TOK, you and I have a LOT in common in this regard. I hate being single because I can't come home and share my day with someone. I don't have someone to hold onto at night, to make love to on a regular basis, to buy things for and treat like a princess. On the other hand, I love being single because I am free to make decisions on my own, don't have to answer to anyone, don't have to put the toilet seat down, etc....

I don't have a problem getting dates and getting laid. My problem is the women I go out with are always emotionally unavailable, and like the thought of going out with anyone they want whenever they want. It is for those reasons that I am single by choice. I am tired of going out on dates to get to know someone, having someone show interest for a few weeks, then for no reason whatsoever, leave me wondering, "what the fuck"?

I always say that I want to be single, then end up with a new girlfriend. I dunno... it's weird. It's hard being single when you get lonely like I do, so I can never do it for too long.

Isn't it better to be over in a few weeks than to be 6 months in, or, even worse, married, and find out you hate each others guts, or are incompatible in some way? 90% of the people I date don't last more than a couple weeks - I find those weeks a natural winnowing process.

Keep at'er though, the worst thing is losing friends after a long relationship with the person.

I used to have to be with someone or to me life just sucked. I had bad relationships and good relationships. Finally, I ended up married, then 6 months later I left her (long, long, story) after realizing my life was getting really miserable. It has been over 2 years now that I have been single again, and have not dated anyone for more than 2 months straight. In a sense, I am getting more and more used to just being single and setting my life up around it. On the other hand, I'm getting scared that my new look on independence in combination with not being able to find a decent woman is going to render me single for the rest of my life. I think it's honestly a coin toss and one day I'll know what I truly want. Until then, I just keep on living life.

I am single at the moment, and although I would like a relationship, that want is superficial, I doubt I'd have time (working over 50 hours a week) and the only person I have recently found that I would even consider dating has slipped through my fingers, at least for the summer

I lurved being single until i did some making out and some fooling around with a very lovely lady. It was such an amazing difference from fooling around with the ex. It was really nice to actually be fooling around with someone i was also really attracted to. Having gotten a mere taste of that mind blwing mutual attention i became a lonely wreck for about a week. I wasn't even longing for anyone in particular, just feeling sorry for myself because i had to sleep alone every night. It has kind've inspired me to be less of a homebody though.