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Halx · 10-20-2003, 09:18 PM

Ok, I'm gonna use this thread for posting little tidbits of psychology to influence your *target* into getting with you.

Today's lesson comes from the term: misattribution of arousal

This is basically the failure to interpret correctly the physiological signals your body is sending you.

Example: Classic action movie. Shit blows up and the hero and the chick he's saving are running for their lives. They escape. As they lay there, panting heavily, covered in ash and grease, sorting through their adrenaline high, their eyes meet and they embrace.

Believe it or not, this situation and it's effects are not so far fetched. A heightened state of arousal (adrenaline-based, not usually sexual) can easily be falsely interpreted as sexual energy.

Loose references to studies: It's shown that high-stress workplaces have a higher occurance of office romances. Also, subjects are more likely to inquire about dating an attractive person they are talking to after they have experienced an adrenaline-heightening event, such as crossing a rickety, unsafe bridge.

Practical uses:
Hit on people at amusement parks after they get off a ride.
Go on exciting, thrilling dates with your partner.
Do aerobic/athletic activities together.
Go to the horse race tracks and bet for the same horses.
Watch a scarey movie together.

Pretty much anything that will raise their heart beat will make them more likely to accept advances.

That's all for today.. more to come later.

bermuDa · 10-20-2003, 09:19 PM

interesting... scary movies do make girls more clingy if nothing else, which is always accepted

keep it comin

JStrider · 10-20-2003, 09:22 PM

oooo im gonna take girls to the climbing wall at the rec center! that always gets the adrenaline goin for beginners!

Chuckles · 10-20-2003, 09:27 PM

thats awesome :P keep em comin!

anti fishstick · 10-20-2003, 09:27 PM

that IS interesting. i just use the scary movie excuse to cling to the guy. pshhhhh i'm not scared ;P

i was watching some discovery show about the science of dating or something and it had some of the things you mentioned. going on a high-stress date or someplace adventurous will have a higher chance for attachment and chemistry.

devnull · 10-20-2003, 10:22 PM

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Originally posted by anti fishstick
i was watching some discovery show about the science of dating or something and it had some of the things you mentioned. going on a high-stress date or someplace adventurous will have a higher chance for attachment and chemistry.

I saw the same show a while back. They had some really good stuff on there, and they mentioned a few of the same things.

I'm looking forward to seeing what other hints/tips/tricks people can dig up for the rest of us

analog · 10-20-2003, 11:27 PM

endorphins are a wonderful thing. and that adrenaline is great stuff too.

i've always believed in scary movies for 2 reasons- first, as stated, it gets the blood flowing, etc... but also, the girl does not want to be left alone... *hint*... or want to go to sleep immediately after seeing the movie *hint hint*... so it works out.

Sledge · 10-21-2003, 12:59 AM

The psychological basis for Halx's post is the theory that how we feel comes from bodily stimuli, not the other way around. Which is REALLY INTERESTING because people assume that we get sweaty and high-strung when we're scared, etc., when the truth might be that the physical reaction comes first, and we realize we're sweaty, and we instantly turn it into some emotion or other.

The study that stands out in my mind is the one where researchers got men and women to cross a high, rickety bridge in pairs, then used questionnaires to find out how attracted they were to each other.

Spartak · 10-21-2003, 01:46 AM

To quote HJ Simpson: "Now THAT'S psychiatry!".

Pretty interesting ideas there Halx, I always guessed there must be some reason behind the cliche "go to a scary movie with a chick" thing.

skysooner · 10-21-2003, 06:04 AM

Exercising and seeing my SO immediately afterwards never fails to set me off. Same scenario as what you mention above.

Sleepyjack · 10-21-2003, 06:07 AM

Cool, never thought of or considered this. That movie stuff is interesting, as i've mainly copped out and gone to the cutesy film or romantic comedy for dates and stuff.

Good stuff, i'll keep it in mind.

Lunchbox7 · 10-21-2003, 06:32 AM

Is that why little boys throw rocks at little girls?

i8one2 · 10-21-2003, 07:34 AM

One of the wonderful things or effects one could say as far as the lifestyle I lead, comes from a nicely played out scene whether it be with rope, cuffs or the usually accompaniments of tools available to carry out what we had planned. My subby's whole being is ready for the finishing touches of intimacies. I sometimes dress her up, sometimes she is totally naked, sometimes she is just bound, tied up and gagged... whatever it may be. But the trust, she has in me, the surrounding I present and the executions of these element puts her into a "Space". It is that space and the aftercare that brings us both to very high level of physical completions.

absorbentishe · 10-21-2003, 07:48 AM

So there's other ways besides ruffies? Man, I've got a lot to learn.

ahh, I'm just kidding.

rogue49 · 10-21-2003, 07:50 AM

Why do you think I like going to concerts & dancing so much?

Amano · 10-21-2003, 08:26 AM

This is really really interesting stuff Halx. It's not quite your normal dating/sex advice, and it seems not only really useful, but easy to pull off, so to speak. Thanks! I'm looking forward to your next one!

Sapper · 10-21-2003, 08:30 AM

Forget the psychology behind it all ... you'll just get tripped up on mostly-wrong and vague theories.

Look at the social-psychology behind it all (social coming from sociology). Social-psychology is a FAR better study which will allow you to read someone and play on their body language. Furthermore, you can actually change how people feel about you through subtle changes in your own B.L.

All said, psycho-poop-ology is a very interesting bathroom reader (says the former social-psychology student). Pun intended.

Halx · 10-21-2003, 10:36 AM

Everyone's a critic.

shannon · 10-21-2003, 12:24 PM

i was trying to think of something to add, seeing as i am a psych major, but nothing;s coming to mind. i'll have to think some more on it. great thread.

collide · 10-21-2003, 12:30 PM

Well, I do enjoy thrill-seeking, but I can't say that it has directly led to hopping in bed afterwards. All that excitement actually takes my mind away from wanting to have sex. It'll get me closer to the guy, but not that close!

Mmm fast cars and motorcycles (this is another good one to add to the list).

Church · 10-21-2003, 03:54 PM

Great thread Halx. I completely agree with you. I've used that amusment ride one before and she couldn't even wait to get home!

madsenj37 · 10-21-2003, 11:59 PM

thanks halx, you the man. this should help this weekend.

mistered · 10-22-2003, 04:24 AM

Those are some great ideas!

Also, as Sapper mentioned, mirror and match their body language, gestures (only when you're talking, of course), rate of speech, etc. People like people who are like them, and most of communication is nonverbal.

jwoody · 10-22-2003, 06:29 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by mistered
Those are some great ideas!

Also, as Sapper mentioned, mirror and match their body language, gestures (only when you're talking, of course), rate of speech, etc. People like people who are like them, and most of communication is nonverbal.

Just to add some more to this, during an extended conversation you can sometimes judge the other persons interest by small, dicreet gestures such as scratching your nose, touching the back of your neck or ear lobes; if the person copies you then you are onto a winner.

Once this has been established you should then try to force your tongue down their throat.

Or maybe not.

abelak · 10-22-2003, 07:07 AM

This is goos advice. Looking on back experiences, it makes sense!

Halx · 10-22-2003, 08:17 PM

Remember, psychology is based on averages. It wont have an effect ALL of the time.

10-20-2003, 09:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
Halx Please touch this. Owner/Admin Location: Manhattan	Use Psychology to Get Laid Ok, I'm gonna use this thread for posting little tidbits of psychology to influence your target into getting with you. Today's lesson comes from the term: misattribution of arousal This is basically the failure to interpret correctly the physiological signals your body is sending you. Example: Classic action movie. Shit blows up and the hero and the chick he's saving are running for their lives. They escape. As they lay there, panting heavily, covered in ash and grease, sorting through their adrenaline high, their eyes meet and they embrace. Believe it or not, this situation and it's effects are not so far fetched. A heightened state of arousal (adrenaline-based, not usually sexual) can easily be falsely interpreted as sexual energy. Loose references to studies: It's shown that high-stress workplaces have a higher occurance of office romances. Also, subjects are more likely to inquire about dating an attractive person they are talking to after they have experienced an adrenaline-heightening event, such as crossing a rickety, unsafe bridge. Practical uses: Hit on people at amusement parks after they get off a ride. Go on exciting, thrilling dates with your partner. Do aerobic/athletic activities together. Go to the horse race tracks and bet for the same horses. Watch a scarey movie together. Pretty much anything that will raise their heart beat will make them more likely to accept advances. That's all for today.. more to come later. __________________ You have found this post informative. -The Administrator [Don't Feed The Animals] Last edited by Halx; 10-20-2003 at 11:35 PM..

10-20-2003, 09:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	interesting... scary movies do make girls more clingy if nothing else, which is always accepted keep it comin __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

10-20-2003, 09:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	oooo im gonna take girls to the climbing wall at the rec center! that always gets the adrenaline goin for beginners! __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

10-20-2003, 09:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	that IS interesting. i just use the scary movie excuse to cling to the guy. pshhhhh i'm not scared ;P i was watching some discovery show about the science of dating or something and it had some of the things you mentioned. going on a high-stress date or someplace adventurous will have a higher chance for attachment and chemistry. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

10-21-2003, 01:46 AM	#9 (permalink)
Spartak Bang bang Location: New Zealand	To quote HJ Simpson: "Now THAT'S psychiatry!". Pretty interesting ideas there Halx, I always guessed there must be some reason behind the cliche "go to a scary movie with a chick" thing. __________________ I can read your mind... looking at you... I can read your mind... Last edited by Spartak; 10-21-2003 at 01:50 AM..

10-20-2003, 09:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
Chuckles Insane Location: California	thats awesome :P keep em comin!

10-20-2003, 11:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
analog Banned	endorphins are a wonderful thing. and that adrenaline is great stuff too. i've always believed in scary movies for 2 reasons- first, as stated, it gets the blood flowing, etc... but also, the girl does not want to be left alone... hint... or want to go to sleep immediately after seeing the movie hint hint... so it works out.

10-21-2003, 12:59 AM	#8 (permalink)
Sledge Pasture Bedtime	The psychological basis for Halx's post is the theory that how we feel comes from bodily stimuli, not the other way around. Which is REALLY INTERESTING because people assume that we get sweaty and high-strung when we're scared, etc., when the truth might be that the physical reaction comes first, and we realize we're sweaty, and we instantly turn it into some emotion or other. The study that stands out in my mind is the one where researchers got men and women to cross a high, rickety bridge in pairs, then used questionnaires to find out how attracted they were to each other.

10-21-2003, 06:04 AM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Exercising and seeing my SO immediately afterwards never fails to set me off. Same scenario as what you mention above.

10-21-2003, 06:07 AM	#11 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	Cool, never thought of or considered this. That movie stuff is interesting, as i've mainly copped out and gone to the cutesy film or romantic comedy for dates and stuff. Good stuff, i'll keep it in mind.

10-21-2003, 06:32 AM	#12 (permalink)
Lunchbox7 Addict	Is that why little boys throw rocks at little girls?

10-21-2003, 07:34 AM	#13 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	One of the wonderful things or effects one could say as far as the lifestyle I lead, comes from a nicely played out scene whether it be with rope, cuffs or the usually accompaniments of tools available to carry out what we had planned. My subby's whole being is ready for the finishing touches of intimacies. I sometimes dress her up, sometimes she is totally naked, sometimes she is just bound, tied up and gagged... whatever it may be. But the trust, she has in me, the surrounding I present and the executions of these element puts her into a "Space". It is that space and the aftercare that brings us both to very high level of physical completions. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

10-21-2003, 07:48 AM	#14 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	So there's other ways besides ruffies? Man, I've got a lot to learn. ahh, I'm just kidding.

10-21-2003, 07:50 AM	#15 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	Why do you think I like going to concerts & dancing so much?

10-21-2003, 08:26 AM	#16 (permalink)
Amano Insane	This is really really interesting stuff Halx. It's not quite your normal dating/sex advice, and it seems not only really useful, but easy to pull off, so to speak. Thanks! I'm looking forward to your next one!

10-21-2003, 08:30 AM	#17 (permalink)
Sapper Insane Location: The Internet	Forget the psychology behind it all ... you'll just get tripped up on mostly-wrong and vague theories. Look at the social-psychology behind it all (social coming from sociology). Social-psychology is a FAR better study which will allow you to read someone and play on their body language. Furthermore, you can actually change how people feel about you through subtle changes in your own B.L. All said, psycho-poop-ology is a very interesting bathroom reader (says the former social-psychology student). Pun intended. __________________ rm -f /bin/laden

10-21-2003, 10:36 AM	#18 (permalink)
Halx Please touch this. Owner/Admin Location: Manhattan	Everyone's a critic. __________________ You have found this post informative. -The Administrator [Don't Feed The Animals]

10-21-2003, 12:24 PM	#19 (permalink)
shannon Psycho Location: Canada	i was trying to think of something to add, seeing as i am a psych major, but nothing;s coming to mind. i'll have to think some more on it. great thread. __________________ "When I look down I just miss all the good stuff. And when I look up I just trip over things"

10-21-2003, 12:30 PM	#20 (permalink)
collide Turn off your TV. Location: ... .- -. ..-. .-. .- -. -.-. .. ... -.-. --- --..-- -.-. .-	Well, I do enjoy thrill-seeking, but I can't say that it has directly led to hopping in bed afterwards. All that excitement actually takes my mind away from wanting to have sex. It'll get me closer to the guy, but not that close! Mmm fast cars and motorcycles (this is another good one to add to the list). __________________ "inhuman fiery goat worship" is an anagram for "information superhighway" -kingvolc

10-21-2003, 03:54 PM	#21 (permalink)
Church Tilted F*ckhead Location: New Jersey	Great thread Halx. I completely agree with you. I've used that amusment ride one before and she couldn't even wait to get home!

10-21-2003, 11:59 PM	#22 (permalink)
madsenj37 Still searching... Location: NorCal For Life	thanks halx, you the man. this should help this weekend. __________________ "Only two things are certain: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not certain about the universe." -- Albert Einstein

10-22-2003, 04:24 AM	#23 (permalink)
mistered Tilted	Those are some great ideas! Also, as Sapper mentioned, mirror and match their body language, gestures (only when you're talking, of course), rate of speech, etc. People like people who are like them, and most of communication is nonverbal.

10-22-2003, 07:07 AM	#25 (permalink)
abelak Addict Location: Europe	This is goos advice. Looking on back experiences, it makes sense! __________________ Screw it, Let's go bowling.

10-22-2003, 08:17 PM	#26 (permalink)
Halx Please touch this. Owner/Admin Location: Manhattan	Remember, psychology is based on averages. It wont have an effect ALL of the time. __________________ You have found this post informative. -The Administrator [Don't Feed The Animals]