Baraka_Guru

I don't buy it.

Happy people don't plot how to exact revenge on exes of over four years ago. I also don't think people are inherently evil any more than I think people are inherently good. Every person has the capacity for good and evil, simply put.

Also, what does causing others discomfort accomplish? What's the purpose? What's the outcome? What's the use?

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waitforsugar

Duck you have mentioned several times that this woman has children. It also sounds like you may have spent a long time caring for some of them. If you ever had any affection for those kids - don't do it. If their mother is as awful as you seem to think they already have enough to deal with.

Four years also seems like a very long time to be holding that much venom for a woman that you have moved on from.

On a personal note, thank you for reminding me and everyone else out here to never let anyone have compromising pictures with your face in them. I send pictures of a somewhat sensitive nature to someone that I care about and I do appreciate the reminder.

The Duck

OK.. Once again I will say ...I personally think that people should be exposed for what they really are..We do it all the time with Goverment employees and people in power and we all then BELIEVE that they should be exposed for what they are ... I do not see the difference with doing that (that EVERYONE ON EVERY FORUM EVERYWHERE and all the newspapers see fit to do) Why then should we not be able to do it on a lower level ??? Just because It IS A LOWER LEVEL ??? is that not Hypocritical ?? as for the kids issue ..yes while i Do understand the implications ..I do not for one minute think she will "Show the kids the pics and say look what he has done" ... and for the next question ....let me pre empt here .."What about the other kids who will/would see them and then taunt the kids" Surely the point I am making is that any "PARENT" worth their salt woulkd be making sure thier child does not have access to this and the ones that DO are in the same social catagorey as her in the first place ?

The_Jazz

I'm going to stick with "immoral and illegal" as reasons why not. You're not going to be able to convince me (or anyone else from the looks of things) that either one of those isn't valid.

Good people don't do things like this. If you're fine with being a bad person, that's your call. I'd never do it, and I certainly wouldn't want anything to do with you if you did it. I'll be honest enough to say that from what I've seen here, you and I will never be friends.

Justify it to yourself however you want. At the end of the day, your reasons say more about you than they do her.

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waitforsugar

Duck - the reason that I brought up the children was that you mentioned sending links to her family members. Do you think that somehow it would never come up in a way that they can hear about? Do you think that this might impact their lives negatively when she is dealing with the stress of this?

Again, if she is as awful as you say, these kids need you to be an adult here.

Poetry

I suppose it's that some of us have high expectations of ourselves.

However, it looks like you're fine ranting, raging, and rationalizing everything you do in order to make yourself feel justified in your desired actions.

You know what you want to do.

So go for it.

Why are you wasting your time here?

mixedmedia

we need a book:

How to finally let go and stop obsessing about your ex.

certainly someone has written it.

Duck, what you don't seem to understand is that your motives are very transparent. You haven't gotten over this woman. You can write overly punctuated proclamations proving your carefree jubilance all day and all night, it only makes it more apparent. People who have moved on come to forums to talk about mundane shit or look at photos of other naked people. Not to attempt a campaign against someone they broke up with four years ago. And no one is interested in seeing these pictures. Except maybe for any sleazeballs who have already private messaged you for them. They're everywhere.

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Baraka_Guru

Clearly this is no longer about her. It hasn't been about her for a while now. Which is sad.

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xenonman

Don't, if one of both of you are/were under 18 at the time the pictures were taken!

The_Jazz

Wait, what? You think it's ok if both of them were over 18? Have you read all of what The Duck has been posting? Do you realize that he wants to post pictures with her name attached in order to smear her? And that's ok?

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xenonman

I mean that posting them, if they were taken prior to either or both of them reaching 18 might create a real problem for him.

The_Jazz

Yeah, you didn't bother to read the thread. If you had, you wouldn't have bothered with such a stupid answer. That was answered a long time ago, in Duck's 2nd or 3rd post. Way to completely miss the point, dude.

See that thing at 40,000 feet? That's the point, silently but swiftly gliding above your head.

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KirStang

I wonder if Jazz is this acerbic in real life.

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Baraka_Guru

I hope so, because if I ever meet him in person, I'm going to want to push his buttons for shits and giggles.

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Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
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The_Jazz

I'm much nicer in real life. Granted the bar isn't set that high so it's not hard to acheive "much nicer".

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The Duck

Shits and giggles .....love it lol

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BTW ..Jazz as an aside ... "Me and you will never be friends .... " I'm gutted ... thought me and you could swap nurses uniforms or go on long walks in the parks etc .. Maybe visit an art gallery or two ?

Tully Mars

Duck seriously move on. If you can't or simply don't want to seek fucking help. I've read through just about all your posts on here and the % of them involving you offering or wink, wink offering naked pic's of your ex is a little sad and pretty disturbing. You know how many people have naked pic's of their ex? Since digital camera I'm betting just about everyone. How many of those people go around offering said photos to strangers on-line? Only the douche bags.

Delete the photos or burn them, it's been 4 fucking years. Have a little "I'm sooooo done with you ceremony" and start focusing on more positive issues in your life. If you don't have any current positive issues in your life... get some.

In short... Move on, find a new issue to discuss or maybe you'd be more comfortable elsewhere on the internet.

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The Duck

Hmmm!!! Sensing that I may have ruffled a few feathers here ...COOL ..So let me give you a little more insight and see what the response will be... (1st rule of debate club. you dont talk about debate club... lol 2nd rule keep some things in your back pocket if you are talking about FACTUAL events and not just ranting).. So "Hyperthetically" She is still using the photo's to still maintain her "Knicker" selling income and ALSO Using Photo's all beit with MY face blurred out (but I have uninique TATTOOS) to carry on plying her trade ..ON top of which... She has deemed it fit to not only carry on doing this..but ..and heres the real cruncher to Specifically name me on one of the swinger sites as a fookin reference???... Back to original post ...I had the Idea it was Illeagal to do it but wanted confirmation and secondly Why is it ok for her to do it and NOT me ... MORRALLY!!!! not legally as you have all judged me already LOL

The_Jazz

Duck, it's actually not cool to ruffle the feathers of your hosts. We wouldn't come into your home and take a dump in the living room. You seem to think it's just fine to do that here. You're wearing out your welcome quickly, and don't think that we'll suffer you much longer if you keep up the attitude.

Why in the world do you think that we're going to ok what she's doing though? Obviously what she's doing is equally wrong! It's the exact same fucking thing with the exception of her blurring your face. If you feel that your tattoos are distinct enough to cause a problem, call a lawyer to have a cease-and-desist letter drawn up. Then sue her for whatever proceeds she's made.

The referrence on the swinger site is easier. Contact the staff there and let them know that your name is there without your permission. If you're nicer to them than you have been to us, then they'll probably take it down immediately. They'll have rules in place for things like that, especially if it's a referrence. If they don't, then they've got a problem.

Your plan, though, is still 100% pure douchebag. Two wrongs not making a right and all. You still clearly don't get it.

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Tully Mars

Your first posts states-

It talks about picture of her and her selling her "knickers" but oddly never mentions any photo of you. Just that she "screwed you to the wall." Now you're saying the photos are of you and you have tats that can be recognized. Doesn't sound right. Sounds like after being called out for wanting to engage in douche like behavior your story changed to make you a victim.

As Jazz points out above it's not cool to ruffle shit here... keep doing it and you will disappear very quickly.

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ASU2003

There is an un-named hacker group out there, all you have to do is post your IP address and the pictures will be copied from your hard drive and sent around the world for you...

But none of us knows who this woman is, so it is just another one on the internet at that point.

HandmeDown

Let me just say that I don't believe for a minute, and feel free to dispute me on this, that no one can claim to be guilt-free when it comes to having knowingly caused discomfort to another person.

And I am not casting stones here. I've done it myself. What I am saying is that, as human beings, I think we have all done it, to some degree, to other people in our lives.

I am sure we can all think of instances where a person came to us and asked or perhaps even begged us to stop doing something that was hurting them or causing them discomfort, and yet we didn't stop simply because it was something we had justified or determined that we wanted to do.

I am not speaking about anything heinous or criminal, I am simply talking about in everyday relationships--all of us, at some point or another, have knowingly or willfully caused discomfort to another human being through a chosen action or course of actions. Be it revenge, jealousy, or just because we were "pissed off" at something the other person may have done to us. Or maybe because we thought the other person was being a control freak for even asking us.

I am not attempting to justify anything in this thread about publishing nude pictures of the ex. I agree that it's wrong and even contemplating how to carry it out for more than 2 seconds is wrong.

I am just trying to say that all of us need to examine our own lives and motives very carefully, because it's my opinion (and feel free to disagree) that we are all guilty of having done something to knowingly perpetrate discomfort on another. None of us can cast stones or act self-righteously (not saying anyone here has). I am trying to generalize a behavior that I think every human has engaged in at some point during their life. Self-examination is the first rule, so to speak.

Hopefully, too, we all recognize the behavior in ourselves and don't resort to again. And hopefully, a thread like this one reminds us that resorting to such antics is immature and childish and ultimately, inhumane, especially if the motive is to knowingly, willfully hurt, or perpetrate discomfort to another human being.

The Duck

Thank you. Handmedown and I applaude you in being the only one to stick your head above the line of fire with a REASONABLE and rationable comment to put a different spin on things. Rather than the self righteous veiws of for want of a better phrase "Keyboard Warriors" who can only condem rather than even try to understand. Yes I do feel the need to expose her for what she is and has done ..YES I do think I would be justified in fighting fire with fire ...Yet I have not done this in 4 yrs, I have NOT posted pics to anyone or any sites, YES i did in oringinal post put "In short anywhere etc" However Having thoughts about doing something and ACTUALLY doing them are two different things.. Anyhow ONCE again thank you Handmedown for actually putting a "DIFFERENT" perspective on things..(not in no way agreeing with me ...(for the moderators..he merely put a different spin on things) But I fail to see how THREATENING me with being kicked off this Discussion forum is going to democratically have a forum that would work ?? I will say this now JAZZ you wanna boot me off do it !!! but if you want a forum where you can have a difference of opinion without the fret of being kicked off then go grow a small black moustache.. FORUMS ARE FOR OPINIONS .. as it states in your terms and conditions.

So in short if you dont like me im out ???

The_Jazz

No, you're out if you act like a dick. As I've explained to you numerous times.

I've got no problem with differing opinions. I welcome them. If they weren't there this would be a very boring place.

What I - along with several other folks - have a problem with is someone acting like a complete dickhead in the face of OUR opinions. It's a 2 way street, Duck. You came here asking for opinions. Several were posted. You then proceeded to lash out at anyone who disagreed with you. If you'd bother to read anything else on this site - you haven't except for the thread you created and snide comment in one of the erotica threads - you'd see that we have lots and lots of respectful disagreement. It's what we do. We're pretty good at it, but apparently you're not. Look at your responses when folks disagreed with you then look at when I started mentioning that there was a problem.

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Baraka_Guru

Um, no. I didn't condemn you, and I understood you in terms of your situation here. I think the issue is that you don't understand yourself. There's a difference. You say you're happy, but here you are still talking about "fighting fire with fire" and being justified in doing something knowingly terrible to another human being.

I don't know what brand of "happy" you have, but I hope you kept your receipt and that it's under warranty.

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Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
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HandmeDown

I did condemn his course of action, but I did it very kindly. Apparently so kindly, he missed it.

I said "resorting to such antics is immature and childish and ultimately, inhumane, especially if the motive is to knowingly, willfully hurt, or perpetrate discomfort to another human being."

Just in case: Duck, you are being immature, childish, and inhumane. Just my opinion. Not casting a stone at you. Perhaps reconsider your course of action and make a more mature choice?

The Duck

ONCE AGAIN... I have NOT done this at this moment in time! Yes i was angry ! Yes i still feel somewaht screwed over ... But FFS on a bigger level I agree.. but have we forgoton WW2, Have we forgot 911? Have we forgoton Hunley? Have we forgot the first Bully that punched you, the first or LAST person that cheated on you ??? We have all moved on form 911 but were ALL STILL TALKING ABOUT IT!!!!

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And yes Handmedown..you did condemn it and Maybe rightly so.. but you did not attack after only reading half the posts.. for that you deserve acclaim!

Baraka_Guru

I noticed that, but I wanted to give you a chance to respond to it first.

But it's not so obvious that you are merely venting your anger and airing out your pain.

Are you? Or are you truly seeking advice as to whether you should carry out your action?

I'm completely on your side if you want to get over this. I think you should try.

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—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
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The Duck

Cheers Baraka.. HELL yeah ..All done dusted and was so far in back of my mind that I forgot it even happened ..However ..And I'm not going to retract on the "It does not matter how long ago it was issue" The fact of that matter is It is OK for her to do it and not have ANY REPECUSSIONS or penalty's for it as she has the "SAME" access rights to the pics as i DO ... BUT I "WOULD" and I stress "WOULD" be labellled a "sleazeball, B*****, scumbag and and this is what i find slightly "Ironic" I still miss her and want her if I was to do this" ...For those that STILL think I'm not over her ........IT WAS 4 YRS AGO, I'm Married now..Lovely wife ..and she is laughing at your responses !!!

Tully Mars

Well if you are married and if she is laughing at least one person is laughing with you, guess that's worth something.

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lunxpress

Ew. NO.

I have contempt for my exes. I don't ever wish to see those mofos naked or clothed, ever again.

Go away, bitches.

raging moderate

naked pictures of exes, probably not. as in, no naked pics of girls I was seriously seeing and madly in love with, etc. too many weird emotion. pics of casual/one-night-stand/f-buddies/etc? Absolutely hang on to them. If there isn't any emotional baggage with the pics, hang on tight!!! Otherwise, dump 'em and get on with your life already

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mathew856

no pis at all in this thread??? :O

match000

What if you encrypted her name using a funny human solvable cipher and attached it. Would THAT be illegal? Just wondeirng