I could be heartless and mean BUT... if the guy is shy and not too experienced it would cause some major damage if you made a big deal about it.

Nervousness + some action = early shots

it doesnt make him a bad guy to be interested in. He just probably needs to be more comforatble (#1). Plus he needs to get some experience.

MOST of the time a guy that can come that easy can come again though. Don't get freaked out, just know that its a delicate subject.

damn....now i wanna move to florida more than ever
:suave:

i heard that lap dances in texas are that way. about how strippers will even go further than that without even going into the "champagne room"

Damn, it wasn't a crime or anything... jeez. I don't want to come off the wrong way (lol, bad pun!) but unless you're a guy, you wouldn't understand. There is more that tactile stimulation to the scenario. Its so hard for guys to work up the courage to ask a girl out and then to make all the moves (you were HINTING) so give him a break. There is a lot more to it...

You girls just don't understand what it is to be male -- just the same as we don't understand what it is to be female.

Just give him a break.

If you're doing any humping at all, dry or not, you should expect the possibility that someone is going to cum. I can't even begin to fathom why the original poster would think he's weird for orgasming while doing something that is in fact VERY sexual!

Oh my ... she was dry humping someone and he came! What a concept! And then she dumped him for it! Because he showed restraint for whatever reason and didn't jump her bones.

That's pretty damned awful.

Thanks sleepyjack I appreciate the compliment.. I did try to take it as a compliment, since my ass is not that bad I think.... hehehehehe

smoochieess to all who have been so nice to me on TFP

Floride style lapdance? Do tell!

look earlier in the thread vogelap, Kata explained it pretty well.

Dry humping has never done it much for me.

Id say give it another go, but I know what you mean by it messing up the mood. What the other people said about the guy just being excited to be with you is a distinct possibility. Who knows he could be a marathon man if you give him a few shots.

I've gotten a woman off by dry humping her, multiple times in fact. Do you find that odd? If not, why do you find the opposite odd?

Obviously he was very into the moment, vveronica you should be flattered.

OK...all of you...give up the "sophisticated" pretenses and come on. :rolleyes:

Shit happens during sex...good, bad you never know.
You could be the MOST experienced person in the world,
the best lover...and things just happen.

This is simple.
He was turned on, they were grinding into each other, and he either came or had some pre-cum.
How would women like it if we judged them if they came a bit from this.
Are men "supposed" to be the most-wonderful all-around stud 24/7 365 days all to their days to their death.
Fuckin' come on
How selfish.

BTW..."hints"...coy remarks...etc...don't always work.
Why...because men don't know if women are just saying that,
just teasing...and don't tell me we are "supposed" to know.
That's bullshit.
And yes...what happens if he's shy or nervous, etc. whatever.

And so what if he got a little cum on your leg...whoopty-fuckin-doo.
You were humping...doesn't matter if it was dry or not...pre-cum happens.
Feeling someone up counts, blowjobs count...it all fuckin' counts.

How would you feel if during intercourse he got upset that you get a little wetness on his bed?

SEX IS A MESSY THING!!
And it's ALL sex...frenching is messy...fooling around is messy.
It's ALL messy.

Next thing you know we'll be having sex like the damn "Demolition Man",
Not touching, not kissing, not hugging...because it's all SO messy, SO yucky.

Let me tell you...I've been having sex for a long time.
I've done it with quite a few, and in many different ways
I've given many women orgasms galore in all different ways.
I've done it for hours on end, and came many times within one night when I WANTED to.
And you know what???

Even to this day...if I'm humping someone...sometimes pre-cum happens,
and once when I was anxious...I couldn't keep it hard.
or sometimes when I've masturbasted, I can't cum with her.
But most of the time...it's all cool.

This shit happens during sexual relations...to everyone.
men & women.
You live long enough...you experience it sooner or later.
No matter who you are.

Yes, your shit stinks too.
YOUR sex is messy too.

Remember this...fuck the ego.
Enjoy the moment...enjoy each other...
and fucking deal with the messiness of it all.

Aren't we adults here?
Shit, aren't we humans here?

i could see how some people would get weirded out but i'm pretty tolerant when it comes to expectations in relationships, i likely wouldn't have seen him again.

Well i bet you were just the kind of hot icing he needed on his cake. I wouldn't feel too bad. Definitely weird, definitely NOT wrong of you.

And a message to anyone in her shoes now... some guys are scared SHITLESS they'll be branded a rapist (or are just too shy) if they're with a girl... if you want the scenario to escalate, and you've dropped hints- we're thick-headed sometimes!! Just make the moves for the guy, he'll catch on eventually!

lol great post

We were both 14. She was my first love. We would both cum in our jeans from dry humping. I never considered it odd at all, until I read this thread.

Yea, and don't get the wrong idea - it's not odd. Sometimes it's just the release people need without going further by taking clothes off. Sometimes you can't help it and it happens.

If it's an accident: Shit happens.
If it's on purpose, as it sounds like your case was, Aladdin, all the better, as you got what you were looking for.

Not in the least. I find it such a turn on. I don't think it is gross at all. I see ejaculation as a natural, beautiful goal. I think of the feeling more than the spraying. If a guy cums from dry humping me, I find it erotic and natural, not gross. Even if it does get me wet.

Yes, lets all form a circle, hold hands, and sing the praises and defense of RIDICULOUSLY PREMATURE EJACULATION. It's ok, little one, its normal ... Wait a minute ... Whats this? ... I hear the voice of reason ...

IT'S NOT NORMAL. If you can't even get the penis out, let alone touched, let alone near the vagina, how can you be normal?

Even Jason Biggs touched some boob before he nutted! EVEN FORREST GUMP GOT FURTHER IN THE DEAL, WITHOUT LETTING GO!

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

And then he pretends that nothing happened?

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

You did the right thing, really vveronica honey, a relationship without sex that satisfies EITHER of you, is never going to work. Good sex is a lot more important than people make out. And in this case, he's not even getting his.

Now, vveronica, Spads can make it last, and is waiting for your PM.

I don't think I've laughed so hard in a while.

Although rogue49 sure has a point.

That said it best.

rogue49 I loved your post. It had everything. Boy do I feel even worse for the guy now. He probably is hating himself for not going farther.

But how do us guys know if you want us to go or not? If we make the wrong guess, it's rape. If we don't go after you, it's being timid. Oh jeez the guy was probably so happy to just be with you then.

Poor fellow.

Spads, I think your post is mean-spirited.

Well then let me rephrase. She must be as summer fresh as apple pie cooling on a window pane overlooking the poplar and maples, standing firm and upright, subdued yet seductive.

Well flash if "I" was dry humping him when he came IT WOULD NOT be on the side of my leg

I'm gonna go with Aladdin Sane on this, and say that I can't recall the last time someone was so overtly intolerant and ignorant (minus, say, the Tilted Politics forum... :lol: ).

Spads, you're obviously a superior lover in every sense of the word. Though, in many ways I pity you, because you must:
-A) lack the usual number of nerve receptors on your crotch,
-B) be unaware that external stimuli can be as erotic as full-on, animalistic sex,
-C) truly upset your lovers, as I presume (which perhaps is unfair) that you neglect such important details as "romance," and "environment,"
-D) have no idea how unique you are.

Perhaps this is a bit abrasive or caustic, but your cheap shot at all those imperfect humans out there competes for the penultimate example of ignorance, narrow-mindedness, and rudeness, in my book.

Side of the leg can mean so many different things, vveronica. Previous posts of yours had created an image of someone a bit more knowledgeable about sexual matters, in my mind.
The swimmers have no set pool in which pursue their recreation. They'll go where they will go, in most cases. You did not indicate whether "side of my leg" was inside, outside, high up on the thigh, on the calve, near the Achilles hell, etc... So don't jump all over mistered for misinterpreting something you did not clearly define.

Furthermore, he was in his pants, which means his meat wagon could have been constrained to point in any number of directions, at any number of angles... Theoretically, depending on the state of contact, your shoulder could have gotten wet. Who knows?

And moreover, who cares? If Rogue49 hasn't convinced you that accidents happen, nothing will. You'll forever be doomed to look at normal, human occurrences as aberrations and anomalies.

*edit* yay for proofreading

Errr,.. thanks for clearly defining that for us all.

Your silly notions of fairness and equality have no place in reality. These are concepts to sate the minds of small children.

Intolerant of intolerable, insignificant and inferior people I may be, but this does not make me uneducated about their cause. I have a huge understanding of the dynamics, but I simply do not care for these people. And why should I have to?

Narrow minded? Perhaps your mind is just so open, your brain leaked out.

"Have no idea how unique you are" ? HAHAHAHA, you just made me laugh even harder than the starter of this thread. Yes, I am a beautiful and unique snowflake!

Who else wants to jump on the Premature Ejaculation Wandwagon? It's the new black! Although more likely I think we've just identified another someone with some pent up issues, about their sexual performance.

I will only say this one thing: I am convinced you have no soul.

Honestly, just ignore the troll. I think the general consensus is that a lot of people feel it's not that big of a deal if he cums during dry-humping, but a fair number disagree, and that's about it.

Gee thanks to some of you guys... I started this thread to see if this weirded any one else out.. and Ive been no labelled everything from a tease to soulless.

In the situation, I did not laugh at him or order him away nor have i every told anyone else. I am sure he was embarrassed...

If a person makes you feel weird, how much of a relationship can you have with them? It'd be even harder for a sexual relationship if you always felt awkward. I think it was right of you not to put yourselves through the strangeness that there would have been.

There is nothing wrong with what happened with him. It can happen to anyone.

Lap dances
 

This discussion reminds me of a movie I saw once at an old drive in. The normal porno movies had suddenly been replaced with those in which men and women did a lot of dry humping. Probably waiting on the Supreme Court decision that mad it all okay as was, but I was surprised to learn what a turn on it could be to watch men and women doing this. Almost like it leaves a little something to the imagination. Anyway, I've tried to find some of those old dry humping movies and cannot locate any. Anybody know of any online anywhere?

he was prob just really excited, nbd.

it's easy to train out of them
and if you fucked him after that he woulda lasted a long longer

girls are selfish and rude



man dat girl had a smelly ass pussy but i still went down on dat because i'm a man and that's what men do we take care of our peeps

oh my god that guy has a small penis dump him

Gotta say, not the maturity in this thread I've come to know and expect from TFP.

To the OP, I honestly think you made a pretty big deal over nothing, and if you really did like the guy than it's your loss really.

Live and learn I guess.

Mr Friendly?

All bar the last 3 posts were from 7 years ago! :D

Yeah we've grown up a lot since then!:)

Yu know, I did wonder why I hadn't seen this thread on the board until just the other day. Now I know why :lol:

When I'm really aroused my dick leaks like a runny faucet. I've precum soaked through boxer briefs, dress shirt (tucked in) and pants and left a very large spot on the pants. That's 3 layers...if i was dry humping a girl during that i almost guarantee it could have soaked through her pants too.

If HE got really awkward after and not just YOU i suppose that he prob did cum. Just because you felt weird and awkward doesn't mean he did.