how long did you date before sex?
 

I'm curious as to how long people have been dating before they had sex.

Most of the girls i know have to date a long while before they feel comfortable having sex... I personally feel that sex can be enjoyed on a physical level and an emotional level. I prefer for it to be a hit on both levels. I like waiting until we're both comfortable. Around a month.

My fiance and I waited 4 hours...and he was the first man ever (in my then 19 years of having sex) to give me multiple orgasms....that nite

My first was maybe a week after we became a couple. My ex was 3 days. My current gf was around 2 weeks when I went down on her on the beach at 2am. She returned the favor and then some a few days later. ;)

My 'first' was a two-night stand. With my 'second', who is now my wife, we made it to 3rd base on our first date, but held off on sex for about 4 months (we were freshmen in college).

My first, happened the first night we were officially together, and he told me he loved me for the first time. I'm not conventional, what can i say. Lasted in and around 3 years.

I'd say, oh, around 25 minutes. It was basically the time it took for me to pick her up, drive to her place, and climb to her apartment.

2 years of dating with my wife. We are both happily married now and just felt comfortable at the time with not being in a rush.

Me and my wife, 3 weeks. Then she couldn't stand it anymore and she jumped my bones. I was willing to wait, but hey....

I have waited months in the past.

With my boyfriend now I waited three days. It wasn't him who was pushing it, it was me. I jumped his bones.:)

He was just so cute (and still is) I just had to have him.

To be honest, I'd have to say at least a month. At times I wish I could be that guy who just picks girls up and screws them the same day, but I never have been. I'm not sure if I lack the confidance to make a move so soon, or if I just need to know the person a little better and feel comfortable with them. There was a girl once, several years ago, that I met and we had oral sex a day later. I was going to have sex with her the next day, but she backed out, telling me she was a virgin and she was afraid of getting pregnant. Since I had met her on vacation I never saw her again.

2 months.

Ummm I think we waited 1 1/2 to 2 weeks. We met on a Sat. he came over Sun. and never left. Been 13 years now.

Wow you sound like me and Dave...or the other way around...We met last september on a thursday and he very shortly had to go out of town for work, but when he came back to my house when he got back he never left :)

About a week for us.

My girlfirend and I started making love three months after we started dating, that was two years ago.

Started dating... early 2001 -- getting married mid 2006 -- Not to way we are celebate in any way, but no sex until then.

I think about 2 hours give or take. That was after meeting face to face though, we had only talked on the computer for 3 months before that.

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We waited about 8 months, and that was all me. Before, I'd always thought I'd wait even longer (though I seem to be a minority here :p ) but when it came right down to it... I just didn't want to wait anymore!

I think Will and I waited a week. But I was just so comfortable with him from the start that it wasn't really an issue and I felt like waiting any longer would just be waiting for the sake of waiting... I went with what felt natural.

With other boyfriends, it was never natural at all and I waited months before losing my virginity (technically) to my ex. And never had sex with my first boyfriend.

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I only knew my first for like 3 days before we had sex. With my current girlfriend, we...well, I waited for 4 months.

ya know, it's funny...if i wait longer than ab out a month, i never have sex wth that gf. my first was an exception bc we were virgins in highschool, so we waited three months. after that, it was either within a week or within a month. most of my first dates end up with someone getting naked, though

A Year and a Half

Holy shit, some of these replies are crazy.

It's been a year with my girlfriend and we haven't yet. Feels like soon though.

Usually couple of hours (go out, talk, drink, smoke, go back home and get it on). Worked out every single time.

Date?

We have no such thing as "dates" in Denmark so I didn't "date" any of my boyfriends/fuck buddies before we had sex.

About two months I think.

33 days from first kiss to oral- and regular sex. Still together.

However we met another couple. 8 hours from meet&greet to hot sex in the basement. (ah.. just bragging ;))

My first girlfriend and I dated for a week short of a year but yet we never had sex.

My current girlfriend (fourth woman I've ever been in any kind of relationship with) and I had sex maybe three or four weeks after we started dating.

For my wife and I, it took almost 5 months. And she basically wouldn't touch me below the waist. I don't think she had even seen a penis up close. She still has trouble going down on me, after being together 14 years.

2 months is my standard.....i like to get to know a girl....and figure out if she is a whore or not!

Intresting question. We met on the internet, and corresponded by email for a month or so. Living two hours apart didn't help in the actual dating department. I went there once, she came here once, then we spent the weekend together in a third location. Guess that makes it 2 - 2 1/2 months. That was nearly three years ago, we're engaged now, and she has changed my life.

anywhere from an hour to a month and a half, and every possible in between interval. Average, 2 weeks.

My wife and I dated 4 months before we had sex. Oral and hand jobs and such after about 2 months. She was 17, I was 19.

So women who sleep with guys right away are whores while the men are heros?

Nikki, I agree with you completely. Don't you love double standards?

Yep.

ha.

Technically, it was -1.5 months for ubertuber and I. If you count "dating" as the moment I told him I was interested, then it was about 15 minutes. 20, tops. (yak yak yak, ubertuber!) But then again, we'd known each other for several months and had been fairly close friends for a few weeks by that point. That was the best surprise sex ever, considering he had no idea I liked him about an hour earlier.

In my past relationship I waited around a month and a half. With my current boyfriend..well, we did it before we even started dating..and then we started dating so we never really had any down time.

9/12/02 - started dating ---9/13/03 first time we had sex (so, 1 year and 1 day), and we're going on 2 years :) best 2 years of my life.

I gotta ask: 1. Has the subject come up? 2. Do you and her do any kind of sexual activity? 3. How old are the two of you? 4. Why are you waiting?

No judgement here. I'm just curious. (That should be my tag line.)

Even though it wasn't directed at me...

1) Many times.

2) I think a good phrase would be "everything but" sex.

3) 23/22

4) Very early in our relationship we "clicked" so hard, we both knew it was going to last. Started dating in 1/2001, started talking about it in 3-4/2001. I was indifferent (I had other serious relationships that didn't lead to sex) and she wanted to wait (because it 'felt right'). So I agreed, and now we're getting married in 7/2006 (Yeah, long engagement, not my choice)... and unless one of us has a huge hormone rush, we'll do it then.

We have fun, we love each other, and as sappy as it seems in this day in age, we pretty much fell instantly in love, head over heels.

We went to the same college, and lived in the same dorm... it's hard for those who didn't know us very well to believe that we aren't fucking. Parents included. :)

Edit: We were both raised RC, but both have strayed very far from the church. So I don't think it's religion holding either of us back. I guess we both wanted to do things "right." /shrugs... and the fact that several of our friends have gotten pregnant, had abortions, etc.

Is it legal to quote yourself?

You know, one of the great things about loving a good woman, is the ability to talk, and discuss anything. Anitra and I were talking about my posting on this thread, and she wanted to know why I didn't state that the "third" time was a little early for me. I didn't particularly think it was revelant, but she seemed to think so....

I will tell you, just as I have told her on numerous occassions...the third date is a little early for me, if I have intentions about the woman. That is, if I think she is worth persuing, and possibly having a long term relationship with. That was my intention with her, after talking on the internet, and two dates...I saw real possibilities for a very good relationship with her, but didn't want to rush things. As I stated, we had the third date, in a third location, and I rented two rooms for us, not wanting in any way for her to think I was putting any pressure on her. As it turned out, we made love; but it was totally because it was right, and the natural thing to do, considering our feelings. It wasn't because I wanted, or needed to SCORE, or becuase she felt she owed me for the weekend...it was because we had each found what we needed, and wanted in only three dates.

My wife (then GF) wanted to wait awhile, which was cool for me, too. So it was 3 months. (...5 days, 6 hours, 18 minutes....):)

I guess about 5 hours... not what I would say as a great start for a lasting relationship but 12 years later we're still together.

Current gf, it was about 3 months before the oral. Still no penetration though. We've been going out about 5 mos. Even though I'm ready (and have been for awhile), I don't think she is. She's a virgin and quite a bit younger than I am and I've been very careful about not trying to pressure her about it. But as soon as she gives the "go ahead" I'll be ready!! :)

7 Months till penetrative sex but we had other intimate relations pretty much from the word go. Damn intimate little sleepover parties with too much wine....

Sounds fun! ;)

/me moves to Denmark

As much as I love my girlfriend I often wish I had waited a bit longer before having sex so we could have gotten to know each other more on an emotional level before we got physical.