fallenangel

this one's about female masturbation i guess. Ladies, to your gents have a problem with the fact that on occasion (if you do on occasion that is) you masturbate at all?

gents, does it bug you knowing that your gf does (if she does i guess)?

What i'm getting at is basically i'm irritated because even though i'm incredibly sexually active, on occasion i'd like to fly solo with my good ol b.o.b. and this has always struck a wrong note with my guy. I just didn't know if a lot of guys felt this way too, or if you ladies have experienced issues with your guys as well? Hmm, ridiculous i think.

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Mr Jiggyfly

I would only be unhappy if I were wanting/expecting to participate and then she said no. But that would be more of a denial issue than an issue with her flying solo. If I'm working late (even though I work from home) or am for some reason unavailable... more power to her. I'll happily do anything I can to make her solo flight more enjoyable.

John Henry

Can't say I'd have a problem with it myself, unless it started getting in the way of our relationship. After all, it's not as if she's going to run away with her fingers.

I hope you'll excuse my ignorance, but wtf is a b. o. b.

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Bobaphat

Hell, I wish she would more often.

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Fenton-J-Cool

Shit, I'm all for it. Means she has an active sex drive. Better than her needing to fuck my best friend because I wouldn't let her get off at home.

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SecretMethod70

Only way I would possibly ever be upset by onodrim masturbating is if I wanted to join in and she said no. And by no I mean no at all, not no not until later.

Nothing would be cooler than to be surprised by my s.o. masturbating when I didn't expect it

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FaderMonkey

I agree with what's been said so far. I could only see myself being upset if I got the feeling you were no longer interested in me. I've always wished that the girlfriends I've had in the past masturbated more, or at all.

Blackthorn

My former gf had several toys that she would use but the one that was her favorite was a little "egg" like thing. Took only one double A. I'll tell ya we never had more fun than when she was on with one of those toys. I'm all for it!

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As long as your cock is bigger than her index finger then you shouldn't be worried about anything.

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Tomservo

I'm of the same opinion as most here- I encourage my wife to indulge herself in whatever kooky solo fantasies she has- but if she refused to let me join in, it would upset me. Granted, I wouldn't ask if it would spoil the moment, and I'd be just as likely to let her watch me, ya know, if it helps.

If she became too preoccupied with the solo act and it affected the quality/enjoyment of the together act, that would be problematic as well. (I think this is the problem with many guys masturbating- too into www.hotbabesinheat.com, they forget about the ACTUAL hot babe in heat in their bed.)

toiletraccoon

i wouldn't mind....especially if she'd let me watch

motdakasha

If you don't know what gets your going or how to, then how can he expect you to know what you want. Honestly, I feel that every human should be required to masturbate. http://www.masturbateforpeace.com/

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redneckdude

Great link motdakasha.

Hey man we do so why shouldn't they get to. The other night when I came home from work at the bar, I logged on found my favorite p0rn site, then went to work on it. Well she woke up, which is really unusual for her at that hour, to go to the bathroom. When she came back to bed I was pretty self-absorbed at that time so she let her fingers do the walking. We both got off and went to sleep happy.

I find in enticing. I had a gf that after both of us had cum and were lying there relaxing, she would lightly stroke her clit. I found this an incredible turn on, and likewise she found it to be a big turn on to watch me stroke mine.

dude i'm cool with it
Scoty

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zfleebin

I love it when my fiancee masturbates. She doesnt do it often but she tends to do it when I am out of town and makes me beg to hear about it after the fact. I think its wonderful and I would love to get her a sybian even if she wouldnt let me watch.

Amano

I think the fear against female masturbation is that it *lowers* the woman's sex drive, but I strongly believe it does quite the opposite. Or maybe it's a chicken and the egg thing, and the fact that she masturbates is indicative of her stronger sex drive.

Whichever way, I'm all for it. Like motdaksha said, it gives her familiarity with her body and what she wants, and assuming communication is there, it lets you know how to please her better

VF19

I am with SM70 here. As long as I can join in

fallenangel

so then there's no logical reason for him to have any sort of an issue with the chick masturbating, and by chick i mean myself... especially if my sex drive is already sky high, and i don't have a problem at all if he watches, and i go with OR without toy also... damnit all this confuses me...

thanks for the feedback though! greatly appreciated, makes me feel like i'm not blowing my thoughts out of proportion.

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tisonlyi

In my experience, the more one has the more one wants.

She flicks the bean, she wants more attention for her bean - attention i am only too willing to supply.

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Doos

Right on. You should be happy that she shares this info with you. More info = good.

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qtpye4u84

well it would not bother me if my man wacked off
When hes at work i do it while watching porno while using my viberator. My man has not and does not wack off and to me that is strange we have been together for 3 years and still to this day i shower with him so he has no time to he could make time but he never does it im serious! I give him head but never a hand job unless im giving him head and using my hand.
And no he does not have another girl friend, but his sex drive went down cause he gets to lazy, he will get a hard on but he will be to lazy so i give him head or get him in the mood I have a very high sex drive i am talking 3 orgsm in one hour with masterbation and stll wanting my honey when he comes home we Use to do it like 6 times a day but now like 2 times or once in a day or head then sex

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Doos

Conclusion: your man is lazy as hell. Imagine neglecting your cock like that.... And you are amazing. Do you have a sister in South Africa?

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ratbastid

I've invested big bux in masturbatory toys for lurkette. It's fun using them together. It's fun knowing she uses them by herself. In short, it's all gooooood.

World's King

No.

I wish she would be touching herself all the time. I want her to have a random orgasm in the bar or at dinner one night... just all of a sudden her pants get really wet... and...


I'll be back.

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bender

If you didn't have a S.O you would be doing it anyway so whats the big deal with the fact that you are when you have one.
Sometimes you just get there faster when you fly solo, so why not.

Charlatan

Put me in the column marked... "Doesn't Bother Me, in fact I encourage it"

Motdakasha put it best... "I feel that every human should be required to masturbate."

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trwasmer

I wish my wife WOULD do it. Heck she is just not into self pleasure. I have told her it is a great release and very liberating.

Oh well

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iccky

I think some partners view sexual activity as something special that should be shared exclusivly between them. So in a way he's jelous... of you, sort of you cheating on him with yourself.

My girlfriend used to sort of have a problem with me masturbating, she doesn't mind now so long as she's "involved in some way", either being told I'm doing it, or knowing i'm doing it while watching our home videos or at least thinking about her. It makes her happy.

2kids1headache

That's it exactly. Think about it and ask yourself what other things he gets jealous about.

I hate sounding fatalistic, but the jealousy problem only gets worse as time goes by. Every time you assert the part of yourself that makes him jealous, the jealousy gets just a little bigger for your nonconformity. Think, seriously, about finding someone who isn't jealous when you play with yourself.

doncalypso

I'm all for female masturbation.... The only way a woman can teach a man how to please her is if she know what pleases herself through masturbation.

Hell... if there's one thing I'd love more than anything is if my girlfriend would play with her clitoris while we're having sex (but she refuses because she claims she's not comfortable masturbating in front of me or while she's on top).

Actually, I bought her two vibrators for Christimas: a small white one with multiple detacheable heads, and a 7-inch glow-in-the-dark vibrating dildo. She uses them once in a while, and I do not feel threatened by that in any way.

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Eugeni

I agree with Iccky. Do you have lower sex drive than him?

Maybe he can feel that you sometimes refuse him when he's in the mood and so he thinks that playing solo is mean of you. It is only a possible hypothesis.

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diddagirl

Well I am in a long term relationship.... so my b/f doesnt mind if I masturbate while we are having phone sex. But I know he does seem a bit bothered if I were to use a vibrator. I think maybe he gets a bit jealous... and doesnt want me to enjoyt the vibrator more then him (which would never happen)!

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guthmund

You mean like the whole finger?

EXACTLY! I like it when a woman takes a hands on approach. Especially when I'm in the same room.

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blindawg

If I can do it, why can't she. Hell I love it when she IM's me at work to tell me she just got off.. More power to her..

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Bleed Me Dry

As far as I know...most men would appreciate it if you masterbated, as long as they get to watch. And if you're doing it at home he never has to know and never has to get mad.

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Apache

My husband loves to watch me masturbate and he certainly doesn't care that i do it while he's at work. In fact when i tell him that I did it he just gets turned on. It's not like by masturbating I'm not going to want him anymore so why should it bother him? It's not like i have ever turned him down.
For me the feeling of an orgasm I have from masturbating with a vibrator is different from the one I have from sex. I like the feeling of the orgasm I have from sex a whole lot more, it feels a lot better (hope that made sense) but I agree sometimes its just fun to do it solo.

wubbawubba

As long as I'm getting some it's cool. I mean I masterbate daily and I know that I'm not doing it cuz I'm not satisfied with my girl.
However if she is turning me down, and still masterbating, I would be upset.

Cherry

I'm all about the self pleasure, baby. As long as we're both getting what we need, it's all good.

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alpha

I'd only like it if my gf masturbated so she wouldn't learn more about herself and what turns her on.. she's tried it only a few times I think. So no, it wouldn't bother me at all.. after all, I mastubate quite often myself and she doesn't seem to mind.