ConsoleMaster

My girlfriend and I have never had sex before. I don't know the first thing about it except what I learned in high school. Do you guys or gals have any for suggestion for me?

maleficent

Make sure you both are really and truly ready.
Use protection. (Yes, you can get pregnant the first time) practice with a condom if need to)
Don't rush anything
Sex isn't a great mystery, do what feels natural, do what feels good for both of you.
No means No (have to throw that one in there, just in case someone changes their mind)

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dirtyrascal7

go slow and build up to it... you will probably both be nervous, and that's okay, but she will need lots of 'warming up' first. the wetter and more relaxed she is, the less it is likely to hurt... so keep that in mind.

as for you, if you're nervous, you could either cum really quickly or not at all. i was the latter during my first time, so it was kinda nice for her... but don't count on that.

like maleficent said, just do what feels natural and good. i wouldn't recommend getting too crazy or kinky the first time, there's plenty of time for that later. just try 1-3 different positions and see what feels the best to both of you.

and yes, make sure you use a condom that fits... and read the directions on how to properly put one on. if you trap an air bubble in the tip, its more likely to break.

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kutulu

Be sure to put it in the right hole...

la petite moi

Make sure you have time to do it, and don't rush!

iamnormal

Tape it so we can watch.

i8one2

Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay......and don't be embarrassed if you cum in like 10 seconds...no biggie....

If you are getting anywhere near a place that has to do with a vagina and a penis, PROTECTION.

have her put it on you

don't make a big deal out of it, have fun and laugh!
The first time, doing most anything tends to be awkward.
like riding a bike, just more fun

GOOD LUCK

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Rlyss

Definitely protection (and remember that two condoms are worse than one. You can't wear two at a time no matter how safe people think that might be. The latext-on-latex is likely to break them).

Make sure it's the right place. That is, make sure <b>nobody</b> is going to come home in half an hour, make sure neither of you have to be somewhere soon, make sure there will be NO interruptions. That'll ruin the mood like you wouldn't believe! Turn the lights down, turn off your mobile phones, and take as much time as you want

fckm

not meant to be a downer, but:

if/when you guys are absolutely sure that you want to do this:

use lots of lube.
the first time most likely isn't going to be too sexually enjoyable.

giver her a couple of days to recover from the soreness.
Then do it again

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saltfish

1). Go to the bookstore

2). Go to self-help section

3). Read/Buy "Sex for Dummies"

4). Read, Read, Read

5). Masturbate an hour or so before (you'll thank me later)

6). Be happy

7). Be confident

8). If you hear "Stop!", then for stop.

9). ....

10). Profit!

-SF

Redgirl

This can be sooooo true! My first time was horrible, but the good news is we're still together and it all worked out. So have some perspective and hopefully she will also be realistic about it.

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blahblah454

yea the first time i didnt cum, hah how often does that happen (im a guy by the way)

Xepidemic

my conscience sez to tell you to use protection. but i dont know about anyone else here on this thread. but sure i used protection the first time but then soon after i wanted to try it without one. so my advice would be take your time and learn when your about to jizz...

hopefully youll know what to do next.

Averett

Yeah, great advice Xepidemic... Next thread ConsoleMaster will start is "I had sex with my girlfriend and now I think she's pregnant, what do I do?"


Take your time, have fun, and USE A CONDOM!

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maleficent

I'd also probably reccomend not being drunk or on otherwise mind/mood altering items. It can interfere with performance.

Just have fun.

Oh and please please please, if you are going to do this, be a man, and DON'T tell all your buddies that she put out, and how she was...

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ConsoleMaster

Don't take me for a high school student. I'm a full-time college student in a University. My maturity level isn't in high school. =) . I'd appreciate that everyone.

Thanks for everyone's help.

Averett

Sometimes even us older folks have lower maturity levels

Have fun!

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kutulu

SF is right, jerking off a few hours prior to the act could really increase how long you'll last.

If you want to go condomless, make sure she gets on the pill. It feels so much better.

Once you get experienced enough and can control your orgasms enough you could try pulling out before you cum. I like that because you get to do more fun things like cumming on her tits and face or in her mouth. I prefer pulling out over cumming inside of her, it's so much more visually stimulating. You probably sohuldn't listen to me though because she's 20 weeks pregnant (although we were able to make it about 8 years without protection before it happened)

Xepidemic

come on averett, your telling me youve never tried it without a condom?
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okay fine, everyones so worried about getting someone pregnant then

JUST DO HER IN A BUNG HOLE!!!!

Averett

You're a dipshit....

That being said, of course I've had sex when the guy didn't use a condom. And I luckly didn't get pregnant. But I've since smartened up and I won't put myself in the position of hoping I didn't get pregnant again.

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losthellhound

I'm agreeing with Av on this, you're acting like a dip. You may have had your head stuck in a dark place for the last few years but pregnancy isnt the only bad thing that unprotected sex can give you as a "memento"

And by the way.. this is usually a place of intelligent conversation and advice.. and you used the term bung hole.. you even capitalized it.. Im really losing my faith in the younger generations.. and Im not that much older then you (if indeed you were born in 1984)

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losthellhound

back to the original question..

- protection, start good habits early
- if youve watched porn, forget everything you know. It doesnt work that way. It will be awkward, noises will come where you dont think they should
- take it slow, I'm told for some girls it hurt like hell the first time
- communicate. SInce both of you dont have any experience, you dont know what will feel good, or feel right.
- afterwards, talk again, if you go all silent then she may think something was wrong, this goes back to the communication

- have fun, enjoy yourself, you'll remember this for a long long time

good luck

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:::OshnSoul:::

MOST IMPORTANTLY: Know you're ready. There is no rush. Listen to your (and her) feelings.
-Don't set expectations.
-If you do: Take it slow. It can be painful or at least uncomfortable for her at first.
Use protection: Even if she is on the pill or you use a condom, to ensure no risk of pregnancy, have a secondary method- i.e. sponge, diaphram, foam, etc. It's always good to double-up.

But remember there is no rush, be sure you are ready and committed- that you will have no regrets later.

EDITED: Ooh! FOreplay. Masturbation. That will help *rev* things up and loosen tension.

Xepidemic

to the dipshit talkers, if your read my first advice which was (capitalizing whats important)

my conscience sez to tell you to use protection. but i dont know about anyone else here on this thread. but sure I USED PROTECTION THE FIRST TIME BUT THEN SOON AFTER I WANTED TO TRY IT WITHOUT ONE. so my advice would be TAKE YOUR TIME AND LEARN WHEN YOUR ABOUT TO JIZZ...

so i was thinking that there is always temptation to want to try it without a condom (as you once given into Av). So my advice to consolemaster was if he was ever to want to try it without a condom that he should take his time (be relaxed, dont be in a rush) and learn when he is about to go, control himself. if your nervous and in a rush thats when accidents happen. and yes there is a the risk of getting pregnant but I think consolemaster knows that comes with sex. and about STDs losthellhound. Unless you are having one night stands with multiple partners you barely know and you get an STD thats your problem. even then if you were to use a condom with someone you dont know you could still get STDs. I for one know who I am sleeping with and get tested. I think if this is consolemasters first time he should know his partner well enough to loose his virginity to. So I wasnt telling him not to use protection but just in case he tries it without a condom. So maybe I just jumped a little ahead in my advice. then Av jumps on my ass about consolemaster starting a "i got my girlfriend pregnant" Different people have different points of views and sorry if mine wasnt like yours AV. My dumb comment about doing her in the bung hole was obviously meant as a joke. if your read the other replies maybe you should call them dipshits also. thanks

Amethyst

Don't do it till your married!

nanofever

Maybe I'm just a bitch but this smacks of high school bullshit advice that was brought about by training in abstainance. Sex without a condom is how unfortunate things happen, advocating condom-less sex is a truly poor idea. I'm sure someone else will come along and explain why pre-cum and the Cowper's gland come together to make pulling-out a really poor B.C method.

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WarWagon

Learn when your about to jizz is one thing, learning to feel pre-cum is another story all together...

Averett

My head hurts.

Just use a condom for cryin out loud, it's not the end of the world.

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