slimcr

Its probably useless to mention this first but I still think its important to do so. Jealousy has never really been a problem for me.

However, heres the deal, Ive been dating this girl for about 2 months now, she is simply amazing, the sweetest, cutest girl you'd ever find...The problem is this, every freaking fucker she's in contact with is basically hitting on her. When we started dating, her school period was just about over and she had several guys that were trying to get her to go out, etc etc...some moron even gave her flowers and came out and said what he felt when he realized she was seeing someone. She's been back in school now for about two weeks and here we go again..... Again today, she has class from 9 to 11 and then from 1 to 4 so we've been going for lunch during the in between hours. Today some guy comes up and asks her a stupid question, then asks her what she's doing, she said going for lunch, he said can i go with you, she said im waiting for my boyfriend.... As you can see, shes open about this stuff, which is real nice, I like it that she tells me these things but at the same time, it really gets old... I know its not her fault but I, of course dont like it either.

Have you been in a situation like this? How can I cope with this feeling of being fed up of these guys hitting on her? I wanna just smack em but of course Id be nuts to do so.... what then?

maleficent

Two months isn't a long time in relationship land, have you both verbalized that you don't want to see anyone else but each other?

If she's telling you, she's got nothing to hide. Be flattered that all these guys want her, but you are the one she's choosing.

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slimcr

Yup, its boyfriend-girlfriend.....

frozenstellar

dude, i wouldnt worry. she's being open about it and knows where she stands. knowing that, this should give you a greater amount of satisfaction, because ultimately, she's got them lined up left right and centre, yet she chooses you. must say something on your behalf... correct?

maleficent

Jealousy is a relationship killer - trust her...

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Redgirl

I wonder exactly why she's always telling you when this happens? I get hit on all the time but I don't usually mention it unless there was something specific that worried me about it or it was amusing in some way. I mean, what's the point in telling your SO if you are handling it appropriately? I have found that all it does is make them feel insecure- kinda like how you feel!

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Sugar&Spice

You have nothing to be jealous about. Those other guys just find your girlfriend attractive. She is being upfront with them by telling them she has a boyfriend. Maybe she tells you about these other guys to make you jealous. Some girls do this to their guys to see if it bothers them a tiny bit. They get a little satisfaction out of seeing you a bit jealous.

She is doing absolutely nothing with the other guys so don't let your jealousy ruin the relationship.

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wilbjammin

I wouldn't worry about it. It seems that practically every guy that talks to my girlfriend also hits on her. I don't like it because I don't think it is fair for people to reduce her to that. She's a great person, and people shouldn't be so myopic. It is like saying "I'll be your boyfriend, I see you in a purely sexual manner"... which is why I don't like it. I'm not jealous so much as upset that she has to put up with this crap. Instead of being jealous, it might be more appropriate to feel sorry for her to have to deal with this all of the time. I know that I would hate that kind of attention...

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Rubyee

Have you tried telling her how you feel about hearing it?

It is one thing to trust her- which you obviously do- and another thing to be driven crazy by hearing about it all the time.

It almost makes me wonder if she wants you to be jealous...

I would tell her to stop talking about it, in a nice way. It is obvious that you can trust her, so why hear about it?

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Kazic

Been on the jealousy train more than once. Its not a fine ride and if you can handle figuring it out before you do / say something you can't take back do it.

Trust and Insecurity are the only factors in jealousy. A little jealousy keeps you on your toes. Makes you appreciate what you have. Too much and your become an insecure over possesive idiot. that will scare her away and you will loose her anyway.

Do what you can to put it in check. And if need be, ask her to tone down the telling of the incidents , its not necessary to tell you all the time.

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Amethyst

I am a very jealous person. But I have come to learn that my hubby is coming home with me and no one else. I think that you should be flattered that all of the guys are interested in her and that she chose you. And at least she is telling you and not hiding it from you. But if it makes you feel uncomfortable tell her. Honesty is the best policy.

StormBerlin

I have a super jealous streak, and I don't ever hesitate to show it. Particularely at parties when I leave the boyfriend for a few minutes and see some random girl approach him. It's fun I know in my heart of hearts that nothing bad will ever happen, but it's a good thing to want to be a little possesive of your man. It shows you care

Now, about your situation. I think that if she's being honest with you about everything, you have nothing to worry about.

Just keep in mind that you need to treat her special for choosing you. If for some reason she doesn't feel that way for a long time she will know that others find her attractive and maybe move on.

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HockeyGuy

Try to consider yourself lucky that other guys are very interested in your girl and that there is a reason for that BUT that you are the one that SHE is interested in and that is all that matters! I ad a little bit of a hard tim e getting used to that from this relationship but now it's a great feeling.
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skysooner

I'm with Redgirl on this one. Her telling you these things might be all innocent, and you certainly want her to tell you about things. However, this almost smacks of her wanting to make you a little bit jealous. It is almost like she is manipulating you a bit by telling you. I know my wife gets hit on from time to time, but she only really mentions it when someone does it in a creeped out way that scares her.

la petite moi

You have to be trusting, and until then, you are just going to be eaten up by jealousy. Which sucks.

primal

For me a little jealousy is good. I feel like if I don't get jealous then I don't care. Just don't let it worry you to death. I stopped telling my SO about girls flirting with me because a lot of times if she met them she would be a little bitchy towards them.
Flirting at the level you're talking about is pretty harmless. It gives your girlfriend a self-esteem boost and you should feel boost for landing her. Just look at all the guys you beat out.

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slimcr

first just wanna thank you guys for reading my post and posting your own opinions. i agree with many of the things you have said, including the fact that jealousy can kill a relationship, it can really mess things up in a hury, that the fact that she tells me these things is probably a good thing and that I should consider myself lucky for being the one she picked out.

I think a little jealousy is good, it does show it cares and its nice when your bf/gf is a little jealous, makes you feel cared for, however if it gets out of hand, then it can be a real pain in the ass/bitch.

The problem sometimes arises when we're out together and her phone rings and its one of these dumbasses just calling her up for some idiotic reason or like yesterday, when someone she doesnt know approaches her.

The guy yesterday approached her after class and said the following moronic thing... "Hi, hey, let me ask you something, are you so and so? She was like huh? who? so he said, so and so, remember we were friends at another school and she was like ummmm, no..... so he asked her, what are u doing now, she said going for lunch, he said can i go with you, she said she was waiting for me and thus it ended.....

I think shes very trustworthy, I dont know if it makes much sense but Id say Im not exactly jealous, Im just pissed, but at them, Im fully aware its not her fault.

primal

If you're around when they do it you could always fuck with them a little. You could say "I'm sorry she won't talk to you. Maybe I should let you smell my finger because that's as close as you're going to get."

But you may have more taste than me and not be comfortable saying that.

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water_boy1999

Bro, men are all the same and will always be the same. Get used to it and don't let jealousy get the best of you. My last girlfriend had huge knockers. Every time we passed by a man or group of men, they would never look her in the eyes. They would stare at her tits the whole time. It bothered me for a bit, but I learned to get over it. Until, of course, she ended up cheating on me with another guy........

In your case, don't let it bug you. It is the quickest way to end a good relationship. Trust her and she will be trustworthy.

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PDOUBLEOP

How does she tell you about these times? Is she all giggly or is she irritated by it? If she said the guys were "cute but harmless" I'd be worried that she could easily go for greener pastures.

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ibis

I'm with everyone that says a little jealousy is a good thing. Let her know you'd fight for her and that you prize her. But for God's sake, don't make her feel traped.

She gets hit on alot, so what. She turns them all down, that's what's important.

Consider yourself lucky to have such a fine girl.

BooRadley

If you trust her, this shouldn't be an issue.

You can be slightly jealous without being an idiot.

Don't take out your insecurities on strangers.