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sukka4life · 10-31-2003, 08:01 AM

my gf had a dream last night that me and her broke up and she slept with another guy and she says she doesnt know who the guy is? its really irritating me

does anyone know what it could mean? or is it just a random dream she had and i shouldnt worry about it? i mean i shouldnt worry about it cause she's with me but it still bugs me

Redlemon · 10-31-2003, 08:07 AM

The dream itself? I put no stock in dream analysis.

What I'm wondering about is, how and why did she tell you? Was it "hey, this was funny, it would never happen in real life", or perhaps "you aren't paying enough attention to me, shape up or I'll start looking for a replacement"?

Does she often tell you what she dreams, or just this once?

skysooner · 10-31-2003, 08:37 AM

My wife has dreamed that I have cheated on her before, etc. I have dreamed she has cheated on me. We have a fantastic relationship. Like redlemon says, I don't put much faith in dreams. They can be a result of many things. If she is telling you about them, I don't really see a problem with it.

mb99usa · 10-31-2003, 08:43 AM

My wife has dreams like this all the time. Doesn't mean anything. We find some of them funny and others just weird. She tells me about them because she has really vivid dreams and can almost always remember them.

vveronica · 10-31-2003, 09:08 AM

What she watch on TV before going to bed... I know if i watch sometimes it can show up in my dreams.... Ive had some wild ones... regretably in some cases they dont come true...
Dont wory about it... Worry more if she is reading something into it because she can make it come true...

supafly · 10-31-2003, 09:33 AM

Women dream the strangest things. It bothered me at the beginning when my gf told me stuff like that, but it's just a dream. And I think it doesn't mean anything.

SecretMethod70 · 10-31-2003, 09:56 AM

Andrew Lloyd Weber and his Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat has ruined dreaming!

Dreams rarely, if EVER, mean anything in my opinion. Don't worry about it. I've dreamt about other girls, onodrim has dreamt about other guys , they mean nothing. We've been going out for 4 years now.

Jim Kata · 10-31-2003, 10:09 AM

Don't even sweat it man. I have dreams that my girlfriend is banging someone else or is breaking up with me a lot. Its just that, a DREAM. And hell, I have dreams about sexing someone else up too...but I'm happy with our relationship...sometimes you just can't control your dreams.
Just give it to her good, and be like "Who is the man of your dreams now, bitch!?!?!" as she is having an orgasm. But then again, that is ultra cheesy and moronic, so forget I said that.

Dilbert1234567 · 10-31-2003, 12:52 PM

Don’t worry about it, its nothing, she felt comfortable about telling you about it so that means she is honest and loves you.

micah67 · 10-31-2003, 01:06 PM

First rule of dreams: What happens in dreams STAYS in dreams.

lurkette · 10-31-2003, 01:52 PM

It's just a random dream and doesn't mean anything. If it really bothers you, tell her you know that you're being silly and that it was just a dream, but you just want to check and see that she's happy and does not, in fact, want to break up with you and sleep with someone else.

I have dreams all the time where I sleep with someone else, or Ratbastid does. Sometimes they're disturbing, but they're really just random firings of neurons and they don't mean that I want to do anything about it in real life.

Gun · 10-31-2003, 02:18 PM

Whether or not you are bothered by it should reflect what you interpret dreams as. If you see them as premonitions for the future or desires, I guess you would be worried. If you see them as random images tossed around by your subconscious, no need to worry. Based on your definition I suppose.

ismark · 10-31-2003, 02:49 PM

I put no stock in dreams, never have them myself... except of course the two sick dogs that i found last night who dragged their entails all over the house....

Nazggul · 10-31-2003, 03:08 PM

You can only worry about things that are within your control. The content of her dreams are not, and neither is their meaning.

Work on your relationship. Talk to her about that, find out if she is happy and if not what is wrong. If she says nothing, you need to take her at her word. If she is running a game on you to see how you react, then she isn't worth your time.

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Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know when to get out while I can.

anti fishstick · 10-31-2003, 03:36 PM

as long as she didn't cheat on you you should be fine.
there's a difference between dream and reality.
dreams only have meaning when you put meaning there.
so don't.

gabshu · 11-01-2003, 07:23 AM

I have dreams like that all the time. When I first started having them I was all freaked out about only being with my boyfriend and not sleeping with the guys I was dreaming about. But my boy is too wonderful for that.

It doesn't mean anything that she dreamt something like that, so don't bother too much with it.

sukka4life · 11-01-2003, 08:38 AM

well see she wanted to be honest and i guess thats a good thing

but its just the thought of it lol

sukka4life · 11-01-2003, 08:39 AM

thanx for all the input guys it helped me alot

analog · 11-01-2003, 06:15 PM

Don't worry about it, that shit happens all the time. Have fun with it if you can- if not, ignore it.

OzOz · 11-03-2003, 12:19 AM

Sometimes dreams will reflect things that are on your mind - I know I've had the experience of solving real-life computer programming problems in my dreams. On the other hand, dreams can be just plain weird. Don't attach a lot of significance to them.

jbrooks544 · 11-03-2003, 12:34 PM

If it means anything, it is probably more likely a FEAR of hers - that it is something she fears might happen.

Dude! please don't let this bug you. Really, this kind of petty jealosy (SP?) is pretty immature. You feel jealous about it - fine, now move on and give her a real reason to stay with you (if you know what I mean). If you let her know you feel that way about the dream then she might not think as highly about you afterwards. Please, just let it go.

Loui · 11-03-2003, 03:53 PM

well my gf is really into dream analysis and things, i had a dream where i was walking down a road with one of her best friends, stopped and started fucking her. According to my gf its not actually anything to with desire to fuck her, which is true.. i cant remember what she said it meant but her dreams are dreams.

Shades · 11-03-2003, 05:33 PM

My gf once dreamed that I went behind her back and married some other girl that she didn't know, and that I tried to justify by telling her I wouldn't have sex with my new wife. She was upset with me for a whole day, and I didn't even do anything!

ally · 11-03-2003, 06:30 PM

dont worry about it. dreams can be anything, you never know. If she says don't worry then you should just trust her.

Rubyee · 11-05-2003, 09:35 PM

Dreams rarely mean anything, but I know how you feel. My ex once told me of a dream he had involving my friend. It sucks, but you have to remember that no person has control over what they dream, hence nightmares. You have no more control than she does.

However, if this continues to bother you, you may want to point this out to her. Sex dreams are like farts- everyone has them, and no one can completely stop them from happening, but no one needs to know about someone elses. The less you know, the better.

TinniT · 11-05-2003, 09:53 PM

seldom does a dream affect me i nthis nature of concern.

Recently, I've enjoyed my dreams much more, but I typically don't remember them.

I've been having more control of my dreams, and that is the only thing I allow into my life, that I am having more control of my life as well.

Occasionally I have a dream of getting it on with a gal at work. I seldom see more.

lyxo · 11-06-2003, 05:34 AM

this is what i've read:

To dream about your partner being faithless means that they will always be faithful to you.

But it has proven me wrong already, so I find no validity in it.

Sparhawk · 11-06-2003, 07:50 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Jim Kata
Just give it to her good, and be like "Who is the man of your dreams now, bitch!?!?!" as she is having an orgasm. But then again, that is ultra cheesy and moronic, so forget I said that.

I laughed. I'm so ashamed though...

Kim_type_thing · 11-07-2003, 01:56 AM

What bugs you about it? That she's dreaming you two are breaking up? That there was sex with some one you cant identify? You said allot in your first post, what is your main concern?

Devilchild · 11-07-2003, 05:31 AM

I think you should forget about it, dreams are dreams, if you dont remember your dreams, you might of had a similar dream at some point, but it was just that, a dream, your gf (as nasty as this sounds) has probbaly had fantasys of being with somebody else, dont mean she wants to be with somebody else, or would concider cheating on you, but fantasys and dreams sometimes wander off into weird things.

uptown · 11-07-2003, 06:35 AM

Heck I have all sorts of wild dreams and I'm so shy I won't even appear at a public pool in a modest bathing suit

Tell your g/friend that she might best keep the content of such dreams to herself.If she has dreams that bother her a lot she might want to have a session or two with a therapist but in general we cannot control the content of our dreams.There's no
need to upset or worrry our loved ones by telling them about it.

10-31-2003, 08:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
sukka4life Upright	gf had a dream..and its buggin me my gf had a dream last night that me and her broke up and she slept with another guy and she says she doesnt know who the guy is? its really irritating me does anyone know what it could mean? or is it just a random dream she had and i shouldnt worry about it? i mean i shouldnt worry about it cause she's with me but it still bugs me

10-31-2003, 08:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	The dream itself? I put no stock in dream analysis. What I'm wondering about is, how and why did she tell you? Was it "hey, this was funny, it would never happen in real life", or perhaps "you aren't paying enough attention to me, shape up or I'll start looking for a replacement"? Does she often tell you what she dreams, or just this once? __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-31-2003, 08:43 AM	#4 (permalink)
mb99usa Keep on rolling. It only hurts for a little while. Location: wherever I am	My wife has dreams like this all the time. Doesn't mean anything. We find some of them funny and others just weird. She tells me about them because she has really vivid dreams and can almost always remember them. __________________ So, what's your point? It's not an attitude, it's a way of life.

10-31-2003, 09:08 AM	#5 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	What she watch on TV before going to bed... I know if i watch sometimes it can show up in my dreams.... Ive had some wild ones... regretably in some cases they dont come true... Dont wory about it... Worry more if she is reading something into it because she can make it come true... __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-31-2003, 09:33 AM	#6 (permalink)
supafly Psycho Location: Rotterdam	Women dream the strangest things. It bothered me at the beginning when my gf told me stuff like that, but it's just a dream. And I think it doesn't mean anything. __________________ Thumbs up

10-31-2003, 08:37 AM	#3 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	My wife has dreamed that I have cheated on her before, etc. I have dreamed she has cheated on me. We have a fantastic relationship. Like redlemon says, I don't put much faith in dreams. They can be a result of many things. If she is telling you about them, I don't really see a problem with it.

10-31-2003, 09:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	Andrew Lloyd Weber and his Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat has ruined dreaming! Dreams rarely, if EVER, mean anything in my opinion. Don't worry about it. I've dreamt about other girls, onodrim has dreamt about other guys , they mean nothing. We've been going out for 4 years now. __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

10-31-2003, 10:09 AM	#8 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Don't even sweat it man. I have dreams that my girlfriend is banging someone else or is breaking up with me a lot. Its just that, a DREAM. And hell, I have dreams about sexing someone else up too...but I'm happy with our relationship...sometimes you just can't control your dreams. Just give it to her good, and be like "Who is the man of your dreams now, bitch!?!?!" as she is having an orgasm. But then again, that is ultra cheesy and moronic, so forget I said that.

10-31-2003, 12:52 PM	#9 (permalink)
Dilbert1234567 Devils Cabana Boy Location: Central Coast CA	Don’t worry about it, its nothing, she felt comfortable about telling you about it so that means she is honest and loves you. __________________ Donate Blood! "Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." -Sam Keen

10-31-2003, 01:06 PM	#10 (permalink)
micah67 Thor Location: 33:08:12N 117:10:23W	First rule of dreams: What happens in dreams STAYS in dreams. __________________ ~micah

10-31-2003, 01:52 PM	#11 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	It's just a random dream and doesn't mean anything. If it really bothers you, tell her you know that you're being silly and that it was just a dream, but you just want to check and see that she's happy and does not, in fact, want to break up with you and sleep with someone else. I have dreams all the time where I sleep with someone else, or Ratbastid does. Sometimes they're disturbing, but they're really just random firings of neurons and they don't mean that I want to do anything about it in real life. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-31-2003, 02:18 PM	#12 (permalink)
Gun Banned Location: Long Island	Whether or not you are bothered by it should reflect what you interpret dreams as. If you see them as premonitions for the future or desires, I guess you would be worried. If you see them as random images tossed around by your subconscious, no need to worry. Based on your definition I suppose.

10-31-2003, 02:49 PM	#13 (permalink)
ismark Crazy Location: Sydney	I put no stock in dreams, never have them myself... except of course the two sick dogs that i found last night who dragged their entails all over the house.... __________________ The Grumpy Old Bloke

10-31-2003, 03:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
Nazggul Psycho Location: San Francisco	You can only worry about things that are within your control. The content of her dreams are not, and neither is their meaning. Work on your relationship. Talk to her about that, find out if she is happy and if not what is wrong. If she says nothing, you need to take her at her word. If she is running a game on you to see how you react, then she isn't worth your time. ---------------- Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know when to get out while I can. __________________ "If something has to give then it always will." -- Editors

10-31-2003, 03:36 PM	#15 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	as long as she didn't cheat on you you should be fine. there's a difference between dream and reality. dreams only have meaning when you put meaning there. so don't. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

11-01-2003, 07:23 AM	#16 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	I have dreams like that all the time. When I first started having them I was all freaked out about only being with my boyfriend and not sleeping with the guys I was dreaming about. But my boy is too wonderful for that. It doesn't mean anything that she dreamt something like that, so don't bother too much with it. __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/

11-01-2003, 08:38 AM	#17 (permalink)
sukka4life Upright	well see she wanted to be honest and i guess thats a good thing but its just the thought of it lol

11-01-2003, 08:39 AM	#18 (permalink)
sukka4life Upright	thanx for all the input guys it helped me alot

11-01-2003, 06:15 PM	#19 (permalink)
analog Banned	Don't worry about it, that shit happens all the time. Have fun with it if you can- if not, ignore it.

11-03-2003, 12:19 AM	#20 (permalink)
OzOz Psycho Location: Right here, right now.	Sometimes dreams will reflect things that are on your mind - I know I've had the experience of solving real-life computer programming problems in my dreams. On the other hand, dreams can be just plain weird. Don't attach a lot of significance to them. __________________ Maybe you should put some shorts on or something, if you wanna keep fighting evil today.

11-03-2003, 12:34 PM	#21 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	If it means anything, it is probably more likely a FEAR of hers - that it is something she fears might happen. Dude! please don't let this bug you. Really, this kind of petty jealosy (SP?) is pretty immature. You feel jealous about it - fine, now move on and give her a real reason to stay with you (if you know what I mean). If you let her know you feel that way about the dream then she might not think as highly about you afterwards. Please, just let it go.

11-03-2003, 03:53 PM	#22 (permalink)
Loui Upright	well my gf is really into dream analysis and things, i had a dream where i was walking down a road with one of her best friends, stopped and started fucking her. According to my gf its not actually anything to with desire to fuck her, which is true.. i cant remember what she said it meant but her dreams are dreams.

11-03-2003, 05:33 PM	#23 (permalink)
Shades Insane	My gf once dreamed that I went behind her back and married some other girl that she didn't know, and that I tried to justify by telling her I wouldn't have sex with my new wife. She was upset with me for a whole day, and I didn't even do anything!

11-03-2003, 06:30 PM	#24 (permalink)
ally Insane Location: Boone,NC	dont worry about it. dreams can be anything, you never know. If she says don't worry then you should just trust her.

11-05-2003, 09:35 PM	#25 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	Dreams rarely mean anything, but I know how you feel. My ex once told me of a dream he had involving my friend. It sucks, but you have to remember that no person has control over what they dream, hence nightmares. You have no more control than she does. However, if this continues to bother you, you may want to point this out to her. Sex dreams are like farts- everyone has them, and no one can completely stop them from happening, but no one needs to know about someone elses. The less you know, the better. __________________ You don't know from fun.

11-05-2003, 09:53 PM	#26 (permalink)
TinniT Crazy	seldom does a dream affect me i nthis nature of concern. Recently, I've enjoyed my dreams much more, but I typically don't remember them. I've been having more control of my dreams, and that is the only thing I allow into my life, that I am having more control of my life as well. Occasionally I have a dream of getting it on with a gal at work. I seldom see more.

11-06-2003, 05:34 AM	#27 (permalink)
lyxo Crazy	this is what i've read: To dream about your partner being faithless means that they will always be faithful to you. But it has proven me wrong already, so I find no validity in it.

11-07-2003, 01:56 AM	#29 (permalink)
Kim_type_thing Upright	What bugs you about it? That she's dreaming you two are breaking up? That there was sex with some one you cant identify? You said allot in your first post, what is your main concern?

11-07-2003, 05:31 AM	#30 (permalink)
Devilchild Crazy	I think you should forget about it, dreams are dreams, if you dont remember your dreams, you might of had a similar dream at some point, but it was just that, a dream, your gf (as nasty as this sounds) has probbaly had fantasys of being with somebody else, dont mean she wants to be with somebody else, or would concider cheating on you, but fantasys and dreams sometimes wander off into weird things.

11-07-2003, 06:35 AM	#31 (permalink)
uptown Insane	Heck I have all sorts of wild dreams and I'm so shy I won't even appear at a public pool in a modest bathing suit Tell your g/friend that she might best keep the content of such dreams to herself.If she has dreams that bother her a lot she might want to have a session or two with a therapist but in general we cannot control the content of our dreams.There's no need to upset or worrry our loved ones by telling them about it.