Totally different size problem - hers
 

Okay, I'm not John Holmes and I'm not Dirk Diggler. I'm perhaps a bit above average in length and normal in girth.

However, my wife appears to be small "inside." Is this normal? There are positions where if I do pretty much anything, it will hurt her.

Does anyone else have this "problem?" What have you done about it.

Thanks.

Lubrication helps a great deal. I'm not big--in fact, I'm small. My g/f and I had tried anal sex and that is about the same situation. Lubrication will prove helpful--try it.

My wife is abnormally small. In fact, it is basically impossible for her to give birth unless the baby was premature. However, lots and lots of foreplay helps and entering very slowly to begin with (even if she is turned on). I have been with girls in the past that sliding in from almost any position was a cinch, but with my wife, it has always been a chore. On the plus side though is that she is always tight and that is a great sensation.

I've been there too - some positions are just going to be non-starters.

All women are shaped differently in the vagnias. Actually, a large majority of women have tilted cervixes, which also can make them seem small. Just take it slow. I myself am small, and there are some positions that I have to take extremely slowly, but I think it makes it better.

Well, do you all have any suggestions for positions which might allow for deeper penetration for me and my wife? We are up for pretty much anything.

I am "small" inside and developed a tilted cervix after the birth of my daughter so some positions are extremely painful for me....doggy is completely out of the question...I find that me being on top allows for no pain and deep penetration....

Yeah. My wife had a child before me, so that might have something to do with it. However, and this may seem strange, she feels "nothing" if she is on top. Literally. The first time we had sex, she didn't know we were having sex at first because she was on top.

So, it is a depth and not girth issue? If she has no problem with your girth - not usually the problem - then can she take 5"? Did she usually used to be able to take it deeper? If she used to be able to take 7" depth and now can only take 4 or 5 (or less) then she maybe should see doctor. A normal, healthy vagina can come to "get used to" almost any human penis. Maybe if you got a dildo a little longer than you and slowly, gently worked it and pushed it slowly deeper and deeper, gently - then get her used to the depth. Then try your man- dil. Not easy to stretch depth when you are pounding like a jackhammer. If your penis is 10 inches and she can only take 7 or 8 then you should mabey just put a donut on it or something to stop it from going too far and hurting her b/c that would be "normal".

I'm not a gynacologist, but I play one on my wife...

Perhaps you can make her wear a large dildo all day to make her looser inside...

jk. Try to take it slow and use lots and lots of lube. Make sure she is not tense and ready for you. You don't want to surprise her and rip her apart in two!

Oh, I'm not 10". I think i'd have scared her off from the beginning.

The dildo is an idea, but she has this weird thing about her own sexuality. I think this is part of our problem.

I think part of it is the times that she has the greatest problems are when she isn't properly warmed up. Oh well.

Sadly, she doesn't feel anything with her on top, which tends to be my favorite position. Anything else?

You need to stop right here and examine what you just typed out. You need to warm her up. Good sex that is fun for both partners demands commitment. Get her as ready as she needs to be, get her warmed up. I'm sure that doing so will leave you very satisfied. Sex can be a game where only one person has fun.. or it can be magic that captivates both involved.

This is not to undermine you as her lover.. but I do wish you'd look over what you typed and think about it.

everyone is different. im 4'11 but have no problem handling the average guy.. NOOooo problem a alllllllllll hehehehee

I see your point. Often, I think that she is trying to make me feel good, to only give me attention. Those are usually the times when we have "trouble." I guess I get carried away by the attention and then I hit the troubled "spot."

I know you were coming down somewhat hard, your point is well taken.

I guess I sometimes feel limited, too. She has a jaw problem (TMJ) that makes oral sex nearly impossible for her (pain!) and is small inside. I've just never been in this situation before.

Thanks for the help and any further advice would be appreciated.

TMJ sucks. I have a friend with the condition who is a very sexual person, and has this entire area taken away from her. She's not happy about it.

As far as the smallness goes, as many others have said, lubrication is key. If you're not interested in using artificial lubrication, simply go down on her for a while. Things are usually pretty slick afterwards.

hehe I'd rather have too small than too big. Ever been with a girl where there's no uh "grip"?

Actually, most of the women I've been with were either early into their sex lives (I was their first or within their first 3) or kegelled. So I'm not used to no grip.

Too lose of a fit huh?

Heard of similar things ... use lube is all I would know to do. Wonder if there's an alternative that an ob/gyn could prescribe?

First I'd say get her ready... Then make her want it... I go down on my girl to get her to want it... But thats me. Good luck man.

with my last girlfriend i couldnt even stick my fucking finger in her without her squealing like a lamb.

Am I the only one who read that twice, and still thought Oedipus? Has she got any history to this condition, i.e. has it been ongoing her entire life? Perhaps a trip to the friendly neighbourhood gyno is in order.

Apparently I wasn't clear when I posted. My apologies. I seem to "hit" something when I go in deeply. This seems to also happen when we have sex with her on top.

So basically, doggy and her on top is out.

no your not the only one. :)

I've got the same problem but it doesn't seem to last very long when we start by lying down the both of us.. him on the top and entering me from behind :D

My advice is this: Plenty of lube and foreplay.

Here's the thing that's missing from the advice given so far.

GET THAT GIRL TO AN OBJ/GYN!@!!$#

There might be something going on other than size. I posted a long thing about a condition that my girlfriend has a while back. Search this forum for "Painful sex"

Seriously. It could be something that neads treatment. Lube doesn't fix every sex problem.

One word. Alcohol.

I'm small too inside, and my bf sometimes tears me which can really put a damper on the situation. I found that with extra foreplay and oral before the main act, (and plenty of lube), makes it better. But usually I am still sore afterwards, so I'll just pop a couple aspirin and it helps too.

suppose female zebras ever have this problem?

Use foreplay and lubricant it always is a plus.

If your girlie is build small, basically the previous advice: making sure she is "prepared" and properly aroused and starting in another position are good, and here's why. Basically, during sex, slightly after initial arousal, during the "plateau" phase, the vagina actually expands right around the certix, extending the depth by quite a bit. You and others mentioned some psychological factors as well, which should be explored, and none of us know her as well as you. ^_~