Church

Or shall I say... more socially accepted for women to use toys, and it makes you gay or a loser if a guy uses them on himself (not dildo's, but artificial pussies and stuff like that).

Discuss.

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lunchbox

i think its just another ridiculous societal double standard, i don't think there are real explanations to those things.

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sexymama

I may sound sexist here, but I think it comes down to the fact that it takes more stimulation for a woman to reach orgasm, thus the "need for toys." When a man uses a toy, a woman may feel as if she is not pleasing him or to him.

(However, if introduced in the right way, and used for both people's pleasure, she may soon let go of that idea!)

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Good point sexymama. Any other thoughts?

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Holo

I've used several pocket pussies and they all sucked compared my faithful dick beaters. Maybe it's because you paid good money for a Fleshlight when you coulda paid for dinner and a flick or just a regular prostitute for a fuck. Hey do what you want, I don't think you're a loser. Just feel lucky you can even admit to jerking off. When I was a kid (80s) that was tantamount to being a homo is you admitted to beating the bishop.

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Amano

i don't necessarily agree with this, but this is my guess as to why it is generally thought that guys with toys are "unacceptable"

girls with toys = she has a sex drive = hot

guys with toys = can't get a girl and is so desperate that "normal" masturbation won't do and that he must resort to toys = loser

MSD

All goes back to high school stereotypes.

Girl using toys: fun to watch
Guy using toys (or admitting to masturbation at all): can't get any

ibis

I think you hit the nail on the head there.

analog

While shitty, that does not mean it's not pretty accurate. No, i'm not saying anyone is a loser. I'm saying that society as a whole has placed this label because of the above reason.

There are a lot worse stereotypes out there, though... things that get people teased or treated poorly or differently every day of their lives, and for something they have no control over, not like you and your fake pussy habit. Cheer up.

Kazic

I see where you are coming from here. but I do also think that has a double standard to it. Men can feel equally inadequit if the female is using a toy more for her enjoyment rather than her SO.
But I don't mind if my partner were to use a toy. I like the experience as a whole rather than feeling left out. its all good.

On the side of men using a toy for masturbation. I think the stigma is just what Amano said originally.

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