Jay Francis

I mean, you pick up a catalog like The Xandria Collection and there are pages of dildos, vibrators, erotic stimulants for women. You watch movies and its de rigeur for girls to play with themselves and use all sorts of devices. Then, you have the upscale end with the Sybian machines, etc.

But hardly any talk, except in TFP (previous threads on the Fleshlight for example), certainly nothing in the media, magazines, etc. about sex toys for men. Is it a psychological thing, that men have been brainwashed that they should only have great orgasms inside women? That masturbation is always to be the second fiddle?

I mean, I'm married. Have had a vasectomy so there's no concern about pregancy to affect my sexuality. I can have sex often. But, still, if I am going to masturbate, why not use a device that intensifies the experiience?

Why don't guys grow up with other guys or society saying, Hey it's allright to use a sex toy to heighten your sexual experience.

qtpye4u84

I Know I think the more guys like about them and talk about using them or even telling one of your friend he should get one then maybe more guys will do this and it wont seem so "gay" any more to some men I know my man would not go near one "fear of gay" But i know when I use my viberator on me and it touches him a little he likes it but he wont let me use it on him , but he does not know that I know that when I use it it touches him a little he thinks that i dont know but to me its fine for guys to use sex toys.
I would like to use one on him he wont even let me use his fingers,
there is a selction in the porn shop for men.

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sprocket

Social perception. Women with sex toys are in general viewed as exciting sensual creatures who are in touch with their sexuality. Men with too many sex toys are viewed as twisted dirty old perverts who are a step away from picking up underage girls (or boys) in an online chatroom.

Also, I think its a turn on for most men to watch a woman use these toys on herself (good stuff). How many women do you know would be aroused by watching a man use a fleshlight or sticking a dildo in his colon;P

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jazzwyld

I think the other side of men not using toys is tied to our egos. Of course what isn't tied to our egos. When I masturbate I experiment. I think generally men do not like to be exploritative in their sexuality, unless it is defiling some woman =). Do what pleases you most...

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Jay Francis

Sprocket and Jazzwyld, I think you both have hit on it exactly!

Prince

I agree with Sprocket and Jazzwyld, and quite frankly I find it a rather sad state of affairs.

I've always enjoyed using "toys" to enhance my masturbation sessions, and I was unaware that it was something I was supposed to be ashamed of, let alone considered "gay" by some thickheaded morons.

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i8one2

To tell the truth, I was never really in tune with the idea of searching for increasing the intensity of my orgasm of sexual stamina until my last/current. With her having all the neat toys of vaginal and anal stimulation, I said what they heck, why not. We have built a relationship on trust, love and respect..and that helps me to want to explore my sexuality. We have very few taboos...And as a result, the shame factor has also been eliminated. Now me wearing that leather cock ring behind my ball with another rubberized one attached to it, is a sign for her to go to town on him. Sometime we mutually use vibrating devices, because they are fun, get us even more in tune with our urges, and away we go.

all of this I would over never have done with any of my past partners or ex wife.. It boils down to a good partner, being open minded, understanding and wanting to explore the deeper meaning of sex...at least for us.

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Ace_O_Spades

I know the subject came up in locker room talk in the football room, someone mentioned that they wanted to try one, and he was summarily made fun of for two weeks... it was sad to watch, but being a rookie you cant exactly stand up for someone in that situation...

as for me, due to this situation i just described have a firsthand view of what men in this day and age perceive sex toys on men... and even though I would try one if I got the chance, it would always feel in the back of my mind that i was doing something not accepted, and I don't know if i could be comfortable with that

damn you society!!!

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jerikofeng

I suppose I am fairly open minded as a male....but also agree with everyone here. I wish there were more options for men.
I am happily married but my libido is much higher than my wife's, so outlets are very good

I purchased a fleshlight recently, and hope it is a good start. Its the only toy I've ever heard as being worthwhile for men.

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Tuffy_McGee

I think it may have something to do with the differences in men and women's bodies. Women are curvy petite (often) while men are often white-assed, hairy and stocky or blobby.
Women just don't want to picture a guy sticking a dildo up his sweaty hairy ass.

Just ask a woman if a guy using a dildo or pocket pussy is sexy.
Then ask a man if a woman using a dildo is sexy.

MSD

I think a main issue is that the male body is a lot simpler. Most guys won't let anything remotely phallic anywhere near their asses, so the only thing left is the penis. For that, a hand is sufficient. Add to that the fear of being called gay, and you have a stigma surrounding it.

RoboBlaster

I don't know, I think the main reason sex toys aren't that popular for men is because it doesn't take a lot to get a man off. With women, there are multiple methods of stimulation, and sex toys reflect that. Vibrators, dildos, and all the other toys are suited for diffrent ways of stimulating different areas. As for men, there isn't much you can do to enhance the experience.

skysooner

My hand is my best "sex toy"

Mephex

Ohh, on the contrary. I've actually heard quite the opposite.

I like to turn a blind eye to what society thinks about what I choose to do in my bedroom. Besides, think about all the close minded people out there that you KNOW would love to get their rocks off with certain toys, but live in fear of their friends/family finding out. I refuse to live that way.

And the flesh light rocks, unlike using your hand, it keeps you extremely sensitive, and it covers a lot more territory.

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KirStang

I think due to societies pressures, we men are supposed to be people who are confident and capable--allowing us to get with women easily.

A guy having a sex toy is most likely seen as someone who is desparate and uncapable, thus the taboo...

Just my 2 cents

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Ace_O_Spades

i think your 2 cents sum up better in one sentence than i probably could have in a few paragraphs of anecdotes and babbling

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Martel

Keep in mind there's more to male sex toys than just artificial pussies and things to stick up your ass. I highly recommend a stretchy rubberized cock ring and leather snap-on ball stretcher.

I'd never really been "into" either of those ideas until my fiancee suggested them, but boy are they awesome.

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Blackthorn

I have a Fleshlight and I'll tell you what ... that damn thing can be addicting! I use pretty hot water with it to get it good and warm since hot tap water doesn't really keep it warm long enough. Atroglide as lube is also a must with this thing and a WONDERFUL lube to boot.

I've read with interest the stories about the Aneros and would love to try it Maybe that's what I'll put on my x-mas list this year.

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:::OshnSoul:::

Speaking as a female, I wouldn't see why guys wouldn't/couldn't enjoy it.
Seems as though that men prefer women over anything else, but women enjoy all kinds of stimulation. "toys" for men I am sure can seem "homosexual" or "wuss"-like, as if it told that they aren't getting any. Women are just more comfortable with the various options of stimulation out there.
But, I say, why be ashamed as a man using a toy to possibly make masturbation more intense?

Mephex

I can see how some would think that way, but there's another side to it.

Some guys, would rather have sex toys, then be out knocking up bar whores, and getting all kinds of nastay shit on their cock.

Fuck that.

I have an isatiable appetite when it comes to sex, and I haven't met a grrl that can keep up. So, until I do, I'll stick with my personal collection.

Oh, and btw. When you're with a grrl that doesn't feel like having sex, maybe she just wants to play around ? It's good to have things to play around with

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Strange Famous

I think most people feel that a sex toy is a substitute for a person, and women feel thats ok and men feel it means they are a failure.

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