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Esen 11-21-2003 05:28 PM

Does sex ever = Love
 
Do you ever feel loved from someone because they have sex with you?

motdakasha 11-21-2003 05:44 PM

Just because I've had sex with him/her? No.

wilbjammin 11-21-2003 05:44 PM

Yes... though it wasn't just because of that, it was how it happened... *sigh*...

Was that stupid of me? I don't know...

That I haven't stopped thinking about it and haven't let it go - well, obviously it means a lot to me. This is why my new advice to myself is to take it slow... really slow.

taliendo 11-21-2003 09:04 PM

I've caught myself in the same query. I have to agree with wil -- "take it slow... really slow."

You'll never have to ask the question again.

Jonsgirl 11-21-2003 09:41 PM

In a marriage (or any serious relationship) sex can be a really intimate way of showing love.

For just some random, casual relationship, the answer is no. Or, at least, it should be.

skysooner 11-21-2003 09:49 PM

When I was younger, it seemed like love to me, but that was the old 2nd head doing the talking. Once you know what love is, sex with some random casual person or someone that you just like isn't even close to it.

Esen 11-22-2003 06:07 AM

just so ya know, i was just asking the question, im not actually in that situation, heh heh

vveronica 11-22-2003 06:10 AM

from love to sex yes.... from sex to love nope.. now you can go from sex to lust...
I have been inlove with guys who i did not love the first time i had sex, BUT, i did not fall inlove with them because of the sex....
If you could ohhh there was this one guy who could..... well ah... nevermind... hehehe

Shifter59 11-22-2003 08:16 AM

I recently broke up with my gf of two years, and i must say that, all of a sudden being able to have sex with random girls just isn't cutting it for me, it feels empty and nothing like it does with her, maybe that's just chemistry or something but i think that when you love someone, the sex will always be good

raeanna74 11-22-2003 04:42 PM

Sex alone does not equal love. Sometimes sex is an expression of love. It's all in how you do it. In a good, healthy, respectful way you can demostrate love. Sex never equates love.

OFKU0 11-22-2003 04:51 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by raeanna74
Sex never equates love.
I like to think sex is sex is sex. Whatever emotion I choose to feel is dictated by me for my sole value and enjoyment at that given time.

If I love someone and I fantasized about someone else, would I still not love them? Love is love and sex is sex. Love shouldn't get in the way of a good fuck.

sexymama 11-22-2003 07:26 PM

Sex does not equal love. However, wonderful intimate love making can cause me to feel stronger love toward my partner.

bermuDa 11-22-2003 07:38 PM

sex can precede love, but that does not mean it necessarily does.

orangeaidcow 11-23-2003 05:48 AM

I have found that for me sex is just so seperate unless it is the right person sex almost killed love for me in one relationship. it was so much on the sex that love (or whatever it was) was lost. that was with the only person i have been with and now i am just waiting to see if will have sex again until i get married at least

*Nikki* 11-23-2003 06:25 AM

I don't think you should have sex without love.

Every person I have had sex with love has been involved in some way. That doesn't always mean that the other person felt love for me back. I could never have meaningless sex and feel good about myself afterwards.

meff 11-23-2003 09:11 AM

I choose not to play around with the "Sex does not equal love" game.. it's just a personal choice, but when I have sex I have sex to feel the intimacy and love with my partner. Obviously your lifestyle will effect this opinion, it's just my personal opinion..

So to answer your question, yes.. Sex is Love. IMHO :)

FallenAvatar 11-23-2003 02:32 PM

Casual sex hasn't been something I've thought about for some while.. it really never was. Love is something I wanted and that doesn't exist in casual sex. Casual sex is just a feeling, where as love is more, a lot more.

Love is hard to find but it's worth the wait.. it really is. When you love someone considerably and you both work together and tend to each other intimately the sex can be better than anything rescieved casually. This does not mean casual sex is all bad, but I would say sex within love would almost always beat it.

I honestly don't know the answer to your question for everyone but for myself, it is a no. I make all the attempts I can to get to know the person I'm with. I try and get close to her before we are even intimate, I want to know what she wants. I want to see her for mind and goals, not just a beautiful body. Love is about trust. Sex without trust is just for a good time. Sex with love is something more.

Bloodslick 11-23-2003 02:59 PM

I've only had casual sex with two people. Every other time, the sex was the lead-in gateway from friendship to love. It was an act that marked the depth of the relationship and cemented its meaning. So, other than those two people, sex always has been love for me.


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