saut

Well I just got home from visiting my girlfriend, and all seems to be well. We had a somewhat lengthy conversation about what happened last night, and we both made it clear that this was a one time deal. She told me that it wasn't planned at all, and it wasn't a fantasy of her's either -- it just happened. My girlfriend said she wasn't upset about it at all since there was nothing emotional involved between me and her friend and because she was there too. We've both made it very clear that this does not in any way mean we can screw around with whoever we want as long as there aren't emotions involved. This was a one time thing and it's going to stay that way as far as I can tell. Good.

What troubles me a little, though, is her friend. It turns out she's never even made out with a guy, let alone given head. I feel really bad that this was her first experience. I know no one was forcing her, and she could have stopped at any time, or she could have simply not let things escalate to the point that they did, but I still feel bad about it. She's told my girlfriend that she thought it was cool, and that she didn't mind at all since it was us (my girlfriend and I), but I'm just not sure about that.

No, the situation I have described did not mean much to any of us, as far as I know. I can't quite speak for the friend involved, as I haven't discussed any of this with her, but judging from what my girlfriend has said, it didn't mean anything to her either. The "history" leading up to this event feels mostly coincidental to me. She told me tonight that when we discussed a threesome it was all jokingly, as I had thought. The fact that it actually happened is definitly eyebrow raising, but I think it's purely a coincidence. I really don't think it's a matter of why she wanted the friend involved -- from what I've heard from her tonight, she's pretty neutral; didn't want it to happen, but didn't not want it to happen. Why the friend agreed is really beyond me. I guess she figured "what the heck."

I don't know what I'll do if she wants to include the friend again. One day at a time.

I've had several conversations with my girlfriend about what we want sex to mean to us, which is probably why we haven't actually done it yet. I'm not very much into promiscuity, nor is she. I think if there was actual penis-in-vagina action going on, the friend wouldn't have been involved at all.


Anyway, everything feels just like it did with my girlfriend before last night -- we both understand what's going on and are okay with it. As far as I'm concerned, this is all that matters.

Kazic

Dude thats a thing that fantasies are made of.
KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!! you told people on this forum. thats good enough. If you tell anyone else you ruin the fact that you don't want anyone to look at these girls in a any type of negative light.
Not only that. There maybe more in store for you if you are all able to handle it.
Myself don't think I could but hey I've never been in that situation.
Just be glad someone has to do it.

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absorbentishe

Looks like all will turn out alright. You just read too much into it from the start. The good think is you communicated with her, and kept it clear. Maybe she secretly wants more to happen, but let her do it at her pace, and don't puch her into anything she's uncomfortable with.

ledzep

that is the coolest thing ive ever heard of.

i wonder if my girlfriend would ever do that

ive always fantisized about 2 girls sucking my dick at the same time... i always thought it would be incredible... lucky!!

Captain Nemo

Dude, STOP FUCKING ANALYZING THIS. Shit happens in life. You are going to sully and kill a great memory if you beat the fucking thing to death. You were lucky, you experienced something way cool. File it away so that it can bring you a smile in the future

440sixpack

Completely unrelated to any other post in this thread, but when I used to play this game you also either punched the ceiling of the car or the arm of the person next to you.

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Dawson70

Pretty cool .......isn't it....he he he he. I have a secret of my own!

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saut

Want to form a support group?

Yeah, we do that sometimes too around here, but one time we played "strip padiddle" and it comes up occasionally now and then.

Delvid

I can't wait to here about her next birthday party.

xepherys

I'd have to agree with Holo...

Sexual adventures can take place occassionally and shouldn't negatively affect the relationship as long as both parties were involved happily. If you coerce your gf/bf to do something liek thsi, it can lead to problems. Spontenaity(sp?) can be a wonderful thing sometimes, man!

Congrats! ~_^

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Bentley Little

You said it yourself "what the heck". Man, sometimes shit happens in life and you got it good. I agree with everyone, stop analyzing it, haven't you ever done something because your reason was "what the heck"? So what if it was your gf's friends first time even before kissing a guy. Maybe she was waiting for an opportunity to go all the way. Who cares, she agreed and it was her choice. Remember it well, you lucky, lucky bastard.

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ratbastid

Well, evidently, in some circumstances, she doesn't believe in monogamy. I'm with you about that. Where you and I part ways is when you conclude "there's something wrong with her."

There's monogamy like an empowering and enriching way to relate to a relationship. And then there's monogamy like a straightjacket that prevents you from trying things you might want to try. I'm all for the former, and all against the latter.

lurkette and I are not sexually monogamous, but we are each others' primary lifetime partner. Neither of us would ever think of doing something without the other knowing.

Sounds like she unleashed a wild side you didn't know about, saut! As long as you're ok with that, and the two of you can create boundaries that you're both comfortable with, it sounds like you're in for a ride!

Prince

You lucky fucker.

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Herk

OK, I'd like to chime in and ask a question! Can I get your shipping address to mail you a trophee?

No seriously, my wife asked me to take her to a strip club once. While we were there she picked out a dancer said she wanted a couch dance. Next party I watched her go down on another girl. Kicker was I was to hammered to participate.

Anyway, point is it happened and life went on. My wife is a lot cooler now. And I respect her for tryin something new.
What happened happened. If it did harm it did. Though, I doubt it did. Think about the risk benefit factor, but only briefly. Risks - little wierdness for a while. Thats it, you both participated so no faults, just a little wierdness.
Benefits - Seriously... you got a double-headed-head-job. Not to mention, explored something new about all of you, and you aren't even dead or maimed. Sounds like a killer' deal to me.

Herk

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DirtyVegas

welcome to the club

just keep your mouth shut and go with the flow. My ex gf (of 7 yrs) was quite experimental also. ..it didnt start off that way, but over time and taking "baby steps" about involving others into our relationship, things worked out just fine. She was a stripper and always bringing women home for us to play with, but nothing was said to my friends about what happened behind closed doors....people knew, it just wasnt talked about.

Also, theres nothing wrong with your girlfriend bro, she may be curious, or she might just be going through a phase in her life where she wants to experiment with her sexuality. Its good that you communicate with her VERY openly about situations like that, things can get turned around easily if assumptions are made. Just remember, keep your mouth shut, and go with the flow! good luck brother.

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saut

The reason I was a little worried at first was because of the possibility of weirdness, but thankfully we haven't had any as a result of all this. And yes, I'll take that trophy.

I never said there was anything wrong with her. We've been very open about what happened and everything is cool. Keeping my mouth shut really isn't as hard now as it was right after it happened, so I think I'll be fine in that department as well.

bigoldalphamale

first of all, you should have parlayed that into a full on menage. probably the shock of your first multiple partner experience, but NEXT TIME...parlay that shit and fuck em both!!!!!! and then have em fuck eachother!!!!

secondly, what are the chances her and her friend went back to the friends house and kept on 'experimenting'?

well done, but horribly played.

DirtyVegas

thats what i was referring to....

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saut

I didn't want to do any full on fucking that night, so eh. 99.9% chance they didn't keep "experimenting" when they got to her house.

ahreno

I got $5 that says her and her best friend went at it when they got back to her place....