How long before you BLOW??
 

I have two friends who both thought that the actual act of sex only was suppose to last about 5 minutes max or 2 minutes on a bad day for their guy. I always wondered why they said they could never have orgasms from sex. Now I know why. So my question is, guys how long can you go before blowing your load? Or girls..how long does your guy usually last?

cue the overstated, exaggerated and highly extended lap times...

sometimes a long time
sometimes not

I can maintain my erection long after ejaculation, so it's not an issue for me. What's the point of sex when you're done after the first round?

about 4 hours.

My guy lasts as long as i needed him too... sometimes all i want is a raw hot quickie, other days i could just spend hours having sex.

If you don't count short breaks... then long enough to make my woman happy.

i don't know... it's weird, but 5 minutes of sex feels like a lot longer, at least to me.

are you kidding, I blow my wad just looking at my wife.;)

That's like saying how long can you eat....it all depends on what exactly you're doing, and what you're going for. WIth good communication and two healthy people, I'd say anywhere from 2 minutes to not coming for hours, or even at all, would be possible, if desired.

Never as long as I like :(

I'm all over the map- if it's been a while, or I'm really revved up, sometimes I'm just about done after 10 seconds. Other times, it can take as long as an hour, perhaps longer (obviously these are rare, and do not occur on the first session that day). I guess on average I'm somewhere in the 10-15 range, usually at which point she starts giving me the "wrap it up" signals.

Well, I'll be completely honest.

If I'm on top, I probably average about ten minutes. She never gets off, cause I blow too quick. Shit, ain't no shame in my game.

If she's on top, I don't get off, but she loves it. Its not that she's bad, I love how it feels, I just don't get off for some reason with her riding me. We have to switch for me to finish

Usual time....15 minutes if I've been teased or it's the first time in a way. 30 to 45 minutes if not. Longest time was 2 and a half hours (the second I ever had sex...about an hour after the first.)

What the hell are you guys timing "how long" for? I have a hard enough time taking care of the wife without trying to see how long I can last.

lol usually takes me forever, or it doesn't happen AT ALL. sex when i was high was great ..even tho i didn't "blow" my load-haha!

:lol:

About 10-15 minutes. If I go twice (without stopping) It will be about 30 minutes, I think.
If I'm trying to make "her" happy then I'll always go twice if I can.

it's all in the foreplay anyway. I used to be able to get my ex off pretty easily by going down on her

When I was on effexor I could last forever. Now that I'm off 10 seconds.
In all seriousness though, I went over to my girlfriends, put it in, pulled it out, and came. Then 5 miniutes later we had sex again, and that time I lasted about a minute.

Depends. If I remember to take care of business beforehand, hours. Sometimes 10 minutes for a quicky (we have a 9 month old son). If alcohol is involved, I can go on and on. Last time I was kicked off of her after several hrs.

Bingo.
It varies depending on how I feel, If I feel stressed/sick/tired I may collapse from exhaustion first. All other things being equal, about 10 minutes depending on what position we do and whether I concentrate on her pleasure or mine.

How much time you got?

Sometimes i never blow the load.

Sometimes it blows by itself (which is usually not accompanied by an orgasm, not nice).

Mostly, I'm in control. i.e. as long as I bloody well like.

Yea,well..I'm a girl.. so not much of a load : )

I am the girl that makes out with you and straddles your leg and sucks your face & cums in her pants and leaves you excited... so... less than fifteen seconds...What can I say,I dont get much.

Usually he lasts about 5 minutes, but one time he lasted 20 minutes.

speaking of timeing....

I'm an 18 yr old male.
Last night my gf and I had, if you can call it that, sex for the first time. It was kinda strange. It all just started with the foreplay and all, and we only had like an hour for everything to go down, unfortunately. The condom went on with me being fully hard. She was very tight and kinda tough to get into but as we got going, her roommate showed up and started knocking on the bedroom door and whatnot. She want away after we refused to let her in, but it kinda scared us both. We both like freaked out and i went somewhat soft. I didnt go limp or anything, but i was like half hard, half soft, and kept slipping out from then on.

I had no idea of the time passing, but I feel really weird about the whole situation. Nothing happened the way that it was supposed to, I suppose. We just had so much trouble getting started, and then when we finally did her roommate scared the shit out of us (not literally of course), and everythign just went downhill.

I need some help here, like I just feel weird. Should I?

With a Condom, its hit or miss sometimes i can't get off before shes tired or raw. I could have sex for hours or 20 minutes. My ex complained that we could never have quickies becuase it took me too long, we always had protected sex. Without Condoms its depends could be 1 hour or could be 2 minutes.

With me i think if I'm in it physically for the sex i don't enjoy it as much as if i actually care about the person. My last girlfirend i didn't care about, previous ones i did and the times change dramatically. But i've been able to achieve 40+ minutes more regular then 5 and under. Honestly sometimes its a pain in the ass.

With my ex, he was always done in a few minutes, except for the one time he was sick and we fooled around anyway. Not that it really mattered because I'm quite an easy customer when it comes to the orgasms.

With the current beau, I haven't really bothered to time it but it's definitely a lot longer than 5 minutes. I honestly don't know if it would be physically possible to have a quickie with my current boyfriend. Not that I'm complaining.... ;)

impulse03 - Living with roommates sucks like that. If it's a viable option, save up a few bucks and find your way to a motel for a night. There will be less stress on you and your girl and you'll be able to relax and enjoy yourselves. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Trying new things is half the fun anyway. Don't be upset if it doesn't work quite the way you imagine the first time.

impulse03, you may want to post that to a different thread, as it could derail the discussion here, but would ceratinly bring lots of advice on its own.

I think twistedmosaic had it right. It really depends on what you and you're partner are trying to do. If we're wanting to play around one night (while the kids are sleeping), using lots of positions, not in one for more than 5-10 minutes, we could go on for a couple of hours that way, if we wanted to. Normally, its a nice friendly love making session and not a sexathon, so we tend to go for about 30 minutes. First, I go down on her, typically to orgasm, then I get to choose my preferred position for her for cumming. :-) Usually it takes me 10-20 minutes because I enjoy the feeling of getting to the cumming part just as much as the actual cumming action. Because, of course, after that its 'silent flacidity' (to misquote an early 90's Queensryche song).

No need to feel weird, young apprentice.

You were strong like bull, evil roomate scare shit from rutting couple, mood gone.

Big chief ShagsLikeADogOnHeat, he say:

"It Happens"

I've had my moments where the penetrative intercourse lasted from 45 minutes to an hour.... but in general, I end up shooting my load between 15 and 30 minutes.

I think I'd last longer if I was in better physical shape though... and I'm sure it would help if I masturbated half an hour prior to having sex that way it would take me longer to "bust a nutt" but you can never predict when sex is gonna happen or when your woman is gonna be in the mood. Therefore I try to compensate for my lack of endurance with foreplay and manual stimulation of her clitoris prior to penetration.

Umm, i'm going to assume that it was you're first time not just you and your g/f's first time, because if so don't worry about it, I lasted about.... 30 seconds my first time. Start doing it regularly at least once every other day and in a week you'll be a pro.

3 minutes!!!

I last 2 seconds after my wife gets off, anything over is a waste of time and anything under could jeopardize future fun! :)

orgasm isn't even an issue when we have sex. meaning, we don't have sex JUST for orgasm. far from it. we could go as long as we wanted. maybe a few pee breaks in between ;P

for us, sex isn't a means to an end.

I can't actually give you a time measurement here...

When I blow is after my SO has. I try to keep it this way. On a bad day, I can't do this with my man-unit so I'll do it later with one of the other methods.

What does it matter? If both parties are satisified, then why should anyone care? If I go before she's happy, then I take care of it.

And for the record, every time is different. Some short, others longer. We've also been experimenting with oragel on the tip, and that allows me to go forever, but we also use toys, so it's become very satisfying all around.

40 mins on average. i've had one girl that LOVED that, and another who was constantly frustrated and thought something was wrong with me or didn't find her attractive!!! Can't win :(

depends on amount of time ive gone without. the hotness of the person also plays a factor.

Anything less then 10 minutes, and I really have to put effort into cumming. After 10 minutes it's usualy when ever I choose. After about 45 minutes then I start to have a harder time keeping it up.. Then of course there is foreplay or not. It's really a matter of time and what we are both wanting that night.

For me it really has to do with two things.
1. How into the person I am.
2. How easy they come.
These two interact.

For girls I'm just fucking for the hell of it (booty calls and such) I can last just about as long as I want, usually until they come. For FB girls who come easily, I can last for as long as I want, usually until I get tired and decide to come, or someone gets sore.

With girls who I like a lot and don't come easily, I last until about 2 minutes before they come. Them getting excited gets me off and I blow. This SUCKS to say the least.

It is so fucking frustrating, to not be able to get off the girls that you like through intercourse, but be screw as long as needed for those I'm not into. It's like exactly the opposite of the way it should be. I guess it's good that I'm fairly skilled at giving head, but it's not the same.

with a condom i can keep pounding countinuously (only breaking to change position) for well over an hour before I blow or lose my erection.

without a condom, and taking a girl from behind, i can blow inside a minute.

I have lasted from about 1o seconds to about 1 hour and 45 minutes. It would be longer but my gf gets tired after about that long.

It varies for me

My record so to speak is 3.5 hours with two cums but that isn't the norm as both parties tend to get bored before that.

Normally it will be 20-40 minutes, once she has come a few times I will flip her over and bang her hard to make me come.

Now if a girl gets vocal as she comes that will make me pop straight away, don't know why.

I do find if I get past the initial omg sensation then I can controll it well :)

Are we talking hardcore fuckin' like *boom boom boom* or the slow grinding kind of fuckin'?

Either way its always too early for me.

for me, depends on how much alcohol I've had-it may never happen with too much booze. Also how much the sex has been anticipated/thought about beforehand. I don't know about the rest of you, but if I've been dying to get into some girls pants and it finally happens, I'd be lucky to last 2-3 minutes. I wish I had control over it-that would be an awesome thing to have but unfortunately it sort of has a mind of its own.

depends I guess. being so young I can kep an erection for well over an hour (about an hour and a half before it all wraps up) regardless of orgasms, but they come in 15-45 minute intervals, depending on a lot of factors, including masturbation, foreplay, and interest in the woman...

I'm not sure. The only stopwatch I ever owned could only start reading after 1/100th of a second, so I've never been able to figure it out.

I find that with a condom I can go 30min-1hour, but without the condom its a total crapshoot, could be 2 minutes, could be 20. Depends how turned on she is on entry too.

As long as my gal needs to get off. She goes first, then me.

Fear not dude! I had a similiar situation behind a movie theatre, except her roomate didn't find us, the COPS did! Talk about going soft.

It depends when the last time I had sex was, sexual tensions and such, but on a good day, when we make love, not just fuck, so its slow and sensual, I can last up to 40 minutes or so (I think, memory isnt too good on that, may have been a break or something in the middle) and since I'm not in too good shape stamina wise, I find it a little difficult to get an erection after my first round, but my way around this is going down on my gf. Shes the first girl that I'v gone down on more than once, because I love doing it to her and, well, I love being down there on her, and its become an obsession of mine, so I find that going down on her not only makes her happy but it gets me ready for a second, third, fourth round :)

1 minute if she is really good. l0l

I used to have trouble in bed by blowing my load a little too early, but I have been taking siberian Gensing and I last soo much longer (like six to seven hours if needed). and yes it was a good few nights

im with the wide span guys. from 1 minute to not at all. Depending on...

1. How tired I am
2. How much I care about the girl.
3. How long it's been since I got off
4. The amount of possible alcohol in my system.
5. My mood
6. Position (its usually better to let the girl ride top for the first round)
7. Condom
8. Fucking or making love
9. Amount of foreplay. (I actually tend to last longer with foreplay)
10. If the girl knows kegels.

Pretty much sums it up for me right there. Depending on various factors, I take anywhere from minutes to hours.

as most people have said, it all depends on how i feel, how long its been since the last time i did anything. Usually the first round is very quickly for me, but after that, it can go for as long as she's had at least 4 Os

with a condom, however long we can go before getting too tired, without probably a hour or a little more.

I last...Long enough.

Between 15 mins to just over 2 hrs....not sure why??

With a condom I can last, well.... until I'm to physically tired to keep going.

Not sure about without a condom. Haven't got there yet ;)

I just started a thread about this actually:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=59880

were twins!

heh.

antidepressants mean that i struggle to blow, even when i want to. It takes a lot of work and usually, she's worn out before i get there. so i just jerk off at the end.

usually 45 mins to an hour....


coke = 4-5 hrs.

its all about if you can go at it again after my friends :]

I don't want any sloppy seconds!!!:lol:

As long as my girl friend needed me. :) I always try to make sure my girl friend is satisified first.

Not long enough...

I find I can last a long time when I first wake up though. Morning wood lasts a long time...

That is so true.......

well, this thread makes me feel much better, and in spite of Halx queue of the music and exaggeration, I'm glad to see that 2-5 minutes of actual coitus really is mostly normal. Fact is I can go a good deal longer, but not all at once.. it's bump bump stop bump bump stop.... and the second and third times get progressively longer, sometimes to the point of I am unable to go a 3rd time. Trick for me is to ensure that she's reached "Ohio" a couple of times at least before I try to get mine... unless it's just a quick down and dirty, and then sometimes she doesn't get off... at least not then, but she's well rewarded later for it. <grin>

i always wait for my girl to go first then i go after most of the time but sometimes i just can't hold it! lol. for example the other night i went in like a minute but then i just got it hard again in like 10 min so we went at it again until she came.

my avarage is a hour or two.... which totally sux ass.... my longest was six hours.... I was in pain by the end. The times I get off in about 30 min are the ones I enjoy the most

Hmm...my girlfriend has trouble orgasming from just intercourse but she still likes longer sex sessions. I'm also happy to see that the lower end is fairly normal. At first our sex lasted anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour and I thought that was terrible. I've gotten better but now I see that satisfaction with yourself timewise really depends just as much on the girl as on the guy.

I also don't orgasm easily from sex, but throw a vibrator into the mix...hehe! :lol:

For reference, the Merck Manual states that the average man *can* achieve orgasm in approximately two and a half minutes. Anything less than that can be ruled as premature ejaculation. The average women in about thirteen minutes, on average.

So girls, if you get yours, we're there ten minutes longer than we needed to be! :lol:

Me as well

My wife and I fucked for over an hour the other night. She says she came 9 times. I never came at all during the entire session. It was wierd. I think that's the first time that happened....

Anywhere from a couple minutes to over an hour. If I've got a couple drinks in me it could almost never happen :\

My endurance greatly revolves around my physical condition more than anything. If I'm in decent shape I'm good for 20 minutes with a very short recover time between sessions. Like a few minutes...just perfect for more foreplay.

If I'm out of shape it's 5 minutes, and then roll over and fall asleep.

I'm getting back into shape again so my ability to keep going is improving quite a bit. Longer sessions, and better ability to get two or three goes out of it. When I'm in peak physical shape she'll get worn out before I do.

I always make sure to see to it that my wife is pleased through the ways of the tongue or fingers before we even engage in intercourse. That way if I'm in that "5 mintues and asleep" column she isn't disapointed.

Interestingly enough my timing has changed. I see my girlfriend once a week now during the summer. I now come in around 4 minutes flat EVERY time, keep on going for another 15 minutes till she cums, and then go at it again till either we cum together or she cums and then I cum.
All told not longer then two hours right now. I'm exhausted at the end, I can't get it up at all. Might having something to do with always being at the end of an 8 hour workday and then a 6 hour bus ride at 3 AM

With me it all depends on the excitment of the girl i am with. The longest i have gone is a couple of hours and the shortest is about 1 minute. It all depends on the encounter. :)

I agree, I think it's also similar to asking "how many beers can you drink?" It depends on a lot of things.

I'm in college so my girlfriend and I spend time apart for months sometimes where we don't have sex. Generally the first time we do after a break it's not very long. But when we're together regularly then I can last a lot longer.

It's also a bit weird, I always thought it was supposed to be the opposite, but when I'm drunk I last a lot longer than if I'm sober. I've always heard it was supposed to be the other way around.

If we're just talking about penetration, then probaby 10-20 min. Depends on how aroused we are. I say "we" because if I'm ready to cum before him, I try like hell to get him off with me. So much better! We cum together 99% of the time.

Cheers!

4 me: 2 minutes to 1 hour

if there is alcohol involved I can last along time if not between 5-15 minutes, it all bepends on the situation.

Honestly,

masturbating - about an hour

sex - 30 minutes (not including foreplay) max....8 minutes min.

I can't believe that this joke hasn't been made:

Title: How long before you BLOW??

answer: at least thee or four drinks

buh bum chshhh (rim shot)

well if its been sometime sence the last time i had any not very long at all

Depends on if I'm paying by the minute or if I've got her for the whole night.

/rimshot #2

Well, that mostly sums it up for me.
My partner and I are very well connected with each others 'state' ,if that word describes it.
We are both acutely aware of the desire for a quickie or hours of pleasure.
How long I last before I blow my load depends upon so many factors.

One thing is for sure - the first one after her period is always a 30 second quickie where ever in the house she decides to do me at the time... :D

1. Too long
2. If I care, I'll try as long as a can. If I don't I hurry up.
3. We all have the same answer for this one.
4. Same
5. Same
6. If she's on top it may not be too long. If I'm on top I have control.
7. Double the time with condom.
8. Quick, not quick.
9. The longer the foreplay the longer the time.
10. If she knows kegels forget it. 2 min tops:crazy:

If im really into this person and the time we're having. We go second or third round. So overall answer? 30 to an hour.

45 min nooner today :D

depends on the mean-time between sex. generally, the more time since the last session, the shorter I last.

thus, it's a win-win for my girlfriend and I: she gives me frequency, and I give her longevity!

It all really depends on the guy and the girl he's having sex with. Generally, I've found that if it's with a girl that I really car about, I can go a long time (gone 45 minutes once, sore the next day :p, avg 10 - 30min), but if it's someone you don't really care about, it's shorter. It also depends on how much foreplay you do. If you do a LOT of foreplay, then you'll be a lot hornier than if you jumped right into it, making it last an even shorter amount of time.

3-4 hours for me unless its been awhile then its 3-4 minutes haha

I tend to run on the long side; my first time lasted a little over 2 hours. That being said, it depends alot on the activity. When I'm really worked up and not really trying to control myself it can be as little as 15 minutes; if I'm really trying to control myself and keep going I'll eventually hit a point where I'll stay hard but won't get off no matter what I do.

when she tells me to stop or when I'm ready to go back and watch tv...unless I'm feeling a bit randy and then about 20 minutes

It depends on how excited I am. If I'm just masterbating, I've clocked myself up to three hours. It usually takes me over an hour. If I'm having sex with a condom, I usually CAN'T cum unless I'm really REALLY excited. I've only finished in a condom once in my life. If I'm having sex without a condom, I usually last 45 minutes, but I've gone as long as an hour and a half, and as short as 15 minutes. It all depends on the excitement factor and the speed.

Edit: Forgot to add the main point: The more excited I am, and the faster the stroking/fucking, the faster I finish. The less excited I am, and the slower the stroking/fucking, the slower I cum (and sometimes I just don't cum).

Its a mental thing for me depends on how intgerested I am

I haven't read the entire thread so I am just going to respond to the original question.

The amount of time it takes me to cum is inversely proportional to the amount of time a) it's been since I have had sex, b) it's been since I have seen/had sex with my current girl friend, and c) how aroused the person I am having sex with makes me. I.E. if she's extraordinarily beautiful and it's been a while since I have gotten anything, I'll probably last about 30 or so seconds.

There is also the intoxication factor. I find the amount of time it takes me to cum to be proportional to the level of my intoxication. If I am hammered I really have to concentrate to get anywhere.

-Al