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dumbnutofak · 12-05-2003, 04:25 AM

.... Yea yea yea, I'm am SO full of questions right now. For those of you who know and who dont know, I broke up with my G/F then did some stuff and got her back....Anyways, I was hangin out @ her place tonight and we were talkin about sex and what not then outta the blue she was like if you just want sex say so, ill give it to you.

I told her I didn't want a **** buddy because people get hurt and I care for her more than just for sex. She was like if you say yes, that's fine, if you say no...that's fine.

What is that crap about? Can someone please help me.

Loup · 12-05-2003, 04:51 AM

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Originally posted by dumbnutofak
.... Yea yea yea, I'm am SO full of questions right now. For those of you who know and who dont know, I broke up with my G/F then did some stuff and got her back

You got her back - does that mean that you two are going out again? Because from what I am getting out of it, you are wondering why she offered to be fuck buddies - meaning you are not in a relationship, but would still be having sex. I assume that you guys are hanging out now, but not together. On that note, people (both male & female) do have wants and needs for sex. And after a breake up on good terms, the most comfortable person to 'hook up' with would be your ex. But if you are going to step into these waters, tread carefully - I was there with my most recent ex (she brought it up to be fuck buddies), but when I wanted it to stop as I was getting close to someone new, she didn't take it to well.
No matter how much understanding that you two have for your situation (we both agreed that this was a temp thing and meant nothing of us being back together), emotions will always run high when you are in this situation - if you want them to or not.

Zorvox · 12-05-2003, 05:45 AM

I guess it could mean, she doesn't want to be with you, but enjoys the sex?

Could mean several things, ask her straight up

vonstalhein · 12-05-2003, 06:04 AM

I think, in the nicest possible way, you might try asking her more than tfp'ers..? I'm aware of the irony. Alternatively, decide you not to take my first piece of advice, i'd hazard a guess and say it is just her way of trying to return to a normal routine.

Bloodslick · 12-05-2003, 06:11 AM

It's really a simple choice, in my mind.

If you want semi-regular sex, say yes. (She certainly does.)

If you don't want sex (or don't want sex with her), say no. She'll try to find it somewhere else.

Make a decision, then get back to us.

moonstrucksoul · 12-05-2003, 03:24 PM

i think your booty was called.

gduventree · 12-05-2003, 04:22 PM

I'm a little confused here.

You said you got your G/F back, right? So she's your girlfriend again, right? So what's wrong with having sex with your girlfriend?

Or are you guys just friends now?

chrisg299 · 12-05-2003, 05:28 PM

Blah my ex and i were 'friends with benefits' for a while after we broke up, it was fun and dandy at first until you realize it's your ex and it could always happen that because its your ex your feelings for them could pop right up again even if you don't necessarily want them to. it's risky but if the both of you are <i.positive</> that you won't have any feelings for one another if you do it then i say go for it big shooter

World's King · 12-05-2003, 05:48 PM

Oh... FUCK buddies.

I was lost as to what you were talking about in the title.

Seaver · 12-05-2003, 06:34 PM

The best sex I've ever had was with an ex post-relationship.

That being said it's not "making love" to both people. It turns out bad 90% of the time (I was lucky, we both just wanted the sex).

If you want the sex, go for it. Just remember, its just that... one person always starts thinking they're "together" again, and that never ends well.

dumbnutofak · 12-05-2003, 08:22 PM

I will have to talk to her more about it. I want sex, but not like that....we both think the world of each other.....but who knows, it's friday, im off of work and i cant get a hold of her....I'm going to a party to drink away my thoughts....

simplecyman · 12-06-2003, 12:26 AM

# of partners (sexual) divided by age, times months or years
(whichever is less) you've "been" together. figure this for both of you. if the difference is less than 100, you two are ideal, Get Serious! If the difference is greater than 100, you got yourself
an unattached willing partner. Call it what you like, we're all gonna burn in hell.

Lemmy Know

lightning · 12-15-2003, 10:31 AM

Whatever you decide you will almost certainly regret it later. Not wanting to do it, could be from not wanting to make the relationship seem cheap. However, cheap sex for the sake of sex happens in every relationship anyway. So the question is: do you want to regret doing something with her that you feel bad for, or wonder the rest of your life what would have happened if...?

water_boy1999 · 12-15-2003, 04:02 PM

It's kind of funny. I have broken up with women before and just wanted to be Fuck Buddies, but in the end it always got them hurt. I have had girls break up with me who only wanted to be Fuck Buddies, but I was the one who ended up getting hurt. Moral of the story: emotions run high when you are the one who wants to stay together in a relationship and the other person just wants to keep the sex alive.

If she is asking about being Fuck Buddies, chances are she only wants the sexual aspect in the relationship because you are the easiest source for her gratification.

jaker · 12-16-2003, 08:31 AM

bone her

hellasnow · 12-16-2003, 09:14 AM

ya what water_boy1999 said. i think he explains it very well

Iliftrocks · 12-16-2003, 12:25 PM

Get it booooeeeeyyyy!!!!!!!!!

Damn if all I had to do was ask........

imperfect_anya · 12-18-2003, 12:20 AM

I personally have not had such a buddy, but i can tell you what it like to be a spectator to such a situation. It seems like an ieal situation of just physical needs but then after a while one of the persons wants to stop but how does this person go about it? I mean do you just say I'm tired of having sex with you becasue you're boring now? Anyways, there are more complications to this type of agreement but why even get caught up in it?

soxsfans · 12-21-2003, 08:33 AM

Just do her!

12-05-2003, 04:25 AM	#1 (permalink)
dumbnutofak Crazy Location: Anchorage Alaska	** Buddies? .... Yea yea yea, I'm am SO full of questions right now. For those of you who know and who dont know, I broke up with my G/F then did some stuff and got her back....Anyways, I was hangin out @ her place tonight and we were talkin about sex and what not then outta the blue she was like if you just want sex say so, ill give it to you. I told her I didn't want a ** buddy because people get hurt and I care for her more than just for sex. She was like if you say yes, that's fine, if you say no...that's fine. What is that crap about? Can someone please help me. __________________ If a little knowledge is dangerous, where is a man who has so much as to be out of danger?

12-05-2003, 06:04 AM	#4 (permalink)
vonstalhein Insane Location: Where You Live.	I think, in the nicest possible way, you might try asking her more than tfp'ers..? I'm aware of the irony. Alternatively, decide you not to take my first piece of advice, i'd hazard a guess and say it is just her way of trying to return to a normal routine. __________________ No Win No Fee

12-05-2003, 03:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
moonstrucksoul hovering in the distance Location: the land of milk and honey	i think your booty was called. __________________ no signature required

12-05-2003, 05:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Oh... FUCK buddies. I was lost as to what you were talking about in the title. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

12-05-2003, 06:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	The best sex I've ever had was with an ex post-relationship. That being said it's not "making love" to both people. It turns out bad 90% of the time (I was lucky, we both just wanted the sex). If you want the sex, go for it. Just remember, its just that... one person always starts thinking they're "together" again, and that never ends well. __________________ "Smite the rocks with the rod of knowledge, and fountains of unstinted wealth will gush forth." - Ashbel Smith as he laid the first cornerstone of the University of Texas

12-05-2003, 05:45 AM	#3 (permalink)
Zorvox Crazy Location: Sydney, Australia	I guess it could mean, she doesn't want to be with you, but enjoys the sex? Could mean several things, ask her straight up

12-05-2003, 06:11 AM	#5 (permalink)
Bloodslick Loser Location: a darkened back alley	It's really a simple choice, in my mind. If you want semi-regular sex, say yes. (She certainly does.) If you don't want sex (or don't want sex with her), say no. She'll try to find it somewhere else. Make a decision, then get back to us.

12-05-2003, 04:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
gduventree Crazy Location: Vancouver	I'm a little confused here. You said you got your G/F back, right? So she's your girlfriend again, right? So what's wrong with having sex with your girlfriend? Or are you guys just friends now?

12-05-2003, 05:28 PM	#8 (permalink)
chrisg299 Tilted	Blah my ex and i were 'friends with benefits' for a while after we broke up, it was fun and dandy at first until you realize it's your ex and it could always happen that because its your ex your feelings for them could pop right up again even if you don't necessarily want them to. it's risky but if the both of you are <i.positive</> that you won't have any feelings for one another if you do it then i say go for it big shooter

12-05-2003, 08:22 PM	#11 (permalink)
dumbnutofak Crazy Location: Anchorage Alaska	I will have to talk to her more about it. I want sex, but not like that....we both think the world of each other.....but who knows, it's friday, im off of work and i cant get a hold of her....I'm going to a party to drink away my thoughts.... __________________ If a little knowledge is dangerous, where is a man who has so much as to be out of danger?

12-06-2003, 12:26 AM	#12 (permalink)
simplecyman Junkie Location: the back office	# of partners (sexual) divided by age, times months or years (whichever is less) you've "been" together. figure this for both of you. if the difference is less than 100, you two are ideal, Get Serious! If the difference is greater than 100, you got yourself an unattached willing partner. Call it what you like, we're all gonna burn in hell. Lemmy Know __________________ See and believe. Last edited by simplecyman; 12-06-2003 at 12:31 AM..

12-15-2003, 10:31 AM	#13 (permalink)
lightning Tilted Location: Texas	Whatever you decide you will almost certainly regret it later. Not wanting to do it, could be from not wanting to make the relationship seem cheap. However, cheap sex for the sake of sex happens in every relationship anyway. So the question is: do you want to regret doing something with her that you feel bad for, or wonder the rest of your life what would have happened if...?

12-15-2003, 04:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
water_boy1999 Fly em straight! Location: Above and Beyond	It's kind of funny. I have broken up with women before and just wanted to be Fuck Buddies, but in the end it always got them hurt. I have had girls break up with me who only wanted to be Fuck Buddies, but I was the one who ended up getting hurt. Moral of the story: emotions run high when you are the one who wants to stay together in a relationship and the other person just wants to keep the sex alive. If she is asking about being Fuck Buddies, chances are she only wants the sexual aspect in the relationship because you are the easiest source for her gratification. __________________ Doh!!!! -Homer Simpson Last edited by water_boy1999; 12-16-2003 at 10:42 AM..

12-16-2003, 09:14 AM	#16 (permalink)
hellasnow Insane	ya what water_boy1999 said. i think he explains it very well __________________ "when life looks like easy street..... theres danger at your door." (JG)

12-16-2003, 12:25 PM	#17 (permalink)
Iliftrocks Junkie Location: Near Raleigh, NC	Get it booooeeeeyyyy!!!!!!!!! Damn if all I had to do was ask........ __________________ bill hicks - "I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out."

12-21-2003, 08:33 AM	#19 (permalink)
soxsfans Junkie	Just do her!

12-18-2003, 12:20 AM	#18 (permalink)
imperfect_anya Upright Location: nowherespecial, ca	I personally have not had such a buddy, but i can tell you what it like to be a spectator to such a situation. It seems like an ieal situation of just physical needs but then after a while one of the persons wants to stop but how does this person go about it? I mean do you just say I'm tired of having sex with you becasue you're boring now? Anyways, there are more complications to this type of agreement but why even get caught up in it? __________________ Do you want me to tell you the truth or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear?