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Me and my SO have been together for the last 2 years of my highschool career, graduated a week ago both at the same time, and the day after, she breaks up with me, saying that we've been together for so long, and that she needs to get out there and see what the world has to offer, but that she cares about me a lot still, and that it may not be completely over for us, but she wants to be single for who knows how long. I still care for her a lot and im having trouble getting over her, but i just wanted to know if this is typical for people to do after graduating highschool, and maybe what i could expect from her down the road.

fallenangel

well kiddo, my SO and i were together for the last 3 years of high school, and we made it until the following February before deciding to see other people... it didn't really work... well not yet, it's hard, and rough, but basically you have to find other things to throw yourself into, that's what i'm trying to do... i can't get the other person out of my head or heart yet, so i'm not saying it will be easy, but you just have to take it one day at a time...

Yes, it is typical as well, at least that's what i've learned from talking with other people.

"If you love something, let it free, if it comes back, it was truly meant to be"

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gduventree

"Hi, my name's gduventree, and my girlfriend dumped me after graduating from high school."

"Hi, gduventree!"

Welcome to the club. There's a seat for you right here.

It's pretty hard at first, but in time the hurt will go away. For me, I found that moving into adulthood from high school was a growing experience and I ended up a different person from who I was in high school. Now I can look back and realize that we probably weren't the best for each other and that it was better that we split up.

NeoSparky

Happened to me to.. Mine was a bad breakup... she broke up with me cause she said it would be too hard to have a long distance relationship (3 hrs away). Before she left for school she started dating one of her co-workers whom I was introduced as a friend to (while we were still dating.)

wilbjammin

Expect to not get back together.

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doncalypso

Like wildbjammin said, don't expect to get back with her... She's probably been thinking about leaving you and just used graduation as the perfect excuse.

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clockworkgreen

I broke up with my HS girlfriend at Spring Break of my freshman year. By that point, you realize it's pointless to try and do something long distance or even just at separate college campuses.

Besides, what are the chances that the person you're going to be with for the rest of your life lives right down the street and just so happened to go to your high school? Why would you want that to be your only life experience?

You should be thanking her for giving you a chance to get out there and see what else the world has to offer and for giving you a little bit of experience before the real world eats you alive because....

Being a freshman guy isn't the easiest thing to do. Freshman girls are all banging upper classmen, and you'll be really hard pressed to want to get back together with your old girlfriend. But it'll be too late, cause she'll be banging some guy at her new school soon enough. Just get through your freshman year without jumping out of a building, and then start picking up some freshman girls the next year...Take your freshman year to concentrate on finding some good guy friends at your school that you can hang out, drink and pick up chicks with.

SparklingDot

I seem to be the only one so far that didn't use graduation as an excuse to dump my SO. Yes, we had a rough time getting used to the whole college thing, but we worked it out. I graduated a year before he did. We're now attending the same college and things are going well. Neither of us are the same people we were in high school, but we've grown up and grown together.

I don't know what would have happened if I had broken up with him, but I couldn't throw away 2 years and my best friend. I'm glad I didn't.

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WarWagon

There are several billion people on this planet, and one of them are bound to offer improvements over the former.

Its for the best, and in all honesty, you'll probably come to the same realization that she did shortly after. Its for the best.

R3d

same shit happend to me too.. was with my gf of the time for just over 14 months.. 2 days after grad.. we broke up..

skysooner

I can only think of one couple that I know that met in high school and are still married today. There were several people I know that met in high school but didn't start dating till they were in college. Some got married and some didn't. I went back and dated a girl that I had dated in high school my senior year of college. She was still pulling the same shit she did then. I saw a headline on "The Onion" one time that said something like, "Man Discovers Soulmate in a Town of 1,000". Basically it was his high school sweetheart, and it was basically satirizing getting married to that girl you knew through high school. Until you have a chance to do some growing up and know who you really are, you aren't going to be in any position to marry someone that will be good for you for the long-term.

Side story: I work for a Fortune 500 company and had a voicemail the other day from a guy in our company that I apparently went to high school with. I graduated from a large high school and frankly did not remember this guy at all beyond vague memories of the name. He wanted to have lunch to catch up. It was funny in that he described himself as someone that basically just screwed off in high school while I was one of the academic types. He got into college on the basis of his SAT scores alone, but when he got there he apparently discovered learning. Today, he is an assistant controller for the company while I hold a senior staff position in our engineering group. The point of this is that he obviously had no clue what he could achieve or do when he left high school and reached his potential during those years he should be growing and learning. He married another college graduate/super-achiever type.

la petite moi

Like everyone has said, don't expect to get back together with her. If she isn't committed after two years, she probably had been planning it.

Redgirl

I'm married to my HS sweetheart, so it does happen sometimes. But it's rare and most people just grow apart instead of grow together like we did.

She may regret it very soon and come back to you, but I would say if that doesn't happen within a month or two then she's not coming back. And you would have to decide if you would even allow her to come back.

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cameroncrazy822

It sucks my friend but I would bet dollars to donuts she's seeing someone esle now. HS relationships very rearely work outso as painful as it may be now, you should try to look at this like a blessing and get out before too much more is invested. Hang in there.

ibis

It's typical, and not neccassarly a bad thing.

It's important for both of you to see what else is out there in the world. If you don't you may find yourself being unhappy later on.

TM875

My personal experience was that the girl and I stayed very close, but still got out and did other people. Then, when college was over, we got back together. Love is so much more than just being with a person. You should enjoy the times at college, but keep something secure that you can fall back on.

Perhaps this is why I've never understood the "we need to see other people" thing. Why can't you see (and sleep with) other people while still keeping the original person in your life?

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