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JStrider · 11-09-2003, 09:39 AM

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Loving your geek, tolerating his hobbies
By Matthew Sakey

Back when I was in high school, geeks were not highly regarded as potential boyfriend material. (Being one of them I am eminently qualified to attest to this.) Comic books, thick glasses, computers and chess club just don't match the selling potential of varsity jackets and cool cars. However, it's been noted that some geeks grow up to found software conglomerates, and even those who don't tend to be more agreeable later in life than they were back in their teens.

Like everyone after high school, we mellow out, ditch the young-wizard glasses, and develop the social skills that seemed so sorely lacking when we were pimply youths. However, that doesn't mean that we've lost our geekhood — we just conceal it better. More importantly, since you've grown up since high school as well, that geekhood which was so unpleasant back then is kind of charming now — try it and you may be surprised. There's no longer any shame in dating a geek, and it can be well worth the effort. The only issue is that sometimes you may find it difficult to understand our peculiarities. While it's not necessary to know the difference between Sauron, Saruman and the Sarlaac to successfully date one of us, mastering the art of tolerance and bemused understanding will assure a long and fruitful relationship with your geek.

Geek care and feeding is easier than many think, because we are generally healthiest when left to our own devices. This doesn't mean we can't do things together; but we do thrive when given a little time to do our own thing. (This conveniently frees you from having to be part of it.) For example, let me wander off to the computer section while you're browsing CDs at the store. And though I am betraying my people to share this, adhere to the strict "yes-no rule" of computer product purchases: If I come back clutching an object in a brightly colored box, let me buy it only if I didn't buy something last time we were shopping. We do tend to overextend our finances, especially on computer equipment — it changes so fast, and the stuff is just so neat — so it also might behoove you to check the price tag and confirm that I really need this item. (My interpretation of "need" at this point will be highly subjective, so ask the tough questions.) Remember that there's a good chance I only want it because it's new. Geeks are suckers for new stuff.

We geeks are comfortable in herds, so keeping yours content requires that he have the opportunity to associate with his own kind now and then. Conveniently, this also solves the movie problem: Our taste for multiple viewings of certain films may not appeal to you, so let us go with our friends as often as we like. Since geeks generally like movies of all kinds (we just gravitate towards those with dragons or starships over others), you can feel free to choose whatever films you'll see as a couple without fear of whining. Try that with a football star.

If you live together, it's also helpful to grant your geek a little space to call his own. Here we will build our model airplanes, operate our ham radio, play our games, whatever — all in gleeful privacy. After a school career of constant abuse, we are rather unsurprisingly embarrassed by our geekdom, so letting us practice it in solitude is a very considerate gesture. We'll appreciate it and you won't have to move all our miniatures off the kitchen table every time you want to eat.

Geeks are among the sweetest and most adoring of boyfriends, and the old prejudice of greasy-haired basement dwellers has long since fallen by the wayside. We can dress ourselves and perform routine grooming tasks, and as geeks move into the mainstream, we are becoming more sought after by savvy women. If you don't share some of your boyfriend's more esoteric hobbies, remember that they'll almost never interfere with all that you do share — so let him enjoy them.

seeee! geeks make great boyfriends!

wish more girls had thought that in highschool...

WarWagon · 11-09-2003, 10:24 AM

Amen to that!

1337haxor · 11-09-2003, 10:28 AM

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Originally posted by WarWagon
Amen to that!

bermuDa · 11-09-2003, 10:29 AM

very well written, and very true.

we do make great boyfriends when we're appreciated for who we are

macmanmike6100 · 11-09-2003, 11:33 AM

a glorious writing; i understand it completely

hobo · 11-09-2003, 12:25 PM

geeks rule!

SiN · 11-09-2003, 12:48 PM

(me & bf are hoping to get these matching shirts for xmas

)

gabshu · 11-09-2003, 01:39 PM

That article is so true. And geeks do make the best boyfriends, I love them all

amonkie · 11-09-2003, 03:07 PM

Jealous friends said once "He used to be a geek but now he's so cute!" You gotta see them early and watch them grow

anti fishstick · 11-09-2003, 03:16 PM

hehe i'd wear that shirt.

that's cute.
(the article and shirt.. and geeks :P )

devnull · 11-09-2003, 03:53 PM

one of my friends has that shirt for her geeky fiance. i am hoping one of these days i can find a girl that will want to wear that shirt for me

sillygirl · 11-09-2003, 04:30 PM

Wow... as I was reading that, I definitely saw the guy that I've been dating for a while. It's so true! Model airplanes and all!!

He's such a cute little geek!!

annie1 · 11-09-2003, 05:19 PM

i usually end up going for the geeks.

T-Prime · 11-09-2003, 05:46 PM

I'll have to get that t-shirt for my girlfriend and another friend of mine, who is dating a software engineer

oberon · 11-09-2003, 05:54 PM

Awww that shirt so so cool SiN!

Great article. But probably preaching to the choir here, ehh?

niccoli · 11-09-2003, 06:58 PM

God that story's funny, funny because it's all true. My wife loves that shirt, she wears it all the time.

la petite moi · 11-09-2003, 07:42 PM

Hang on, wait...what's a geek?

JStrider · 11-09-2003, 08:03 PM

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=geek&f=1

thats what a geek is

juanvaldes · 11-09-2003, 08:20 PM

some....interesting definations there JStrider...

rogue49 · 11-09-2003, 08:41 PM

Wind them up and let them go.

Seriously...you'll find that they are stable, and adore you.
And if you guide them kindly...they will become a dancing-machine. (so-to-speak)

Besides...you can dress them...like a Ken doll.

Just let them have their toys...within reason.

Johnny Rotten · 11-09-2003, 09:33 PM

And they're good at fixing problems with your computer, printer, VCR, TV... just about anything that plugs into a wall. Or they'll know if it can't be fixed and can get you a good replacement.

Jonsgirl · 11-09-2003, 10:17 PM

LMAO! And I couldn't agree more. I truly couldn't live without my geek!

anti fishstick · 11-09-2003, 10:35 PM

i gather there are a lot of geeks and geek lovers at tfp

Dilbert1234567 · 11-09-2003, 11:09 PM

wish this geek could get some luvin.

im so lonely...

*sniff *

analog · 11-11-2003, 03:55 AM

a good friend of mine was of the D&D, star wars ilk, and his girlfriend at the time (who was hot) broke up with him for other reasons. a few weeks later, i was talkign with her on it and she said she didn't think she could date someone who WASN'T a geek. then she started telling me how when they start rambling geek-info and knowing way too much about the imperial army and what designation all the robots are and what wizard can kill who, it just makes her horny as all hell. i was amazed, it was 1999, and since then i've seen it a lot more frequently. soem girls are just REALLY turned on by the geekdom.

great article!

11-09-2003, 10:29 AM	#4 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	very well written, and very true. we do make great boyfriends when we're appreciated for who we are __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

11-09-2003, 12:48 PM	#7 (permalink)
SiN strangelove Location: ...more here than there...	(me & bf are hoping to get these matching shirts for xmas ) __________________ - + - ° GiRLie GeeK ° - + - ° 01110010011011110110111101110100001000000110110101100101 Therell be days/When Ill stray/I may appear to be/Constantly out of reach/I give in to sin/Because I like to practise what I preach

11-09-2003, 01:39 PM	#8 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	That article is so true. And geeks do make the best boyfriends, I love them all __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/

11-09-2003, 03:07 PM	#9 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Jealous friends said once "He used to be a geek but now he's so cute!" You gotta see them early and watch them grow __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

11-09-2003, 03:16 PM	#10 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	hehe i'd wear that shirt. that's cute. (the article and shirt.. and geeks :P ) __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

11-09-2003, 10:24 AM	#2 (permalink)
WarWagon Loser	Amen to that!

11-09-2003, 11:33 AM	#5 (permalink)
macmanmike6100 High Honorary Junkie Location: Tri-state.	a glorious writing; i understand it completely

11-09-2003, 12:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	geeks rule!

11-09-2003, 03:53 PM	#11 (permalink)
devnull Crazy Location: Bit Bucket	one of my friends has that shirt for her geeky fiance. i am hoping one of these days i can find a girl that will want to wear that shirt for me

11-09-2003, 04:30 PM	#12 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	Wow... as I was reading that, I definitely saw the guy that I've been dating for a while. It's so true! Model airplanes and all!! He's such a cute little geek!! __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...

11-09-2003, 05:19 PM	#13 (permalink)
annie1 Insane	i usually end up going for the geeks.

11-09-2003, 05:46 PM	#14 (permalink)
T-Prime Banned	I'll have to get that t-shirt for my girlfriend and another friend of mine, who is dating a software engineer

11-09-2003, 05:54 PM	#15 (permalink)
oberon Quadrature Amplitude Modulator Location: Denver	Awww that shirt so so cool SiN! Great article. But probably preaching to the choir here, ehh? __________________ "There are finer fish in the sea than have ever been caught." -- Irish proverb

11-09-2003, 06:58 PM	#16 (permalink)
niccoli Tilted Location: Denver, CO	God that story's funny, funny because it's all true. My wife loves that shirt, she wears it all the time.

11-09-2003, 07:42 PM	#17 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Hang on, wait...what's a geek?

11-09-2003, 08:03 PM	#18 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=geek&f=1 thats what a geek is __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

11-09-2003, 11:09 PM	#24 (permalink)
Dilbert1234567 Devils Cabana Boy Location: Central Coast CA	wish this geek could get some luvin. im so lonely... sniff __________________ Donate Blood! "Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." -Sam Keen

11-09-2003, 08:20 PM	#19 (permalink)
juanvaldes Banned Location: shittown, CA	some....interesting definations there JStrider...

11-09-2003, 08:41 PM	#20 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	Wind them up and let them go. Seriously...you'll find that they are stable, and adore you. And if you guide them kindly...they will become a dancing-machine. (so-to-speak) Besides...you can dress them...like a Ken doll. Just let them have their toys...within reason.

11-09-2003, 09:33 PM	#21 (permalink)
Johnny Rotten lost and found Location: Berkeley	And they're good at fixing problems with your computer, printer, VCR, TV... just about anything that plugs into a wall. Or they'll know if it can't be fixed and can get you a good replacement. __________________ "The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine

11-09-2003, 10:17 PM	#22 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	LMAO! And I couldn't agree more. I truly couldn't live without my geek! __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

11-09-2003, 10:35 PM	#23 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	i gather there are a lot of geeks and geek lovers at tfp __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

11-11-2003, 03:55 AM	#25 (permalink)
analog Banned	a good friend of mine was of the D&D, star wars ilk, and his girlfriend at the time (who was hot) broke up with him for other reasons. a few weeks later, i was talkign with her on it and she said she didn't think she could date someone who WASN'T a geek. then she started telling me how when they start rambling geek-info and knowing way too much about the imperial army and what designation all the robots are and what wizard can kill who, it just makes her horny as all hell. i was amazed, it was 1999, and since then i've seen it a lot more frequently. soem girls are just REALLY turned on by the geekdom. great article!