Toodamnmanycars

Anybody had any luck finding a girlfriend for their wife/female SO? I know that mine is interested in playing with some boobs, but that's a big hurdle for the average Jill.

bermuDa

sounds like you're pretty secure in your relationship... in which case your biggest problem is probably finding another woman who is open to the idea.

is this just for your wife?

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irseg

A friend of mine had a girlfriend who started messing around with another girl. Which was cool at first, until he found out that the girl also had a boyfriend, and he was getting in on the action. That wasn't part of the deal!

cameroncrazy822

I would only add, be careful what you wish for... The green grass on the other side may contain things you can't forsee.

ibis

oh please

gar1976

Not to be Mr. Buzzkill, but make sure all rules are communicated to the new chick.

For example, are you OK with her banging other guys on the side, possibly unprotected? What if just she and your wife want to do it without you?

Or, as a nother poster mentioned earlier, what if she has a boyfriend, and the boyfriend wants a new chick/your wife sandwhich? You cool with that? Seems only fair.

Or what if your wife now has a 2 guys + her fantasy? You happy rubbing cocks and giving some dude a high-five as he's plowing your wife?

If you are comfortable with whatever your answers are above, go for it. If not, just consider it a nice fantasy to spice up the bedroom.

Blackthorn

I know this is a semi-serious thread but this quote made me laugh out loud....what an IMAGE!! High ^ 5's as he's plowing your wife...oh gawd!

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ruggerp11

Actually its called an effiel tower, to be specific. One from behind and the other getting head. Picture it and then picture the effiel tower, it makes sense.

Or are you talking about tag team, like *tag* your turn. Either way is funny, as in HA HA funny.

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gar1976

Well, most of us guys are happy with chick on chick, but having to touch another guy during sex never really enters our fantasies. Guess we want to have our cake and eat it too!

em1014

My boyfriend and i are in a very similiar boat. We have talked the issue to death and both agree that having another girl around every now and then would be nice.... but just where do you find a willing participant that we would both agree on?? We are both in college, which in theory should make it easier to find a third party, but we haven't had any luck so far. I worry if this doesn't work out while we are still in college that there will be no hope for it in the future. Before we started dating he had a couple multiple partner sexual experiences but wasn't in a committed relationship at the time.

Good luck Toodamnmanycars on your quest!!!

Toodamnmanycars

Thank ya'll. All good observations, especially the cold hard realities when people get involved. Wouldn't it be nice if we could.......

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lurkette

I found my own girlfriend, thanks very much.

She is married (her husband's bi but ratbastid is not), and we all 4 mess around, or sometimes 3 of us mess around, and sometimes it's just us girls. It can get pretty complicated but if everyone is open about their wants and limits and communicates well, it can be absolutely blissful.

ratbastid can tell you what it's like from his perspective...

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ratbastid

You did no such thing! I most definitely found her for you!

My perspective is much like lurkette's. It's definitely kicked us up to a new level of communication. And it's been a bunch of fun!

eribrav

All right, I have to be the one to admit my ignorance. How does this resemble the Eiffel Tower?

nanofever

I actually pictured double anal or double vag. See what the Wayside has done to me...

I guess anal and vag at the same time would also work.

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fairsquare

I'm just waiting for my gf to bring up the issue. I have a feeling that she might want this, but just know if I brought it up that it would go over very badly. I'm happy now, so don't want to rock the boat and would be happy indefinately.. but... if she brings it up... .... and she finds the woman... well, I guess I could handle it as long as we promise each other that we share all our sexual experiences with each other. No running solo. .. and call me old fashioned, but I just would not be able to handle her with another man. and I'd at least need to know a basic history of the extra help (and maybe some pre-testing) I've been careful way to long to mess it up now.

gar1976

The net, as a whole, has done wonders for the expansion of sexuality, as will any technology that comes along.

Cave paintings, writing printing press....the old adage is the first thing drawn/typed is the bible, the second is porn.

jaco

actually the first cartoon was sexual in nature. the second was about a dinosaur

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I was just gonna write that! My eyes are tearing up from laughter even as i type this...

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Pragma

I think my girlfriend would be open to it, and I think I would be open to sharing my girlfriend with another woman - as long as she was a good friend of both me and my girlfriend. However, I think any choice as to if another woman is brought in, and who it is, would be primarily hers out of jealousy.

Another man is pretty much out of the question, though. I wouldn't at all feel comfortable with the situation.

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Jizz-Fritter

Getting back to the mfm threesome idea, just know that part of the stimulation of your cock is feeling the other guy through her insides.

I think that's hot, but most guys wouldn't.

CREAM PIES FOR EVERYONE!!

check out www.swinglifestyle.com, which a good site for finding partners of unorthodox combinations/situations

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JabberBody

OK, i really don't get the whole appeal of a threesome. Sure, it may be fun to watch, but I for one would not want my girlfriend to be sleeping with anyone else, guy or girl. And I love her. I don't want to sleep with anyone else. What's the appeal, guys?

Redgirl

What's the appeal? If you have to ask then you wouldn't understand, see? It just has to do with what you fantasize about. I've never had a threesome, but I like to fantasize about having them and I hope one day that I'll get to live out that fantasy.

But as others have pointed out, it's not something to just jump into if you're in a committed relationship (as I am). You have to find the perfect kind of person and set all the ground rules. So that's kind of where we are with it right now. I've already crossed the chick barrier, but I haven't found one for a threesome yet.

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primal

I can't overstress the importance of rules. For us there were things that came up that I never imagined. After my wife's first girl on girl experience (with me watching) they wanted to do it alone. I couldn't believe it, they actually wanted me to agree to not watch the coolest thing I've ever seen. Essentially my wife wanted me to say that it was ok for her to have sexual experiences without me. I told her it would be ok as long as I could have sexual experiences without her. She wouldn't agree to that and still maintains that her having sex with a girl alone is different than me having sex with a girl alone. I feel a bit like, that by pushing for Operation Lesbian Action (OLA) I nearly made myself obselete. Also it doesn't feel very good when your wife expresses that she REALLY wants to have sex without you. So much so that she (and she is the jealous sort) actually considers letting you have sex with other women.

I don't want anyone to get the wrong impression, it was great. I think there is more to come for us. It really got us to start communicating about things that I'd never even thought about. We are defeinately closer and more connected now. It's just that if you don't have that communication then there are a million ways that it could go horribly wrong. My main advise would be prepare yourself for some long talks that may boggle your mind.

I'd also like to add that the effiel tower is fine to watch in porn (it's like the girl is on a rotisserie) but If I tried it in real life I'd feel gayer than a bag of dicks and probably would go soft. I'm sure that my wife would like it, so maybe someday I'll be secure enough to handle something like that.

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ratbastid

Man, you are NOT kidding.

ratbastid

Okay, but what if the other "cock" was a girl with a strap-on? If lurkette is reading this thread, I believe I just got her attention.

Edit: I actually meant this to be an edit of the above, not a new post. Sorry.

primal

That would be (channeling Tony the Tiger) GREAAAAAAAT!!!!!

But it would still be important to set rules or I might end up not being able to sit down the next day.

Redgirl

But imagine having sex with someone for the first time with an audience! It was a little odd because both our husbands watched. We just wanted to get used to each other before we had the additional pressure of an audience again. It was SOUND LOGIC!!

So I would suggest if you mean to "find your wife a girlfriend" you decide then if that means with or without your participation! It will come up I assure you.

edit: OH and that strap on idea... I second that GREAAAAT!!

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primal

It's also sound logic if I want to go practice having sex with other chicks so that it will be better when you and I do it. That doesn't make it ok with you. I better quit arguing or I'm going to be setting myself up for another long mind boggling talk. Sorry for the thread jack, But now everyone can now see first hand the kind of issues that can come up.

P.S. It's still very much worth it.

lurkette

I should say you did! That does present some interesting possibilities that had not occurred to me before. Clever boy!

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doncalypso

I don't have a fantasy for threesomes, and I don't think she'd be into other women. If she were into getting with other women then I wouldn't be with her.

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Hrothgar

I'd like to be with 2 women I don't know. When you're in a relationship and another person gets introduced it can get a little complicated. I'm a simple guy so I like to avoid headaches.

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raeanna74

You two have hit it on the head.

COMMUNICATION. It's unbelievable how this has nocked our communication up a level or two or three. We don't specifically have ONE girlfriend. We have a few couples that we meet to have fun with. It has been grand and an amazing learning experience. We have discovered how necessary communication is to marriage let alone an open relationship. An open relationship will not work if you don't communicate everything. Guys, this means you have to communicate your feelings and you have to listen to the woman's feelings. Trust me though it is worth it.

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