Scarey sexy dreams...
 

I had a dream...

Ok, I dreamt that I was on the back of a coach, on a sofa (this part isnt so important) and I had kind of tied up this girl who used to work at my office, sitting to the sofa.

And I kept running my hands up and down her legs, and kissing her calves and "playing with her."

I mean, the first thing is easy to understand - I used to have a crush on that girl and she was really hott, and we were also quite good friends and we used to flirt quite a lot but she had a boyfriend. But what's with all the bondage stuff?

In the dream she was kind of struggling, but not like she was really struggling, but I knew in the dream she wanted me to stop but I didnt. Whats up with that? I would never want to do anything like THAT in real life, or at least I hope very much I wouldnt, it's kind of frightening to have dreams of that nature, when the other person isnt exactly a willing participant.

Do you think I should be pretty freaked out by this, or are these sort of dreams not so bad/unusual?

Dreams usually don't mean anything like what they are. Usually there are some perceived meanings. you may be able to browse through a book about dreams at a local bookstore and get a feel on what this really means.

Well, I dont know how deep you can go

1, It means I really really wanted to have sexual relations with this girl - which is true

2, What I hope it doesnt mean is that some part of me entertains desires about tying people up and all that sort of thing.

erm...

Without trying to be pornographic, basically what happened was that I would kiss her leg and run my hands over it, and then when I got to her crotch and started touching there she would try to pull away and close her legs, and I would then stop and force them open and start running my hands over her legs again and she wouldnt try and stop me until it got more intimate again...

I mean, you get the idea. When I was in the dream I was kind of enjoying the whole thing, and when I woke up, it's just like, that's pretty sick actually, having a fantasy about touching someone who is tied up and may or may not want you to be doing it... I mean, Im kind of hoping there was a part of the dream in which we were dating and it was just a sex game.

I also remember, in the dream, I was worried that someone would find out what I was doing, not that it was wrong, just that someone would find out, so, you know... its not good. I dont think. Does any of this sound even slightly normal to anyone?

I'm not saying I would ever do anything like this, I wouldnt - but it is still frightening to suspect that some part of you buried away somewhere wants to do things that are basically abhorent.

and what is wrong with that?...

some of the most fun ive ever had was tying a girl up...
maybe you should try it... discover a new part of yourself...

Well, I mean, if I was doing it consenually with someone I was dating yeah it would be cool.

What troubled me a lot was in the dream it wasnt like she was really fighting but it wasnt like she was exactly a consenting and willing either.

even when you know it is morally wrong in real life, OR its just not your thing, what goes on in your dreams in NOT controlled... i am actually very intrigued about "dreams" and where are you subconciously... but thats a whole different topic...

to answer your question... dont worry too much about it... you can control your dreams... they just happen... good or bad... its like killing someone in your dreams, or dying... or anything of that matter.... you cant control it.... so i wouldnt think too much into it

Everyone has a little "evil" inside.


It's gotta come out somehow... better it in a dream then in real life. Don't look too much into it unless you have the dream a few times.

Don't feel bad, I have had "woody allen"-esque dreams where I am at second base with a girl and then get shut down. How messed-up is that, its my freaking dream and I still get shot down at second base...

Never interpret dreams exactly as they appear! Also, people have other more seemingly "abnormal" dreams than that and it's still considered healthy. The truth of the matter is that our brains do weird things in our sleep every single night, some people admit it, others don't. As long as you don't have intentions act it out in real life, it's safe and probably healthy. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, but I'd guess that the bondage and her unwillingness in your dream represents/symbolizes her unavailability. And I think you're overanalyzing/overdramatizing. It was just a dream, calm down. :)

i've had some weird sex dreams too
but "they" say (i won't try to define who "they" is) that just because you fantasize (or dream) about something, doesn't mean that you as a person would want to act on it. it's only the raw sexual side of your subconscious. some people fantasize about incest or rape, but that doesn't mean they participate, ever would, or ever would want to participate in those kinds of acts. get the pic? so i don't think there's anything to worry about.

I usually dream hat famous actreeses work with me, i dreamed that liv tyler was a receptionist at my office, and that i was dating shannon elizabeth, but it usually never gets really sexual

That tension is right at the heart of most bondage and D/s play. Not that this dream "means" anything about you being into that or wanting that, but you should just know that this very dream is a perfect description of many people's fantasy life on the receiving end. So it's not wrong or weird or bad--it's just not something you've explored. Which ALSO isn't wrong or weird or bad!

I don't tend to put much stock in dreams. I guess if I were to analyze this one, I'd be close to where motdakasha is--your fear that she'd pull away from intimacy or closeness with you was expressed by her unwillingness in the dream.

I once had a sex dream involving a girl who I find very attractive, but due to other circumstances, a relationship wouldn't work out. So rather than dating, we've become friends. So when I had the dream of her, I was pretty freaked out, so much so that I suddenly woke up from it.

Eventually I came to the conclusion that the dream was simply expressing a subconscious lust toward her. After all, she does have a great body.

yeah, the girl I dreamed about is pretty nice too.

And it was weird, cos sometimes she used to really come on to me, or so I thought, but then she would back off - plus she had a boyfriend the whole time, although I found out last week they split up (prompting my dreams perhaps!)

I think that there probably was a lot of chemistry between us on an intellectual level - but she probably just didnt think I was attractive. One night when everyone went out for beers after pay day we were kind of flirting, and apparently her boyfriend wanted to beat me up - but she begged him not to saying "please don't hit him, he's fat"

I didnt find out till afterwards, when she apologised to me for saying it and said she was drunk, but I didnt even know she had said it till she apologised for saying it, so...

It was kind of flattering that her boyfriend wanted to kick my ass anyway, but then again, that she said that kind of suggests she wouldnt ever think of me as potential dating material

And anyway, I mean, I am kind of fat, but not like freak show size, Im about 280 lbs, it's not like I couldnt defend myself anyway. Just because I'm overweight doesnt mean I couldnt fight, I used to box a bit when I was younger, plus up until I was 18 I watched WCW and WWF quite a lot - I could probably kick a lot of people's ass's in a drunken fist fight!

She doesnt work in my office anymore, but I am going out for some drinks on my birthday and she is coming (with a whole load of other people who work or used to work here) - I think she is dating someone new now anyway, so no luck still I expect!

Blah, Im just rambling. I did really like her, and while the sex dream part was a little weird it didnt really disturb me, it was more the tying up part - but like some other people in this thread said, I am hoping, "dreams dont mean anything" or at least they dont signify anything