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imkeen · 07-08-2004, 08:52 PM

Prior to sleeping with someone, how do you figure out what they're going to be like in bed.

Ideally, I like to see her dance. The better she can move her body and work with the music, the better time can be had in bed, IMHO.

Ideas?

wonderwench · 07-08-2004, 08:55 PM

For a woman, watch how she eats a banana.

For a man, watch how he eats a mango.

(Assuming hetero relations.)

imkeen · 07-08-2004, 09:01 PM

Isn't the banana thing kind of cliche? Or is it actually true? I think it could be erotic, but inherently an indicator of her abilities. Or am I way off?

slimshaydee · 07-08-2004, 09:03 PM

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SinisterMotives · 07-08-2004, 09:15 PM

I think if someone is witty and has a creative personality as evidenced in other aspects of their life, that would be a pretty good sign that they put their imagination to good use in the bedroom as well.

Manic_Skafe · 07-08-2004, 09:48 PM

Well you could always watch how she responds to this thread.

There is no correlation.

But then again I wouldn't really know as all of my sexual partners were unconious during what some of them would refer to as "the ordeal".

Seaver · 07-08-2004, 10:23 PM

The way they dance (both sexes).

I know cliche, but shows how good they are at leading/following, how comfterble they are, and if they have rythm.

ultra_agent9 · 07-08-2004, 10:31 PM

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Originally posted by slimshaydee
download her videos off kazaa

hahaha! Good one!

For me I would say how confident she is and the way she carries herself. Dancing is always a good indicator.

maleficent · 07-08-2004, 10:32 PM

It's really not so much how they move, or if tey have rhythym (or however you spell it) it's whether they are comfortable with themselves...

I have a guy friend who's prior girlfriend used to drive him nuts that she was always trying to cover herself with a sheet, and she never really relaxed. It's not like he didn't know what she looked like...

It's all about being comfortable with themselves-- and being able to laugh at silly stuff... (farts do happen when you least expect them

)

Paq · 07-08-2004, 10:41 PM

hahah, yaeh, my last nekkid partner was like,' YOU CAN"T SEE ME IN DAYLIGHT!!!"

that was fucked up...

she was th most beautiful person i have ever physically known and so shy...

ohw ell

as for how do i know..the person has to kind of "flow" wtih themselves. it's a total package, just look at her and you can tell. it's not a specific thing, but a multitude of impulses that just mean BAM, great sex...

Key · 07-08-2004, 11:13 PM

dancing is not sex. while i used to think good dancing led to good sex, i don't think that's the case.

dancing just makes us think of sex because it's so sensual, so intimate, and just about as close to sex as you can get without actually doing it.

but maleficent had it right, a lot more of it has to do with how comfortable they are.

what i would look for are more signs of how open-minded they are. do they like to try new things, are they curious, are they the type that will do anything once?

dancing may work as an indicator because i think someone who goes nuts on a dance floor is likely also very comfortable about their body. less inhibitions in public = less inhibitions in bed. they also probably know their body better than those who don't dance. but skill on the dance floor does not necessarily translate to skill in bed.

Sleepyjack · 07-09-2004, 12:25 AM

I am a good dancer...

Although I don't think there'd be any real significant correlation with anything here, other than sex itself

Also, it's a matter of taste and preference anyway?

Averett · 07-09-2004, 03:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by wonderwench
For a woman, watch how she eats a banana.

For a man, watch how he eats a mango.

Quote:

Originally posted by imkeen
Isn't the banana thing kind of cliche? Or is it actually true? I think it could be erotic, but inherently an indicator of her abilities. Or am I way off?

No you're right, it's incredibly cliche...

First, I don't like bananas. And second, if I saw a guy eating a mango (or other type of juicy fruit) in an erotic manner I would be so turned off. I'd probably just sit there and laugh.

So how can you tell? You can't. That hot girl on the dance floor stimulating sex with that guys leg? She might be that shy cover up under darkness type. The bookworm quietly reading in the cafe who just dropped her coffee? Might be a complete freak.

You never know, and there is no way to tell. And as Sleepyjack said, it's all a matter of taste and preference.

DEI37 · 07-09-2004, 04:13 AM

PRobably the best way to find out is simply to ask them if they'll let you conduct an experiment on them, involving getting personal with your bedsheets!!!

ShaniFaye · 07-09-2004, 04:36 AM

an indicator for me that has ALWAYS worked is how they kiss (males and females)

Averett · 07-09-2004, 05:03 AM

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Originally posted by ShaniFaye
an indicator for me that has ALWAYS worked is how they kiss (males and females)

Good point...

THGL · 07-09-2004, 05:27 AM

Like Averett said, there is no way to tell.

One woman I dated was very outgoing, the life of the party type, would dance up a storm, and not really care what anyone thought of her (if she was acting foolish on the dance floor). In bed though, she was sooooo reserved and lacked rhythm.

I think the only way to tell is to jump in bed with them. The second time around should be a better indicator since the first time is usually awkward.

Redlemon · 07-09-2004, 05:50 AM

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Originally posted by Averett
The bookworm quietly reading in the cafe who just dropped her coffee? Might be a complete freak.

Heh, that's pretty much my wife. Surprised the hell out of me on our first date. Now, 17 years later, still surprises me.

You can't tell, you just have to try.

xepherys · 07-09-2004, 06:32 AM

I don't think there is "a way" really.

Dancing? I dance horribly, but I am coordinated and have no issues in bed (right, hun?)

A mango? It's fruit for goddess' sake! If I performed oral sex the way I ate a mongo, I'd bite things off. It would surely NOT be pretty.

Honestly, you can never tell. The librarian girl with the "do me" glasses and shy personality might be a real tigress in the sack. The macho guy with rippling muscles that sweeps women off their feet could be a lousy lover. The only way to tell is to get some horizontal-PT going and try them out for yourself.

*shrug*

la petite moi · 07-09-2004, 08:49 AM

Her personality- no kidding.

I have problems with sex sometimes because I'm a stressy, uptight person. Luckily, I have a patient boyfriend.

thespian86 · 07-09-2004, 08:54 AM

People sleep together? Mom! You got some splaining to do!

dabossy2k · 07-09-2004, 09:54 AM

Man unless your having sex to music I don't think dancing has anything to do with it. I honestly have to agree with mal and with the comfortable with yourself statement. They might have no rhythm and still be a good lay.

bookerV · 07-09-2004, 11:09 AM

The only way I have ever found is to actually sleeping with them. You can throw any so called "indicators" right out the window because I have managed to find examples to disprove them all...

If you really wanna know you gotta roll the dice and find out.

Flyguy · 07-09-2004, 05:00 PM

You can only speculate. I don't there really is a way to be totally certain. Just get them into the sack and find out!

IF she sucks, then be done with it. If she's great, then more power to ya.

Kazic · 07-09-2004, 07:13 PM

I have been told in books magazines and of course the internet. so many different things.

The dancing thing I have heard so many times. but I don't see (like others.) the corrilation. As far as the way they eat I have heard for women a : Banana. strawberry, french fries(yep) spagetti.

men: peaches/mangoes/chicken?

how people react to certain jokes, or even if they are selfish or too giving.

I think the best way is comfortability and the connection you have to one another. If you are connected to another person on a sexual lvl you will be good together. If not you probably won't.

Slauncha Man · 07-09-2004, 08:05 PM

The more attracted to each other you are, the better it'll be.

losthellhound · 07-09-2004, 08:49 PM

I've found you can't tell, and it will be pretty random.. Thats the beauty of people.. The person who looks crazy may be conservative, and the conservative person can be wild.. Its also based on couples.. I have been dominant (though not to extreme), Ive been laid back, and Ive pushed myself to blurred vision..

Enjoy the randomness

pinkie · 07-09-2004, 10:23 PM

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Originally posted by Averett
No you're right, it's incredibly cliche...

First, I don't like bananas. And second, if I saw a guy eating a mango (or other type of juicy fruit) in an erotic manner I would be so turned off. I'd probably just sit there and laugh.

So how can you tell? You can't. That hot girl on the dance floor stimulating sex with that guys leg? She might be that shy cover up under darkness type. The bookworm quietly reading in the cafe who just dropped her coffee? Might be a complete freak.

You never know, and there is no way to tell. And as Sleepyjack said, it's all a matter of taste and preference.

You're exactly right... You can't tell. You have to take the risk, and just find out for yourself.

Blackthorn · 07-10-2004, 08:10 AM

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Originally posted by slimshaydee
download her videos off kazaa

I was going to suggest fuck them....but this is a lot funnier!

imkeen · 07-10-2004, 01:27 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Key
dancing may work as an indicator because i think someone who goes nuts on a dance floor is likely also very comfortable about their body. less inhibitions in public = less inhibitions in bed. they also probably know their body better than those who don't dance. but skill on the dance floor does not necessarily translate to skill in bed.

The more I think about it the more I agree with Key. There *could* be some indicators, but you have to look at a lot of other factors before you get a good indicator. BESIDES actually a test romp.... :-)

Supple Cow · 07-10-2004, 03:40 PM

As a former believer in indicators such as dancing, kissing, confidence and attractiveness, I can tell you that there are NO indicators. A good fuck is a good fuck, and the best dancer on the floor may be a bad one.

In_Stereo · 07-10-2004, 07:23 PM

in my (admittedly limited) experience, i find that the way a person responds to being tickled is the same way they respond to sexual favors:

find one that tickles you back, and you've got a winner

bing bing · 07-10-2004, 07:57 PM

From my experience, assertiveness is a good indicator.

cheezhead · 07-10-2004, 09:14 PM

If a girl has on red shoes, she will be a good lay and easy to get in bed too. Red shoes are a dead give away to me.

Key · 07-11-2004, 12:55 AM

reminds me of a comedy bit.

"i love hittin' on chicks at abortion clinics. i mean shit, you KNOW they like to fuck."

freeload · 07-11-2004, 11:12 AM

Hm... you could get your buddy to do a testromp....

For me it's about being confident. A girl who is confident with her self/body - and have that little sparkle in her eyes... Limited experience, but those are what I would use to get an indication of her "performance"..

raeanna74 · 07-11-2004, 11:51 AM

I must say after a couple years of swinging I can safely say - there is no hardcore indicator for the woman or the man.

There are the few really freaky ones. The ones who seem low on the IQ scale - and I do mean low. The ones that aren't respectful.

A man or woman who shows no respect for others in day to day life will be just as inconsiderate in bed. Every person I've met who was a bit rude in conversation - STUNK in bed.

I must say that those who exude a lot of energy tend to be a little more active in bed.

As to figuring out who would be the most adventurous? That's impossible to tell. Trust me.

Just talk to them. If you're really desperate to know just play a "truth or dare" game and ask them personal questions.

SinisterMotives · 07-11-2004, 11:59 AM

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Originally posted by raeanna74
A man or woman who shows no respect for others in day to day life will be just as inconsiderate in bed. Every person I've met who was a bit rude in conversation - STUNK in bed.

The same goes for people who aren't overtly rude but who seem distracted, disinterested, preoccupied, or self-absorbed.

repeater · 07-11-2004, 02:12 PM

It's all about confidence and self esteem. If a person is really open and sure of themselves with their clothes on, then they'll probably be the same with them off.

pinkie · 07-11-2004, 02:50 PM

That doesn't mean they'll be good in bed though. Some people have such big egos, they have no idea how to give. Just because you are comfortable being naked, doesn't mean you'll be a tiger in the sack. Or even a bunny rabbit for that matter...

07-08-2004, 08:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
imkeen Insane	How can you tell what someone is going to be like in bed? Prior to sleeping with someone, how do you figure out what they're going to be like in bed. Ideally, I like to see her dance. The better she can move her body and work with the music, the better time can be had in bed, IMHO. Ideas?

07-08-2004, 09:48 PM	#6 (permalink)
Manic_Skafe More Than You Expect Location: Queens	Well you could always watch how she responds to this thread. There is no correlation. But then again I wouldn't really know as all of my sexual partners were unconious during what some of them would refer to as "the ordeal". __________________ "Porn is a zoo of exotic animals that becomes boring upon ownership." -Nersesian

07-08-2004, 10:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	It's really not so much how they move, or if tey have rhythym (or however you spell it) it's whether they are comfortable with themselves... I have a guy friend who's prior girlfriend used to drive him nuts that she was always trying to cover herself with a sheet, and she never really relaxed. It's not like he didn't know what she looked like... It's all about being comfortable with themselves-- and being able to laugh at silly stuff... (farts do happen when you least expect them ) __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

07-08-2004, 10:41 PM	#10 (permalink)
Paq Junkie Location: South Carolina	hahah, yaeh, my last nekkid partner was like,' YOU CAN"T SEE ME IN DAYLIGHT!!!" that was fucked up... she was th most beautiful person i have ever physically known and so shy... ohw ell as for how do i know..the person has to kind of "flow" wtih themselves. it's a total package, just look at her and you can tell. it's not a specific thing, but a multitude of impulses that just mean BAM, great sex... __________________ Live. Chris

07-09-2004, 04:13 AM	#14 (permalink)
DEI37 Go faster! Location: Wisconsin	PRobably the best way to find out is simply to ask them if they'll let you conduct an experiment on them, involving getting personal with your bedsheets!!! __________________ Generally speaking, if you were to get what you really deserve, you might be unpleasantly surprised.

07-08-2004, 08:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
wonderwench Banned	For a woman, watch how she eats a banana. For a man, watch how he eats a mango. (Assuming hetero relations.)

07-08-2004, 09:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
imkeen Insane	Isn't the banana thing kind of cliche? Or is it actually true? I think it could be erotic, but inherently an indicator of her abilities. Or am I way off?

07-08-2004, 09:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	download her videos off kazaa

07-08-2004, 09:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
SinisterMotives Junkie	I think if someone is witty and has a creative personality as evidenced in other aspects of their life, that would be a pretty good sign that they put their imagination to good use in the bedroom as well.

07-08-2004, 10:23 PM	#7 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	The way they dance (both sexes). I know cliche, but shows how good they are at leading/following, how comfterble they are, and if they have rythm.

07-08-2004, 11:13 PM	#11 (permalink)
Key Crazy	dancing is not sex. while i used to think good dancing led to good sex, i don't think that's the case. dancing just makes us think of sex because it's so sensual, so intimate, and just about as close to sex as you can get without actually doing it. but maleficent had it right, a lot more of it has to do with how comfortable they are. what i would look for are more signs of how open-minded they are. do they like to try new things, are they curious, are they the type that will do anything once? dancing may work as an indicator because i think someone who goes nuts on a dance floor is likely also very comfortable about their body. less inhibitions in public = less inhibitions in bed. they also probably know their body better than those who don't dance. but skill on the dance floor does not necessarily translate to skill in bed.

07-09-2004, 12:25 AM	#12 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	I am a good dancer... Although I don't think there'd be any real significant correlation with anything here, other than sex itself Also, it's a matter of taste and preference anyway?

07-09-2004, 04:36 AM	#15 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	an indicator for me that has ALWAYS worked is how they kiss (males and females) __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

07-09-2004, 05:27 AM	#17 (permalink)
THGL Psycho Location: Louisville, KY	Like Averett said, there is no way to tell. One woman I dated was very outgoing, the life of the party type, would dance up a storm, and not really care what anyone thought of her (if she was acting foolish on the dance floor). In bed though, she was sooooo reserved and lacked rhythm. I think the only way to tell is to jump in bed with them. The second time around should be a better indicator since the first time is usually awkward. __________________ "The truth is merely an excuse for lack of imagination." - Garak

07-09-2004, 06:32 AM	#19 (permalink)
xepherys <3 TFP Location: 17TLH2445607250	bah I don't think there is "a way" really. Dancing? I dance horribly, but I am coordinated and have no issues in bed (right, hun?) A mango? It's fruit for goddess' sake! If I performed oral sex the way I ate a mongo, I'd bite things off. It would surely NOT be pretty. Honestly, you can never tell. The librarian girl with the "do me" glasses and shy personality might be a real tigress in the sack. The macho guy with rippling muscles that sweeps women off their feet could be a lousy lover. The only way to tell is to get some horizontal-PT going and try them out for yourself. shrug

07-09-2004, 08:54 AM	#21 (permalink)
thespian86 change is hard. Location: the green room.	ARE YoU SERIOUS? People sleep together? Mom! You got some splaining to do! __________________ EX: Whats new? ME: I officially love coffee more then you now. EX: uh... ME: So, not much.

07-09-2004, 08:49 AM	#20 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Her personality- no kidding. I have problems with sex sometimes because I'm a stressy, uptight person. Luckily, I have a patient boyfriend.

07-09-2004, 09:54 AM	#22 (permalink)
dabossy2k Insane Location: Cali	Man unless your having sex to music I don't think dancing has anything to do with it. I honestly have to agree with mal and with the comfortable with yourself statement. They might have no rhythm and still be a good lay. __________________ Recovering nice guy

07-09-2004, 11:09 AM	#23 (permalink)
bookerV Addict Location: Ontario, Canada	The only way I have ever found is to actually sleeping with them. You can throw any so called "indicators" right out the window because I have managed to find examples to disprove them all... If you really wanna know you gotta roll the dice and find out. __________________ "That's why you're the judge and I'm the law-talking guy." Lionel Hutz

07-09-2004, 05:00 PM	#24 (permalink)
Flyguy Banned Location: Swooping down on you from above....	You can only speculate. I don't there really is a way to be totally certain. Just get them into the sack and find out! IF she sucks, then be done with it. If she's great, then more power to ya.

07-09-2004, 07:13 PM	#25 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	I have been told in books magazines and of course the internet. so many different things. The dancing thing I have heard so many times. but I don't see (like others.) the corrilation. As far as the way they eat I have heard for women a : Banana. strawberry, french fries(yep) spagetti. men: peaches/mangoes/chicken? how people react to certain jokes, or even if they are selfish or too giving. I think the best way is comfortability and the connection you have to one another. If you are connected to another person on a sexual lvl you will be good together. If not you probably won't. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

07-09-2004, 08:05 PM	#26 (permalink)
Slauncha Man Crazy Location: Ann Arbor, MI	The more attracted to each other you are, the better it'll be. __________________ -Slauncha

07-09-2004, 08:49 PM	#27 (permalink)
losthellhound Thats MR. Muffin Face now Location: Everywhere work sends me	I've found you can't tell, and it will be pretty random.. Thats the beauty of people.. The person who looks crazy may be conservative, and the conservative person can be wild.. Its also based on couples.. I have been dominant (though not to extreme), Ive been laid back, and Ive pushed myself to blurred vision.. Enjoy the randomness __________________ "Life is possible only with illusions. And so, the question for the science of mental health must become an absolutely new and revolutionary one, yet one that reflects the essence of the human condition: On what level of illusion does one live?" -- Ernest Becker, The Denial of Death

07-10-2004, 03:40 PM	#31 (permalink)
Supple Cow Americow, the Beautiful Location: Washington, D.C.	As a former believer in indicators such as dancing, kissing, confidence and attractiveness, I can tell you that there are NO indicators. A good fuck is a good fuck, and the best dancer on the floor may be a bad one. __________________ "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." (Michael Jordan)

07-10-2004, 07:23 PM	#32 (permalink)
In_Stereo Upright Location: near minneapolis	in my (admittedly limited) experience, i find that the way a person responds to being tickled is the same way they respond to sexual favors: find one that tickles you back, and you've got a winner __________________ i've got a fever, and the only prescription is more cowbell!

07-10-2004, 07:57 PM	#33 (permalink)
bing bing Addict Location: Melbourne, Australia	From my experience, assertiveness is a good indicator.

07-10-2004, 09:14 PM	#34 (permalink)
cheezhead Psycho Location: FL	If a girl has on red shoes, she will be a good lay and easy to get in bed too. Red shoes are a dead give away to me.

07-11-2004, 12:55 AM	#35 (permalink)
Key Crazy	reminds me of a comedy bit. "i love hittin' on chicks at abortion clinics. i mean shit, you KNOW they like to fuck."

07-11-2004, 11:12 AM	#36 (permalink)
freeload Done freeloading here Location: on my ass :) - Norway	Hm... you could get your buddy to do a testromp.... For me it's about being confident. A girl who is confident with her self/body - and have that little sparkle in her eyes... Limited experience, but those are what I would use to get an indication of her "performance".. __________________ The future ain't what it used to be.

07-11-2004, 11:51 AM	#37 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I must say after a couple years of swinging I can safely say - there is no hardcore indicator for the woman or the man. There are the few really freaky ones. The ones who seem low on the IQ scale - and I do mean low. The ones that aren't respectful. A man or woman who shows no respect for others in day to day life will be just as inconsiderate in bed. Every person I've met who was a bit rude in conversation - STUNK in bed. I must say that those who exude a lot of energy tend to be a little more active in bed. As to figuring out who would be the most adventurous? That's impossible to tell. Trust me. Just talk to them. If you're really desperate to know just play a "truth or dare" game and ask them personal questions. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

07-11-2004, 02:12 PM	#39 (permalink)
repeater Crazy Location: Chicago	It's all about confidence and self esteem. If a person is really open and sure of themselves with their clothes on, then they'll probably be the same with them off. __________________ When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. -Raoul Duke

07-11-2004, 02:50 PM	#40 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	That doesn't mean they'll be good in bed though. Some people have such big egos, they have no idea how to give. Just because you are comfortable being naked, doesn't mean you'll be a tiger in the sack. Or even a bunny rabbit for that matter... Last edited by pinkie; 07-11-2004 at 02:53 PM..