aa1037

So I'm a freshman in college and I have a little crush on my RA (a junior). Last night, I was talking to her and I actually grew the courage tell her about it. She said that if I wasn't her resident (they have strict rules about this), she would definately highly consider me. She also said something to the effect of waiting until next year when I'm not her resident. She also gave the ol winky smiley. Satisfied me well enough

Do you guys think they should have rules against RA-resident dating? If you don't have an opinion, congratulate me on growing some balls! haha.

(PS - I'm not sure if this belongs in Sexuality)

Johnny Rotten

Yeah, they have to keep a distance with the personal life, mostly because of complications with conflict resolution. If you have a beef with your roommate or some other issue, your RA is obligated to approach the matter objectively.

Since it's just a crush, I wouldn't recommend moving somewhere else where she doesn't have any professional responsibilities about where you live.

And hey, congrats!

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aa1037

Oh no I would never move just so I could go out with her. There is always Sophomore year

Jaseca

Yeah, rules like that make perfect sense. Congrats on that man.

aa1037

thank you

RotEx

yeah, but man, were y ou drunk when you grew these balls? :P lol sometimes that tends to help.

and also... a girl telling you to wait till next year, probably isnt a good sign, but ehy maybe she might MEAN it! so good luck!

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vveronica

good for your balls.... Be proud and then go see if such a rule really exsists.

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analog

good ball-growing! congrats!

ubertuber

Yeah, from experience I can tell you that in 99% of cases those rules just get in the way. But 1% of the time - it can really save someone's ass. But that is her job, to set boundaries. For you though, congratulations on have so much courage! And don't be disheartened, there is always next year...

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Harshaw

Or say "Well sorry, its not my concern" and walk off.

Fucking RA's

/Rant

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aa1037

Yea maybe it doesn't exist and I'm good to go haha

aa1037

I think she really meant it because she had this vibe of really liking the idea but being restrained by the rules.

next year....

shalafimt

Nice work

1337haxor

congrats on your ball growing, only if i could get courage for things like you did.
good luck
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motdakasha

I wouldn't doubt it's a legitimate rule. They have rules like that for teachers, why not RAs?

Anyway, congratulations and good luck (with your Sophomore year).

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mydragonfido

Happy for you still think they should have the rules though.

aa1037

Yea now that I think about it, the RAs have to be objective or it defeats the purpose.