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lunchbox · 06-19-2004, 11:10 PM

I am only 18 and so is my girlfriend and we've had sex twice and the first time was her first time. but it wasn't really that bad. I read the 'breaking a cherry advice' post after we had sex but we didn't have that problem. she used tampons and we never had a hymen problem because as has been said before it usually gets broken by a tampon anyway. but I still have a question spawned by ratbastid's post and comments of others. If we don't have a problem with lubrication or if the natural juices/lubricated condoms work fine should lube still be used? We are no way into the hours and hours of sex state yet but we've made love enough where she's came 4 times and i've came once and pulled out. but you're all making it sound like no matter what lube should be used, and this sounds asinine to me and maybe i'm just being dumb but any light on this issue would be great. thanks for anything you can say about this, you guys are a rare breed of people and a great help to everyone in this community.

Konichiwaneko · 06-19-2004, 11:34 PM

I want to give advice, but I'm having a hard time reading your post. Maybe because it's late.

I guess it's a question about lube being required.. no it's not but it helps. It's a suplement and not a requirement.

JStrider · 06-19-2004, 11:54 PM

No lube isnt REQUIRED....

if your using condoms... it should be kept on hand... if things start to get a little sticky it can cause the condom to tear... and even without a condom if it starts to get sticky the lube is good to have...

Bamrak · 06-20-2004, 05:22 AM

Agreed, lubrication is what keeps the condom from breaking, I'd rather be safe than sorry.

ratbastid · 06-20-2004, 06:18 AM

I know I tend to make blanket statements, but in that case I was specifically referring to the trouble that guy and his girl were having.

lurkette and I didn't add lube to our repertoire until many years after we started having sex. And it DID improve things--sometimes we're impatient and don't want a lot of foreplay, and lube makes that possible. Or sometimes she's like "willing but lazy, only sorta halfway in the mood" and lube is a total necessity.

It's absolutely not required. From your description, it sounds like things are fine without it. Still, I recommend trying some, especially if insertion is slow or at all uncomfortable for you or her.

SixEdxMia · 06-20-2004, 09:04 AM

Lube isnt required,but the girl being wet IS.The friction of fucking dry can leave her feeling wrong kind of sore for days. Once you use it you will know when it's needed..Tho,I think *please lubricate all moving parts* could be in your favor.
and Can I say..*spit on it*. : ) good luck.

06-19-2004, 11:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
lunchbox Thank God hockey is back Location: Deeeeeetroit	perhaps a silly question. I am only 18 and so is my girlfriend and we've had sex twice and the first time was her first time. but it wasn't really that bad. I read the 'breaking a cherry advice' post after we had sex but we didn't have that problem. she used tampons and we never had a hymen problem because as has been said before it usually gets broken by a tampon anyway. but I still have a question spawned by ratbastid's post and comments of others. If we don't have a problem with lubrication or if the natural juices/lubricated condoms work fine should lube still be used? We are no way into the hours and hours of sex state yet but we've made love enough where she's came 4 times and i've came once and pulled out. but you're all making it sound like no matter what lube should be used, and this sounds asinine to me and maybe i'm just being dumb but any light on this issue would be great. thanks for anything you can say about this, you guys are a rare breed of people and a great help to everyone in this community.

06-19-2004, 11:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	I want to give advice, but I'm having a hard time reading your post. Maybe because it's late. I guess it's a question about lube being required.. no it's not but it helps. It's a suplement and not a requirement. __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

06-19-2004, 11:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	No lube isnt REQUIRED.... if your using condoms... it should be kept on hand... if things start to get a little sticky it can cause the condom to tear... and even without a condom if it starts to get sticky the lube is good to have... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

06-20-2004, 05:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
Bamrak Enter Title Here Location: Tennessee	Agreed, lubrication is what keeps the condom from breaking, I'd rather be safe than sorry. Last edited by Bamrak; 06-20-2004 at 06:54 AM..

06-20-2004, 09:04 AM	#6 (permalink)
SixEdxMia <3 Peetster Location: Peetster's house.	Lube isnt required,but the girl being wet IS.The friction of fucking dry can leave her feeling wrong kind of sore for days. Once you use it you will know when it's needed..Tho,I think please lubricate all moving parts could be in your favor. and Can I say..spit on it. : ) good luck. __________________ Honey,We're home.

06-20-2004, 06:18 AM	#5 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	I know I tend to make blanket statements, but in that case I was specifically referring to the trouble that guy and his girl were having. lurkette and I didn't add lube to our repertoire until many years after we started having sex. And it DID improve things--sometimes we're impatient and don't want a lot of foreplay, and lube makes that possible. Or sometimes she's like "willing but lazy, only sorta halfway in the mood" and lube is a total necessity. It's absolutely not required. From your description, it sounds like things are fine without it. Still, I recommend trying some, especially if insertion is slow or at all uncomfortable for you or her.