Spanking
 

How many of you like spanking? I'd imagine it's because I'm the dominate type in bed, but there are few things that get me hotter than putting a good smack down on my girls great ass.

It's also nice to see the bruises for the next few days, just get's me all hot everytime.

I'm more interested in this, and consider myself a Rookie (been going on about a year now) so I'd like to hear about other situations, techniques, etc.

Basically I'll get her on her knees, and normally won't give her more than one or two good spanks in between pleasure. The only variations on that is the added hand restraints sometimes, and using other things like whips or a ruler (yeah, she was a schoolgirl). I'm not much into using other things for the spanking though, I prefer my hand. ;) Anything else I should try? I was thinking about getting one of those remote controlled vibrating egg things I could strap to her. A "buttplug" was also an idea, and yes, she's open to it.

Basically, in a dominating position such as this, what else can I do to pleasure her more? The more fun she has, the more fun I have.

Do you only spank the ass? Some girls like to have their boobs "slapped", and I am sure that the same goes for other places.

DISCLAIMER- If she is new to the whole submissive thing, don't spring this on her without warning her first!

Never heard of spanking for pleasure, sounds painful

I like getting a good spanking. There's something about the anticipation, and the movement, and the warmth, and the proximity to other...er...bits, that is just a real turn-on for me.

You mean dominant.

The most important thing you could possibly do right now is make a safeword. CHOOSE A SAFEWORD. This insures the fact that the spanking will remain fully consensual throughout the session. Choose a word that you would both be unlikely to say during the spanking (or whatever else). Some of my friends use colors to indicate how they're feeling. Green means to keep going, everything is okay. Yellow means you're approaching the threshold of not being okay. Red means stoprightthefucknowmotherfucker, you've gone too far. "No" and "Stop" are awful safewords because you may say no or stop, but mean harder harder oh yes, baby. Once you've establish a safeword(s), you can feel free to explore each other's limits without worrying about the other person and if your actions are acceptable.

There are a lot of spanking tools and aids out on the market. You could toy around with those, but don't get anything for professionals (paddles with holes/perforation, anything that could seriously harm the other person). I'd recommend starting with something soft and light, like a leather cat o' nine, or similar flogger. There are also paddles to consider.

Check out http://www.mrsdungeon.com or http://www.madame-s.com for shopping or browsing in the BDSM section.

My lady hates spanking, to the point of not even liking being slapped on the ass. I am more than happy to accede to her wishes, though I find myself playfully smacking her lovely bottom from time to time as it passes by. :)

Good idea on the colors. I've read about the safe word quite a bit but that gives it some levels that are easier to identify.

I've been thinking about getting one of those oval flexible leather paddles with soft furry stuff on one side. Like lurkette said, the heat and sensitivity is a big part and the furry material would feel quite nice I think.

Rubyee, I lightly slap her in a couple of areas. It seems like the instant-on/instant-off sensation is good in more than one place, but at greatly varied speed and intensity.

<-------------- Loves a good ass smack.

Seriously though. I get a lot of pleasure out of having my ass slapped...never very hard, but definetly enough to sting a little.
And it always helps to be followed by, "God that's a great ass" :-)

I don't have any suggestions here but spanking is a definate turn on for me as a girl. I can cun easily but the only second time I ever experienced female ejaculation during sex was when my partner at the time was spanking me. A good smack during pleasure just highens the sensations. Have fun.

Along with the great advice about being safe, sane and consensual:

Here is the one thing not mentioned yet...USE various types of gloves(you stated you love using your hands) loofah glove, rubber ones, those with the little knobs on them, surgical or food service ones, leather ones( and if they have a fur liner, turn them inside out, knit ones etc... also use different types of pressure, don't just use full force, slow and soft and use a build up.

If you have seen any of my post in exhibition, subby is very pleased with my technique, pressure use and the final results

GOOD LUCK :)

My girlfriend's favorite sexual time with me was when I sat on a bed, lied her out across my lap, and spanked her while she was wearing her new pink latex underwear. I think that timing is pretty key as well.
Go for the buttplug idea. Sounds sexy!

My experience with spanking is limited, but I've found that i enjoy a good smack now and then. I wouldn't mind giving either, but I'm new to this sort of thing, so I'm not sure how to bring such a subject up.

Ohhh..... i am quite intrigued and curious about the whole spanking idea. I hope my guy spanks me some time.....

<------------- loves to GIVE a good ass smack.

I also enjoy receiving many forms of pain for pleasure... good advice all around, and from many more experienced than I (i think).

I'm just glad there's another guy who gets off on knowing his girl is getting off. Hat's off to you!

My wife loves to spank me and normally isn't my thing but seeing how much she enjoys it has kinda turned me on to it. But I'm not real big in to pain so welts ok, bruises bad! :)

Oh HELL yeah. Kudos all around.

Here's what's great. You're gently, lightly running your hand up and down her back and her ass, slapping her periodically. With each smack she tenses and breathes deep...

At some point you pull your hand away and she tenses, expecting a spank.... And you gently put your hand back down on her ass and start caressing her again. The frustration and relief and sensation she's having is just incredible. Having caused that feels amazing.

Whew. lurkette and I just had a nooner and I'm ready for another. An after-nooner, if you will. :D

Ooo..spanking is always fun for me :) there is just something about seeing a butt jiggle slightly after a sharp smack, nothing too hard, though. Then again, i'm just intrigued by the female body, so seeing any part closeup is a pretty good turnon, but there is just something about the butt and curves and shading and sensations and..oo, gotta go find my gf..

Ok, back, Anyway, if you want to broach the subject, just ask, if she's over 20, chances are she'll have had a bf or something that smacked her butt and she'll either have liked it or not. Try playing around, most women are a bit more adventurous than men give them credit for...

Just try not to get too carried away unless she keeps asking for more or you discuss it first or there is a safeword. I had a really kinky gf that LOVED being spanked with a hairbrush until she was pretty well bruised. Was kinda odd doing it at first, but after watching her cum from it, I kinda got the impression she liked it :)

So, just talk about it, don't just snatch her over your lap and start wailing on her cute little butt...

Little love taps are fine , I dont like the out and out spank the butt til it goes red and you can feel the heat from it. I know my fiance doesnt either. But grabbing and giving a good squeeze during love making whether hes pulling me into him or Im pulling him into me is great.

My wife loves getting spanked. It really gets her hot. We don't do it by itself (but I think I'm going to explore that variation) but more during the act of sex, especially when she's on top. I've also spanked her tits.

We have a paddle we use from time to time also. The paddle is plastic and has little nibs all over both sides. When I run it across her nipples, she cums. This is fairly new to us but it's been one hell of a ride! :thumbsup:

No way, I wouldnt want to do anything like that - I would feel guilty for hurting someone if I did it to them, and I dont think that I could enjoy it if someone did it to me, it would just make me angry.

SPANK ME PLEASE

I love it.

I just got a new leather whip not long ago that does an awesome job also.

There's just something about being in a powerful position that's so hot. We've also talked about spanking in a public type situation, most easily done on the internet obviously.

Maybe if you're all lucky and I (eventually) get access to the real forums... As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. heh. I don't think some of the people posting know the extent to which someone can be spanked and still love it.

Hey, you two, keep it down. There's a perfectly good other thread for you to put this in... ;)

i doubt i'd like spanking. i used to slap people in the ass a lot in high school. my friends and i that is. and i would never mind giving but i never really enjoyed receiving. i always prefered the squeezes or the smooth gentle rub. i'm a lover, not a fighter. but i think the idea of spanking is very sexy. i likely wouldn't mind watching or something....

Next time he's in promixity to your ass, guide his hand to it and use your hand to make him spank you. If that's not a big enough clue that you're up to trying that out, then I don't know what to say.... my condolences? :p ;)

You'll have to let him know at some point. Men can't read minds (and vice versa).

Or spank your own ass. Damn that's hot, and I think he'd get the idea.

Send him a copy of this (very funny) story, or just use it for ideas: Addicted to Smack, from Hoot Island.

(yeah, I plug that site a lot, but it is free and funny!)

Oooo, I love a good spanking. :D Definently a favorite of mine.

Of course, you have to be in the mood for it. If I'm all worked up and near orgasm then its great! :D However Secret has quite an addiction to my ass and feels the need to slap it constantly, whether we're watching TV, walking down the street, or just whenever. :p So make sure you keep your spanking habits in check. :lol:

bring on the spanking....got to love those hand prints on a nice round booty

My favorite spanking was when Lebell had me bend over the bed, hands up to elbows flat. He ran his hands up and down my ass and legs between slaps. Very nice!

Another great position is over his lap.

Whatever you do -- have fun, explore, and enjoy -- and have a safe word.

count me in... :D

Everybody needs a good spankin

This is something I like doing too. A few times, I've licked her cheeks after a few good slaps, then blow on on them for that cooling effect. If it's still wet when you get started again, it really helps get some firm slaps.

my girlfriend loves a good spanking in the right situation

ive never been a big spanking person myself, but im not averted to giving a good one here and there