proposing--how or how do you want to
 

I have always found it interesting the ways guys ask the "big" question to their girlfriend or finacee(some instances vice versa). To those people who are married or engaged, could you share your scenario of what transpired that unforgettable day or the plans of what you want to do.

Well, I have not yet done it, but the plan is this:

Six years ago on Nov 20/21 we met. This year on either the 20th or the 21st we will go to dinner in NYC, see a Broadway play, and, after the play, take a carriage ride through the theatre district and into Central Park. On the carriage ride I will propose.

That sounds nice and romantic Onetime. How could she say no in that situation? Best of luck.......

I took my wife out to a nice dinner, and then propopsed to her as the sun set over the Gulf of Mexico.

Make sure it's romantic. Just do something fun and romantic. Don't be one of those guys who proposes on the screen at the Alabama-Auburn game.

I asked Mrs. Block to marry me at a small candlelit restaurant over looking the scenic Cape Fear River. Seemed romantic at the time. She thought so anyway.


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First off, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter how you propose: if she wants to marry you, she will say yes.

Now that that part of the pressure is off, you might as well make it fun. Since you are planning on proposing, you must know her pretty well. You know what she finds fun, what she likes, how much pampering she needs. Match the proposal to her specificially, and it will work.

I proposed knee-deep in the ocean (without the ring) at the beach where she grew up. My buddy did the full limo, dinner, dozen roses, and ring hidden in the dessert. It all depends on the woman.

And, of course, all of her friends will be asking her how you proposed, so don't do something crude like hanging the ring off of your dick. That's hard to re-tell to her parents.

I had moved away to start a job in New Orleans. We had definitely talked about marriage in the past, but I wanted to be sure about it. I waited until 3 weeks after I moved away and had had a chance to go out to some clubs in N.O. I knew for sure at that time that is wasn't just heavy infatuation and that I wanted to spend my life with her. When she was down for a trip the next weekend, I popped the question in my apartment. It wasn't really romantic or anything. We even went out together and picked out her ring.

I did it on Christmas Eve - we were home, opening presents, with some champagne and hors d`deuvres. I did it the old fashioned way - got on one knee, opened the box, and asked her if she would do me the honor of growing old with me.

Do it at Universal Studios on the Jaws ride just as Jaws pops out of the water. How romantic. ;)

Seriously though, I did it this past March in the Flordia Keys on a private beach on the Atlantic Ocean side at Sunset. It was awesome.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Jedbeck
[B]Do it at Universal Studios on the Jaws ride just as Jaws pops out of the water. How romantic. ;)


Haha- that's such a great movie.

I heard of one that was just $$.

Had a camera set up on a tripod and set to delay picture (5 seconds or whatever). Runs over to get in the picture but insted pops down on one knee and proposes. Gets a picture of the girls reaction.

Not necessarily romantic, but...

She had given me an ad of the exact ring she wanted months earlier. I got the ring and kept the ad. I was over her parents place and "realized" that I had the ad in my pocket and I asked her if she wanted it back. Of course she said no, so my response was "I guess you want the real thing." So I reached into my other pocket and pulled out the box with the ring and got on one knee and I said "So, are you going to marry me?"

The best part came next. Her father had just gone upstairs to go to bed (early to bed type). So she calls up to him and says to come down. He grumpily asks why, and she says to just come. So he comes down in just his boxers and with his teeth already out and asks what's going on. She shows him the ring, he's happy, yadda yadda yadda. Unfortunately that is the image that stands out the most from the event.

MAN, that is smooth. You really have to practice to get the timing right on that one!

My wife thought I was going to propose to her around Christmas after we had been dating for about three years. I didn't like that idea so I went ahead and bought her a ring in October, closer to the date we started dating. I took her to the "swan ride" (a swan shape boat that you peddle-paddle on a lake here in town), she always wanted to do that. I asked her, she was amazed and when she went to put the ring on, she dropped it...I heard it hit the dock and then nothing. I just knew it went into the lake and I was going to take a swim. Luckily, it landed in a crack on the dock...and we are living happily ever after.

Nice one RHix; fortunately, the duck pond is pretty shallow!

All her family comes together early in December to celebrate Christmas. Part of the celebration is everyone sharing something: A song, a talent, a book they read ... just something. I wrote a short paragraph about the greatest gift anyone gave to me: My mom gave me life ... then I explained that it's not a good gift unless you share it, so I got down on one knee and asked her to share her life with me.

I planned on asking Christmas Day last year.....unfortunately the ring didn't get back from sizing on time so she was royally pissed at me when she didn't get anything for Christmas. The next day I had to work until 11:00 but when I got home she was still up and wanting to find out why she didn't get a present(she got me an xbox and a ton of other stuff) As she asked I got down on one knee and asked. She cried, said yes and we get married in 7 months.

i like it

Well, when I popped the question, I had 2 plans on how and when. First, this might be a little long... our zoo has a big display of lights, I planned on taking her there, and in a romantic place, asking her, but... it was so frickin cold from the start in mid november to jan 2, that we never went. Plan 2. it was New Year's eve, and we were partying (well, she wasn't, she was pregnant), and right before midnight, I asked, of course the answer was yes, which then lead us to bring in the year on a really good note.

LMAO... I thought this was another "controlling your boner" thread when I saw the title.

Anyhow, I haven't ever proposed to a girl, having yet to find "the" girl, but there are some awesome stories in here, best of luck to you all!

Um....heh...*blushes*...I proposed to him over the phone after some really great phone sex. We hadn't even met in person yet, just had chatted online and on the phone. After we met, he proposed to me. So we've both asked each other. :)

So you guys met online and now are getting married. How did you know he was the one for you from just by talking. Also what was it like meeting him for the first time knowing you had all these emotions for him and each other.

Yeah thats what im saying. How could you be ready to spend the rest of you life with someone if you have never met them?

If the person you are asking says "no", can you still stay in the relationship? Or is it a relationship killer.

It would sure be a blow to the relationship.

Oh its possible, I am currently in the same boat. After awhile of chatting and talking, it becomes way more,in terms of relationship, than the physicality of it all. You fall in love with the person thats inside and their personality. It is also impossible to deny the connection you have with the person you met online. The whole thing just feels more than right. When it comes down to it, after 30 some odd years of marriage. How does the relationship ultimately keep on going? I know I know you are thinking some great mind blowing sex would help. I am sure it would but to me its all about the mental connection and mental interaction(how you guys get along or flow with each other) with your husband or wife. Online it is easy to gauge or determine that factor by talking for a period of time. Seeee? Thats how................

When I saw the title, I thought this thread was about virginity!

I'm glad I wasn't the only one!

I thought it was about getting a boner!!!!!!!!!

I'm disappointed it's not about pimples.

But wouldent you want to phyisically desire the person as well as mentally? To me, it would seem like there are millions (literally) of girls out there that you could fall in love with that both satisfy you mentally AND physically. It seems like settling to only get only one of the two.

Liking the person physcially, is definitely part of it too. I am just saying overall the mental connection, to me, is bigger to me than the physical. You just feel it and know its right. As for the ultimate partner in life, you dont just settle for the person just because of their mind. It should be completely willing and unforced. If you feel like you are "settling" and not completey satisfied, then thats not fair to you or your partner.(btw my girl is hott too--oh yeah)

I did it on her birthday. We parked at the spot I first told her I loved her. I had the ring in my coat pocket and she kept hugging me. I was freaking out that she'd discover it. I had already showed the ring to her family before we left the house. She had NO idea.

I told her she was gonna kill me for what I got her. I went to the trunk of my car, feigning I was getting something out of it. I got back in the car and said, "I have something to ask you. You know, this is the first spot I told you I loved you. I hope you're not disappointed in what I got you." I reached into my pocket, pulled out the ring and asked her to marry me. Her jaw worked up and down, up and down for a second or two and then she said yes.

It was quite cool. She was totally surprised. She thought I had bought her another stuffed animal.

I thought this was a thread about asking THE big question...Do you take it up the arse? Whoops, sorry!!

I proposed to my my wife this past Christmas. I took one of those cheesy romance novels (you know the kind I'm talking about, with the man holding the woman, gazing longingly into each others eyes) and replaced the faces with my wifes and my own. Then I used a utility knife to cut a hole in the pages of the book, and that is where the ring went. Next, I used some ribbon and some brass fasteners to clasp the book shut. Finally, the book was wrapped and I had her open it along with the rest of our presents on Christmas eve :) When I asked her if she would marry me, she asnwered "Well duh!"

hahah yea i had a lot of ideas about what this thread was but marriage was not one of them. I'm only 18 and in college so I can't share any moments like this but I

Sorry to mislead all you guys(lol). I will think harder about the title next time.

On our 6 month anniversary dating, I took my current fiance' to the restaurant where we had our first date. I had made arrangements with the restaurant previously to have the same table and help me with my plan. I had two dozen roses waiting on the table when we arrived. As the meal progressed I had a dozen roses delivered at intervals throughout the meal until we had six dozen red roses at our table. Six month anniversary, six dozen roses, you get it. Then after we had all six dozen I got down on one knee (everyone in the restaurant was watching at this point, I think the roses tipped them off) and told her "I know you love jewelry, rings in particular. If you'll let me I'd like to give you one more. I love you more than anyone on earth, will you marry me?" Then presented her with the ring. There was what felt like an impossibly long pause without reply (hoo did I start to sweat!) then she told me she loved me more than she thought was possible and that yes she would marry me. Everyone in the restaurant applauded, she got a little teary and I slowly came down from what I thought was sure to be a cardiac incident. We celebrated, we went home, we made love. All in all a terrific night.
Now we are planning the wedding.

Ours - Hubby took me out to dinner. Had the ring box in the door pocket of his car. Afterwards we drove up to the top of Rib "Mountain" (we don't have real Mountains in Wis- it's just a really high hill and state park) and stopped to talk. It was so foggy out that you could not see anything around the car. HUbby wanted to climb the tower up there but I was afraid we'd get lost and it was chilly so I said no. We got back in the car and he turned on the lights, pulled out the box and simply said "Will you marry me. We didn't even plan it but realized a year after getting married that we'd honeymooned at a place on that same "Mountain". I'll never forget how foggy it was and secluded it felt.

My sister-in-laws was interesting - Her then boyfriend took her out in a canoe (they were always doing outdoor sports together) and once they were out in the middle of a lake he pulled out a box with a ring in it. He proposed and then when he went to take the ring out of the box and to put it on her finger he dropped it purposely into the lake. She freaked out and started crying and told him it was ok she didn't need a ring. Then he pulled out a real one and explained that the first one was just a cracker-jack kind. She was so relieved and they got a good laugh. Also gave them a funny story to tell others later too.

Wow, you guys have put me to shame. I guess I'm not really the romantic type compared to the rest of you, but I've never wanted to make a big deal of it. I think my girl's the same way as well (just need to work up the nerve to actually do it.) I'd like to be on a trip or something and do a spur-of-the-moment type deal. Perhaps be driving around, pop the question, and drive to a tiny little chapel in the mountains out here and get married. Who knows if that'll go over well or not...