post them where i feel fit ?

'Cause that makes you a douchebag and no better than the girl you are trying to burn.

*****

To quote Uncle Philly:

never wrestle with a pig.
you both get dirty;
the pig likes it.

I get the feeling you posted here thinking everyone would say, "yeah, do it! Fuck 'er!"


Let's put aside moral high ground and karma, then. Why not just let it go? It's a chapter in your life that's closed now. Instead of carrying around all the spite and hatred, use your experience to decide what you want in a girlfriend...and what you DON'T want.

Duck, you're new here obviously. If you were looking for our permission to post those pictures here or elsewhere, I doubt you'll find many folks at TFP that are going to ok the concept. Even if folks do think it's a good idea, my bet is that they'll have the good sense to keep their heads down. If you're looking for permission, you need to find another spot on the internet. There are assholes aplenty on other sites that would love to see what you've got; you're not going to find that here.

Again, you're not the karma fairy. It's not your job to make her miserable.

I'm willing to bet that it's illegal in the UK to post those pictures with her name attached. It would be in most states of the US. The difference of "before" is that it was done with her permission. You don't have that now. So doing it now is going to be (most likely) illegal and definitely immoral.

No one here is going to stop you (unless you post them here or link to them - I won't allow that to happen) from posting them. You asked our opinion; you've heard some and don't like that. I wonder why that is.

want to really get revenge?
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blur out her face and pot up the pictures all over work. it wont matter if anyone else knows who it is, she'll know who it is and every turn she takes at work she'll be facing her hairy spotted ass and who'll be the fastest person to take down the photos? boyfriend(s) and whoever is in the picture.
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forget about her and move on normally with the rest of your life so that when/if she comes back expecting you to be wallowing in sorrow and you're actually better than ever, she'll feel mega tiny

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maybe ignore the HTML joke...

There's a joke in there somewhere? Where?

We really need a rule around here that jokes have to be, you know, funny. Granted, I'd be the most frequent offender, but still...

You'd probably call it Trailer Trash. In the UK a lot of 'lower class' housing is owned by the local council.

In short, because she was prepared to have them taken and also prepared to have them on "certain sites," which I can only hope were disclosed to her. Not wherever you feel fit, after the relationship is over. Not posting them on websites and sending the url to her friends/family/coworkers, etc.

Trying to argue about this seems like an entirely moot point, as it seems you have already made up your mind that this is an acceptable thing to do. What I can tell you is that you're not going to make any headway in getting approval for your behavior in this community. As you created an account and almost immediately necro'd a thread that has been dead since 2004 (google?) I can only assume that you are seeking approval, support, and justification for your intended actions. You're not going to find any of that here, in regards to this situation.

I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping pix of your ex, unless she specifically asked you to give them back to her. But if not, sure. As long as you don't post them online, or publish them, or something.

But if you're just keeping them for the occasional look back, or even the occasional sentimental wank, I say there's no problem at all.

Wow, I think this is the first time I've ever disagreed with you on something.

Ah, I'd vote because she can sue or, depending on the country and what exactly you do with them, have you arrested.

Yes, including emailing them to other people, apparently.

Try Googling the phrase "illegality of posting nude pictures of ex". That hi-tech search machine, it works wonders.

I'd also comment on this activity making you look like a douche, but posting nude pictures of an ex really would make you look like a sad young kid who can't acknowledge his own inexperience and move closer towards possible adulthood.

Hey, so... uh... I used the Google Hi-Tech Search Machine you guys were talking about. Turns out there are dozens of websites set up by sad young kids who can't acknowledge their own inexperience and move closer toward possible adulthood. I gotta say... some of their exgirlfriends are pretty damn hot.

After reading all this, somehow I'm having trouble believing that this woman was simply a merciless whore and Mr. Charms here a poor, beset upon nice guy.

What?! No. No, no, no. No.




Well, maybe.

I was trying to avoid saying "sad little wank who can't put on his big girl panties" in order to avoid making this potential MRA in-progress go off the deep end.

Also, some of those pictures are horrific. Totally kills "the mood".

Really? I confess, I'm surprised at this. You really think it's inappropriate for him to keep the pix for his own sentimental enjoyment if they were freely given, not asked for return upon breakup, and he keeps them private and out of the public eye?

Why do you think so? I'm really curious, man.

Well at least it caused a storm lol. So to answer some of the allegations ..Firstly I am not a retarded 15 yr old who wants revenge on a slapper etc... these pics/ vids are from 10 yrs ago.. Give you the hint that I aint in my twenties lol. Secondly WHOAAAA!!! hey whats with the attacks ?? lol ok its a forum but lets play nice please lol.. Third I would not need "Your Permision or infact your approvall (to be fair if i was gonna do it i would have done so by now probably when it was all fresh and i completely hated the bitch and hang the consequences) But revenge is a dish best served cold and in big friggin helpings.. So yes I understand the "MORAL" aspect and if she was a respectable and somewhat Morraly sound person I would not dream of such a thing however..Some people go through their lives on the backs of others and ..SADLY never ever see and comeback what so ever.. so Maybe ...JUST maybe chucking a spanner in their sponging little abusive lives may or may not make the worls a better place and put jeremy kyle out of a job ???

The Duck, let me welcome you to this forum. Second, sometimes people, including myself, will project past experiences on to people who aren't necessarily guilty. Don't let such attacks deter you from posting, please. :)

Then enjoy jail, Duck. Because it's illegal in the UK as well. And if she decides to go to a lawyer, you'll most likely end up paying her as well.

Good luck.

You're thinking of getting revenge on a woman you dated a decade ago?

I feel like this is the buddings of another George Sodini.

Uh yea...on that note:

The whole revenge bit. Let that go. I've got some exes that I wish would suffer horribly, but it's not my prerogative.

The best revenge is to live well. Just go with that.

No Probs Jazz (been a newbie on forums before so I know the score lol) Anyhow as you know there are ways and means of posting on the net anon.. proxy servers etc.. But the pics in question and the sites they are on were 1. Done with her consent (date/time stamped and commented on etc.) 2. One of the sites were where she was selling her knickers for cash under a sudo name ..(but paypal details will give the account) while she was benefit frauding... 3. she is probably still doing it, so ask yourselves the moral question of should she be turned in?? and finally 4... and what I feel is the best... NO man with any sort of moral conscience would go near her putting her back in the gutter where I first found her and make her an example to the retards she is ONCE again associating with.. IE: karma having a helping hand !!! ..just a thought LOL

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no pics were a decade ago split up was 4 years .. My life is actually spot on now. and to be fair she can do what she wants.. My point is Karma is taking its time and should I help it along a bit while i have the opportunity .. lol which before you ask me the qustion "Why am I bothered?" Becuase i do not belive that truly evil people should walk the face of the planet doing what they like to other people with NO RETRIBUTION AT ALL!!!!

The problem is that's not how karma works. You can't help along someone else's karma*, and something like having an external humiliation come down upon you is not the action of karma, it's the action of others. Karma is a personal thing. This means that the action you are contemplating will only create your own karma.

You want to talk about karma? You should look at your own. Four years on and you're thinking of attacking the character and reputation of an ex. You clearly have your own karmic issues to deal with. Why are you still so miserable after all this time (despite saying your life is "spot on")? You need to look at yourself and wonder why you're still obsessing over her.

You're hung up on this. You're clinging to it, and it's damaging you.

If your life were truly "spot on," you would be posting about much cooler stuff here on TFP. Much cooler.

I wish you the best in your struggles to get over what she's done to you. I hope you realize that this will require looking at yourself more than at her.


*The exception is if you were to attempt the inverse: Helping her become a better person, by aiding in her own insights into why her actions hurt others—this would help her in working with her own karma, and may help her to avoid such bad actions and instead treat people with more respect.

And how many years did you date this "truly evil" person? It must have been a nightmare, being with someone so horrible for that long.

It's amazing you could stand dating such an evil person, and I commend you for your selfless act of bravery in attempting to redeem such a truly heinous person from their life of pure evil with your pure love and good heart.

Guru ..Whilst I appreciate your comment ... and to be fair can fully understand what your saying. However (without going into a 10 page message) the upshot is. People who are in-herently evil and use others for their own gains deserve to have thier lives put into turmoil and to have some discomfort put upon them... |For far too long (hence Jeremy Kyle etc) Decent folk have sat back and and let other people walk over them.. Now please bear in mind ..if this was a MAN that had robbed you of everything you may well resoort to Violence ..and so would I. But this is a female with the morals of alley cat who will (AND HAS DONE over the last 4 yrs since we split) duped decent men into bringing up her brood and spending their cash ... Now its all good and well to say move on ... I HAVE DONE and I am very happy ..but there is still abit of me that thinks ..you know what ... FUCK you the world can see your ass... but your friends and family dont know do they LOL

I don't buy it.

Happy people don't plot how to exact revenge on exes of over four years ago. I also don't think people are inherently evil any more than I think people are inherently good. Every person has the capacity for good and evil, simply put.

Also, what does causing others discomfort accomplish? What's the purpose? What's the outcome? What's the use?

Duck you have mentioned several times that this woman has children. It also sounds like you may have spent a long time caring for some of them. If you ever had any affection for those kids - don't do it. If their mother is as awful as you seem to think they already have enough to deal with.

Four years also seems like a very long time to be holding that much venom for a woman that you have moved on from.

On a personal note, thank you for reminding me and everyone else out here to never let anyone have compromising pictures with your face in them. I send pictures of a somewhat sensitive nature to someone that I care about and I do appreciate the reminder. ;)

OK.. Once again I will say ...I personally think that people should be exposed for what they really are..We do it all the time with Goverment employees and people in power and we all then BELIEVE that they should be exposed for what they are ... I do not see the difference with doing that (that EVERYONE ON EVERY FORUM EVERYWHERE and all the newspapers see fit to do) Why then should we not be able to do it on a lower level ??? Just because It IS A LOWER LEVEL ??? is that not Hypocritical ?? as for the kids issue ..yes while i Do understand the implications ..I do not for one minute think she will "Show the kids the pics and say look what he has done" ... and for the next question ....let me pre empt here .."What about the other kids who will/would see them and then taunt the kids" Surely the point I am making is that any "PARENT" worth their salt woulkd be making sure thier child does not have access to this and the ones that DO are in the same social catagorey as her in the first place ?

I'm going to stick with "immoral and illegal" as reasons why not. You're not going to be able to convince me (or anyone else from the looks of things) that either one of those isn't valid.

Good people don't do things like this. If you're fine with being a bad person, that's your call. I'd never do it, and I certainly wouldn't want anything to do with you if you did it. I'll be honest enough to say that from what I've seen here, you and I will never be friends.

Justify it to yourself however you want. At the end of the day, your reasons say more about you than they do her.

Duck - the reason that I brought up the children was that you mentioned sending links to her family members. Do you think that somehow it would never come up in a way that they can hear about? Do you think that this might impact their lives negatively when she is dealing with the stress of this?

Again, if she is as awful as you say, these kids need you to be an adult here.

I suppose it's that some of us have high expectations of ourselves.

However, it looks like you're fine ranting, raging, and rationalizing everything you do in order to make yourself feel justified in your desired actions.

You know what you want to do.

So go for it.

Why are you wasting your time here?

we need a book:

How to finally let go and stop obsessing about your ex.

certainly someone has written it.

Duck, what you don't seem to understand is that your motives are very transparent. You haven't gotten over this woman. You can write overly punctuated proclamations proving your carefree jubilance all day and all night, it only makes it more apparent. People who have moved on come to forums to talk about mundane shit or look at photos of other naked people. Not to attempt a campaign against someone they broke up with four years ago. And no one is interested in seeing these pictures. Except maybe for any sleazeballs who have already private messaged you for them. They're everywhere.

Clearly this is no longer about her. It hasn't been about her for a while now. Which is sad.

Don't, if one of both of you are/were under 18 at the time the pictures were taken!

Wait, what? You think it's ok if both of them were over 18? Have you read all of what The Duck has been posting? Do you realize that he wants to post pictures with her name attached in order to smear her? And that's ok?

I mean that posting them, if they were taken prior to either or both of them reaching 18 might create a real problem for him.

Yeah, you didn't bother to read the thread. If you had, you wouldn't have bothered with such a stupid answer. That was answered a long time ago, in Duck's 2nd or 3rd post. Way to completely miss the point, dude.

See that thing at 40,000 feet? That's the point, silently but swiftly gliding above your head.

I wonder if Jazz is this acerbic in real life.

I hope so, because if I ever meet him in person, I'm going to want to push his buttons for shits and giggles.

I'm much nicer in real life. Granted the bar isn't set that high so it's not hard to acheive "much nicer".

Shits and giggles .....love it lol

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BTW ..Jazz as an aside ... "Me and you will never be friends .... " I'm gutted ... thought me and you could swap nurses uniforms or go on long walks in the parks etc .. Maybe visit an art gallery or two ?

Duck seriously move on. If you can't or simply don't want to seek fucking help. I've read through just about all your posts on here and the % of them involving you offering or wink, wink offering naked pic's of your ex is a little sad and pretty disturbing. You know how many people have naked pic's of their ex? Since digital camera I'm betting just about everyone. How many of those people go around offering said photos to strangers on-line? Only the douche bags.

Delete the photos or burn them, it's been 4 fucking years. Have a little "I'm sooooo done with you ceremony" and start focusing on more positive issues in your life. If you don't have any current positive issues in your life... get some.

In short... Move on, find a new issue to discuss or maybe you'd be more comfortable elsewhere on the internet.

Hmmm!!! Sensing that I may have ruffled a few feathers here ...COOL ..So let me give you a little more insight and see what the response will be... (1st rule of debate club. you dont talk about debate club... lol 2nd rule keep some things in your back pocket if you are talking about FACTUAL events and not just ranting).. So "Hyperthetically" :) She is still using the photo's to still maintain her "Knicker" selling income and ALSO Using Photo's all beit with MY face blurred out (but I have uninique TATTOOS) to carry on plying her trade ..ON top of which... She has deemed it fit to not only carry on doing this..but ..and heres the real cruncher to Specifically name me on one of the swinger sites as a fookin reference???... Back to original post ...I had the Idea it was Illeagal to do it but wanted confirmation and secondly Why is it ok for her to do it and NOT me ... MORRALLY!!!! not legally as you have all judged me already LOL

Duck, it's actually not cool to ruffle the feathers of your hosts. We wouldn't come into your home and take a dump in the living room. You seem to think it's just fine to do that here. You're wearing out your welcome quickly, and don't think that we'll suffer you much longer if you keep up the attitude.

Why in the world do you think that we're going to ok what she's doing though? Obviously what she's doing is equally wrong! It's the exact same fucking thing with the exception of her blurring your face. If you feel that your tattoos are distinct enough to cause a problem, call a lawyer to have a cease-and-desist letter drawn up. Then sue her for whatever proceeds she's made.

The referrence on the swinger site is easier. Contact the staff there and let them know that your name is there without your permission. If you're nicer to them than you have been to us, then they'll probably take it down immediately. They'll have rules in place for things like that, especially if it's a referrence. If they don't, then they've got a problem.

Your plan, though, is still 100% pure douchebag. Two wrongs not making a right and all. You still clearly don't get it.

Your first posts states-

It talks about picture of her and her selling her "knickers" but oddly never mentions any photo of you. Just that she "screwed you to the wall." Now you're saying the photos are of you and you have tats that can be recognized. Doesn't sound right. Sounds like after being called out for wanting to engage in douche like behavior your story changed to make you a victim.

As Jazz points out above it's not cool to ruffle shit here... keep doing it and you will disappear very quickly.