im2smrt4u

The whole waiting until marriage bit went out the window tonight. I'm still a little dazed. It doesn't seem real.

We were watching a movie and fooling around a bit. I started to finger her and she was really into it. After a bit, she looks at me and asks me if I want to try. I understood what she meant.

I got a condom on, looked her in the eye, and slid inside. It was amazing! It was the best damn feeling in my life! The condom sucked, but it still felt fantastic! I went for a little while and savored every moment.

Then, she asked me to stop. We had agreed that I would stop when she asked (and that I wouldn't cum inside her), but I didn't want to stop then. I asked her if we could go a little longer, and she agreed. A little later, she asked me to stop, and I did. It wasn't long, but it was the time of my life!

Of course, now for the fun part. Now she has to decide whether or not to tell her mom and get on birth control. We are both 19, and I'm sure we could get BC on our own, but she promised to talk to her mom before we did anything like that. On top of all that, we both live at home, and my parents want me to sell my van, so how are we ever going to have a chance to do anything, even if she is on birth control. She is nervous about being caught and all, so she wasn't all the way into it tonight.

We're both very confused...


Cliff's Notes:
1. We had sex.
2. It was good, but she was nervous.
3. Need to talk to parents for birth control.
4. Profit? We're still not sure...

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hu-man

Welcome to the wonderful world of sex!
You're both 19 years old, and thus old onough to make your own decisions. But if you have an agreement with her mom, that you should talk to her first, I think you should do just that. Have a meeting with her, under relaxed circumstances of course, and tell her that you're both grown very attached to each other and that you love each other very much. That should ease things in a little. Then tell her that you've discussed the matter between the two of you, and that you'd like to begin using birth control. I don't see why she shouldn't understand that, it's only a good thing that you worry about birth control. I say go for it, and be sure to have lots of fun!

Silvy

I can't offer any advice here. But I would like to congratulate you on having a relationship where you can take such a step in a way that is comfortable for you both.
It sounds like you really care for each other.

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Averett

It sounds like you're both being very mature about it. You showed a lot of respect for her and yourself as well. Its cool that she wants to talk to her mom about birth control, that just makes things better in the long run. I'm not sure how forward thinking both your parents are, but if you sit them down (hers and yours) and discuss things, you may be suprised at how cool they are. Some parents allow their kids girlfriend or boyfriend stay over, they feel comfortable since they know they are being safe.

I'm sure it won't be the most easy or comfortable conversation to have, but it might be a good thing to do.

Oh, and good job having a condom around even though you had planned on waiting.

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Mettler

Yeah that is actually quite impressive, for both of you to have a mature attitude about it.
Good on you, and I hope you guys end up trying out heaps of funky stuff

Zorvox

Sounds good that the two of you are taking steps and not just doing it for the sake of it being pleasurable/fun etc

Best of luck with future sex

Jesus Pimp

Congratulations dude! Welcome to the wonderful world of sex!

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absorbentishe

All kidding aside, it sounds like you both took a very mature approach to this step in your life. Sex is great, but it comes with a lot of responsibilities, and you've done/are doing the right things. If you talk with both sets of parents about BC, then they will know what is going to happen when they aren't there, and they may be a little less comfortable with either of you being there, by yourselves. Hotels/Motels will cost you a lot, and that's not the way to go. Moving out, just for sex, is not a good way to go either. Do what you can when you can, but communication is key, whether with her or your/her parents.

im2smrt4u

Thanks everyone.

Her mom is really cool. She knows we fool around. My g/f just isn't sure how she'd take it that we don't want to wait anymore.

It's only been 10 months (almost 11 actually), but I know I want to marry her, and I've told her that. I know we will work this out.

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Averett

She may take it hard, but she'll be glad at how responsible you are taking all of this.

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loganmule

You guys are way too young to be able to appreciate the enormous scope of a lifetime commitment ("one vagina for the rest of your life, way to think it through"...Vince Vaughn in Old School). On the other hand, it's the perfect time of life to enjoy sex, if done responsibly. Sex alone is way short of what you need to indefinitely sustain a relationship, but you can't really know enough about shared interests and values sufficient to sustain a relationship until you're sexed out, so to speak (which if memory serves, will take a good deal of time at your age). Your first is rarely your last, although it does happen once in a while. Good luck.

la petite moi

I think it's good if she gets on BC so that you guys can do it whenever you get the quick chance.

im2smrt4u

Not to sound naive, but I think this is one of those times.

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Plan9Senior

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Woody182

10 months, first time having sex, I'm sure it "feels right." Just stay smart which is appears you both have been so far and keep your head on straight.

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toxic515

At 19, I'd expect you to make your own decisions, but it's very cool to be respectful of the parents and all. It's not likely that her ma will wig out on you all, and if she does, then you do need to be mentally prepared for that.

Long and short of it is that it's happened. Virginity is a thing of the past, and you cannot ever go back. Your relationship MAY change some, it may not. I expect that it will intensify, if it is nurtured properly. Good luck, and keep us posted, since you drug us into it! <grin> that and ALL the TF'ers will wanna know!

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spived2

Good for you to last as long as you have so far. My hat off to you. Just make sure you be careful.

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im2smrt4u

Well,we've done it a few times since, and each time seems to be getting better. However, I don't think she is really enjoying herslef yet. She's told me that she is paranoid and feels guilty. I hope she talks to her mom soon. Once she is on birth control these problems should go away.

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Averett

It's not uncommon for a girl to feel guilty and nervous. you're right, once she's on birth control she'll feel better. Just be supportive and communicate with her. It sounds like you two have a good solid relationship

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im2smrt4u

We do. We talk a lot and communicate well, but it seems like it is hard for her to explain how she feels right now.

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ratbastid

While that's probably true, I don't think you should let that stop you from expressing and furthering that lifetime committment.

If I'd known, when I was 19, some of the hard times I'd go through in my relationship with lurkette, I would have gotten very VERY cold feet. And while I doubt I comprehended the "enormous scope" of such a committment at the time, I also had absolutely NO idea the joy and fulfillment and passion I'd experience. So I say it goes both ways.

Don't let people here or your friends or ANYBODY tell you you shouldn't be feeling about her the way you feel. They're coming from jealousy and cynicism. Wheras you're in love. I for one give you a STANDING OVATION for that. Good for you and congratulations.

im2smrt4u

Like I said above, it may not be common, but I feel this could be one of those times. She's given me her heart and soul over what is nearly a year. I don't think that should be taken lightly.

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analog

Congrats!! I'm proud you have condoms at the ready- just keep being safe, and welcome to the wonderful world of sex!