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01-23-2004, 10:09 AM
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Tilted
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sex with ex?
Ok so lets say you're in a situation for some reason where you're in a slump and really horny... and say you've got an ex who likes you still and would have sex with you whenever. Only problem is she ACTUALLY still likes you... so is it allright to go for it? any suggestions?
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01-23-2004, 10:25 AM
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A Real American
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if she has any designs of getting back together with you it can only lead to disaster.
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01-23-2004, 11:27 AM
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Nonononono.
Bad idea. Keep it in your pants till you find someone you care about, or who is willing to have sex with no emotional strings attached.
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01-23-2004, 12:55 PM
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Location: Oklahoma
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I did it. It was great at the time (sex with her was always great) as she lived almost 200 miles away from me (I had moved away after we broke up) and there was no chance we were getting back together in an easy fashion. In retrospect it sucked as she tried to lay a guilt trip on me later. I would say it caused more problems than it was worth.
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01-23-2004, 03:05 PM
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Don't tempt yourself, it could lead to this:Psycho ex-girlfriend won't stop until she gets your ass, but pretends that it's cool and that you're just friends
There's a reason you aren't together anymore.
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01-23-2004, 07:17 PM
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Location: Boone, NC
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she'll get hurt, you may take advantage of her and when the sex is over treat her like a tissue, "go away, I'm done." always from my experience, it has been a crappy situation. Sometimes good things come from bad situations, but that is no reason to hurt anyone.
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01-23-2004, 08:37 PM
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Location: Calgary, AB
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No, no- dont do that. Things will get very complicated if you do that..... and you will end up hurting her very much in the end.
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01-24-2004, 11:03 PM
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well i think if you make it clear that nothing is being offered except sex, then yes, it's a pretty nifty concept. my ex and i found it to be pretty nice.
but if she thinks there's a chance for a "relationship" to develop again, i'd say stay away from that shit.
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01-24-2004, 11:20 PM
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Hiya Puddin'! Miss me?
Location: Silicon Valley, CA
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Repeat after me: Sex with Ex == Bad
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01-25-2004, 07:59 AM
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Location: Australia
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as everybody else has said.... NO!!!
fucking with peoples emotions is way wrong. people who do that and dont respect women are fucken cunts (sorry for bad words, i hate seeing chicks get fucked round).
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01-25-2004, 08:44 AM
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Beware the Mad Irish
Location: Wish I was on the N17...
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What was the name of that movie staring Glen Close and Michael Douglas??? Hmmm...me thinks you'll end up with a rabbit in your pot at some point.
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01-26-2004, 05:08 PM
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Location: Cambridge, MA
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Yeah, that's what I did. Mistake. She wasn't even hot, I just had nothing else at the time.
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01-26-2004, 08:29 PM
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Location: in a golden garden of grey
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Very bad situation.
I did that for a while, so I didnt have to go without, but boy, was that stupid. Blowed up with fire. Emotions are sticky and I dont think it is as easy as fucking. You grunt, you moan, you cum, you regret. I even tried having sex with no emotional attchment, that didnt work, either, ends up, I hurt his feelings. Had a gorgeous friend, tried having sex with me with no emotional attachment, ends up, hurting my feelings. If I had it to do over, would have had sex with the gorgeous friend, and had the relationship with the other. 
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01-27-2004, 04:26 PM
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Location: California
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If I was in that situation I would definelty have sex with my ex. She was the best and we had the best times together. I still see her every once in awhile but we haven't really had sex since I got married and she is seeing someone now. We still flirt and kiss and stuff. Good stuff....
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01-29-2004, 12:32 PM
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Location: Michigan
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OK, I am going to get flamed pretty bad here, but hey...no guts no glory...
I had been in a relationship that lasted almost 4 years, when we decided to end things. This was a mutual decision. We acknowledged mutual diferences that just were not going to change, and we were adult enough to recognize the defference and that they were big enough differences that would affect us in the long run. After this, we broke up and had not talked for almost a year. I began "dating" and was playing the field, and not tying myself down to just one girl. I was seeing many girls and so it was nothing serious with any one of them. The ex calls me out of nowhere and we meet up for drinks and we talk and we come to a realization that although we have feelings for each other and we have differences that just can't be worked out, we DO love sex with each other. Plain and simple. We both laid down some ground rules and made sure neither of us objected and we understood this was just sex...nothing more...kind of a "scratch my back and I'll scratch yours"... This was the day I gained a "booty call" or a "*uck Buddy" whatever you want to call it. We both since have had bfs and Gfs, and neither of us get jealous...we are just their for each others physical needs. We also have an understanding that if we get serious with someone we are seeing then this relation will stop. We understood all this and we DID stop when she started getting serious with a guy, and vice versa. Needless to say, this has been my experience, and it has to deal with the maturity level of the people involved. This type of arrangement CAN work...rare, maybe...but given the right 2 people and alot of communication and understanding...you CAN continue sexual encounters with an ex. I don't however advise it, if you think that yourself or your ex will get too attached...I can't stress enough that it HAS to be a mutual understanding... Maybe I played with fire and did not get burned...maybe my situation is a rarity....that I don't know... But I am living proof that if handled properly this could be a mutually beneficial experience.... BTW...we have been *uck Buddies for 4 years now. No problems yet, and we have enough respect and self-control to discontinue our relations when we do find ourselves in more serious relationships with others. GOOD LUCK...
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02-04-2004, 02:35 PM
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Location: Louisville, KY
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Not a good idea....definetly not a good idea.
It feels good in the moment...and you can say all you want that you can have sex completely devoid of any romantic sentiment. But as someone who's been down that road...I'd have to say it's a bad idea. Just not worth it, in my opinion.
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02-04-2004, 03:39 PM
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Tilted
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well I doubt anyone wants to hear this, but im getting bored of reading loads of advice telling me its a bad idea so I'll just share what actually happened... So I was really drunk one night, and she followed me home, and didn't intend to do anything, but my roommate thought I did and left the room, so I ended up having sex with her... but, after a while she tells me I should stop soon because she's getting sore because she already had sex with somone else that night... ooooooh no I pulled out and thats the last time I'll ever be tempted to do anything with her
Moral of the story... I did what I shouldn't have, got burned, and now have definitely learned my lesson... no need for more advice on how sex with an ex is bad |
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02-04-2004, 03:39 PM
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Loser
Location: Far too far from my Angel....
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Not a good idea for a whole bunch of reasons....
Mostly, you'll be sending the wrong message to this 'ex. No matter what you say to her before hand, once you've slept with her, the idea that you two might get back together will be firmly lodged in her mind. Also, you never know if you'll wind up "trapped"....because if you're not looking to have a family, but she's looking to have a "hubby", then you might just find yourself with a Zamunda jr on the way..... Anyway, I'd say don't do it. |
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