In my past relationship I waited around a month and a half. With my current boyfriend..well, we did it before we even started dating..and then we started dating so we never really had any down time.

9/12/02 - started dating ---9/13/03 first time we had sex (so, 1 year and 1 day), and we're going on 2 years :) best 2 years of my life.

I gotta ask: 1. Has the subject come up? 2. Do you and her do any kind of sexual activity? 3. How old are the two of you? 4. Why are you waiting?

No judgement here. I'm just curious. (That should be my tag line.)

Even though it wasn't directed at me...

1) Many times.

2) I think a good phrase would be "everything but" sex.

3) 23/22

4) Very early in our relationship we "clicked" so hard, we both knew it was going to last. Started dating in 1/2001, started talking about it in 3-4/2001. I was indifferent (I had other serious relationships that didn't lead to sex) and she wanted to wait (because it 'felt right'). So I agreed, and now we're getting married in 7/2006 (Yeah, long engagement, not my choice)... and unless one of us has a huge hormone rush, we'll do it then.

We have fun, we love each other, and as sappy as it seems in this day in age, we pretty much fell instantly in love, head over heels.

We went to the same college, and lived in the same dorm... it's hard for those who didn't know us very well to believe that we aren't fucking. Parents included. :)

Edit: We were both raised RC, but both have strayed very far from the church. So I don't think it's religion holding either of us back. I guess we both wanted to do things "right." /shrugs... and the fact that several of our friends have gotten pregnant, had abortions, etc.

Is it legal to quote yourself?

You know, one of the great things about loving a good woman, is the ability to talk, and discuss anything. Anitra and I were talking about my posting on this thread, and she wanted to know why I didn't state that the "third" time was a little early for me. I didn't particularly think it was revelant, but she seemed to think so....

I will tell you, just as I have told her on numerous occassions...the third date is a little early for me, if I have intentions about the woman. That is, if I think she is worth persuing, and possibly having a long term relationship with. That was my intention with her, after talking on the internet, and two dates...I saw real possibilities for a very good relationship with her, but didn't want to rush things. As I stated, we had the third date, in a third location, and I rented two rooms for us, not wanting in any way for her to think I was putting any pressure on her. As it turned out, we made love; but it was totally because it was right, and the natural thing to do, considering our feelings. It wasn't because I wanted, or needed to SCORE, or becuase she felt she owed me for the weekend...it was because we had each found what we needed, and wanted in only three dates.

My wife (then GF) wanted to wait awhile, which was cool for me, too. So it was 3 months. (...5 days, 6 hours, 18 minutes....):)

I guess about 5 hours... not what I would say as a great start for a lasting relationship but 12 years later we're still together.

Current gf, it was about 3 months before the oral. Still no penetration though. We've been going out about 5 mos. Even though I'm ready (and have been for awhile), I don't think she is. She's a virgin and quite a bit younger than I am and I've been very careful about not trying to pressure her about it. But as soon as she gives the "go ahead" I'll be ready!! :)

7 Months till penetrative sex but we had other intimate relations pretty much from the word go. Damn intimate little sleepover parties with too much wine....

Sounds fun! ;)

/me moves to Denmark

As much as I love my girlfriend I often wish I had waited a bit longer before having sex so we could have gotten to know each other more on an emotional level before we got physical.