dry humping... Does it weird you out if he cums? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 10:27 AM

This happened a long while ago. But it sometimes pops up in my mind.
I was on a second date with a guy I really liked... We went back to my place, started necking and it got somewhat passionate. I could feel his cock really hard rubbing on my leg. I sorta waited and waited for him to even make a move to take off my blouse or something. he never did.
After many minutes of kissing, I felt a spot on my leg thru my jeans get wet. We broke the embrace and he had cum.. His pants clearly had a spot on them and I know he knew I knew as I had a wet spot on my leg. This was very very awkward.

I would have gone farther, but, I could not get him to take the hint. I know he was shy and I could have started, but, geeeshhh the mood was completely destroyed when this happened. I know he was embarrassed and he left very shortly.. The more I thought about it the more weirded out I got... He asked me out a couple of times, but, never said yes again... I know I prolly hurt him but man I got weirded..

Was I right or wrong? this ever happen to anyone else? is it just to weird?

Jim Kata · 11-13-2003, 10:40 AM

I hate to say this...but he would of probably been a weak lay anyways.
If dry humping made him finish, imagine how fast his fishies would of went swimming if his cockler was inside a vajayjay. Unless it was a florida style lapdance...those can make you cum in your pants...or almost at least.
If you were looking for a relationship...I would say it sucks for him that he couldn't have a second chance. If you just wanted to mess around....than I wouldn't give it a second thought.
I've never fully 'gasmed while dry humping but i've had a lot of precum leave big spots on my pants. That may have been the case with him...but I dunno.
And I don't think there is anything weird about it...maybe he needed a fine woman such as yourself to teach him the ways of a good ole fashioned fucking so that problem never occured again.

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 10:44 AM

thanks sweetieee smoochiessss.. It was deffinately enough of a spot to be cum... I think your right he probably was a bit inexperienced but boy he could kiss well...

skinbag · 11-13-2003, 10:49 AM

Maybe if he got some for awhile his endurance would have improved. If anyone ever needed a blow before sex, it was him.

skysooner · 11-13-2003, 11:19 AM

Was he possibly a virgin? I know that before I started having sex, I had no clue how far I could go with a girl. I had no idea what the boundaries were since I hadn't experienced it. I could get off at the drop of a hat on dry humping if I wasn't sure I was going to get sex. It felt good, so I would go for it. My wife was a virgin prior to our getting married, and she experienced her first orgasm through dry humping. It was something we did for each other since we weren't going to have intercourse. I suspect he is just inexperienced. If you liked him, why not talk to him about it? I always hated it when someone broke it off for what appeared to me to be absolutely no reason. Is it strange, yes. Is it wrong, absolutely no.

twotimesadingo · 11-13-2003, 11:22 AM

i consider myself fairly "experienced," and i know for a fact that a good dry-humping can get me really, really damned close to mobilizing the small soldiers...

perhaps some of you have forgotten how much more sex -- or any physical interaction -- is than mere physical stimulation. dry-humping, like actual intercourse, has ocular, olfactory, audio, and tactile sensations. and most importantly, it has a(n) emotional/mental amplifier.
vveronica, imagine this guy really liked you (as one can divine by his continued attempts at a second date). for him, it wasn't just a meaningless, one night thing. there is the distinct possibility that he had a jones for you for weeks, finally scored a date, and the immensity of the situation merely caused heightened sensation.
i know for a God-given fact that if the girl i've been crushing on for the past few weeks took me home and proceeded to make-out with me, then crawled into my lap and gave me a "florida-style" (credit to Jim Kata for this great phrase) dry-hump, i'd be finished in seconds. why? because it's more than just gyrating hips; it's the feel of her hair, it's the smell of her skin, it's the mischievous twinkle in her azure eyes...

give the poor man some credit.

World's King · 11-13-2003, 11:58 AM

I haven't laughed this hard in months.

santafe5000 · 11-13-2003, 12:13 PM

Suppose some people take less stimulation than other's and sound's like he didn't need much. Or maybe you were such a fine fox that he couldn't help himself. If he was young and inexperienced, maybe his first orgasm with a female in close proximity, don't fault him for that. After his first misfire, he could have gone on all nite. never know?

visotech · 11-13-2003, 12:40 PM

Hah and i was complaining about not being able to come during sex, i guess some people have it worse.

Jim Kata · 11-13-2003, 12:50 PM

I try not to even complain about sex...I'm just happy to be getting some....even though its like 2 times a week (if I'm lucky)...damn you mrs. kata!!! damn you and your diminishing libido!!!! NOT that I'm complaining or anything.

blade02 · 11-13-2003, 01:10 PM

I'd say theres nothing wrong with cumming from dry humping... for awhile before my g/f and i were having sex, we had the most awesome make out sessions....we had decided not to have sex, but we couldnt keep our hands off each other. It would always end with her grinding on me until i was done.

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 01:12 PM

No he was not a virgin. I me we had not had sex but I knew a friend he dated and they had sex... As far as i know this had not happened to her... I did not tell her what he did I did not want to hurt him..

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 01:14 PM

oh and it is not that im so hot he could not hold it... it would be nice to think that but i'm not kidding myself.

Jim Kata · 11-13-2003, 01:14 PM

I did once make the mistake of dry humping with jeans on....and no boxers....i'll leave it at that.

yournamehere · 11-13-2003, 01:18 PM

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Originally posted by vveronica
oh and it is not that im so hot he could not hold it... it would be nice to think that but i'm not kidding myself.

Don't sell yourself short - now you know why the Midas touch was a curse

All hail <b>vveronica</b>, the Queen Midas of foreplay!

bender · 11-13-2003, 01:36 PM

I thought that rug burn on the elbows or knees was bad but this very well could take the cake.

Jedbeck · 11-13-2003, 01:44 PM

MMMM fond memories of dry humping.

In high school my ex-girlfriend and I would rush home from places to have some alone time before the parents got home. We would almost always end up making out and dry humping for as long as we possibly could. However I don't remember ever cumming from dry humping, but I know a friends sister who dated a guy that had cum from dry humping. We teased that guy forever about it.

Ahhhh the memories.

spived2 · 11-13-2003, 01:58 PM

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Originally posted by vveronica
oh and it is not that im so hot he could not hold it... it would be nice to think that but i'm not kidding myself.

Don't be so sure

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and to him you could have been the most gorgeous creature on earth, maybe if only for those moments you two were intimate.

twotimesadingo was right. What happened to the guy you were with was more of a mental thing. With a girl he likes, the thrill of the possiblity of sex on the horizon, the feeling of being so close to actual sex while still clothed, are all factors that played into it. Be proud you were able to make him feel that way.

Chuckles · 11-13-2003, 02:29 PM

whats a "florida style" lapdance? :P

Dano069 · 11-13-2003, 02:47 PM

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Originally posted by vveronica

After many minutes of kissing, I felt a spot on my leg thru my jeans get wet. We broke the embrace and he had cum.. His pants clearly had a spot on them and I know he knew I knew as I had a wet spot on my leg. This was very very awkward.

OMG! Was that you?!?!?!?!

Only kidding. My first "real" girlfriend used to get me to cum in my jeans too, usually by rubbing me off. But we dated more than once, so, it couldn't be you. Seriously though, my wife couldn't believe I didn't try anything with her for a few weeks when we first started dating. Some of us need help.

Help us, PLEASE!

Corneo · 11-13-2003, 02:50 PM

You must be a goddess to be able to make him cum with his jeans on and nothing more then necking. That or this guy was very quick.

KnifeMissile · 11-13-2003, 03:03 PM

I would say that you seem overly senstive to me except that I really don't see anything to be sensitive about! Something as small and trivial as this weirded you out so much that you let yourself hurt him?

The fact that you were so weirded is weird...

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 03:08 PM

blushing....... not saying im an uggo but, im not that hot. I will say he was great with his lips and tongue... I still wonder what that tongue could have done elsewhere...... hehehehehhe

Averett · 11-13-2003, 03:13 PM

Why didn't you just make a move on him in the first place? Instead of throwing out hints and hoping that he'd catch on?

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 03:18 PM

I did initially I invited him to my place and snuggled up next to him on the couch ... i thought he was going to take the lead.. I sorta wanted to have him go farher.. I figured he was going to but, then the squirting happened.. it was a bit of a mood kill.

Trust me now adays i would have

oberon · 11-13-2003, 05:42 PM

I dunno... it's hard to tell when someone just wants to be close or if they want some lovin'.

There is sometimes a big price to pay if you think it's the latter when it's really the former...

Plan9Senior · 11-13-2003, 05:47 PM

I have never heard of a guy cumming from "dry humpin". What a comical situation to be in, almost seems like something out of a movie

legolas · 11-13-2003, 06:00 PM

If it gets really rough or something maybe it's possible. Maybe he has like silk boxers on and it was juuuuuuust the right spot. Who knows.

motdakasha · 11-13-2003, 06:32 PM

Sounds like a developing/borderline frotteur. It sounds intentional since he made no other advances and that you mentioned he's not a virgin.

http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3439.htm
The DSM-IV lists the following diagnostic criteria for frotteurism:

The patient experiences intense, recurrent, sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving touching and rubbing against a nonconsensual person. Symptoms must be present for at least 6 months.

The patient experiences significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning because of the fantasies, urges, or behaviors; or the patient has acted on the sexual urges.

Frotteurs typically act out their fantasies in crowded places (eg, public transportation vehicles, busy sidewalks), which allows for escape; the frotteur can claim that the touching was accidental. The frotteur rubs his genital area against the (usually female) victim's thighs or buttocks, or the frotteur fondles a woman?s genitalia or breasts with his hands. While committing the act, the offender typically fantasizes about an exclusive, caring relationship with the victim.

Most acts occur in perpetrators aged 15-25 years, after which frequency gradually declines. Frotteurism has been noted to be equally common among older, shy, inhibited individuals. Fantasies of frotteuristic behavior without action have been reported as a stimulant to sexual arousal.

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I've read of cases of frotteurs who would use inanimate objects as masturbatory aids by rubbing up against them. So, while the typical frotteur does it in public/crowds with people, it varies.

Anomaly_ · 11-13-2003, 07:02 PM

No offense motdakasha, but I think you're reading way too much into it. Is it really that shocking that a male would ejaculate after stimulation, even if through clothing? This just doesn't seem like a big deal.

Jim Kata · 11-13-2003, 07:58 PM

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Originally posted by Chuckles
whats a "florida style" lapdance? :P

Some of the titty bars in Florida have lap dances where the girls are nekkid, and basically fuck you with only your pants seperating your penis and her hoohoo. You would probably have to experience it to understand what I'm talking about.

stingc · 11-13-2003, 08:03 PM

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Originally posted by vveronica
blushing....... not saying im an uggo but, im not that hot.

Apparently you don't understand men too well. If a guy is really into you, objective looks hardly matter. You may be the most beautiful thing in world to him irregardless of what the average person may think of you. The reasons he feels how he does don't have to make any sense either.

Sleepyjack · 11-13-2003, 08:08 PM

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vveronica said
blushing....... not saying im an uggo but, im not that hot.

i beg to differ

As for dry humping, i haven't really done this thing since high school, although it happens all the time whilst dancing with a chick. ie crotch grinding against their butt or themselves somehow. I've never really thought i'd cum from it, but it definitely gets me very excited for things to follow.

ANyway, as long as it didn't just stop right there (like he went home stratight after) and more things i wouldn't thought it cause too much wierdness.

SiNai · 11-13-2003, 08:09 PM

Not at all how I expected people to reply..

I'm going on a year with my girl and I can still make her cum in her pants from dry-humping with a few smooches on the boobses. I've never had a soft spot for rubbing, though- but if I did I wouldn't be ashamed at all if my girlfriend could make me go in my pants.

I definitely don't think it's a weird thing, at the least it's one hell of a compliment to you- I always enjoyed knowing my girl could get off from what I was doing to her..

OFKU0 · 11-13-2003, 08:44 PM

Wow, if a guy is coming in his pants even before he takes them off well then, fuck, you must be a sweet piece off ass.

Sleepyjack · 11-13-2003, 08:52 PM

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OFKU0 said
Wow, if a guy is coming in his pants even before he takes them off well then, fuck, you must be a sweet piece off ass.

Although it's incredibly hypercritical of me, i don't think it's too appropriate to reduce girls just to that. Also, you could've rephrased the way in which you were commenting. "sweet piece of ass", sometimes a complement can be offensive?

motdakasha · 11-13-2003, 08:58 PM

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Originally posted by Anomaly_
Is it really that shocking that a male would ejaculate after stimulation, even if through clothing?

My retort: Is it really shocking that sexual deviation would be uncommon and unusual?

It's pretty safe to say that frotteurism is about the same in frequency as exhibitionism since they are both classified as criminal paraphilias. But I don't think it's as common as masochism. (All three are paraphilias.) She noted it made her feel weird, so I was reminded of this paraphilia. I was expanding on the possibilities of what it could be. All of the other options mentioned above are likely, but no one mentioned this.

stingc · 11-13-2003, 09:14 PM

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Originally posted by motdakasha
The patient experiences intense, recurrent, sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving touching and rubbing against a nonconsensual person. Symptoms must be present for at least 6 months.

vveronica sounded pretty consensual to me. I think you're reading too many psych books. There's a big difference between compulsively brushing against girls "by accident" and enjoying (maybe a little more than usual) making out with someone.

motdakasha · 11-13-2003, 09:20 PM

Jesus H Christ on a fucking pogo stick. Look, I'm just saying it's POSSIBLE, I'm not saying that's the reason he did it. Please note that in my original post, I didn't suggest he was a full-blown frotteur. I said "a developing/borderline frotteur." None of us know the answer, so how do you know I'm wrong because that is the signal you guys are sending by saying I'm reading too much into this. Where is your proof that this is not a valid possibility? Does she know 100% that he hasn't dry humped other girls for 6 or months? Or if he's grabbed women in crowded places? You don't know that. I don't know that. I doubt even vveronica knows that.

And also, I think you guys are totally misinterpreting paraphilia. Not all paraphilias are nonconsensual, but some can be.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilia

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Although homosexuality was once considered to be a paraphilia, it is not usually regarded as such any longer. Similarly, consensual sadomasochism, exhibitionism, voyeurism and non-psychotic forms of fetishism, urolagnia and even coprophilia are increasingly becoming culturally acceptable forms of sexuality.

stingc · 11-13-2003, 09:48 PM

I was just saying that the symptoms you listed had very little to do with what was posted. Sure he could be what you suggest. He could also have red hair.

I thought your link was interesting though. Some of those things are vaguely understandable, but then there's stuff like dendrophilia. WTF??

11-13-2003, 10:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	dry humping... Does it weird you out if he cums? This happened a long while ago. But it sometimes pops up in my mind. I was on a second date with a guy I really liked... We went back to my place, started necking and it got somewhat passionate. I could feel his cock really hard rubbing on my leg. I sorta waited and waited for him to even make a move to take off my blouse or something. he never did. After many minutes of kissing, I felt a spot on my leg thru my jeans get wet. We broke the embrace and he had cum.. His pants clearly had a spot on them and I know he knew I knew as I had a wet spot on my leg. This was very very awkward. I would have gone farther, but, I could not get him to take the hint. I know he was shy and I could have started, but, geeeshhh the mood was completely destroyed when this happened. I know he was embarrassed and he left very shortly.. The more I thought about it the more weirded out I got... He asked me out a couple of times, but, never said yes again... I know I prolly hurt him but man I got weirded.. Was I right or wrong? this ever happen to anyone else? is it just to weird? __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 10:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	I hate to say this...but he would of probably been a weak lay anyways. If dry humping made him finish, imagine how fast his fishies would of went swimming if his cockler was inside a vajayjay. Unless it was a florida style lapdance...those can make you cum in your pants...or almost at least. If you were looking for a relationship...I would say it sucks for him that he couldn't have a second chance. If you just wanted to mess around....than I wouldn't give it a second thought. I've never fully 'gasmed while dry humping but i've had a lot of precum leave big spots on my pants. That may have been the case with him...but I dunno. And I don't think there is anything weird about it...maybe he needed a fine woman such as yourself to teach him the ways of a good ole fashioned fucking so that problem never occured again. Last edited by Jim Kata; 11-13-2003 at 10:43 AM..

11-13-2003, 10:44 AM	#3 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	thanks sweetieee smoochiessss.. It was deffinately enough of a spot to be cum... I think your right he probably was a bit inexperienced but boy he could kiss well... __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 11:22 AM	#6 (permalink)
twotimesadingo Psycho Location: that place with the thing	i consider myself fairly "experienced," and i know for a fact that a good dry-humping can get me really, really damned close to mobilizing the small soldiers... perhaps some of you have forgotten how much more sex -- or any physical interaction -- is than mere physical stimulation. dry-humping, like actual intercourse, has ocular, olfactory, audio, and tactile sensations. and most importantly, it has a(n) emotional/mental amplifier. vveronica, imagine this guy really liked you (as one can divine by his continued attempts at a second date). for him, it wasn't just a meaningless, one night thing. there is the distinct possibility that he had a jones for you for weeks, finally scored a date, and the immensity of the situation merely caused heightened sensation. i know for a God-given fact that if the girl i've been crushing on for the past few weeks took me home and proceeded to make-out with me, then crawled into my lap and gave me a "florida-style" (credit to Jim Kata for this great phrase) dry-hump, i'd be finished in seconds. why? because it's more than just gyrating hips; it's the feel of her hair, it's the smell of her skin, it's the mischievous twinkle in her azure eyes... give the poor man some credit. __________________ I'll be the one to protect you from your enemies and all your demons. I'll be the one to protect you from a will to survive and voice of reason. I'll be the one to protect you from your enemies and your choices, son. They're one and the same I must isolate you, isolate and save you from yourself." - A Perfect Circle

11-13-2003, 11:58 AM	#7 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	I haven't laughed this hard in months. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

11-13-2003, 10:49 AM	#4 (permalink)
skinbag Registered User Location: Madison WI	Maybe if he got some for awhile his endurance would have improved. If anyone ever needed a blow before sex, it was him.

11-13-2003, 11:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Was he possibly a virgin? I know that before I started having sex, I had no clue how far I could go with a girl. I had no idea what the boundaries were since I hadn't experienced it. I could get off at the drop of a hat on dry humping if I wasn't sure I was going to get sex. It felt good, so I would go for it. My wife was a virgin prior to our getting married, and she experienced her first orgasm through dry humping. It was something we did for each other since we weren't going to have intercourse. I suspect he is just inexperienced. If you liked him, why not talk to him about it? I always hated it when someone broke it off for what appeared to me to be absolutely no reason. Is it strange, yes. Is it wrong, absolutely no.

11-13-2003, 12:13 PM	#8 (permalink)
santafe5000 EVIL! Location: Southwest of nowhere	Suppose some people take less stimulation than other's and sound's like he didn't need much. Or maybe you were such a fine fox that he couldn't help himself. If he was young and inexperienced, maybe his first orgasm with a female in close proximity, don't fault him for that. After his first misfire, he could have gone on all nite. never know? __________________ When all else fails, QUIT.

11-13-2003, 12:40 PM	#9 (permalink)
visotech Insane Location: San Diego, CA	Hah and i was complaining about not being able to come during sex, i guess some people have it worse.

11-13-2003, 12:50 PM	#10 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	I try not to even complain about sex...I'm just happy to be getting some....even though its like 2 times a week (if I'm lucky)...damn you mrs. kata!!! damn you and your diminishing libido!!!! NOT that I'm complaining or anything.

11-13-2003, 01:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
blade02 Insane	I'd say theres nothing wrong with cumming from dry humping... for awhile before my g/f and i were having sex, we had the most awesome make out sessions....we had decided not to have sex, but we couldnt keep our hands off each other. It would always end with her grinding on me until i was done.

11-13-2003, 01:12 PM	#12 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	No he was not a virgin. I me we had not had sex but I knew a friend he dated and they had sex... As far as i know this had not happened to her... I did not tell her what he did I did not want to hurt him.. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 01:14 PM	#13 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	oh and it is not that im so hot he could not hold it... it would be nice to think that but i'm not kidding myself. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 01:14 PM	#14 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	I did once make the mistake of dry humping with jeans on....and no boxers....i'll leave it at that.

11-13-2003, 01:36 PM	#16 (permalink)
bender Addict Location: around the corner	I thought that rug burn on the elbows or knees was bad but this very well could take the cake.

11-13-2003, 01:44 PM	#17 (permalink)
Jedbeck Crazy Location: Ohio, USA	MMMM fond memories of dry humping. In high school my ex-girlfriend and I would rush home from places to have some alone time before the parents got home. We would almost always end up making out and dry humping for as long as we possibly could. However I don't remember ever cumming from dry humping, but I know a friends sister who dated a guy that had cum from dry humping. We teased that guy forever about it. Ahhhh the memories.

11-13-2003, 02:29 PM	#19 (permalink)
Chuckles Insane Location: California	whats a "florida style" lapdance? :P

11-13-2003, 02:50 PM	#21 (permalink)
Corneo Insane	You must be a goddess to be able to make him cum with his jeans on and nothing more then necking. That or this guy was very quick.

11-13-2003, 03:03 PM	#22 (permalink)
KnifeMissile Location: Waterloo, Ontario	I would say that you seem overly senstive to me except that I really don't see anything to be sensitive about! Something as small and trivial as this weirded you out so much that you let yourself hurt him? The fact that you were so weirded is weird...

11-13-2003, 03:08 PM	#23 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	blushing....... not saying im an uggo but, im not that hot. I will say he was great with his lips and tongue... I still wonder what that tongue could have done elsewhere...... hehehehehhe __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 03:13 PM	#24 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Why didn't you just make a move on him in the first place? Instead of throwing out hints and hoping that he'd catch on? __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

11-13-2003, 03:18 PM	#25 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	I did initially I invited him to my place and snuggled up next to him on the couch ... i thought he was going to take the lead.. I sorta wanted to have him go farher.. I figured he was going to but, then the squirting happened.. it was a bit of a mood kill. Trust me now adays i would have __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight... Last edited by vveronica; 11-13-2003 at 03:21 PM..

11-13-2003, 05:42 PM	#26 (permalink)
oberon Quadrature Amplitude Modulator Location: Denver	I dunno... it's hard to tell when someone just wants to be close or if they want some lovin'. There is sometimes a big price to pay if you think it's the latter when it's really the former... __________________ "There are finer fish in the sea than have ever been caught." -- Irish proverb

11-13-2003, 05:47 PM	#27 (permalink)
Plan9Senior Banned Location: Orange County, California	I have never heard of a guy cumming from "dry humpin". What a comical situation to be in, almost seems like something out of a movie

11-13-2003, 06:00 PM	#28 (permalink)
legolas shit faced cockmaster Location: CT	If it gets really rough or something maybe it's possible. Maybe he has like silk boxers on and it was juuuuuuust the right spot. Who knows. __________________ "To alcohol! The cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems."

11-13-2003, 06:32 PM	#29 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	Sounds like a developing/borderline frotteur. It sounds intentional since he made no other advances and that you mentioned he's not a virgin. http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3439.htm The DSM-IV lists the following diagnostic criteria for frotteurism: The patient experiences intense, recurrent, sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving touching and rubbing against a nonconsensual person. Symptoms must be present for at least 6 months. The patient experiences significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning because of the fantasies, urges, or behaviors; or the patient has acted on the sexual urges. Frotteurs typically act out their fantasies in crowded places (eg, public transportation vehicles, busy sidewalks), which allows for escape; the frotteur can claim that the touching was accidental. The frotteur rubs his genital area against the (usually female) victim's thighs or buttocks, or the frotteur fondles a woman?s genitalia or breasts with his hands. While committing the act, the offender typically fantasizes about an exclusive, caring relationship with the victim. Most acts occur in perpetrators aged 15-25 years, after which frequency gradually declines. Frotteurism has been noted to be equally common among older, shy, inhibited individuals. Fantasies of frotteuristic behavior without action have been reported as a stimulant to sexual arousal. ----- I've read of cases of frotteurs who would use inanimate objects as masturbatory aids by rubbing up against them. So, while the typical frotteur does it in public/crowds with people, it varies. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

11-13-2003, 07:02 PM	#30 (permalink)
Anomaly_ Insane	No offense motdakasha, but I think you're reading way too much into it. Is it really that shocking that a male would ejaculate after stimulation, even if through clothing? This just doesn't seem like a big deal.

11-13-2003, 08:09 PM	#34 (permalink)
SiNai Dreams In Digital Location: Iowa	Not at all how I expected people to reply.. I'm going on a year with my girl and I can still make her cum in her pants from dry-humping with a few smooches on the boobses. I've never had a soft spot for rubbing, though- but if I did I wouldn't be ashamed at all if my girlfriend could make me go in my pants. I definitely don't think it's a weird thing, at the least it's one hell of a compliment to you- I always enjoyed knowing my girl could get off from what I was doing to her.. __________________ I can't seem to remember now What it was like- to live life, before you.. symbiont

11-13-2003, 08:44 PM	#35 (permalink)
OFKU0 Junk	Wow, if a guy is coming in his pants even before he takes them off well then, fuck, you must be a sweet piece off ass. __________________ " In Canada, you can tell the most blatant lie in a calm voice, and people will believe you over someone who's a little passionate about the truth." David Warren, Western Standard.

11-13-2003, 09:48 PM	#40 (permalink)
stingc Psycho Location: PA	I was just saying that the symptoms you listed had very little to do with what was posted. Sure he could be what you suggest. He could also have red hair. I thought your link was interesting though. Some of those things are vaguely understandable, but then there's stuff like dendrophilia. WTF??