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Amano · 11-06-2003, 11:26 PM

I just don't know how I would ever be able to do something like that. I just can't imagine being physically intimate with someone else without there also being an emotional component...

but then, whatever floats your boat...

motdakasha · 11-07-2003, 04:26 PM

Personally, I see friends with benefits (FWB) different from a fling with no strings attached (NSA).

The fact that you're friends to begin with means there are strings attached, there is emotion involved. The emotions however are different from the emotions in a serious monogamous relationship. So it's more of a "light strings attached" situation than NSA. The whole best friend, as opposed to just friend, with benefits ideal is what I want in a lifetime partner (don't plan to get married). Under my definition (and experience) of friends with benefits, I could do it and enjoy it.

As for a fling with an acquaintance that's NSA, I would prefer not to, but I have done that also.

macmanmike6100 · 11-07-2003, 06:38 PM

just keep an eye on things; the relationship has to be fair to both parties for it to work well; that is, ensure that the type of relationship is always clear

Jimbob666 · 11-07-2003, 08:17 PM

It would be great if it was possible. Someone will ALWAYS get emotionally involved, period.

JStrider · 11-07-2003, 08:31 PM

after being single for a little while i feel like it would be easier to have a fwb type of friendship...

skippy · 11-07-2003, 09:20 PM

I am sooo sad.... I have never had it like some of you....

I feeel Lonely...

I am crying right now

xtreemmar1ne · 11-08-2003, 09:45 AM

There's definitely something to be said for FWB. First off, it's better than a one night met-them-at-a-party kinda thing. Plus if nothing else it's a security for you. Takes the stress out of the whole......"I've got to have a bf/gf " thing. On the other hand like a lot of people have said, there's no way I could personally do that without getting attached.

Samari · 11-08-2003, 05:27 PM

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Originally posted by maelstrm
Well, I can see how this can work.

My wife and I are best friends, and there are definitely benefits. Like, she cooks a mean tomato sauce :-)

Hahahaha that's hilarious...
Anyway I wish I had someone like this it sounds so ideal and perfect. However I've yet to find someone like this. Sure I've had a few really good friends that were girls but nothing really ever happened with them in sexual terms. One or two turned into girlfriends but thats a whole different story. I'm just talking about having casual sex with friends. So really I have no feedback to give ya on this one but damn it sounds great

biffy · 11-09-2003, 09:23 AM

either way, in the long run -- one of them is going to end up attached and it'll fuck things up real good.

S2KBobby · 06-15-2004, 04:19 PM

I have just turned 50 and have been trying to understand Booty Call for some time now. This thread has helped me understand.

The thing is that the girls that talked about it are both under 30 and quite pretty. They are good friends that I think of as my own kids. I look out for them and value their company and opinions.

It is hard for me to believe chicks like this can have a no committment type of relationship with several booty calls. They both are still looking for Mr Perfect and when not "dating" will rely on the booty call for fun.

I guess I was brought up when women had to have morals and principles to apply to sex. This upbringing just doesn't fit the reality of these girls. I do not "judge" them and accept them for who they are, but this booty call thing is a little hard to deal with.

The other day one said she has regular 6 month blood tests and gets the works (even HIV test). She says she uses condoms but WTF. I was flabbergasted that she would even consider a HIV test. If I thought I needed HIV testing I would completely change my lifestyle.

The kids these days think they are bullet proof.

isis · 06-15-2004, 09:42 PM

I'm doing this friends with benefits with my exboyfriend right now. I guess mostly because neither of us know what to do with our relationship ... but it sucks sometimes.

I'd lay down the law.. but man, sex is great. I can't complain too much. I'm not letting myself get hurt this time around though .. and its especially easy in the summer with all those nice tanned boys around ;D I could always find another! HAH!

doncalypso · 06-16-2004, 05:00 PM

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Originally posted by CryptikSoul
I mean seriously, isn't this the best way to go? You get to satisfy your sexual urges AND satisfy your need for companionship without leaving yourself emotionally open to heartbreak. No commitments, no strings attached. Discuss.

Based on my life experience I seriously doubt it would ever be possible... but then again, I've never had a friend with benefit to begin with, so I wouldn't really know.

11-07-2003, 04:26 PM	#42 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	Personally, I see friends with benefits (FWB) different from a fling with no strings attached (NSA). The fact that you're friends to begin with means there are strings attached, there is emotion involved. The emotions however are different from the emotions in a serious monogamous relationship. So it's more of a "light strings attached" situation than NSA. The whole best friend, as opposed to just friend, with benefits ideal is what I want in a lifetime partner (don't plan to get married). Under my definition (and experience) of friends with benefits, I could do it and enjoy it. As for a fling with an acquaintance that's NSA, I would prefer not to, but I have done that also. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

11-07-2003, 08:31 PM	#45 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	after being single for a little while i feel like it would be easier to have a fwb type of friendship... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

11-08-2003, 09:45 AM	#47 (permalink)
xtreemmar1ne Upright Location: South Kakilaky	There's definitely something to be said for FWB. First off, it's better than a one night met-them-at-a-party kinda thing. Plus if nothing else it's a security for you. Takes the stress out of the whole......"I've got to have a bf/gf " thing. On the other hand like a lot of people have said, there's no way I could personally do that without getting attached. __________________ A true gentleman believes that others are more important than he, that kindness is not a sign of weakness, and that respect is a necessity.

11-06-2003, 11:26 PM	#41 (permalink)
Amano Insane	I just don't know how I would ever be able to do something like that. I just can't imagine being physically intimate with someone else without there also being an emotional component... but then, whatever floats your boat...

11-07-2003, 06:38 PM	#43 (permalink)
macmanmike6100 High Honorary Junkie Location: Tri-state.	just keep an eye on things; the relationship has to be fair to both parties for it to work well; that is, ensure that the type of relationship is always clear

11-07-2003, 08:17 PM	#44 (permalink)
Jimbob666 Tilted	It would be great if it was possible. Someone will ALWAYS get emotionally involved, period.

11-07-2003, 09:20 PM	#46 (permalink)
skippy Banned	I am sooo sad.... I have never had it like some of you.... I feeel Lonely... I am crying right now

11-09-2003, 09:23 AM	#49 (permalink)
biffy Upright	either way, in the long run -- one of them is going to end up attached and it'll fuck things up real good.

06-15-2004, 04:19 PM	#50 (permalink)
S2KBobby Upright	I have just turned 50 and have been trying to understand Booty Call for some time now. This thread has helped me understand. The thing is that the girls that talked about it are both under 30 and quite pretty. They are good friends that I think of as my own kids. I look out for them and value their company and opinions. It is hard for me to believe chicks like this can have a no committment type of relationship with several booty calls. They both are still looking for Mr Perfect and when not "dating" will rely on the booty call for fun. I guess I was brought up when women had to have morals and principles to apply to sex. This upbringing just doesn't fit the reality of these girls. I do not "judge" them and accept them for who they are, but this booty call thing is a little hard to deal with. The other day one said she has regular 6 month blood tests and gets the works (even HIV test). She says she uses condoms but WTF. I was flabbergasted that she would even consider a HIV test. If I thought I needed HIV testing I would completely change my lifestyle. The kids these days think they are bullet proof.

06-15-2004, 09:42 PM	#51 (permalink)
isis Insane Location: In the Woods.	I'm doing this friends with benefits with my exboyfriend right now. I guess mostly because neither of us know what to do with our relationship ... but it sucks sometimes. I'd lay down the law.. but man, sex is great. I can't complain too much. I'm not letting myself get hurt this time around though .. and its especially easy in the summer with all those nice tanned boys around ;D I could always find another! HAH!