Prince

What's your policy on this? You're at the store or well, anywhere, with your GF/SO, and you see someone with...god...an amazing body, a hot ride indeed, do you look, or try not to notice at all? I live in a college town so I face this issue a lot.

I've gotten a couple of issues of my complimentary Maxim subscription, and my wife isn't too thrilled about it. She said the magazine BOTHERS her, even if she could not say why. She read some things from it and was like, is this how men really think? I would not subscribe to most of the things in that mag, but what can I say? After that I certainly do not feel comfortable even looking at other chicks when we're out and about.

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mb99usa

Wow...that sucks.

My wife is usually the one to get me my subscriptions to mags like that...She has purchased me Playboy, Details, and Razor in the past...as for checking people out while in public together we usually point them out to each other...no harm in looking and we get a better idea of what attracts each of us

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Redlemon

Well, I find Maxim rude as well, but on the other hand, my wife will point out women with great racks if I'm looking the other way.

I think that it all comes down to a level of comfort and trust. My wife knows that I am hers, and I'm not going anywhere. So, she doesn't see other women as a threat.

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Battlefield

Women know men think about that and think LIKE that. But they don't like to be reminded especially with pictures and articles about our dirty minds...kind of out of sight out of mind. And sometimes my gf will be checking out a hot looking girl so if I look to see what shes looking at she rags on me for drooling at other girls. Go figure.

spived2

The last few girls I dated were bi so they would usually point out the good looking chicks for me Can't complain about that.

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arch13

Exactly. i find it almost disconcerting when my SO keeps pestering me to tell her which girls on the street are sexy. She's constantly annoyed that i've gone many years without ever bothering to answer when she asks.

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I check out girls, and I have free subscriptions to Maxim AND Stuff Magazine. Litespeed doesn't usually catch me staring at other girls, and part of me is glad she doesn't, but what is a guy if he cant appreciate a nice body? She knows I'm faithful and that I love her body as it is, so there usually isn't any issue when the subject comes up. I mean.. I WORK FOR A PORN SITE! I see nudity, huge tits, bubble butts, washboard stomachs, wide spread and inviting pussy lips LIVE and IN PERSON... and at the end of the day, I go see my girl, and I am happy, turned on, and full of ideas. Would she have it any other way?

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Rubyee

I look at other girls with my boyfriend, and I don't care if he gets subscriptions. The thing about girls is that we are stupid. I will catch myself getting jealous over something that happened years before I even knew my boyfriend, and why? Because we are stupid and for years as the females of the species we have had it ingraned into our heads that someday our knight in shining armor will come for us. We don't like the idea of sharing our knight. I know that it is a stupid thought, that my boyfriend should have dated no one but me, but I can't control it.

However, when I do notice myself getting jealous or angry over something so stupid, I stop the thought and remind myself just how ridiculous it is.

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shileno

i try my best not to look..but sometimes i just cant help it

gduventree

Like other people have already said, it depends on your relationship.

The only reason I don't stare is so the woman I'm observing won't notice me. When I'm with my wife I will point out women I find particularly attractive and comment on what it is about her I find appealing. My wife will do the same for me, too. It's all in good fun as we both appreciate the female body. She knows I won't ever stray and the fact that I can share these thoughts freely with her is pretty cool in my opinion.

Holo

I've really toned down looking at others in public. She's a very jealous type and I figure I'm as close to fucking a porn pic model as the girl I'm ogling when she's looking elsewhere.

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present_future

I figure just because you've already ordered your meal, it doesn't mean you still can't look at the menu.

I don't think there's any real harm in looking, as long as at the end of the day, you're happy with what you have.

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taliendo

Like other's have said -- I've been with someone that we would go to somewhere and check out people together (we were both people watchers, its a fun sport.)

also been with a girl who was insanely jealous -- even when I wasn't looking at someone she thought I was. Needless to say that one didn't last long.

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skysooner

My wife only gets upset with it if I obviously stare. She has taught me the fine art of staring without really staring. We point out good looking girls and guys all the time. It is kind of fun actually.

SparklingDot

LoL. My boyfriend looks at cars the way other men look at women. I trust him, and often point women out. We disuss it, and learn more about what draws us to each other. Its fun. I think I just point out women because I can't appreciate the cars he ogles.

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JStrider

well in my most recent relationship we would both check out the girls... she wasnt bi just secure in the relationship/sexuality...
i definently like that over a girl who has a fit if you even look at another girl in a non checkout type of way...

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isandro

I discussed it with my girl a while ago and made sure she knows that just because I like the way a girl looks, doesn't mean I wanna do anything with her. We point them out to each other.
I just make sure I don't get too enthousiastic about commenting on a sexy butt or anything.

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uptown

There's nothing wrong with an admiring glance,commenting aloud about the woman's attributes or staring so hard that conversation between you and the woman you are with stops isn't cool.

ARTelevision

we3 often comment to each other on the people we see when we are together. When someone is noteworthy we note it.

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Wu Lung

My SO has great taste. She's the one that usually catches the real lookers and asks if she can take them home.

I'm a lucky man.

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I've always looked at other girls when I'ld be walking with my lady - Never oogle them, just 'check out'. It doesn't bother my current gf at all as she knows that no damage will come from just looking. Plus I'll pick up the Maxim style of magazine once and a while, no issues at all.
But a couple of ex's ago was painfully jealous if I would ever look anywhere but towards her all the time.

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Sho Nuff

I make it a point to look at other women when im out with my girl, especially if they are checking me out first. Keeps her in line. Reminds her that ive got other options too. She does the same thing. Keeps things interesting so neither of us start taking the other for granted.

Underneath it all though is a rock solid trust. If that trust werent there, the whole thing would backfire quickly.

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analog

My two previous girlfriends were both quite bisexual, and very much trusting and comfortable, so it was never an issue- if I saw a hot girl, i'd point her out- that is, if my g/f didn't beat me to it! lol

Cynthetiq

if I miss a girl in a thong or some hottie I'm grateful that my wife makes sure to point them out so that I don't miss them

of course an unattractive lady in a thong may be inadvertantly pointed out, but hey that the cost of getting the good stuff, gotta take the bad with the good.

i'm fortunate. at one point in time in my life my SO thought that even a passing glance was offensive and was me wanting to bolt from her. In hindsight, I see that she was very jealous and insecure. YMMV

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suviko

Hmm. I check out chicks with my bf and usually never notice any men unless they are really strikingly nice looking. Not model-like but somehow stand up from the masses in the public places. When I say "nice tits", my bf says "yeah/nah". When I say "nice biceps on that boy", he says "humph".

DEI37

Yeah, occasionally, we'll do that. It helps that we have the kind of marriage that we do, too. One of these times, maybe we'll bring a nice hottie home!

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Prince

It's really surprising to me that so many couples out there are so comfortable with the subject, I mean to the degree that the woman will point other hot women out to her SO. That's really splendid...

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uptown

Hey we understand that he needs to see those hot chicks so that he'll be able to think about them later in order to get enough of an erection to screw us.

SiN

erm....speak for yourself i guess.

and i'll speak for myself and say that i really don't have a problem with it so long as it's not 'obnoxious'. i trust him and our relationship, and i check out other chicks too.

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lurkette

I check out chicks with Ratbastid, and we used to read Playboy together (never read Maxim). He called me last week to tell me there was a hot naked chick in the apartments behind his office - I was jealous not because he was looking at a naked woman but because I wasn't there with him!!!

All of this is beside the point. How we react or don't react makes no difference - what's important is how your wife feels about it. If it makes her uncomfortable to see you checking out other women, then you shouldn't do it in a way that she notices. If she's uncomfortable with you reading Maxim, you should either work with her to make her feel better about it, or not get the magazine. Like it or not, fair or not, ogling other naked women is not a right of a married/committed men. Some men are lucky enough to have women who don't care, but you have to respect her boundaries.

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uptown

Anytime my man comes after me passionately I know that in a few hours he'll be commenting on some sexy chic he saw in some movie prior to putting the moves on me and from the timing and the comments made the origin of his desire becomes pretty clear.In fact,I'd say that actual desire for me probably sparks very few of our sexual encounters,I'm simply a stand in.

oblar

i look at other girls all the time.. I flat out tell my girlfriend who I find attractive, or if I don't find someone completely attractive, I tell her what I dont care for on the other person.

I agree with the others.. This is an issue of trust and comfort between the two of you. If you both don't mind talking about these things, and trust one another, then it just happens..

but, keep in mind.. Generally, women who don't mind you telling her who you find hot will also tell you who they find attractive... which I personally dont mind.. I actually find it amusing.

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well then get a new man.

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My wife is the best. She knows men are dogs and we are gonna sniff whatever attractive tail comes near. She also trusts me and knows I'm gonna look, dream, fantasize, but not touch.

She hasn't always been this way. When we were first married she didn't like my roving eye at all. It pissed her off. I guess her trust of me has grown.

In fact, once I came home from a business trip telling her about a woman who was coming on to me in a bar. My wife was happy for me. She seemed to think it was a big ego boost that I could use at the time.

This may be a little off topic, but I've had a few girlfriends who were crazy with jealousy. There was this one gf, for example, and we went to a Talking Heads concert together. We were very close to the stage in a small venue. The female member of the band, Tina Weymouth, began smiling, winking, and laughing in my direction. I loved it, but my gf was furious. It was so rediculous. What was I suppose to do? Not look at the band? My gf was a complete basket case. The rest of the concert was ruined.

Now my wife trusts me completely, and I have given her good reason to. I think that's the key. Also, girls, you need to know that guys will look and dream. It's simple biology.

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uptown

I would prefer that my man eats where he gets his appetite.That to me is far more honest and a lot less insulting than ogling at everything in a skirt and acting like you're making a huge sacrifice to remain faithful to me.

If you see a gal that excites you then feel free to persue her,come to me only when you want me,not just to screw me while wishing you were with somebody else.

juanvaldes

I point them out she points them out.

em1014

As far as mags go... I'm usually the first to get ahold of them when they come in the mail.

I don't mind my b/f looking at other girls. Unless I'm just in a horrible mood, I usually look with him. It's funny to see how our taste's differl

phyzix525

All the advice in the world is not going to change a thing. You can keep your eyes to yourself and never offend her and live a boring life like that and she would still accuse you of looking at the "hot girls" or you can do what you like and at the same time let her know that she is the hottest thing going. I would see a girl that was hot but had something wrong about her and I would comment that to my wife and tell her how dumb the girl looks (my wife and I are really mean to people we don't know) that may work for you so you can look and tell your wife/GF that she does not interest you. Also that can work against you if the chick is really hot and you think shes ugly and you wife/gf thinks she is not as hot as the other girl.....you know what its probably best for you to pluck out your eyes.

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WarWagon

LOL, my girlfriend actually left me at the mall once when I felt the urge to kiss a car that happened to be parked there. Talking about cars with her actually gets me in a sexually active mood, but anyways...

When we go out, sometimes I'll point out girls and she'll occasionally point out guys, and we'll both pretend to be jealous and make some sarcastic comment, but we're both very happy with what we've already got.

erion

I must have it good.

My wife occaisionally points out a good-looking woman to me!