CryptikSoul

I mean seriously, isn't this the best way to go? You get to satisfy your sexual urges AND satisfy your need for companionship without leaving yourself emotionally open to heartbreak. No commitments, no strings attached. Discuss.

Averett

I couldn't do it. Sure, it does sound like the most ideal situation for some, but I guess I'm still looking for all of the above. The best friend/boyfriend package.

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tekaweni

I did that 25 years ago. At the time it was perfect for us both, and things stayed like that for 5 years.

We got married almost 20 years ago. It's still pretty damn good :-)

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JStrider

sex for me (and most people i would assume) is an emotional thing... i know i would become emotionally involved...

not that i would mind too much depending on the situation and time etc...

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Sapper

I'm working on this one

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elfuq

I'm living this one - see um my post about non-monogamous relarionship from a week or two ago. Though it's still pretty confused.

numist

Completely and totally with JStrider on this - its an emotional connection, not a necessary filling.

maelstrm

Well, I can see how this can work.

My wife and I are best friends, and there are definitely benefits. Like, she cooks a mean tomato sauce :-)

bermuDa

sex is better if there's an emotional connection, but it's still good without it... I think I wouldn't mind having a FWB just so I can get over the insecurities that seem to go hand in hand with monogamy... Learn to just have fun and not worry about what she's doing when I'm not around.

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Sorry, I couldn't resist.

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PRE-BOOTY CALL AGREEMENT

This pre-booty call agreement (hereinafter referred to as the "Agreement") is entered into on the _______(DD/MM/YY) by ___________ (fill in name) and _____________ (fill in name).
This agreement shall cover the following rules and principles:

1. No sleeping over, ever – if its that good, you can come back to repeat it in the morning.

2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening.

3. No calls before 9pm -- we don't have anything to talk about.

4. None of that "lovemaking" crap -- only sex allowed.

5. No emotional discussions (i.e. Where are we heading with this? Do you love me? Do I look fat in this?) The answers will be nowhere, no, and yes, so don't ask.

6. No plans made in advance -- that is why you are called the "backup," unless you're from out-of-town, then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.

7. All gifts accepted -- including money.

8. No baby talk -- however, dirty talk is encouraged.

9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers -- it's really none of your damn business.

10. No calling each other "friends with privileges," we are not friends, just bed buddies.

11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is okay -- don't be offended.

12. No extra clothing -- I don't want you leaving anything behind when you leave.

13. No falling asleep right after sex -- it's over, so get up, get dressed, go home, and don’t hit your ass on the door going out.

14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it -- I really don't care.

15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.

16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be: "My roommate's girlfriend/boyfriend."

17. Doggie style is the preferred position -- the less eye contact, the better, plus we can watch tv at the same time.

18. NO condoms means NO sex.

19. Bring your own drink -- I am not a liquor store.

20. No phone use, please -- I don't want anyone calling back looking for you.

21. If going to a hotel room, we either split the cost, or alternate who's paying... you pay this time, I pay next.

22. Don't bring any of your friends with you unless they're gonna join the party.

* Extra tip for successful booty calls:
The aforementioned rules may only be altered by the holder of the agreement. If the other party attempts to change or alter any terms of this Agreement, it will automatically become null and void, and you will then be removed from the Booty Call List and deleted from phone memory and e-mail list. In otherwords, you will be blocked from all communications until you understand the rules.

Participating Party 1:
Signature:_______________________________________
Date: ________________

Participating Party 2:
Signature:_______________________________________
Date: ________________

macmanmike6100

i'm sure that I could do this - it's been done - but I still have to think pretty highly of the friend

Harshaw

I want some kind of connection with the person. Sex has a lot of responsibility and I never really realized all the stuff it stirs up in a relationship, I don't think I would want to deal with all that stuff in only a friendship.

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sailor

Yeah, I have to say that I think I would become attached.

I also think that the best relationships are essentially best friends. The ones that I have noticed lasted the longest really do just seem like friends more than anything else.

Not to say that I wouldnt mind hooking up with a friend occasionally, but for me, that would essentially mean the start of a relationship.

I think the only time I could have random sexual activity with *no* strings attached would be if, say, you met a girl at a party. Although doing that frequently isnt exactly the safest thing in the world to do.

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TweaklessM

My girlfriend and I started as friends with benefits. We were like that for a year before I began having seriously strong romantic feelings for her and wanted a commitment, although we are still not monogamous.

FallenAvatar

Only problem with this is when one person gets attached.. it gets hard after that.

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tikki

I couldn't do it, because I usually get attached to a person really bad, so I am sure it would just lead to that. It'd be nice if I could do the whole friends with benefits thing though. I wouldn't mind using that pre-booty agreement right about now. :-D

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davik

That is definitely the problem; I've had a couple of flings where I had known the girl for quite awhile and she stated that she wanted sex. In both cases despite the fact that I had done my best to make sure that it was just a physical thing it went awry when the girl developed an emotional attachment. At that point it really isn't worth it; sex without emotion isn't that great, and it certainly isn't worth hurting the girl over.

psicon

I had a couple of those type of relationships they are great no hang ups just two friends that need satisfaction.To me sex is passionate energy put into motion,emotion has nothing to do with it.

Xenomorph

The one time I entered such a relationship it only took the girl about a week to get completely emotionally BOUND to me. She cut off a long-term relationship just so should could have a better shot at me (and we live two states apart, we were going to the same school for about a month). I ended it then.

It hasn't worked in practice and I don't see it working very well in theory, either. The act is just too emotional, and I doubt that all parties involved in a fuckbuddy relationship can keep emotional distance for very long.

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IC3

I like sex with no strings attached.

Sex is sex...Making love to a girl is a whole different thing, Something I haven't done...Except with one girl.

All the rest is just sex.

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strcrssd

I'm conflicted about this one:

I think that sex can be "just sex", but the majority of Americans (at least, this may be too narrow) are raised in a culture where sex is brainwashed into us to equal love.

Sex without love in these cultures is sometimes less than optimal.

Theoretically, one could distance one's self from the cultural influences, and just have fun, but that can be /very/ difficult, even for someone with a strong will. I know I can't do it.

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vveronica

best way to go by far. But isn't that why they made cousins... hehehehehehe

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MSD

That's something I didn't need to hear. Really, did you need to say that?

For me, I'd rather have sex within some sort of relationship than just fucking. It's not brainwashing that did it, it just doesn't appeal to me that much. I'm not saying that I wouldn't, but I won't just go fuck someone because I'm horny.

Dale Kemp

I truly need the sense of purpose, of belonging, or conection, of loving and being loved, that come from marriage. But if I were a rich man, I'd be sore tempted to have a mistress on the side. Sexually, that would be the greatest.

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h2ogo69

thats the shit im working on that rite now

Captain Canada

My current girlfriend and I did this for about 2 weeks or so before we realized we both wanted more in our relationship. We both realized that we had really strong feelings for each other, and that FWB wasnt what we wanted. We've now been going out ever since. Going on almost 5 months now.

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skysooner

Fun if you are both into it, but it rarely happens that way. Usually one gets attached and then ends up faking not caring for the other person just to stay near them. I know that I would never be able to maintain such a relationship for long.

kittenpie

I am currently enjoying a sexual relationship with my best friend. It's the best job with the best benefit package I've ever had!

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analog

someone always gets attached... i've only done this once anyway, and it was with the girl i'd just broken up with a month prior... fucked casually for a while after that.. but it got in the way of emotions...

jerseyboy

Emotions tend to mess everything up, if only there were a way to shut them off every now and then.

majik_6

Hmm, I'm currently involved in a pretty serious relationship (got together as juniors in HS, now I'm a college sophomore), and I don't see it ending anytime soon, but if it does I think I'll be looking for something more casual, since I've been in serious relationships with no real breaks since I was a freshman in HS.

And if I dooo need a FWB I've got a girl in mind that'd work quite nicely. /end impossible dreaming

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Rowan

It does get harder when one gets attached. I found with myself and my friends the more times you have sex it adds to the emotional connection.

I have gotten seriously attached to the "friend with benefits" I have in the past two or three months.

It's hard.

Alaska_Man

I say go for it. Sex is just something that you need. If you enjoy sex you can keep it just that, SEX!
To be in love is another matter for another String......

Eldaire

A beautiful thing indeed.

31Friction

I have casual sex with friends on occasion (last night). I try to not make it terribly regular because of the chance that emotions may get in the way. It's fun most of the time though. I don't personally see anything *really* wrong with it. Just practice safe sex kids

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OFKU0

I'm lucky in the sense that the women I frequent are mature enough to understand the difference between shit and bullshit. If people feel fucking is better when in love good for them. Sex is just one of the many experiences in life in which personal meaning can be applied to for whatever emotion is sought.

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Telethon

This probably won't ever happen to me but I wish :P

YzermanS19

Personally, I have atleast 5 or 6 that I rotate....Its nice to have more than one because some are busy some nights and some have boyfriends occasionally.

It works out fine for what we want. And nothing more. I'm probably a bastard for this in some way, but they don't want anymore than sex, and personally, I don't either. My only vice is they have to be tested for VD so we're all still clean afterwards. Of course we use protection

It works.

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jw_toyboy

Yeah I've had a 'fuckbudy'. Started of as good friends and we ending up having sex on her birthday after a few to many drinks. Was great, we were both single at the time and decided that having sex on ocassions was fun but swore we would never 'make love'. Stuck to that plan for nearlly 1 & 1/2 years on and off depending on the other relationships we've been in.

Made me trully realise that there is a world of difference between sex and making love. There both great but the later can't be beat when in a great relationship, onlly problem is they are pretty rare.

meff

Uhm, dunno about most here... but my wife is my best friend, and I get some pretty damn good benefits.

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