dry humping... Does it weird you out if he cums?
 

This happened a long while ago. But it sometimes pops up in my mind.
I was on a second date with a guy I really liked... We went back to my place, started necking and it got somewhat passionate. I could feel his cock really hard rubbing on my leg. I sorta waited and waited for him to even make a move to take off my blouse or something. he never did.
After many minutes of kissing, I felt a spot on my leg thru my jeans get wet. We broke the embrace and he had cum.. His pants clearly had a spot on them and I know he knew I knew as I had a wet spot on my leg. This was very very awkward.

I would have gone farther, but, I could not get him to take the hint. I know he was shy and I could have started, but, geeeshhh the mood was completely destroyed when this happened. I know he was embarrassed and he left very shortly.. The more I thought about it the more weirded out I got... He asked me out a couple of times, but, never said yes again... I know I prolly hurt him but man I got weirded..

Was I right or wrong? this ever happen to anyone else? is it just to weird?

I hate to say this...but he would of probably been a weak lay anyways.
If dry humping made him finish, imagine how fast his fishies would of went swimming if his cockler was inside a vajayjay. Unless it was a florida style lapdance...those can make you cum in your pants...or almost at least.
If you were looking for a relationship...I would say it sucks for him that he couldn't have a second chance. If you just wanted to mess around....than I wouldn't give it a second thought.
I've never fully 'gasmed while dry humping but i've had a lot of precum leave big spots on my pants. That may have been the case with him...but I dunno.
And I don't think there is anything weird about it...maybe he needed a fine woman such as yourself to teach him the ways of a good ole fashioned fucking so that problem never occured again.

thanks sweetieee smoochiessss.. It was deffinately enough of a spot to be cum... I think your right he probably was a bit inexperienced but boy he could kiss well...

Maybe if he got some for awhile his endurance would have improved. If anyone ever needed a blow before sex, it was him. ;)

Was he possibly a virgin? I know that before I started having sex, I had no clue how far I could go with a girl. I had no idea what the boundaries were since I hadn't experienced it. I could get off at the drop of a hat on dry humping if I wasn't sure I was going to get sex. It felt good, so I would go for it. My wife was a virgin prior to our getting married, and she experienced her first orgasm through dry humping. It was something we did for each other since we weren't going to have intercourse. I suspect he is just inexperienced. If you liked him, why not talk to him about it? I always hated it when someone broke it off for what appeared to me to be absolutely no reason. Is it strange, yes. Is it wrong, absolutely no.

i consider myself fairly "experienced," and i know for a fact that a good dry-humping can get me really, really damned close to mobilizing the small soldiers...

perhaps some of you have forgotten how much more sex -- or any physical interaction -- is than mere physical stimulation. dry-humping, like actual intercourse, has ocular, olfactory, audio, and tactile sensations. and most importantly, it has a(n) emotional/mental amplifier.
vveronica, imagine this guy really liked you (as one can divine by his continued attempts at a second date). for him, it wasn't just a meaningless, one night thing. there is the distinct possibility that he had a jones for you for weeks, finally scored a date, and the immensity of the situation merely caused heightened sensation.
i know for a God-given fact that if the girl i've been crushing on for the past few weeks took me home and proceeded to make-out with me, then crawled into my lap and gave me a "florida-style" (credit to Jim Kata for this great phrase) dry-hump, i'd be finished in seconds. why? because it's more than just gyrating hips; it's the feel of her hair, it's the smell of her skin, it's the mischievous twinkle in her azure eyes...

give the poor man some credit.

I haven't laughed this hard in months.

Suppose some people take less stimulation than other's and sound's like he didn't need much. Or maybe you were such a fine fox that he couldn't help himself. If he was young and inexperienced, maybe his first orgasm with a female in close proximity, don't fault him for that. After his first misfire, he could have gone on all nite. never know?

Hah and i was complaining about not being able to come during sex, i guess some people have it worse.

I try not to even complain about sex...I'm just happy to be getting some....even though its like 2 times a week (if I'm lucky)...damn you mrs. kata!!! damn you and your diminishing libido!!!! NOT that I'm complaining or anything.

I'd say theres nothing wrong with cumming from dry humping... for awhile before my g/f and i were having sex, we had the most awesome make out sessions....we had decided not to have sex, but we couldnt keep our hands off each other. It would always end with her grinding on me until i was done.

No he was not a virgin. I me we had not had sex but I knew a friend he dated and they had sex... As far as i know this had not happened to her... I did not tell her what he did I did not want to hurt him..

oh and it is not that im so hot he could not hold it... it would be nice to think that but i'm not kidding myself.

I did once make the mistake of dry humping with jeans on....and no boxers....i'll leave it at that.

Don't sell yourself short - now you know why the Midas touch was a curse :)

All hail <b>vveronica</b>, the Queen Midas of foreplay!

I thought that rug burn on the elbows or knees was bad but this very well could take the cake.

MMMM fond memories of dry humping. :)

In high school my ex-girlfriend and I would rush home from places to have some alone time before the parents got home. We would almost always end up making out and dry humping for as long as we possibly could. However I don't remember ever cumming from dry humping, but I know a friends sister who dated a guy that had cum from dry humping. We teased that guy forever about it.

Ahhhh the memories. :)

Don't be so sure ;) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and to him you could have been the most gorgeous creature on earth, maybe if only for those moments you two were intimate.

twotimesadingo was right. What happened to the guy you were with was more of a mental thing. With a girl he likes, the thrill of the possiblity of sex on the horizon, the feeling of being so close to actual sex while still clothed, are all factors that played into it. Be proud you were able to make him feel that way.

whats a "florida style" lapdance? :P

Re: dry humping... Does it weird you out if he cums?
 

OMG! Was that you?!?!?!?! :eek:

Only kidding. My first "real" girlfriend used to get me to cum in my jeans too, usually by rubbing me off. But we dated more than once, so, it couldn't be you. Seriously though, my wife couldn't believe I didn't try anything with her for a few weeks when we first started dating. Some of us need help. :hmm: Help us, PLEASE! :lol:

You must be a goddess to be able to make him cum with his jeans on and nothing more then necking. That or this guy was very quick.

I would say that you seem overly senstive to me except that I really don't see anything to be sensitive about! Something as small and trivial as this weirded you out so much that you let yourself hurt him?

The fact that you were so weirded is weird...

blushing....... not saying im an uggo but, im not that hot. I will say he was great with his lips and tongue... I still wonder what that tongue could have done elsewhere...... hehehehehhe

Why didn't you just make a move on him in the first place? Instead of throwing out hints and hoping that he'd catch on?

I did initially I invited him to my place and snuggled up next to him on the couch ... i thought he was going to take the lead.. I sorta wanted to have him go farher.. I figured he was going to but, then the squirting happened.. it was a bit of a mood kill.

Trust me now adays i would have

I dunno... it's hard to tell when someone just wants to be close or if they want some lovin'.

There is sometimes a big price to pay if you think it's the latter when it's really the former...

I have never heard of a guy cumming from "dry humpin". What a comical situation to be in, almost seems like something out of a movie :D

If it gets really rough or something maybe it's possible. Maybe he has like silk boxers on and it was juuuuuuust the right spot. Who knows.

Sounds like a developing/borderline frotteur. It sounds intentional since he made no other advances and that you mentioned he's not a virgin.

http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3439.htm
The DSM-IV lists the following diagnostic criteria for frotteurism:

The patient experiences intense, recurrent, sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving touching and rubbing against a nonconsensual person. Symptoms must be present for at least 6 months.

The patient experiences significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning because of the fantasies, urges, or behaviors; or the patient has acted on the sexual urges.

Frotteurs typically act out their fantasies in crowded places (eg, public transportation vehicles, busy sidewalks), which allows for escape; the frotteur can claim that the touching was accidental. The frotteur rubs his genital area against the (usually female) victim's thighs or buttocks, or the frotteur fondles a woman?s genitalia or breasts with his hands. While committing the act, the offender typically fantasizes about an exclusive, caring relationship with the victim.

Most acts occur in perpetrators aged 15-25 years, after which frequency gradually declines. Frotteurism has been noted to be equally common among older, shy, inhibited individuals. Fantasies of frotteuristic behavior without action have been reported as a stimulant to sexual arousal.

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I've read of cases of frotteurs who would use inanimate objects as masturbatory aids by rubbing up against them. So, while the typical frotteur does it in public/crowds with people, it varies.

No offense motdakasha, but I think you're reading way too much into it. Is it really that shocking that a male would ejaculate after stimulation, even if through clothing? This just doesn't seem like a big deal.

Some of the titty bars in Florida have lap dances where the girls are nekkid, and basically fuck you with only your pants seperating your penis and her hoohoo. You would probably have to experience it to understand what I'm talking about.

Apparently you don't understand men too well. If a guy is really into you, objective looks hardly matter. You may be the most beautiful thing in world to him irregardless of what the average person may think of you. The reasons he feels how he does don't have to make any sense either.

i beg to differ :icare:

As for dry humping, i haven't really done this thing since high school, although it happens all the time whilst dancing with a chick. ie crotch grinding against their butt or themselves somehow. I've never really thought i'd cum from it, but it definitely gets me very excited for things to follow.

ANyway, as long as it didn't just stop right there (like he went home stratight after) and more things i wouldn't thought it cause too much wierdness.

Not at all how I expected people to reply..

I'm going on a year with my girl and I can still make her cum in her pants from dry-humping with a few smooches on the boobses. I've never had a soft spot for rubbing, though- but if I did I wouldn't be ashamed at all if my girlfriend could make me go in my pants.

I definitely don't think it's a weird thing, at the least it's one hell of a compliment to you- I always enjoyed knowing my girl could get off from what I was doing to her..

Wow, if a guy is coming in his pants even before he takes them off well then, fuck, you must be a sweet piece off ass.

Although it's incredibly hypercritical of me, i don't think it's too appropriate to reduce girls just to that. Also, you could've rephrased the way in which you were commenting. "sweet piece of ass", sometimes a complement can be offensive?

My retort: Is it really shocking that sexual deviation would be uncommon and unusual?

It's pretty safe to say that frotteurism is about the same in frequency as exhibitionism since they are both classified as criminal paraphilias. But I don't think it's as common as masochism. (All three are paraphilias.) She noted it made her feel weird, so I was reminded of this paraphilia. I was expanding on the possibilities of what it could be. All of the other options mentioned above are likely, but no one mentioned this.

vveronica sounded pretty consensual to me. I think you're reading too many psych books. There's a big difference between compulsively brushing against girls "by accident" and enjoying (maybe a little more than usual) making out with someone.

Jesus H Christ on a fucking pogo stick. Look, I'm just saying it's POSSIBLE, I'm not saying that's the reason he did it. Please note that in my original post, I didn't suggest he was a full-blown frotteur. I said "a developing/borderline frotteur." None of us know the answer, so how do you know I'm wrong because that is the signal you guys are sending by saying I'm reading too much into this. Where is your proof that this is not a valid possibility? Does she know 100% that he hasn't dry humped other girls for 6 or months? Or if he's grabbed women in crowded places? You don't know that. I don't know that. I doubt even vveronica knows that.

And also, I think you guys are totally misinterpreting paraphilia. Not all paraphilias are nonconsensual, but some can be.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilia

I was just saying that the symptoms you listed had very little to do with what was posted. Sure he could be what you suggest. He could also have red hair.

I thought your link was interesting though. Some of those things are vaguely understandable, but then there's stuff like dendrophilia. WTF??

I could be heartless and mean BUT... if the guy is shy and not too experienced it would cause some major damage if you made a big deal about it.

Nervousness + some action = early shots

it doesnt make him a bad guy to be interested in. He just probably needs to be more comforatble (#1). Plus he needs to get some experience.

MOST of the time a guy that can come that easy can come again though. Don't get freaked out, just know that its a delicate subject.

damn....now i wanna move to florida more than ever
:suave:

i heard that lap dances in texas are that way. about how strippers will even go further than that without even going into the "champagne room"

Damn, it wasn't a crime or anything... jeez. I don't want to come off the wrong way (lol, bad pun!) but unless you're a guy, you wouldn't understand. There is more that tactile stimulation to the scenario. Its so hard for guys to work up the courage to ask a girl out and then to make all the moves (you were HINTING) so give him a break. There is a lot more to it...

You girls just don't understand what it is to be male -- just the same as we don't understand what it is to be female.

Just give him a break.

If you're doing any humping at all, dry or not, you should expect the possibility that someone is going to cum. I can't even begin to fathom why the original poster would think he's weird for orgasming while doing something that is in fact VERY sexual!

Oh my ... she was dry humping someone and he came! What a concept! And then she dumped him for it! Because he showed restraint for whatever reason and didn't jump her bones.

That's pretty damned awful.

Thanks sleepyjack I appreciate the compliment.. I did try to take it as a compliment, since my ass is not that bad I think.... hehehehehe

smoochieess to all who have been so nice to me on TFP

Floride style lapdance? Do tell!

look earlier in the thread vogelap, Kata explained it pretty well.

Dry humping has never done it much for me.

Id say give it another go, but I know what you mean by it messing up the mood. What the other people said about the guy just being excited to be with you is a distinct possibility. Who knows he could be a marathon man if you give him a few shots.

I've gotten a woman off by dry humping her, multiple times in fact. Do you find that odd? If not, why do you find the opposite odd?

Obviously he was very into the moment, vveronica you should be flattered.

OK...all of you...give up the "sophisticated" pretenses and come on. :rolleyes:

Shit happens during sex...good, bad you never know.
You could be the MOST experienced person in the world,
the best lover...and things just happen.

This is simple.
He was turned on, they were grinding into each other, and he either came or had some pre-cum.
How would women like it if we judged them if they came a bit from this.
Are men "supposed" to be the most-wonderful all-around stud 24/7 365 days all to their days to their death.
Fuckin' come on
How selfish.

BTW..."hints"...coy remarks...etc...don't always work.
Why...because men don't know if women are just saying that,
just teasing...and don't tell me we are "supposed" to know.
That's bullshit.
And yes...what happens if he's shy or nervous, etc. whatever.

And so what if he got a little cum on your leg...whoopty-fuckin-doo.
You were humping...doesn't matter if it was dry or not...pre-cum happens.
Feeling someone up counts, blowjobs count...it all fuckin' counts.

How would you feel if during intercourse he got upset that you get a little wetness on his bed?

SEX IS A MESSY THING!!
And it's ALL sex...frenching is messy...fooling around is messy.
It's ALL messy.

Next thing you know we'll be having sex like the damn "Demolition Man",
Not touching, not kissing, not hugging...because it's all SO messy, SO yucky.

Let me tell you...I've been having sex for a long time.
I've done it with quite a few, and in many different ways
I've given many women orgasms galore in all different ways.
I've done it for hours on end, and came many times within one night when I WANTED to.
And you know what???

Even to this day...if I'm humping someone...sometimes pre-cum happens,
and once when I was anxious...I couldn't keep it hard.
or sometimes when I've masturbasted, I can't cum with her.
But most of the time...it's all cool.

This shit happens during sexual relations...to everyone.
men & women.
You live long enough...you experience it sooner or later.
No matter who you are.

Yes, your shit stinks too.
YOUR sex is messy too.

Remember this...fuck the ego.
Enjoy the moment...enjoy each other...
and fucking deal with the messiness of it all.

Aren't we adults here?
Shit, aren't we humans here?

i could see how some people would get weirded out but i'm pretty tolerant when it comes to expectations in relationships, i likely wouldn't have seen him again.

Well i bet you were just the kind of hot icing he needed on his cake. I wouldn't feel too bad. Definitely weird, definitely NOT wrong of you.

And a message to anyone in her shoes now... some guys are scared SHITLESS they'll be branded a rapist (or are just too shy) if they're with a girl... if you want the scenario to escalate, and you've dropped hints- we're thick-headed sometimes!! Just make the moves for the guy, he'll catch on eventually!

lol great post

We were both 14. She was my first love. We would both cum in our jeans from dry humping. I never considered it odd at all, until I read this thread.

Yea, and don't get the wrong idea - it's not odd. Sometimes it's just the release people need without going further by taking clothes off. Sometimes you can't help it and it happens.

If it's an accident: Shit happens.
If it's on purpose, as it sounds like your case was, Aladdin, all the better, as you got what you were looking for.

Not in the least. I find it such a turn on. I don't think it is gross at all. I see ejaculation as a natural, beautiful goal. I think of the feeling more than the spraying. If a guy cums from dry humping me, I find it erotic and natural, not gross. Even if it does get me wet.

Yes, lets all form a circle, hold hands, and sing the praises and defense of RIDICULOUSLY PREMATURE EJACULATION. It's ok, little one, its normal ... Wait a minute ... Whats this? ... I hear the voice of reason ...

IT'S NOT NORMAL. If you can't even get the penis out, let alone touched, let alone near the vagina, how can you be normal?

Even Jason Biggs touched some boob before he nutted! EVEN FORREST GUMP GOT FURTHER IN THE DEAL, WITHOUT LETTING GO!

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

And then he pretends that nothing happened?

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

You did the right thing, really vveronica honey, a relationship without sex that satisfies EITHER of you, is never going to work. Good sex is a lot more important than people make out. And in this case, he's not even getting his.

Now, vveronica, Spads can make it last, and is waiting for your PM.

I don't think I've laughed so hard in a while.

Although rogue49 sure has a point.

That said it best.

rogue49 I loved your post. It had everything. Boy do I feel even worse for the guy now. He probably is hating himself for not going farther.

But how do us guys know if you want us to go or not? If we make the wrong guess, it's rape. If we don't go after you, it's being timid. Oh jeez the guy was probably so happy to just be with you then.

Poor fellow.

Spads, I think your post is mean-spirited.

Well then let me rephrase. She must be as summer fresh as apple pie cooling on a window pane overlooking the poplar and maples, standing firm and upright, subdued yet seductive.

Well flash if "I" was dry humping him when he came IT WOULD NOT be on the side of my leg

I'm gonna go with Aladdin Sane on this, and say that I can't recall the last time someone was so overtly intolerant and ignorant (minus, say, the Tilted Politics forum... :lol: ).

Spads, you're obviously a superior lover in every sense of the word. Though, in many ways I pity you, because you must:
-A) lack the usual number of nerve receptors on your crotch,
-B) be unaware that external stimuli can be as erotic as full-on, animalistic sex,
-C) truly upset your lovers, as I presume (which perhaps is unfair) that you neglect such important details as "romance," and "environment,"
-D) have no idea how unique you are.

Perhaps this is a bit abrasive or caustic, but your cheap shot at all those imperfect humans out there competes for the penultimate example of ignorance, narrow-mindedness, and rudeness, in my book.

Side of the leg can mean so many different things, vveronica. Previous posts of yours had created an image of someone a bit more knowledgeable about sexual matters, in my mind.
The swimmers have no set pool in which pursue their recreation. They'll go where they will go, in most cases. You did not indicate whether "side of my leg" was inside, outside, high up on the thigh, on the calve, near the Achilles hell, etc... So don't jump all over mistered for misinterpreting something you did not clearly define.

Furthermore, he was in his pants, which means his meat wagon could have been constrained to point in any number of directions, at any number of angles... Theoretically, depending on the state of contact, your shoulder could have gotten wet. Who knows?

And moreover, who cares? If Rogue49 hasn't convinced you that accidents happen, nothing will. You'll forever be doomed to look at normal, human occurrences as aberrations and anomalies.

*edit* yay for proofreading

Errr,.. thanks for clearly defining that for us all.

Your silly notions of fairness and equality have no place in reality. These are concepts to sate the minds of small children.

Intolerant of intolerable, insignificant and inferior people I may be, but this does not make me uneducated about their cause. I have a huge understanding of the dynamics, but I simply do not care for these people. And why should I have to?

Narrow minded? Perhaps your mind is just so open, your brain leaked out.

"Have no idea how unique you are" ? HAHAHAHA, you just made me laugh even harder than the starter of this thread. Yes, I am a beautiful and unique snowflake!

Who else wants to jump on the Premature Ejaculation Wandwagon? It's the new black! Although more likely I think we've just identified another someone with some pent up issues, about their sexual performance.

I will only say this one thing: I am convinced you have no soul.

Honestly, just ignore the troll. I think the general consensus is that a lot of people feel it's not that big of a deal if he cums during dry-humping, but a fair number disagree, and that's about it.

Gee thanks to some of you guys... I started this thread to see if this weirded any one else out.. and Ive been no labelled everything from a tease to soulless.

In the situation, I did not laugh at him or order him away nor have i every told anyone else. I am sure he was embarrassed...

If a person makes you feel weird, how much of a relationship can you have with them? It'd be even harder for a sexual relationship if you always felt awkward. I think it was right of you not to put yourselves through the strangeness that there would have been.

There is nothing wrong with what happened with him. It can happen to anyone.

Lap dances
 

This discussion reminds me of a movie I saw once at an old drive in. The normal porno movies had suddenly been replaced with those in which men and women did a lot of dry humping. Probably waiting on the Supreme Court decision that mad it all okay as was, but I was surprised to learn what a turn on it could be to watch men and women doing this. Almost like it leaves a little something to the imagination. Anyway, I've tried to find some of those old dry humping movies and cannot locate any. Anybody know of any online anywhere?

he was prob just really excited, nbd.

it's easy to train out of them
and if you fucked him after that he woulda lasted a long longer

girls are selfish and rude



man dat girl had a smelly ass pussy but i still went down on dat because i'm a man and that's what men do we take care of our peeps

oh my god that guy has a small penis dump him

Gotta say, not the maturity in this thread I've come to know and expect from TFP.

To the OP, I honestly think you made a pretty big deal over nothing, and if you really did like the guy than it's your loss really.

Live and learn I guess.

Mr Friendly?

All bar the last 3 posts were from 7 years ago! :D

Yeah we've grown up a lot since then!:)

Yu know, I did wonder why I hadn't seen this thread on the board until just the other day. Now I know why :lol:

When I'm really aroused my dick leaks like a runny faucet. I've precum soaked through boxer briefs, dress shirt (tucked in) and pants and left a very large spot on the pants. That's 3 layers...if i was dry humping a girl during that i almost guarantee it could have soaked through her pants too.

If HE got really awkward after and not just YOU i suppose that he prob did cum. Just because you felt weird and awkward doesn't mean he did.