If an attractive stranger asked...
 

I was having a bit of a disscussion about this yesterday and it was pretty much unanimous (probably cause it was 4 guys and 1 girl). Anyway, if an attractive stranger or person asked you to sleep with them, would you?

This was done on some human body or human instincts dicumentary, where an attractive guy and girl went around asking people if they'd sleep with them (it was pretty much all heterosexual though). Of course, 90 plus percent of guys said yes and the guy got a fraction of that response, which i guess could be anticipated. But i thought this may be a curious excercise/poll?

basically just state your sex/gender and your response, the poll is independant of sexuality as well :D

I would not. I am a girl, and I am completely committed to my SO. He is way more attractive than anyone else.

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male and Hell Yes I would... I gotta sew these wild oats sometime!

haha i saw that documentary!!!

And yes, i would... if i were single, and am right now i guess

ok, assuming you're single and everything. This isn't about infidelity as such, moreso about the ease etc you're inclined to have sex with a stranger :D

Completely aside from the infidelity issue (since you want to discount it), NO!!!

Sure, it's a nice Penthouse Letter type of fantasy, but let's get realistic:

- Why does this person want to sleep with you? Is it for sex or are they psycho?

- Will they cry "rape!"??

- One word: AIDS.


So no, no and NO!

hmm, now i want to see this documentary... i would definately consider the option, however my stupid heart belongs to someone else... even if i AM single

First of all, I'm currently involved in a serious relationship so I wouldn't cheat on my girlfriend.

Second, I go by this one motto: "If it sounds too good to be true, then it is too good to be true." Most of my life women have been running away from me and turning me down (and unfortunately I've grown used to that), so if out of the blue a very attractive woman were to make a proposition to me I'd be very scared and suspect she has an ulterior motive I'd probably not agree with.

I wouldn't. Okay, I would if the stranger was Colin Farrell, Jesse Bradford or Chris Carrabba. Then I'd say yes. But the chances of that happening are pretty slim...

No, happily married for 10 years. No need to mess that up now.

Of course I would. The poll is at "1" for a girl who would say yes, and that's me :) He'd have to be way hot though...

Reading that response then reading your sig is kinda hypocritical:)

I know for myself I would not sleep with anyone else(except Brad Pitt) if asked.

If there were no strings attached, no one would know kind of thing, then maybe. I voted yes, but the circumstances would have to be right, and I wouldn't cheat on my wife though.

IF I was single and had access to a condom then yes, yes I would. If it was particularly good, I might need more condoms, many more condoms....

One night stands are extremely common.

Stranger doesn't have to just mean "someone who walks up to you in the street"... How well do you know most of the people around you, let alone that person you talked to for an hour before hornily deciding to slope off back to their place for a debauched few hours of lusty congress.

Younger Folks: Thou art born, but thou art not dead yet. (I assume)

If that happen I'd be looking around for the TV cameras. Or a group of people looking over and laughing.

In a perfect world, I would say yes absolutely! However, there are far too many things to worry about today, like STDs, that make sleeping with a stranger a very very bad idea. So, I answered no. However, in an entirely risk free situation I would. :p

I answered no before I saw the disclaimer- infidelity aside. Since I'm married I of course said no.
But if I was single, and he was seriously the hottest guy I'd ever laid eyes on, then I just might do it. I'd have to think about it a lot probably...

I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that "attractive" doesn't just mean physically attractive. If the person was both good-looking and attractive personality-wise, then hell yes. I don't see why not.

In the words of one recent former president of the good ol U.S. of A..... "A man is only as loyal as his options." Or wait...was that Chris Rock babbling on about a former recent president. Who cares...it applies to me. Hell YES I would.

Depends on the stranger and the context but I would say yes (male).

In my University days this happened to me and I did it.

Been there done that. Most definately would do it again. They became friends with us later.

Female, no.

Two years ago, I would have said hell no. A year ago, I would have said hell yes. The sexually liberated part of my personality wants to say I'd go for it, but the part of me that had a herpes scare (luckily came back negative...) is much much more cautious. I just can't have casual sex anymore...I'm scared. Maybe in another year I'll have myself straightened out a little more, but I'm still too wary.

No way -- I need the emotional tie to make the sex good. Also, I love Lebell just way too much to cheat on him!

I'm married, so I answered no. If I were single, my answer would be yes. In fact, it was yes a few times.

If I was single, I'd probably go for it. Based soley on the fact that we can uphold a conversation for 5 minutes before, and that he's hot.

I mean, you can't NOT be superficial with this question ;D

Yeah, anyone wanna hook up? :lol:

I'd have to say no... the first thought that'd go through my head would be "I dunno where that thing's been"

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I voted yes. And I'm in a relationship...a very open one that is

:lol: :lol: :lol: Sorry, my signature is something my mother said to me once after I had angrily told her that I don't look at other guys. :p ;)

For men, there is a profession of "attractive strangers" who will have sex for just a few $s.

So, no, I wouldn't.

I'm thinking, not so much.

However, someone isn't a stranger after you've had a few drinks with them, eh?

I would MAYBE have sex with a stranger...but I would DEFINITELY not go down on a stranger. As someone put it, who know's where that's been?

Im a guy, and I dont think I would...

It just would seem too good to be true, and really, I dont know where that woman has been...

If that were the situation, i would rather rub one off.

I dont have a girlfriend, so why not?

even if i was single, sounds too dangerous to me. You never know where a stranger's been.

maybe when i was younger, dumber, and more desperate...

No. I'm very paranoid about STDs and AIDS.

No, for a few reasons

A guy and HELL NO.

It's just not worth the risk of pregnancy/stds/etc.

If she didn't have STDs, and I wasn't in a relationship, yes.

Probably not

good thing there's a thing called CONDOMS eh? ;)

Intimacy with another human can spread deseases that a condom won't stop. Simularly, condoms are only high 90% effective in practice. (perfect condom use for 1 year gives a 5% pregnancy rate, compared to 85% without a condom. 14% for a more real-world rate (ie, allowing for mistakes)).


http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/pub...t/fscondom.htm

(random google website on the topic).

The risks are low, but not ignoreable.

I remember years ago hearing a female comedian tell this story to demonstrate the difference between how men and women think:

Imagine you're leaving a bar after last call. You're walking to your car - alone; it's dark, and the parking lot is unlit and mostly empty. Before you get your key into the lock, a stranger of the opposite sex, obviously drunk, who was making lewd remarks to you across the bar earlier, runs up behind you, puts their arms around you, and describes - in great detail - what sexual acts they would like to perform on you right there; right now - in a dark parked car, in the now-empty parking lot.

To most men - this is a nightly fantasy; a dream come true.
To most women - it's a frightening nightmare.

/questions the relevance; just sharing.

My SO was a late shift bartender & oh my - yes, I've done that scenario before, knowing full well that it was totally safe from disease...wore the trench coat and bare skin and yes, I was the aggresser. Said I was the best attack girl he ever trysted with in a car.

but now I seriously doubt that I'd say "yes" if it were me in that dark lot, since things have changed so much over the years. I miss those safe sexy nights at the Park!

condom usage would be mandatory though

i gots a fiance yo, so that would be a negative

If she was clean, in a heartbeat.

Absolutely no.
I've never accepted a one night stand proposal from guys that I have partied with and "know" on some level. I certainly wouldn't accept it from a complete stranger. I don't care how "hot" they are.
I'm one of those people that has to have an emotional connection with someone when I am sharing my body and my bed.

I was honest and I voted yes.
I would use a condom and I might even ask if she has any stds! LOL that would be funny but necessary.

If an extremely attractive woman came up to me and asked for sex I would do two things before taking any action. I'd ask if she'd be willing to come to a clinic with me and get tested for STD's WITH me. If she was willing to do that, then I would. But I imagine some stranger who comes up and asks for sex wants it then and now... nope, sorry.

This is definately one of those tricky question that if a woman asker her SO, he would never give the right answer! :lol:

I want to say no, but when it came down to it, in the passion of a moment, I don't know how I would react. Unfortunately as a man, I just might end up saying yes, and I'm not sure if that is a behavior based on the social structure that men grow up in or just the libido of a man rising to the occasion. (no pun intended) :p

I can't answer because I would say MAYBE. What kind of mood am I in? Where do I meet this stranger? Do I meet her through friends? How does she ask? Does she say in an alien voice that she "wants my seed"?

In short: NOT ENOUGH INFORMATION.

Bag it and Tag it. Sex is beautiful, share it.

I'm a guy, and I definitely wouldn't.

Not worth the risk, and I'd find it a little disrespectful honestly.

That about sums it up right there.

Remember my words I posted earlier in this forum....

If it seems too good to be true, then it is too good to be true...

I answered yes, but it would only be in the situation where I didn't have a wife.

I'm male and a Sailor. What do you think? :D

Sure why not, if I've got a few hours to kill and all it's just sex, no stalking, phone calls, letters...unless she was really good looking.
Why not is the big question.

I agree, but I still said yes. :o

I am female and I find that I cannot do that kind of thing with a stranger, the lack of trust bothers me. I find that when I think about this I am mostly turned off by the blunt fact that I have no emotional link to a stranger.

And I must agree with MrFlux on the risks, I'm not interested in getting sick or pregnant. It just isn't worth it.

I am a guy, I say no...
I am married and couldnt do that to my wife...
of course it might be very hard to say no in a RL situation... but I think I have the self-restraint...

Single male here. Yes, with protection. I'm no stranger to the stranger fantasy.

im a female obviously and i dont have a bf currently, so assuming proper protection was used and the person/situation didnt seem creepy and i didnt get bad vibes, and assuming there would be no committment or even contact after the fact, HELL YES.

I'm a guy, and I'd never sleep with a random attractive stranger. Because they're STRANGERS. You know nothing about them.

If I were single and the girl seemed nice enough as well as hot, sure.

Do bats fly?

Hell yeah I would. I have done it before and until I get married, I will prolly do it again. Always use protection though.

im a dude and hell yes i would
its been that damn long :lol:

Guy and NOPE. To much horrible shit being passed around these days.

Cool poll, it would be a little better if girl/guys were separate categories that both add up to 100% Oh, by the way Guy/Yes. This is under the assumption that "no strings attached" applies in the situation. For example, hot girl that I never have to see, talk to, carry as baggage, no one finds out, Yes. If other people will find out, she calls all the time, etc, then NO!!!

hahaha

I'm a guy and I have been in that situation. I guess now I am more interested in a long term as I think things get better with familiarity.

but.... ;) if she were really hot I might try it and hope it dosen't turn into a one night and maybe something that could be more promising like a friend with explicit benifits.

as a male and former sailor myself my answer is never have and never will under such circumstances. Still waiting for the marriage and wife scenario.

Not while I'm in a relationship. Otherwise, of course.

you only live once...


and why would I want to fuck that up.:p

Even if I was single I wouldnt think about it, never a stranger, and if they are attractive and ask me to sleep with him, chances are hes asked many girls before

i think i saw that documentary and it was more like 98% of men would when asked by a hot chick, and i think 0% of the women would when asked by a hot dude. wasn't it on a college campus?

Re: If an attractive stranger asked...
 

Dude, that's a CLASSIC female response, despite what you see on "Sex and the City" the concept of the anonymous one night stand is, for women, not at all that appealing.

Seems like alot more guys would do it.. Hmmm

Duh :p :lol:

Women are beautiful, yes if the attraction was there, with out missing a beat.

I demand all 12 girls who voted yes PM me their addresses now. ;)

yes, and it seems 2 + 2 = 4 :p

:lol:

BUT, are you an attractive stranger? :p ;) :lol:

hypothetically speaking, i'd probably say FUCK YEAH.....that is, if i knew for a fact that this chick was clean.

in reality, i'd probably say FUCK NO. i wouldnt want to know how far down the line of "would you sleep with me" i would be, and the potential for some crazy shit.

I would have to say 'yes'. Some of the best sex I've had happened during one-night-stands.

The funny thing is, those one night stands pretty much happened when I simply asked a girl if she wanted to have sex with me! [Of course we were already at her place or mine (well most of the times)].

So, either those girls don't subscribe here, or the girls that do aren't being honest to themselves! There are a lot of one-night-stands going around, and I know that it takes two to tango.

Yeah they could be fucked in the head and want to give people their aids or somethin...or kill you, but you know whats sex with a sexy person???

Male, married...so no. One thing that scares me is this: before I was committed to my wife, I was hangin out with her and her friend.
My future wife got sloshed and passed out, I was partying with her friend and had that "feeling" that you get when you know a girl wants you. (she was not even hot, btw. I'm not picky...)
Stayed up late talking, rubbing her back, etc. She got sick at end of night and left, it was a fluke that we didn't finish.
Much later I found out she had herpes and it could have easily been mine. Sure, wife could make up the STD rumor, but years later knowing all the facts...trust me she had it. OK, make all the "use a condom" statements you want, but I didn't have one on me and it never stopped me back then.

Basically, I am saying NO now, but when I was young and stupid...Hell yes!

Of course I wouldnt!

err...unless maybe someone offered?

I'm married. No chance would I cheat on my wife. No chance at all!

It'd just seem so cheap - without any feelings for the person. I'm not really into the idea of cheap sex.

Besides there's the issue with std's and all.

So... count that a "no" for the guys side.