ruggerp11

I am beginning to think that I am only attractive on the night I go out with a girl (with some exceptions) and maybe for a day or two after that.

I have two situations that lead me to believe this.

1. I went out on a date with a girl and despite my occasional foot-in-mouth comment I believed that it went rather well. She told me to call her the next day and I did. She then said (when she called me back) that she had gone home early and that I shoudl call her the next day. I have not heard back from her since (and I did call and email her).

2. Two weeks ago I met this girl at a party and we talked all night. I ended up going home with her and in the morning we shared Tea and I got her phone number. I called her, left a message and she even called me back. She told me that she would call me in the next week to get together. Well not hearing from her in a week I called and I have not heard from her since. It may be a bit early to call this lead dead but I am still fustrated.


So my wit, charm, and looks only seem to be good for a night or two. I would blame it on alchol and the girls having beer goggles but the first night we started out stone sober. I dont' know what to ask or anything, this is just more of a rant. I am not completely fustrated because I have struck out with every single one, and even got a number via PM the other day (*pumps fist*) lol. This is just becoming a theme. Women like me till they think better of it.

/end rant.

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st33lr4t

be strong man. why worry ovr women that dont appreciate you? keep that confidence level up and be yourself and you will attract similiar people.

Redlemon

I'd put a completely different spin on that. Based on what you've posted, it appears that you are attractive to the kind of girl who wants to have a fun evening, then move on. Many a man would kill to be in your shoes.

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todd

Maybe just bad luck? I've had a few lowsy experiences, but i've also had some really good ones. Maybe you just had a couple of consecutive lowsy experiences. Third times a charm.

stonegrody

Be glad man, at least they're not trying to move in with you by date 3...

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Averett

Okay, well first of all I've seen your pictures, and you're attractive. So get the idea that you're not out of your head

Second... What do you want from girls? Are you looking for a relationship? Are you looking for fun? Like redlemon said, maybe these girls figure youre up for some fun but nothing more.

Girls play the "Lets exchange numbers and I'll call you" game too. You may have just been unlucky and found girls who can't be honest and say "I've had fun but I'm not looking for anything serious."

Maybe you need a different approach with dates. Instead of going home with them right away (nothing wrong with that at all) you could try leaving them wanting more. I heard something on the radio the other day... End the date sooner than you'd like. That way you're both anticipating more.

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amonkie

Rugger,

Didn'tcha say that you weren't looking for a girlfriend in the Confessional thread? Girls can pick up on the "I'm not looking for a girlfriend" vibe, and it appears they're doing so. Which could explain them not calling back and moving things forward.

And you are a sexy cutie, so it's not about that- trust us!

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The.Lunatic

hmm... asking magic 8ball he'll know

I asked
"Is he only attractive in the short term?"
It said
"Outlook Good"

I was hoping for something along the lines of Unclear so i could say mabye these two girls had other reasons to not want to get back with you.

Or maybe you just havn't rolled enough dice ( dice = women fish in the sea kinda thing ) or you chick radar is off.

But magic 8ball declares there is something wrong with you and you better fix it or else your doomed.

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ruggerp11

I appreciate the kind words ladies (and men ). I guess I was really just ranting. I tend to obsess a bit and they both were/are very very hot. I understand with the whole one time thing, and believe me if I wanted a girlfriend I would have one. I guess I was just venting.

I just feel that if you dont' want to hear from me then dammit either tell me or don't give me your phone number. And for god sakes dont' fucking call me back and tell me you want to make plans then don't, its just rude.

*deep breath*

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fhqwhgads

Be happy that you're attractive for that long... I've gotta rely on my wit and alcohol.

Carno

lol...

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fallenangel

Figure out what you want first. Then figure out how to get what you want. Don't focus on the negative. Everyone has mental ups and downs... don't let a few silly girls who didn't call you back drag your self confidence down...

We all love ya here...and we'd tell ya if we didn't!


Focus on the positive

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Trisk

WHen I read your original post, I was going to say "maybe you're calling too soon/too much?"...and when you said you tend to obsess, I came to the conclusion that that's probably the case. If you call too soon (and/or or too much), you could come off as a tad desperate or too agressive. Also...for some reason or another, girls tend to be attracted more to guys who don't seem to have tons of time for them at first. That's why people say "don't call for the first two days" or "keep the calls short". You want them to keep in touch/keep them interested but at the same time they should think you're out and about, filling up your time with interesting stuff.....don't come off as having no life.

My other thought is that if they're very hot, they might go out a lot and be meeting/juggling a few guys. Maybe they're just busy or they're meeting other people. Who knows?

ruggerp11

FA: *smooch* you're wonderfull, thank you

Trisk:
I did wait, and if I didn't it was because she told me to call her the next day (I figured that was a good indication to call the next day).

When I said obsess I simply meant that I think about it a lot. I do not stalk or even over call. The thread was more about dating 'games' (such as saying call me and then ignoring the phone, or promising to call back and not) in general then these specific cases. I know they go both ways (believe me) but I just ask for honesty, thats all. *shrugs*

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