Experimenting
 

This past weekend one of my gay friends suggested that sometime I try being gay for a night and sort of "experiment" with him, just to see whether or not I liked it. Now yes, I have been and still am straight, but how much would you say it too much? Or moreover, what goes beyond the line of experimenting and into the realm of actually being gay? And finally, should I really go through with it, or would it just end up something I'd regret once I'm out of college?

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Um. Do you want to experiment? Do you want to know what it's like? If it's something you're interested in, fine. Whatever you want. It kinda sounds to me though like your friend is interested in you.

You are not gay if you try same sex sex. Experimenting is just that, an exploration of yourself. If you like it doesn't mean you're gay either. To be gay is to fall in love with someone of the same sex, to have a relationship. Sure you are dealing with the world's taboo but the reality is it's about you and trying things in life. Do what you want, have fun. Stay comfortable and don't pressure yourself with labels. I have tried it and enjoyed it. I was never gay, I love women. My wife never had issues with it as it is self discovery.

I don't see how a truly straight man could ever have an encounter of any sort with another man and not be at least bi. I could never do it, so therefore I disagree with what "gay" is as defined by Met22.

Otherwise, dood if you want to try it, try it. You don't need our advice or opinion.

sexuality is a spectrum, not a polarity, anyway.

Nothing you *do* makes you gay, it's all in how you feel, and even then, it's not black and white. So.. experiment.. see if it's you or not. You can always say no at any time.

I have no desire to try homosexual sex. None. Zilch. Zero. Asking me to have sex with another man is like asking me to have sex with a child or a dog: there is simply no way. I think the majority of men would react similarly. On the other hand, the idea must be somehow intriging to you, or you wouldn't be considering it. Maybe this is the beginning of a new self-realization of your sexual identity. Maybe that's what you are afraid of.

Whoa whoa whoa, I'm not talking about having sex with this guy, no. I was thinking at most he would do something to me, like blow me. I have little to no desire to actually perform anything on him. I was just wondering if getting head from a guy was in any way comparable to being gay.

Having been in this situation when I was younger, the thing I can tell you is; Going to far, is when you have to regret your actions the next day. Enjoy the moment, be save, your friend has made you an offer and if you let them know before hand what your comfortable with and what is unacceptable for you, he can certainly be of great assistance when you enter THERE world for the day. That what I did and my friend, introduced to his friends and I did in fact have a great time. I was scared out of my mind at first, but when I found out the weren't just freaks, I loosened up and my friend was happy to take me along to future GAY things. PS...I am still and will continue to be 100% straight, but I entered and live in their world quite happily.

It's already been said, but I just want to reiterate that no sexual act "makes you gay."

i personally find the idea of it repulsive but its really all about preference. if you have an interest in it then poke around at your interest. stop it whenever you want. seek. explore. discover. if the desire is there

As a woman I love men. I will always love men but I enjoy women too. I have discovered that "experimenting" in that realm teaches me about myself and more about how to GIVE in sexual relations. The giving pleases me and is an important part. You friend sounds like he would be patient with anything you are comfortable with. I would try it out. See what it's like and enjoy yourself. Do only what you are comfortable with but push your limits. You might learn something about yourself. Your friendship with this friend may become more open too - not necessarily sexually but in our swinging relationships we have made some close friendships that have been important to us. The type of friendships we have seem stronger to us and even more valuable because we know our swinger friends have seen all our flaws and shortcomings and still accept us as we are. There isn't always pressure to do anythign sexually but there is an understanding.

I wish you good luck and hope you have a great time.

If you're worried about being "gay" while experimenting, ask yourself this: Would a homosexual man be straight just because he tried to have sex with a woman once in his life?

I don't think this logic applies. Men just aren't very dynamic in their sexuality. It really has to with inherent wiring rather than choice. I respectfully disagree with anyone who says the label "gay" is non-sensical, there are only shades of gray, etc. A bonafide homosexual man has sex with a woman because there is immense societal pressure to behave a certain way. The reverse case, in my understanding, is a man discovering that he's gay. Of course there are truly bi-sexual men, but it seems to be the exception rather than the rule among those who claim that orientation. Women on the other hand, are much more fluid in their sexual orientation and are an entirely different story.

Whatever the case may be for you sheaux_down, safety comes first. You can worry about labels later but I think being forever ambiguous about your sexual preference denies your own identity. Gay, straight, or possibly bi--it doesn't matter. Do this if you really want to, not because your friend is egging you on.

If you just want him to blow you, then it's really not a big deal. Close your eyes and you probably won't even know the difference. Sure, it is a little bit of experimenting, but it's not that big of a deal.

My advice? If it sounds like something you want to do or try, try it! Don't worry too much about what it means (there will be time for that afterwards). I find it a little odd that making sure you're 'not gay' is so important to you. You're the only person who can decide that.

One thing, though...I would say DON'T tell people about it until you figure out if that is something you want to pursue further.

Try it, it's fun. I experimented with my friends when we were children and we are now all straight. So don't worry about a thing.