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ibis · 06-20-2004, 06:05 PM

When my SO and I have sex I'm not sure if I'm coming. After she's came once or twice times we usually stop. I look at the condom and it looks like I've came, It felt great - but it didn't feel like I climaxed.

We're eachothers first, so I'm not really sure how this goes. I've heard most guys only last a little bit the first few times... but after 30 minutes or so I'm still waiting.

I'm really not trying to brag or anything. I just want to know if this is normal.

I tried switching condom styles, and it did feel alot better, but didn't solve the problem.

Slauncha Man · 06-20-2004, 06:27 PM

Have you ever masturbated until orgasm? I mean, I don't want to sound insulting or anything, it's just that when I have an orgasm I know I've had one. Do you feel anything coming out during sex?

Church · 06-20-2004, 06:43 PM

Sometimes you don't feel yourself cumming if you haven't taken the time to enjoy it. Try stop and go. If you don't mind doing it, orally pleasure her a little in between intercourse. Like, have sex for a few mins, let yourself recooperate, orally please her, then go at it again. Do that a few times and see if you can get more buildup. It may be more enjoyable for you.

slimshaydee · 06-20-2004, 07:36 PM

This has happened to me a few times, I get so caught up in the moment i pretty much forget what I've done, and it didnt help that i used to use desensitising condoms either

SixEdxMia · 06-20-2004, 07:59 PM

You'd know it if you did,You would have to peel yourself from the ceiling. Good luck?

Kazic · 06-20-2004, 08:03 PM

Not sure how you are doing things but if you feel like you are about to explode and all the muscles in your body are tight for a few moments you did. If not keep at it . it will ahem.. come.

ibis · 06-21-2004, 07:48 AM

I know what an orgasm feels like

I've had plenty by myself, I just never seem to get there during intercourse (with a condom).

I'm thinking that's the problem, or mabye it's pshchological (sp?).

Thanks for he replies!

analog · 06-21-2004, 08:55 AM

With all the new sensations being foisted upon you at once, i can understand an orgasm getting lost in there with the other stuff you're feeling. Just be mindful of it, and see where it leads you.

[preaching] Condoms are a necessity of sex, don't have sex without them. [/preaching]

water_boy1999 · 06-21-2004, 02:02 PM

The girl that I started seeing recently told me she hates condoms. Frankly, so do I. In fact we agreed we hate them so much that she is getting an IUD. Now, I do agree that they are great for protection, but in the face of reality, I would have a lousy sex life if I had to keep wearing them. She and I both agreed that we have had issues with lack of sensation, can't climax, etc while using them with previous lovers.

We haven't started to have sex yet as we feel it is important for her to get the IUD first.

Averett · 06-21-2004, 02:09 PM

Might I suggest both of you take a trip to the doctors to get testing for STD's?

Not to suggest you're both disease ridden people, but better safe than sorry and all that rot

water_boy1999 · 06-21-2004, 02:31 PM

We are already in that planning stage. Good thinking Averett.

creatism · 06-21-2004, 04:03 PM

from personal experiance it may be the condom. since my wife had our son we've been reduced to these things till she can get her iud. both her and my orgasisms have sucked since she gave birth. cannot wait till thurs she gets her iud and i get my rapper removed.

andyseaton2003 · 06-21-2004, 09:25 PM

the wrapper is a necessary part of life however and one which I have used faithfully, to sustain my healthy state....

ibis · 06-22-2004, 10:08 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Averett
Might I suggest both of you take a trip to the doctors to get testing for STD's?

Not to suggest you're both disease ridden people, but better safe than sorry and all that rot

I'm not sure who this suggestion is to - me or the guy who posted above you. LIke I said, we're each others first.

Thanks for the concern though

Averett · 06-22-2004, 10:10 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ibis
I'm not sure who this suggestion is to - me or the guy who posted above you. LIke I said, we're each others first.

Thanks for the concern though

It was to waterboy

Has things changed in the past few days? Had the chance for some action?

Redgirl · 06-22-2004, 10:48 AM

Probably what you're seeing in the condom is just the pre-cum that drips out when you're really excited. I think you would know if you had orgasmed. Once you are more comfortable with sex, you'll likely orgasm.
Maybe she would be kind enough to give you oral so you could come, too?

erion · 06-22-2004, 11:09 AM

Redgirl, I like the way you think.

Nafter · 06-22-2004, 04:45 PM

I know the feeling i think, ive had it happen a few times, especiailly wf the sensation and you know you've hen tired or not really into it, its like i cum but there aint that orgasm feeling that you usually get its more of a drop off you feel you've cummed but theres no big punch so to speak. Feels a bit numb. I jus put it off and stick to her getting her pleasure and enjoy myself another day. not much help but its how i deal with it

Slims · 06-23-2004, 04:32 AM

Well, condoms decrease sensation, so they are probably not helping.

DelayedReaction · 06-23-2004, 04:45 AM

Orgasms are directly linked to how comfortable you are with a situation; since she's your first it may take some time for you to get used to it. Persevere!

06-20-2004, 06:05 PM	#1 (permalink)
ibis PIKE!	Did I come? When my SO and I have sex I'm not sure if I'm coming. After she's came once or twice times we usually stop. I look at the condom and it looks like I've came, It felt great - but it didn't feel like I climaxed. We're eachothers first, so I'm not really sure how this goes. I've heard most guys only last a little bit the first few times... but after 30 minutes or so I'm still waiting. I'm really not trying to brag or anything. I just want to know if this is normal. I tried switching condom styles, and it did feel alot better, but didn't solve the problem.

06-20-2004, 06:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
Slauncha Man Crazy Location: Ann Arbor, MI	Have you ever masturbated until orgasm? I mean, I don't want to sound insulting or anything, it's just that when I have an orgasm I know I've had one. Do you feel anything coming out during sex? __________________ -Slauncha

06-20-2004, 06:43 PM	#3 (permalink)
Church Tilted F*ckhead Location: New Jersey	Sometimes you don't feel yourself cumming if you haven't taken the time to enjoy it. Try stop and go. If you don't mind doing it, orally pleasure her a little in between intercourse. Like, have sex for a few mins, let yourself recooperate, orally please her, then go at it again. Do that a few times and see if you can get more buildup. It may be more enjoyable for you. __________________ Through counter-intelligence, it should be possible to pinpoint potential trouble makers, and neutralize them.

06-20-2004, 07:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
SixEdxMia <3 Peetster Location: Peetster's house.	You'd know it if you did,You would have to peel yourself from the ceiling. Good luck? __________________ Honey,We're home.

06-20-2004, 08:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	Not sure how you are doing things but if you feel like you are about to explode and all the muscles in your body are tight for a few moments you did. If not keep at it . it will ahem.. come. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

06-20-2004, 07:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	This has happened to me a few times, I get so caught up in the moment i pretty much forget what I've done, and it didnt help that i used to use desensitising condoms either

06-21-2004, 07:48 AM	#7 (permalink)
ibis PIKE!	I know what an orgasm feels like I've had plenty by myself, I just never seem to get there during intercourse (with a condom). I'm thinking that's the problem, or mabye it's pshchological (sp?). Thanks for he replies!

06-21-2004, 08:55 AM	#8 (permalink)
analog Banned	With all the new sensations being foisted upon you at once, i can understand an orgasm getting lost in there with the other stuff you're feeling. Just be mindful of it, and see where it leads you. [preaching] Condoms are a necessity of sex, don't have sex without them. [/preaching]

06-21-2004, 02:02 PM	#9 (permalink)
water_boy1999 Fly em straight! Location: Above and Beyond	The girl that I started seeing recently told me she hates condoms. Frankly, so do I. In fact we agreed we hate them so much that she is getting an IUD. Now, I do agree that they are great for protection, but in the face of reality, I would have a lousy sex life if I had to keep wearing them. She and I both agreed that we have had issues with lack of sensation, can't climax, etc while using them with previous lovers. We haven't started to have sex yet as we feel it is important for her to get the IUD first. __________________ Doh!!!! -Homer Simpson

06-21-2004, 02:09 PM	#10 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Might I suggest both of you take a trip to the doctors to get testing for STD's? Not to suggest you're both disease ridden people, but better safe than sorry and all that rot __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

06-21-2004, 02:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
water_boy1999 Fly em straight! Location: Above and Beyond	We are already in that planning stage. Good thinking Averett. __________________ Doh!!!! -Homer Simpson

06-21-2004, 04:03 PM	#12 (permalink)
creatism Upright	from personal experiance it may be the condom. since my wife had our son we've been reduced to these things till she can get her iud. both her and my orgasisms have sucked since she gave birth. cannot wait till thurs she gets her iud and i get my rapper removed.

06-21-2004, 09:25 PM	#13 (permalink)
andyseaton2003 Upright Location: somewhere near	the wrapper is a necessary part of life however and one which I have used faithfully, to sustain my healthy state.... __________________ ---------- Andy ----------

06-22-2004, 10:48 AM	#16 (permalink)
Redgirl Addict Location: Native America	Probably what you're seeing in the condom is just the pre-cum that drips out when you're really excited. I think you would know if you had orgasmed. Once you are more comfortable with sex, you'll likely orgasm. Maybe she would be kind enough to give you oral so you could come, too? __________________ Thought for the day: Men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it's up to the women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.

06-22-2004, 11:09 AM	#17 (permalink)
erion Psycho	Redgirl, I like the way you think.

06-23-2004, 04:32 AM	#19 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	Well, condoms decrease sensation, so they are probably not helping. __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence Last edited by Slims; 11-20-2008 at 04:23 PM..

06-22-2004, 04:45 PM	#18 (permalink)
Nafter Insane Location: The Eng	I know the feeling i think, ive had it happen a few times, especiailly wf the sensation and you know you've hen tired or not really into it, its like i cum but there aint that orgasm feeling that you usually get its more of a drop off you feel you've cummed but theres no big punch so to speak. Feels a bit numb. I jus put it off and stick to her getting her pleasure and enjoy myself another day. not much help but its how i deal with it __________________ I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

06-23-2004, 04:45 AM	#20 (permalink)
DelayedReaction BFG Builder Location: University of Maryland	Orgasms are directly linked to how comfortable you are with a situation; since she's your first it may take some time for you to get used to it. Persevere! __________________ If ignorance is bliss, you must be having an orgasm.