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motdakasha · 03-12-2004, 10:32 AM

Another note on option C:
A "chance" is neither a promise nor guarantee.

Yakk · 03-12-2004, 11:24 AM

Utterly insane, and completely stupid, but...

Why not try
"Well, I am looking for a relationship, and I am attracted to you. If you want to get together and do stuff as friends, sure, you are a fun person: but that won't kill my attraction to you."

I must note, absolutely nothing good would come of saying this, other than the fact I would find it funny.

Litespeed · 03-12-2004, 12:48 PM

I vote for option C.

Is this not a good line to use on a guy?

TheBrit · 03-12-2004, 03:40 PM

This thread changed something for me.
I asked a girl out a while ago, and she said that she wasn't interested in any sort of relationship, she doesn't want to get bogged down. I saw her a few times since then, and we have been more than friendly with each other, arms round each other etc. in public, and kissing etc. in private.
I took this as a symbol that we were getting on very well, so I asked her out again, on Feb 29th. She was really embarrassed etc. and said that she really liked me but couldn't and she knows how I feel about her but she just can't go out with me. Really upset me at the time. For some reason this thread just made me get over her. Still wish she would say yes though.

nanofever · 03-12-2004, 06:11 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by water_boy1999
Think of it this way.....
It definitely starts out as an A. Once you appear to lose interest, she will start to gain interest. This will get you to step B. She's gained your trust and knows you were not just trying to get in her pants. She knows you can be trusted as a friend. Tell her one day that you have a date and was wondering if you could have her opinion on a shirt you are wearing on the date. She will come over, see what a hunk you are, then keep it in the back of her mind that you have now progressed to level C. Face it dude, if you have one chance in a million to get her, it is still a chance.

Somebody hasn't read ladder theory or simply doesn't buy it...

spiderbomb · 03-13-2004, 12:59 AM

sounds like a no dude. "Freinds" usually means, "go away."

Chemical · 03-14-2004, 07:50 AM

Girls are so confusing. I swear, if somebody came up with a manual they'd be freaking rich.

I think the reason why I'm hoping its C is because this is the first person that I've fallen for since my ex broke up off a 4 year relationship. I don't know what it is but I've fallen fast and fallen hard for this girl. I was totally infatuated with this girl after I first saw her and surprisingly got the courage to ask her out a couple weeks later when I saw her again. Maybe I'm just used to being in a relationship and am hoping that this girl would take my ex's place so that my life would have some resemblance of normacy.

mastboyx · 03-15-2004, 10:45 AM

B) just want to be friends.
Definitely B

stevie667 · 03-15-2004, 11:23 AM

just don't get caught in the 'maybe something may happen between us later, but at the moment lets just be friends trap', because you hope vainly that something may happen before realising it's a choice A for life.

Caranthir · 03-15-2004, 11:51 AM

It's B. Time to see what else is in the catalog.

LaughinMon · 03-15-2004, 01:42 PM

Bob Biter · 03-15-2004, 05:03 PM

It's simple. Take it at face value, because once you start doubting it never ends. She wants to be friends? Fine. Act with her as you would with any friend. Friends call each other (both initiate conversations) and never push for anything else. Treat her as one of the guys.

However, she ASKED YOU TO CALL HER so that you can make plans. This, IMHO, puts you squarely in the "A" category. I mean, if she wants to hang out, why can't she call you? Asking someone to call just makes no sense to me in that context. Mercifully, she's trying to let you down gently. Now, what remains to be seen is if she's the type of girl who likes to keep guys hanging until she "feels" like getting some personal attention. Stay away from those girls.

Anomaly77 · 03-17-2004, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by himself
It means: You're a nice guy, but I have no desire to see you naked...

Agreed.
and the "PC" way to say this is: "I'm not looking for a relationship right now but I still enjoy your company and want to hang out with you..."

dragonboyneo · 03-18-2004, 10:13 PM

B, ... maybe C... but definitely B

nofnway · 03-20-2004, 06:52 PM

if you are not in a hurry there is a pretty good way to find out

I had the "just want to be friends" speech once....I was really hung on the girl and that really threw me for a loop...

I ran across some good advice...Give her a good lettin alone

Don't call, don't email, don't drive through her neighborhood.
Do this for a good two maybe three weeks then just "happen" to run into her somewhere. (Or call, or email, etc...) then see what happens. If sparks don't fly...you fly.

It is amazing what clarity the separation will give the both of you

It worked with my wife of 12 years

ickma · 03-20-2004, 07:59 PM

Oh this question brings up bad memories. REALLY REALLY hoping for C.

03-12-2004, 10:32 AM	#41 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	Another note on option C: A "chance" is neither a promise nor guarantee. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

03-12-2004, 11:24 AM	#42 (permalink)
Yakk Wehret Den Anfängen! Location: Ontario, Canada	Utterly insane, and completely stupid, but... Why not try "Well, I am looking for a relationship, and I am attracted to you. If you want to get together and do stuff as friends, sure, you are a fun person: but that won't kill my attraction to you." I must note, absolutely nothing good would come of saying this, other than the fact I would find it funny. __________________ Last edited by JHVH : 10-29-4004 BC at 09:00 PM. Reason: Time for a rest.

03-14-2004, 07:50 AM	#47 (permalink)
Chemical Crazy Location: Mississauga, On, CANADA	Girls are so confusing. I swear, if somebody came up with a manual they'd be freaking rich. I think the reason why I'm hoping its C is because this is the first person that I've fallen for since my ex broke up off a 4 year relationship. I don't know what it is but I've fallen fast and fallen hard for this girl. I was totally infatuated with this girl after I first saw her and surprisingly got the courage to ask her out a couple weeks later when I saw her again. Maybe I'm just used to being in a relationship and am hoping that this girl would take my ex's place so that my life would have some resemblance of normacy. __________________ Future Ruler of the Galaxy (2014) Last edited by Chemical; 03-14-2004 at 07:54 AM..

03-15-2004, 10:45 AM	#48 (permalink)
mastboyx Insane Location: Mexico	B) just want to be friends. Definitely B __________________ Ignorance Is Bliss

03-15-2004, 11:51 AM	#50 (permalink)
Caranthir Upright	It's B. Time to see what else is in the catalog. __________________ I.

03-12-2004, 12:48 PM	#43 (permalink)
Litespeed Loser Location: Thousand Oaks, CA	I vote for option C. Is this not a good line to use on a guy?

03-12-2004, 03:40 PM	#44 (permalink)
TheBrit Psycho	This thread changed something for me. I asked a girl out a while ago, and she said that she wasn't interested in any sort of relationship, she doesn't want to get bogged down. I saw her a few times since then, and we have been more than friendly with each other, arms round each other etc. in public, and kissing etc. in private. I took this as a symbol that we were getting on very well, so I asked her out again, on Feb 29th. She was really embarrassed etc. and said that she really liked me but couldn't and she knows how I feel about her but she just can't go out with me. Really upset me at the time. For some reason this thread just made me get over her. Still wish she would say yes though.

03-13-2004, 12:59 AM	#46 (permalink)
spiderbomb Upright	sounds like a no dude. "Freinds" usually means, "go away."

03-15-2004, 11:23 AM	#49 (permalink)
stevie667 Too Awesome for Aardvarks Location: Angloland	just don't get caught in the 'maybe something may happen between us later, but at the moment lets just be friends trap', because you hope vainly that something may happen before realising it's a choice A for life.

03-15-2004, 01:42 PM	#51 (permalink)
LaughinMon Tilted Location: Tampa, FL	B

03-15-2004, 05:03 PM	#52 (permalink)
Bob Biter Non-smokers die everyday Location: Montreal	It's simple. Take it at face value, because once you start doubting it never ends. She wants to be friends? Fine. Act with her as you would with any friend. Friends call each other (both initiate conversations) and never push for anything else. Treat her as one of the guys. However, she ASKED YOU TO CALL HER so that you can make plans. This, IMHO, puts you squarely in the "A" category. I mean, if she wants to hang out, why can't she call you? Asking someone to call just makes no sense to me in that context. Mercifully, she's trying to let you down gently. Now, what remains to be seen is if she's the type of girl who likes to keep guys hanging until she "feels" like getting some personal attention. Stay away from those girls. __________________ A plan is just a list of things that don't happen.

03-18-2004, 10:13 PM	#54 (permalink)
dragonboyneo Upright	B, ... maybe C... but definitely B

03-20-2004, 06:52 PM	#55 (permalink)
nofnway Insane Location: under the freeway bridge	if you are not in a hurry there is a pretty good way to find out I had the "just want to be friends" speech once....I was really hung on the girl and that really threw me for a loop... I ran across some good advice...Give her a good lettin alone Don't call, don't email, don't drive through her neighborhood. Do this for a good two maybe three weeks then just "happen" to run into her somewhere. (Or call, or email, etc...) then see what happens. If sparks don't fly...you fly. It is amazing what clarity the separation will give the both of you It worked with my wife of 12 years __________________ "Iron rusts with disuse, stagnant water loses its purity and in cold water freezes. Even so does inaction sap the vigor of the mind" Leonardo Da Vinci

03-20-2004, 07:59 PM	#56 (permalink)
ickma Insane Location: Toronto	Oh this question brings up bad memories. REALLY REALLY hoping for C.