claustin8605

OK, this is my situation.

I'm the girl of my relationship posting this thread. My SO and I are sexually active and have been for pretty much our entire relationship. He became sexually active in his first/ previous relationship as for me he is the first person I have been with. The problem is a while back he was interested in anal sex , I didn't mind the idea at first and we played around a little but due to hurting (hurting for me that is) during certain events he stopped pursuing the idea. It was never really thought about until currently when I had read some previous forums on the idea of anal sex and became very aroused. I thought and decided to give it another try. So I purchased some lube and informed him I wanted to try out the idea again and I think he was very aroused and pleased to hear this. So we were having sex (just decided to put it bluntly) and we decided to try anal, he was wearing a condom and we used lots of lube but the results were horrible. I was in pain, and both of us frusterated.

What I am needing to know is we need suggestions on how to warm up to being able to have anal sex and be pleasant and enjoyable for the both of us.

I really love him and as far as the physical aspects of our relationship I want to please him. So post away.

claustin8605

Ok people, so far 30 of you have looked at this thread and have not posted anything. Please give any thoughts or suggestions you may have.

Redlemon

Well, there's the thread Tilted Forum Project - Need anal sex advice. a bit futher down the page. Lots of advice in there.

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Chimms

YOU NEED TO WARM UP BY RELAXING! WHAT I MEAN IS, TAKE A HOT BATH TO RELAX YOUR MUSCLES. ANAL SEX NEEDS TO BE SOMEWHAT PLANNED. (TAKE A CRAP AHEAD OF TIME) START OUT SMALL, HAVE YOUR BOYFRIEND START WITH A FINGER OR TWO AND WORK UP TO A SMALL DILDO. EVENTUALLY YOU WILL GET TO THE SIZE YOU NEED AND KEEP IN MIND IT WILL TAKE A LITTLE TIME, BUT IT'S FUN ALONG THE WAY. GOING BACK TO WHAT WAS SAID EARLIER ABOUT TAKING A CRAP, YOU NEED TO BEACAUSE IN ORDER TO ENJOY ANAL SEX WITHIN THE FIRST FEW MINUTES YOU NEED TO USE THOSE PUSHING MUSCLES TO OPEN A BIT MORE. AFTER THE FIRST FEW MINUTES MUSCLES WILL BEGIN TO RELAX MORE. HOPE THIS HELPED. ENJOY

wilbjammin

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Anyway... my suggestion is not to worry about it. The more concern you have about whether it will work or not, the tighter your sphincter will clench. I don't know if he tried to put it all the way in immediately, but I find that you have to slowly get it in and it might even take 5+ minutes after it starts to go in before it goes in all of the way.

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Innominate.

SiN

Alright...

this question has been asked many times, and there are several threads well worth reading, I believe most all 'general' advise has been given time and time again.

Linky to a search on the subject

Closing this one

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