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Old 10-31-2003, 08:01 AM   #1 (permalink)
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gf had a dream..and its buggin me

my gf had a dream last night that me and her broke up and she slept with another guy and she says she doesnt know who the guy is? its really irritating me does anyone know what it could mean? or is it just a random dream she had and i shouldnt worry about it? i mean i shouldnt worry about it cause she's with me but it still bugs me
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Old 10-31-2003, 08:07 AM   #2 (permalink)
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The dream itself? I put no stock in dream analysis.

What I'm wondering about is, how and why did she tell you? Was it "hey, this was funny, it would never happen in real life", or perhaps "you aren't paying enough attention to me, shape up or I'll start looking for a replacement"?

Does she often tell you what she dreams, or just this once?
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Old 10-31-2003, 08:37 AM   #3 (permalink)
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My wife has dreamed that I have cheated on her before, etc. I have dreamed she has cheated on me. We have a fantastic relationship. Like redlemon says, I don't put much faith in dreams. They can be a result of many things. If she is telling you about them, I don't really see a problem with it.
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Old 10-31-2003, 08:43 AM   #4 (permalink)
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My wife has dreams like this all the time. Doesn't mean anything. We find some of them funny and others just weird. She tells me about them because she has really vivid dreams and can almost always remember them.
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Old 10-31-2003, 09:08 AM   #5 (permalink)
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What she watch on TV before going to bed... I know if i watch sometimes it can show up in my dreams.... Ive had some wild ones... regretably in some cases they dont come true...
Dont wory about it... Worry more if she is reading something into it because she can make it come true...
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Old 10-31-2003, 09:33 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Women dream the strangest things. It bothered me at the beginning when my gf told me stuff like that, but it's just a dream. And I think it doesn't mean anything.
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Old 10-31-2003, 09:56 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Andrew Lloyd Weber and his Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat has ruined dreaming!

Dreams rarely, if EVER, mean anything in my opinion. Don't worry about it. I've dreamt about other girls, onodrim has dreamt about other guys , they mean nothing. We've been going out for 4 years now.
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Old 10-31-2003, 10:09 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Don't even sweat it man. I have dreams that my girlfriend is banging someone else or is breaking up with me a lot. Its just that, a DREAM. And hell, I have dreams about sexing someone else up too...but I'm happy with our relationship...sometimes you just can't control your dreams.
Just give it to her good, and be like "Who is the man of your dreams now, bitch!?!?!" as she is having an orgasm. But then again, that is ultra cheesy and moronic, so forget I said that.
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Old 10-31-2003, 12:52 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Don’t worry about it, its nothing, she felt comfortable about telling you about it so that means she is honest and loves you.
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Old 10-31-2003, 01:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Old 10-31-2003, 01:52 PM   #11 (permalink)
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It's just a random dream and doesn't mean anything. If it really bothers you, tell her you know that you're being silly and that it was just a dream, but you just want to check and see that she's happy and does not, in fact, want to break up with you and sleep with someone else.

I have dreams all the time where I sleep with someone else, or Ratbastid does. Sometimes they're disturbing, but they're really just random firings of neurons and they don't mean that I want to do anything about it in real life.
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Old 10-31-2003, 02:18 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Whether or not you are bothered by it should reflect what you interpret dreams as. If you see them as premonitions for the future or desires, I guess you would be worried. If you see them as random images tossed around by your subconscious, no need to worry. Based on your definition I suppose.
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Old 10-31-2003, 02:49 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I put no stock in dreams, never have them myself... except of course the two sick dogs that i found last night who dragged their entails all over the house....
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Old 10-31-2003, 03:08 PM   #14 (permalink)
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You can only worry about things that are within your control. The content of her dreams are not, and neither is their meaning.

Work on your relationship. Talk to her about that, find out if she is happy and if not what is wrong. If she says nothing, you need to take her at her word. If she is running a game on you to see how you react, then she isn't worth your time.

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Old 10-31-2003, 03:36 PM   #15 (permalink)
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as long as she didn't cheat on you you should be fine.
there's a difference between dream and reality.
dreams only have meaning when you put meaning there.
so don't.
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Old 11-01-2003, 07:23 AM   #16 (permalink)
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I have dreams like that all the time. When I first started having them I was all freaked out about only being with my boyfriend and not sleeping with the guys I was dreaming about. But my boy is too wonderful for that.

It doesn't mean anything that she dreamt something like that, so don't bother too much with it.
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Old 11-01-2003, 08:38 AM   #17 (permalink)
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well see she wanted to be honest and i guess thats a good thing but its just the thought of it lol
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Old 11-01-2003, 08:39 AM   #18 (permalink)
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thanx for all the input guys it helped me alot
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Old 11-01-2003, 06:15 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Don't worry about it, that shit happens all the time. Have fun with it if you can- if not, ignore it.
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Old 11-03-2003, 12:19 AM   #20 (permalink)
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Sometimes dreams will reflect things that are on your mind - I know I've had the experience of solving real-life computer programming problems in my dreams. On the other hand, dreams can be just plain weird. Don't attach a lot of significance to them.
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Old 11-03-2003, 12:34 PM   #21 (permalink)
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If it means anything, it is probably more likely a FEAR of hers - that it is something she fears might happen.

Dude! please don't let this bug you. Really, this kind of petty jealosy (SP?) is pretty immature. You feel jealous about it - fine, now move on and give her a real reason to stay with you (if you know what I mean). If you let her know you feel that way about the dream then she might not think as highly about you afterwards. Please, just let it go.
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Old 11-03-2003, 03:53 PM   #22 (permalink)
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well my gf is really into dream analysis and things, i had a dream where i was walking down a road with one of her best friends, stopped and started fucking her. According to my gf its not actually anything to with desire to fuck her, which is true.. i cant remember what she said it meant but her dreams are dreams.
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Old 11-03-2003, 05:33 PM   #23 (permalink)
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My gf once dreamed that I went behind her back and married some other girl that she didn't know, and that I tried to justify by telling her I wouldn't have sex with my new wife. She was upset with me for a whole day, and I didn't even do anything!
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Old 11-03-2003, 06:30 PM   #24 (permalink)
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dont worry about it. dreams can be anything, you never know. If she says don't worry then you should just trust her.
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Old 11-05-2003, 09:35 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Dreams rarely mean anything, but I know how you feel. My ex once told me of a dream he had involving my friend. It sucks, but you have to remember that no person has control over what they dream, hence nightmares. You have no more control than she does.

However, if this continues to bother you, you may want to point this out to her. Sex dreams are like farts- everyone has them, and no one can completely stop them from happening, but no one needs to know about someone elses. The less you know, the better.
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Old 11-05-2003, 09:53 PM   #26 (permalink)
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seldom does a dream affect me i nthis nature of concern.


Recently, I've enjoyed my dreams much more, but I typically don't remember them.

I've been having more control of my dreams, and that is the only thing I allow into my life, that I am having more control of my life as well.

Occasionally I have a dream of getting it on with a gal at work. I seldom see more.
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Old 11-06-2003, 05:34 AM   #27 (permalink)
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this is what i've read:

To dream about your partner being faithless means that they will always be faithful to you.

But it has proven me wrong already, so I find no validity in it.
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Old 11-06-2003, 07:50 AM   #28 (permalink)
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Just give it to her good, and be like "Who is the man of your dreams now, bitch!?!?!" as she is having an orgasm. But then again, that is ultra cheesy and moronic, so forget I said that.
I laughed. I'm so ashamed though...
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Old 11-07-2003, 01:56 AM   #29 (permalink)
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What bugs you about it? That she's dreaming you two are breaking up? That there was sex with some one you cant identify? You said allot in your first post, what is your main concern?
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Old 11-07-2003, 05:31 AM   #30 (permalink)
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I think you should forget about it, dreams are dreams, if you dont remember your dreams, you might of had a similar dream at some point, but it was just that, a dream, your gf (as nasty as this sounds) has probbaly had fantasys of being with somebody else, dont mean she wants to be with somebody else, or would concider cheating on you, but fantasys and dreams sometimes wander off into weird things.
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Old 11-07-2003, 06:35 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Heck I have all sorts of wild dreams and I'm so shy I won't even appear at a public pool in a modest bathing suit

Tell your g/friend that she might best keep the content of such dreams to herself.If she has dreams that bother her a lot she might want to have a session or two with a therapist but in general we cannot control the content of our dreams.There's no
need to upset or worrry our loved ones by telling them about it.
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