Did I come?
 

When my SO and I have sex I'm not sure if I'm coming. After she's came once or twice times we usually stop. I look at the condom and it looks like I've came, It felt great - but it didn't feel like I climaxed.

We're eachothers first, so I'm not really sure how this goes. I've heard most guys only last a little bit the first few times... but after 30 minutes or so I'm still waiting.

I'm really not trying to brag or anything. I just want to know if this is normal.

I tried switching condom styles, and it did feel alot better, but didn't solve the problem.:mad:

Have you ever masturbated until orgasm? I mean, I don't want to sound insulting or anything, it's just that when I have an orgasm I know I've had one. Do you feel anything coming out during sex?

Sometimes you don't feel yourself cumming if you haven't taken the time to enjoy it. Try stop and go. If you don't mind doing it, orally pleasure her a little in between intercourse. Like, have sex for a few mins, let yourself recooperate, orally please her, then go at it again. Do that a few times and see if you can get more buildup. It may be more enjoyable for you.

This has happened to me a few times, I get so caught up in the moment i pretty much forget what I've done, and it didnt help that i used to use desensitising condoms either

You'd know it if you did,You would have to peel yourself from the ceiling. Good luck?

Not sure how you are doing things but if you feel like you are about to explode and all the muscles in your body are tight for a few moments you did. If not keep at it . it will ahem.. come.

I know what an orgasm feels like:lol:

I've had plenty by myself, I just never seem to get there during intercourse (with a condom).

I'm thinking that's the problem, or mabye it's pshchological (sp?).

Thanks for he replies!

With all the new sensations being foisted upon you at once, i can understand an orgasm getting lost in there with the other stuff you're feeling. Just be mindful of it, and see where it leads you.

[preaching] Condoms are a necessity of sex, don't have sex without them. [/preaching]

The girl that I started seeing recently told me she hates condoms. Frankly, so do I. In fact we agreed we hate them so much that she is getting an IUD. Now, I do agree that they are great for protection, but in the face of reality, I would have a lousy sex life if I had to keep wearing them. She and I both agreed that we have had issues with lack of sensation, can't climax, etc while using them with previous lovers.

We haven't started to have sex yet as we feel it is important for her to get the IUD first.

Might I suggest both of you take a trip to the doctors to get testing for STD's?

Not to suggest you're both disease ridden people, but better safe than sorry and all that rot :)

We are already in that planning stage. Good thinking Averett.

from personal experiance it may be the condom. since my wife had our son we've been reduced to these things till she can get her iud. both her and my orgasisms have sucked since she gave birth. cannot wait till thurs she gets her iud and i get my rapper removed.

the wrapper is a necessary part of life however and one which I have used faithfully, to sustain my healthy state....

I'm not sure who this suggestion is to - me or the guy who posted above you. LIke I said, we're each others first.

Thanks for the concern though :)

It was to waterboy :)

Has things changed in the past few days? Had the chance for some action? ;)

Probably what you're seeing in the condom is just the pre-cum that drips out when you're really excited. I think you would know if you had orgasmed. Once you are more comfortable with sex, you'll likely orgasm.
Maybe she would be kind enough to give you oral so you could come, too?

Redgirl, I like the way you think. :)

I know the feeling i think, ive had it happen a few times, especiailly wf the sensation and you know you've hen tired or not really into it, its like i cum but there aint that orgasm feeling that you usually get its more of a drop off you feel you've cummed but theres no big punch so to speak. Feels a bit numb. I jus put it off and stick to her getting her pleasure and enjoy myself another day. not much help but its how i deal with it

Well, condoms decrease sensation, so they are probably not helping.

Orgasms are directly linked to how comfortable you are with a situation; since she's your first it may take some time for you to get used to it. Persevere!