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neoinoakleys · 01-29-2004, 12:32 PM

OK, I am going to get flamed pretty bad here, but hey...no guts no glory...

I had been in a relationship that lasted almost 4 years, when we decided to end things. This was a mutual decision. We acknowledged mutual diferences that just were not going to change, and we were adult enough to recognize the defference and that they were big enough differences that would affect us in the long run. After this, we broke up and had not talked for almost a year.

I began "dating" and was playing the field, and not tying myself down to just one girl. I was seeing many girls and so it was nothing serious with any one of them.

The ex calls me out of nowhere and we meet up for drinks and we talk and we come to a realization that although we have feelings for each other and we have differences that just can't be worked out, we DO love sex with each other. Plain and simple. We both laid down some ground rules and made sure neither of us objected and we understood this was just sex...nothing more...kind of a "scratch my back and I'll scratch yours"...

This was the day I gained a "booty call" or a "*uck Buddy" whatever you want to call it. We both since have had bfs and Gfs, and neither of us get jealous...we are just their for each others physical needs.

We also have an understanding that if we get serious with someone we are seeing then this relation will stop. We understood all this and we DID stop when she started getting serious with a guy, and vice versa.

Needless to say, this has been my experience, and it has to deal with the maturity level of the people involved. This type of arrangement CAN work...rare, maybe...but given the right 2 people and alot of communication and understanding...you CAN continue sexual encounters with an ex.

I don't however advise it, if you think that yourself or your ex will get too attached...I can't stress enough that it HAS to be a mutual understanding...

Maybe I played with fire and did not get burned...maybe my situation is a rarity....that I don't know...

But I am living proof that if handled properly this could be a mutually beneficial experience....

BTW...we have been *uck Buddies for 4 years now. No problems yet, and we have enough respect and self-control to discontinue our relations when we do find ourselves in more serious relationships with others.

GOOD LUCK...

01-29-2004, 12:32 PM	#36 (permalink)
neoinoakleys Psycho Location: Michigan	OK, I am going to get flamed pretty bad here, but hey...no guts no glory... I had been in a relationship that lasted almost 4 years, when we decided to end things. This was a mutual decision. We acknowledged mutual diferences that just were not going to change, and we were adult enough to recognize the defference and that they were big enough differences that would affect us in the long run. After this, we broke up and had not talked for almost a year. I began "dating" and was playing the field, and not tying myself down to just one girl. I was seeing many girls and so it was nothing serious with any one of them. The ex calls me out of nowhere and we meet up for drinks and we talk and we come to a realization that although we have feelings for each other and we have differences that just can't be worked out, we DO love sex with each other. Plain and simple. We both laid down some ground rules and made sure neither of us objected and we understood this was just sex...nothing more...kind of a "scratch my back and I'll scratch yours"... This was the day I gained a "booty call" or a "uck Buddy" whatever you want to call it. We both since have had bfs and Gfs, and neither of us get jealous...we are just their for each others physical needs. We also have an understanding that if we get serious with someone we are seeing then this relation will stop. We understood all this and we DID stop when she started getting serious with a guy, and vice versa. Needless to say, this has been my experience, and it has to deal with the maturity level of the people involved. This type of arrangement CAN work...rare, maybe...but given the right 2 people and alot of communication and understanding...you CAN continue sexual encounters with an ex. I don't however advise it, if you think that yourself or your ex will get too attached...I can't stress enough that it HAS to be a mutual understanding... Maybe I played with fire and did not get burned...maybe my situation is a rarity....that I don't know... But I am living proof that if handled properly this could be a mutually beneficial experience.... BTW...we have been uck Buddies for 4 years now. No problems yet, and we have enough respect and self-control to discontinue our relations when we do find ourselves in more serious relationships with others. GOOD LUCK... __________________ It's My Duty to Please That Booty!! Last edited by neoinoakleys; 01-29-2004 at 12:34 PM..