AfterBurn

Before I post my problem I already know that I'm a huge dork. Here goes.

Some girl really likes/d me in one of my classes but i never really bothered to approach her or anything and pretty much ignored her but she continued to give me signals. Then I somehow started liking her but didn't know how to approach her because I didn't see any opportunity to talk to her and from previous experiences I learned that just coming up and talking to a girl about something doesn't work too great. After some time I'm pretty sure she started hating me or something because she avoided me and I try and ignore her but I still sometimes notice her looking at me but I never return the eye contact. So now I have no clue whether she likes me or not or if I should even bother ever approaching her. Another this is when I see her walking and she notices me she always looks down and walks slower for some reason. I also noticed that she's not shy because she talks to guys all the time (there is over 100 people in my class). Anyone have any idea how I should interpret this situation?

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AfterBurn

21 views and no replies? Is my spelling/grammar that bad or something?

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lurkette

I think you should quit living in your head about this one. Let me see if I got this straight.

1. girl liked you
2. you ignored girl
3. girl kept liking you
4. you liked girl but didn't express this to her because you couldn't think of a good way to do it
5. girl avoids you
6. you continue to avoid girl

At no point in this chain of events have you ever taken steps to make your feelings known. Sounds like fear, plain and simple. Just talk to her! Smile at her! Let her know you are aware of her existence and it pleases you! Quit playing so cool trying to be the one who doesn't get hurt or look dumb. You'll succeed, but you'll leave a trail of royally pissed off, ignored, confused women in your wake, and meantime you'll be safe but lonely. Take a chance. Walk up to her and ask her to go get coffee, or go to a movie or something. Chances are all the signals you're reading as avoidance are her feeling rejected and confused. If she shoots you down, at least you know where you stand. If she accepts your invitation, GREAT! She likes you enough to be seen in public with you and share an experience. Don't think about it, just TALK TO HER.

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onodrim

Being a female, here's my take:
She was clearly interested in you and gave you many signals that she was. After a while when you never gave her any indication that you felt the same way, she probably just decided to move on as she felt there was no chance of being with you.

Honestly, if you just admitted to basically ignorning her, are you that surpirsed that she no longer shows the same interest in you? I'm afraid you may have missed your window of oppurtunity with this one.

However, maybe just try talking to her once and get a conversation going. Show her that you do have an interst in her, and maybe she'll show an interest in you again. But don't just ignore her anymore, that won't get you anywhere.

*edit* lurekette posted while I was writing, and I just wanted to say ditto to everything she said. *end edit*

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AfterBurn

Cool, lurkette that was excelent, thanks! What about the looking down while walking thing? Is that a way of avoiding any confrontation or is it some body language thing? Sorry for being so clue less but it never hurts to ask

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SAM821

dude... just walk up to the girl and say hi... talk about school, the weather, whatever.. anything.. just BE CONFIDENT, and show some interest... i bet you she still likes you, she's just probably wondering why the hell you havent approached her yet.

the key is to not try too hard.. just go with the flow, and let it be natural... but if you dont at least give it a shot then you will never know what possibly could have happened.

good luck

Averett

Strap on your balls and talk to her

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lurkette

Hoowah! Yeah, what she said!

Re: the looking down thing, that's just a way people have of avoiding an uncomfortable moment. She could be pissed, embarassed, shy, sad, un-confident, or really concerned about not breaking her mother's back. Only way you're going to find out is to (everyone together now) TALK TO HER!

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cas305

Ther is a great chance to talk to her, when she is looking down go up and ask her if you can help her find what she lost.

1. opens conversation
2. you look like a helpful guy

problem solved!