Oversexed? Are you? and how do you determine?
 

I just was called oversexed by a person very close to me. I know he was meaning it in fun and since we were in the middle of a really good time, he was quite happy i was..
But, i got to thinking, what do you think is over sexed? Is there a line you cross someplace? Are you?

I figure most guys are.. heheheheheeh and then there are the holyer-than-thou guys who love to call any girl who even talks about sex as a slut... But lets leave those two types out..

Oversexed?,.. I dated a girl some time ago for about a year and a half and in that time we had sex between 45-60 times a month. That is not an exaggeration. At the very least it was once a day,everyday,all month long.

I got bored, not with her, but with sex. When I was a kid I thought that was impossible but when it becomes mechanical and routine,it's boring. And that has nothing to do with love but just sheer repetition.

Re: Oversexed? Are you? and how do you determine?
 

It's all relative. For a lot of guys out there, a girl is oversexed if she's too much _for him._ Of course that's his own insecurity talking.

But the point is that everybody's different, and there's no such thing as "oversexed" as long as it's actually just fun for you.

Same thing here. Altthough I didn't get bored but once in awhile I would get tired and wanted to sleep instead. I wish there was a counter on how many individual sperm was sacrificed in those act...

It's quite normal actually, I've heard of some species on this planet having sex like every damn moment of their life. If you ask me, I believe the line is drawn to the point where you or your parnter are pushing the other or himself/herself that ends up interferring your life. Sure sex is great but don't let it get too far by affecting your work schedule, your personal schedule or even a major aspect of the relationship.

Sounds like he was perhaps a bit intimidated by you...

I agree that "oversexed" is probably a relative term, depending on the relative libidos of the two people involved, and the degree to which lust interferes with the rest of your life. If everyone's having fun and still managing to eat, sleep, and pay the bills, how can it be bad?

I've had a GF with a sex drive that could not be tamed, I was her first orgasm, her first multiple-orgasm, and first meaningful sex experience (raped when she was very young), so I take a lot of credit for this.

We would have sex litterally 4-7 times daily, so I dont believe in over-sex'd, but I do believe your BF needs to figure out what turns you on, what gets you going. He needs to slow it down, so it becomes something you do TOGETHER, not him having sex with you.

Its not a line I've found yet... but I am willing to look for it.
Actually, in my last relationship, I was afraid I was the oversexed one. I want it damn near constantly. But she didn't seem to have a problem with it.

Yes, that term comes from insecurity. Now, I do believe there is are oversexed (i.e. someone who might be a nymphomanic and wants sex with whoever happens to be nearby at the moment) people, but I think this is pretty rare. If you have an active sex drive that doesn't cause you to go and do things that are outside your normal moral code (and that is individual to everyone), I wouldn't say that is oversexed.

You are oversexed if you want to have sex and I don't. (don't worry, this doesn't happen.)
You are undersexed if I want to have sex and you don't.

I think I would say oversexed is when it takes over your life. When you can't function without constantly fantacising about it and you desire it every day every moment of the day. There's a good sex drive where you just want to be close to your lover. There's a bad sex drive when you can't stop thinking about sex to tend to the other needs of your lover or even take care of your own needs.

I've heard there is such a thing as sex addiction. Just basically when it interferes with your normal life instead of enhancing it. That's when I'd start to worry.

I have been called oversexed just in a good way meaning I desire sex more than some of the average women according to the guys I've been with. They were saying it was a good thing though.

When Lebell and I first met, I mentioned to him that my ex had told me many times that I was "oversexed." He replied, "is there such a thing?" Boy is he good for me!

I agree, it had to do with his insecurities -- that and good old Catholic guilt.

no. no such thing. :D

i could use some oversexing :|

unless you-re having sex 24/7 and your whole body is numb, I certainly wouldnt worry about it.

For me, as long as it is meaningful, then it is fine. Hiding from life with sex, or objectying the other person (reducing them to only their sexuality) don't seem that valuable. But if you're having a lot of sex with someone you really care about, and there's more to the relationship than just sex... why not?

I'm "oversexxed" when I only barely have enough semen left to call it an "ejaculation" as opposed to a "leaking".

HEH

When i lived with my now ex-girlfriend, we fucked 2-3 times a day. Soemtimes in the beginning, due to being out of shape, I'd walk around with all my muscles very sore from the night before. Someone would say I was "oversexed", and I'd just smile broadly and say, "no way in hell". lol no such thing, until you die.

me oversexed? nah. i'd prefer sex 3-5 times daily. it's fun. as long as it's not a meaningless act.

I'd consider myself oversexed at the moment because even with having a live in girlfriend, i'm only getting it 4-5 times a month, whereas I'd prefer once a day. Now if i could only figure out WHY i'm not getting more...