Ratso

Okay, this is a sequel to a prior thread I started about my girlfriend and her sexual insensitives, but a new one is required at this point.

The girl feels "good" during regular intercourse, but not nearly enough to bring orgasm. Her G-spot might as well be comprised of the skin on her hand - totally ineffective.

Direct clitoral stimulation feels "dull" to her. When she masturbates, she rubs the area just above the clitoris, apparently indirectly stimulating it. I can do this with my hand, with some success - but not as well as she does even after much practice - and even then the orgasm that it brings to her is mild at best, whether it's her or me doing it.

Oral doesn't do much better than the above.

I've used desensitizing condoms to lengthen sex, but that hasn't helped at all. It's not the length that's an issue - it's the fact that so far I've found no spot that really drives her wild. I used to be able to just rub the G-Spot or the clit on a girl and have her quivering by the end of a few minutes. This girl is ENTIRELY different. It's upsetting because she's very good at pleasuring me, but we can't seem to make anything work for her.

Any help is very, very appreciated.. one thing we are tossing around is the idea that it may be psychological. She's a very anxiety-stricken girl, and yet when we make love, she's quite calm and comfortable. Such a mystery.

Bonus funny story for reading this far: After using one of those desensitizing condoms, my girlfriend proceeded to finish me off by giving me head. Unfortunately for her, we'd forgotten that the desensitizing agent was still working. Before long, her tongue became numb, and then the rest of her mouth followed. Hilarity ensued. Larry David'd.

Rlyss

Can you try a position where she can touch herself as well? Perhaps doggy style, with her leaning against something comfortable, like the bed, would free up her hands to touch herself while you enter her. If it is psychological then after a while (perhaps a long time ) she might equate sexual pleasure with you entering her too? I suppose that's how it works?

Nancy

I'd suggest you guys try anal sex. The nerves in the rectum are connected to the vagina. When the rectum nerves are being stimulated during sex it will automatically stimulate the nerves in the vagina as well. The rectum nerves are very sensitive so she should be able to get some mindblowing orgasms if she masturbates during analsex

best of luck!

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Acetylene

Three things:

1. Might your girl have ADD? Untreated concentration problems are murder for sex because pleasure (female anyway) requires a lot of concentration and, yes guys, there's a huge mental component. The nerves send signals, but the brain doesn't necessarily interpret them as "pleasure" or even receive them at all. ADD and anxiety can go hand-in-hand, and often one goes undiagnosed while the other is being treated.

2. See if you can convince her to stop masturbating. If her body's only source of pleasure is you, it will retrain itself to your touch in no time.

3. I haven't tried this myself, but there are lots of commercial creams which are supposed to increase blood flow and sensation for women, plus some of them have a tingly feeling all on their own. You might take her to a drugstore or dirty toystore and let her pick out her favorite.

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skysooner

Okay, here is a possible solution. Some women just don't have G-spot orgasms. My wife is strictly a clitoral stimulation girl. However, the stimulation has to be done just right. When she is stimulating the area "above" the clitoris, I am almost sure what she is doing is pushing the skin kind of down over it. I'll do this with my wife, and I can use a bit more pressure because it isn't direct pressure. Another thing I do is the fold that skin over and kind of put it and the clit between two of my fingers. I can then move my fingers up and down to give indirect clitoral stimulation. The key to this is just communication. I didn't know how to do any of this to get my wife off until I just had her show me at first, then kind of put her hand over mind second, and then doing it myself third (over a period of a couple of weeks).

Cynthetiq

maybe she also has a clit that is covered by the hood, kind of like a foreskin equivalent....

skysooner has some good advice too.. be patient.. and communicate. it seems silly at first but then after a bit it, it will all be good and toe curling.

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bigoldalphamale

i love nancy.

if you have lucci, get her a sybian.

if not...something like a sybian...but not as expensive.

98MustGT

Try barely touching the clit or blowing on it, I mean barely touch it.

pinkie

Good advice!!!!!!!!! (Been there, done that!)

erion

The anal idea is good advice. My wife has told me many times that the only reason we don't do it more often than we do (once every couple of months) is that she absolutley has no control over her orgasms when she's receiving anal stimulation. She feels like she comes too fast from straight anal sex, and if she so much as brushes he clit while we're fucking anally she absolutely explodes on contact.

It could be a good thing for you.