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vveronica · 12-29-2003, 06:19 AM

I personally love bound sex. The feeling of helplessness as my partner has complete control over my body. That no matter how I want to or try to resist i cant prevent him.. What is so hard to do is to get thru some guys minds that there is such a big difference between that and BDSM. When I mention my interests they immediately think I love to be dominated and like pain.
Personally I think that a girl who is a submissive or slave in a relationship has no spark no fire.. All Yes master no master,,, no big thrill there... BUT, struggling as you feel your body become more and more helpless.... wooohooo...

So i guess the question is... Why do I have to explain over and over to guys, No NO it is not the same as BDSM and no I wont kneel ???

absorbentishe · 12-29-2003, 06:40 AM

My wife and I don't do the bound thing very much, but she enjoys it, but for BDSM, no way. I know the difference, and I think since the over exposure of the Dominence thing, people do tend to think that being bound, leads into the rest of that. Just my observation.

tfin · 01-03-2004, 07:19 AM

Depending on how you argue it there is a slight difference or no difference between some fun tieing up and BDSM.

My personal position is that a little tieing up is fun and good. Having to be tied up or feel pain to get off is bad (well at least for me).

I think you have to find the right person who understands the fine difference there is between what you like and hard core BDSM.

herostar · 01-03-2004, 08:29 AM

I like that, and an aggressive girl is the best... but not toooooooooo aggressive

sexymama · 01-03-2004, 09:43 AM

One word -- communication

slimcr · 01-03-2004, 10:11 AM

Any girl with two back to back VVs in her name has my attention

jbrooks544 · 01-03-2004, 10:56 AM

Just tell the guy exactly what you like and don't like. If he doesn't "get it" then dope slap him for me. I completely understand what it is that you desire, because it is exactly one of my most turn-on kinks (from the guy's side). I love tying up a girl just to make her squirm and take more pleasure than she could otherwise. no pain or dominance - just because it feels good.

strcrssd · 01-03-2004, 12:26 PM

I'm kinda with jbrooks on this one.

I'm not into BDSM more than the next guy (love bites can be fun, but I'm not particularly into anything much harder). But pure bound sex can be hot....I don't have to worry about the girl trying to recriprocate (sp?), just let her enjoy...

ratbastid · 01-03-2004, 05:16 PM

The sheer breadth of the spectrum of human kicks is one of the greatest things about us as a species.

lurkette likes to be bound and spanked. I've got the sash from one of her silk bathrobes, and it's Much Fun to whip her with it and run it up and down her. That's about the extent of our play in that direction.

We've got friends who are way deeper into it. One friend in particular basically has to experience some pain in order to get off.

I don't know that they're such different things... I'd say it's more a matter of degree. Bound sex involves SOME dominance and submission.

Jonsgirl · 01-03-2004, 05:27 PM

I think that there's not a difference, it's just different levels. But any way you look at it, you shouldn't have to explain it over and over again. If the guy doesn't get it try this the next time: just tie him up, get him really hot, then bring out a whip. Smack him a couple of times and then ask him if he knows the difference yet. I bet he'll never be confused again.

MSD · 01-03-2004, 11:32 PM

BDSM is about dominance and submission. To engage in this type of relationship, you must have someone who wants to control, and one who wants to be controlled.

Bondage alone is about trust. It requires a relationship in which the partners trust each other enough to give them full control during sex. It is very arousing to some people that their partner trusts them enough to be tied down and let the other person do what they want, trusting the other person to give as much pleasure as they recieve.

The basic explanation is that BDSM is about receiving pleasure from dominance and submission, and Bondage is about receiving pleasure from trust. Anyone who can't understand that is probably too narrow-minded to have interest in a relatinoship involving either.

12-29-2003, 06:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	Bound Sex vs Bdsm I personally love bound sex. The feeling of helplessness as my partner has complete control over my body. That no matter how I want to or try to resist i cant prevent him.. What is so hard to do is to get thru some guys minds that there is such a big difference between that and BDSM. When I mention my interests they immediately think I love to be dominated and like pain. Personally I think that a girl who is a submissive or slave in a relationship has no spark no fire.. All Yes master no master,,, no big thrill there... BUT, struggling as you feel your body become more and more helpless.... wooohooo... So i guess the question is... Why do I have to explain over and over to guys, No NO it is not the same as BDSM and no I wont kneel ??? __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

01-03-2004, 07:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
tfin Insane Location: At the Casino	Depending on how you argue it there is a slight difference or no difference between some fun tieing up and BDSM. My personal position is that a little tieing up is fun and good. Having to be tied up or feel pain to get off is bad (well at least for me). I think you have to find the right person who understands the fine difference there is between what you like and hard core BDSM. __________________ Did I mention that I can't spell or type? Oh yeah, check out my car www.cardomain.com/member_pages/view_page.pl?page_id=275916

01-03-2004, 08:29 AM	#4 (permalink)
herostar Psycho Location: South Dakota	I like that, and an aggressive girl is the best... but not toooooooooo aggressive __________________ Got time to chill?

01-03-2004, 09:43 AM	#5 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	One word -- communication __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

01-03-2004, 12:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
strcrssd Insane Location: Rio Grande Valley, Texas	I'm kinda with jbrooks on this one. I'm not into BDSM more than the next guy (love bites can be fun, but I'm not particularly into anything much harder). But pure bound sex can be hot....I don't have to worry about the girl trying to recriprocate (sp?), just let her enjoy... __________________ "I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones." -- John Cage (1912 - 1992)

12-29-2003, 06:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	My wife and I don't do the bound thing very much, but she enjoys it, but for BDSM, no way. I know the difference, and I think since the over exposure of the Dominence thing, people do tend to think that being bound, leads into the rest of that. Just my observation.

01-03-2004, 10:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
slimcr Insane	Any girl with two back to back VVs in her name has my attention

01-03-2004, 10:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	Just tell the guy exactly what you like and don't like. If he doesn't "get it" then dope slap him for me. I completely understand what it is that you desire, because it is exactly one of my most turn-on kinks (from the guy's side). I love tying up a girl just to make her squirm and take more pleasure than she could otherwise. no pain or dominance - just because it feels good.

01-03-2004, 05:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	The sheer breadth of the spectrum of human kicks is one of the greatest things about us as a species. lurkette likes to be bound and spanked. I've got the sash from one of her silk bathrobes, and it's Much Fun to whip her with it and run it up and down her. That's about the extent of our play in that direction. We've got friends who are way deeper into it. One friend in particular basically has to experience some pain in order to get off. I don't know that they're such different things... I'd say it's more a matter of degree. Bound sex involves SOME dominance and submission.

01-03-2004, 05:27 PM	#10 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	I think that there's not a difference, it's just different levels. But any way you look at it, you shouldn't have to explain it over and over again. If the guy doesn't get it try this the next time: just tie him up, get him really hot, then bring out a whip. Smack him a couple of times and then ask him if he knows the difference yet. I bet he'll never be confused again. __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

01-03-2004, 11:32 PM	#11 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	BDSM is about dominance and submission. To engage in this type of relationship, you must have someone who wants to control, and one who wants to be controlled. Bondage alone is about trust. It requires a relationship in which the partners trust each other enough to give them full control during sex. It is very arousing to some people that their partner trusts them enough to be tied down and let the other person do what they want, trusting the other person to give as much pleasure as they recieve. The basic explanation is that BDSM is about receiving pleasure from dominance and submission, and Bondage is about receiving pleasure from trust. Anyone who can't understand that is probably too narrow-minded to have interest in a relatinoship involving either.